YIKES...I kinda ****ed up...

[Trainwreck2100]

That is even worse than what I imagined the conversation went like. LOL...I just showed this to my wife and asked her, "What kind of chicks do this?" and her reply, "B****es, that's who!"

That's pretty much when I decided I didn't want to have any sort of romantic involvement with this girl.

 

[Superman4ever]

She's never going to talk to you again

Maybe.

Orko, just give her time. Y'know, I think she likes you but might be scared to take it to the next level for, 1. Being burned in her past. 2. scared of losing her friendship with you. 3. She could have been abused as a child (worst case scenario). Right now give her time. You have to do that...I know it hurts and you feel like your kinda going crazy (and that if you don't explain yourself you're going to lose her) and can't keep a single thought in your head, but she NEEDS time to think.

There is the possibility she's a lesbian.

I'm SO not used to this new forum...I can edit w/o waiting 20 minutes for the board to refresh. WOW!

 

[zanos]

She kind of handled that one like a bxtch. Girls usually are like "oh dont worry about it! were still bffs in the house!". I mean not to me, but to my loser friends one of whom is a halfie. They usually respong friendly because they probably know you're hurt from being rejected.

Does it upset you to know that she doesnt think you are good enough for her, yet probably throws her gaunch out to guys with goatees who listen to Hoobastank still? ****.

No I think she handled that pretty accordingly. Try to kiss one of your buddies and see how he responds.

 

[the_ultimate_evil]

from my personal experiance and what i've viewed there is an unwritten rule, if a guy thinks a girl fancys him then there is a 99.999% chance she has no interest in what so ever

 

[UltimateJustin]

No I think she handled that pretty accordingly. Try to kiss one of your buddies and see how he responds.

Come on, with the post-Jackass homoerotic friendships of generation y they'd probably handle it better than her. Besides, thats not exactly the same thing assuming the girl is straight. At this point we still assume everyone to be straight until verification otherwise, so its more understandable if you are hanging out with someone of the opposite sex feelings might develope. And if I were to kiss a guy friend and he hit me in the head I would expect that because he is a guy. Girls are supposed to be more sensitive, and as a friend she could have handled that whole letter way more tastefully. I'm begining to think though that there was more than a kiss on the cheek involved to get that response.

I think he gave her the old reach-around.

 

[Erzengel]

This is the problem.

I just had to see if there was anything there and I now know that there isn’t. I just thought I’d give it a shot and if nothing happened, then oh well. I’ve always felt that the best relationships were built on a solid friendship first.

Obviously after 2 years, he has more than friendship on his mind while on the other side the girl had nothing but friendship on hers.

Honestly, I think the girl you might even call it naive enough to believe that all he was just her friend, so for him to cross that line, pretty much uninvited was surprising to her. Her reaction is not surprising at all.

And honestly Orko, stop being friends with women you like, no good will come of it.

 

[nosebleed.]

This is the problem.



Obviously after 2 years, he has more than friendship on his mind while on the other side the girl had nothing but friendship on hers.

Honestly, I think the girl you might even call it naive enough to believe that all he was just her friend, so for him to cross that line, pretty much uninvited was surprising to her. Her reaction is not surprising at all.

And honestly Orko, stop being friends with women you like, no good will come of it.

Some guys just don't know how to NOT become friends with girls first. I see it all the time where girl after girl the guy becomes friends with all of them. Too friendly? Too good at being there? Not enough of a jerk? That's why I was never friends with girls...too much confusion with the "friend" thing.

Guys, honestly...if a girl is attractive do you think you could honestly just think of her as a friend? You're single, she's single...you're going to think of getting with her at some point. Quit fooling yourselves and DAMMIT...girls need to realize this too. GUYS CANNOT BE JUST FRIENDS!

 

[jaguarr]

GUYS CANNOT BE JUST FRIENDS!

Not entirely true. I've had a lot of women friends over the years that I was very close to that I had absolutely no intention of being romantically involved with. The one's that I wanted that with, I established it with them right off the bat. The rest, I just enjoyed for who they were and enjoyed that friendship with them. To this day I have a lot of female friends and my wife's made them her friends as well. It really depends on the individual, rather than a blanket rule.

jag

 

[Orko Is King]

I wonder if I should still go to her concert on June 2nd...

I doubt it.

 

[nosebleed.]

Not entirely true. I've had a lot of women friends over the years that I was very close to that I had absolutely no intention of being romantically involved with. The one's that I wanted that with, I established it with them right off the bat. The rest, I just enjoyed for who they were and enjoyed that friendship with them. To this day I have a lot of female friends and my wife's made them her friends as well. It really depends on the individual, rather than a blanket rule.

jag

These are attractive women? This was when you were single...because your female friends now don't count in my remark earlier because you are married now. If those women were attractive and you were single you can honestly tell me that you had zero thoughts about them other than just as friends? Because women have the capability of thinking of guys like that but I don't believe that men are capable of thinking of an attractive woman as just a friend with zero thoughts of anything else.

 

[Superman4ever]

I wonder if I should still go to her concert on June 2nd...

I doubt it.

Did she ask you to go before the kiss? If so, then yes you should go. You're keeping a promise.

 

[jaguarr]

These are attractive women? This was when you were single...because your female friends now don't count in my remark earlier because you are married now. If those women were attractive and you were single you can honestly tell me that you had zero thoughts about them other than just as friends? Because women have the capability of thinking of guys like that but I don't believe that men are capable of thinking of an attractive woman as just a friend with zero thoughts of anything else.

Yes. They are attractive women. I was friends with them when I was single. Long BEFORE I ever met my wife. And, no, with the exception of a couple of them, I never thought of them in romantic terms. *platonicshrug*

jag

 

[Orko Is King]

Did she ask you to go before the kiss? If so, then yes you should go. You're keeping a promise.

Yah. It's a charity thing too.

 

[nosebleed.]

Yes. They are attractive women. I was friends with them when I was single. Long BEFORE I ever met my wife. And, no, with the exception of a couple of them, I never thought of them in romantic terms. *platonicshrug*

jag

I truly believe you are the exception and not the norm. There are, of course, no absolutes in this world but I still stand by my advice to women that all men (cept jag) will think of them in a romantic (if that's what you want to call it) fashion at some point in their friendship.

 

[bulok]

Female friends are great, specially if they think you're gay cos like they'd do anything in front of you like flash you their boobs and stuff and be all like, "do you think my boobs are wonky?" and you can be like "I dunno let me feel" and you get to cop a feel.

If they catch you with a ***** you can just say, "I was totally thinking you were Harrison Ford" or something like that, because everybody knows it's not gay to have an erection over Han Solo.

 

[D.Rex]

Being in the just friend zone sucks man i feel for u. Superman4ever gave the best advice i've heard though.

 

[batnkevlar]

Yah. It's a charity thing too.

Do it for the orphans man... THE ORPHANS!!!

so anyway Orko, no big deal about the whole thing... a kiss on the cheek isn't that bad... i can't remember how many time i kissed my ex on the cheek last night... granted, i was wasted as ****, but my point is, "kiss on cheek" =/ "i wanna **** you, you already know, i know you see me looking at you and you already know, i wanna **** you" err, if you know what i mean...

things like this'll blow over... it always does... don't apologize, act like it didn't happen, don't spill your guts to her... that's a no-no...

and yeah, girls who are asexual suck... it almost makes you wanna tell them off and say "****, if you got no sexual feelings, go off on your own and procreate by yourself!"

Things end up all right, most of the time... it's not a big deal...

 

[odiin]

Yah. It's a charity thing too.

If she asked you to go and you don't then you're just going to come off looking like a dick.

 

[Erzengel]

Some guys just don't know how to NOT become friends with girls first. I see it all the time where girl after girl the guy becomes friends with all of them. Too friendly? Too good at being there? Not enough of a jerk? That's why I was never friends with girls...too much confusion with the "friend" thing.

Guys, honestly...if a girl is attractive do you think you could honestly just think of her as a friend? You're single, she's single...you're going to think of getting with her at some point. Quit fooling yourselves and DAMMIT...girls need to realize this too. GUYS CANNOT BE JUST FRIENDS!

It always depends on the maturity of both. I think it's hard for most single guys to be friends with girls, especially those they find attractive. But, if a guy is only a "friend" in a relationship because he's looking for something else to blossom that's not being fair to her or the relationship and he should sh't or get off the pot.

 

[Abaddon]

I truly believe you are the exception and not the norm. There are, of course, no absolutes in this world but I still stand by my advice to women that all men (cept jag) will think of them in a romantic (if that's what you want to call it) fashion at some point in their friendship.

I have a close female friend I've occasionally had romantic thoughts about, and I'm sure she has as well, but it's still a platonic relationship. I love her as a person and as a friend, but I wouldn't want to date her.

 

[nosebleed.]

I have a close female friend I've occasionally had romantic thoughts about, and I'm sure she has as well, but it's still a platonic relationship. I love her as a person and as a friend, but I wouldn't want to date her.

I've had a friendship similar to this as well. When I first met her I was very attracted to her because she was VERY cute...but we got close enough to where I didn't see her like that anymore. She became more of my little sister and she felt she could talk to me about anything and often came to me for advice. Eventually it went where we didn't want it to go because we got a little too drunk at a party...it was never the same after that and eventually we drifted apart. We keep in touch now through myspace because we live in different states now...but nowhere near the close friends we used to be. Maybe that's why I don't believe guys can picture girls as "just friends". There's always the inkling in a guys mind of, "what if".

 

[Abaddon]

I think that's normal, but it's definitely the kind of thing you need to think through. Once you cross that line it's not always easy to go back.

 

[UltimateJustin]

its not just guys thinking "what if" about girls though. thats really any friendship, like even as a straight guy when you are getting down with yourself and images of your boys keep poppin in. right?

 

[Abaddon]

lmao

 

[nosebleed.]

wow