I ****ed up. Again.

[Sloth7d]

Why do you all suddenly have the same avatar?

 

[jaguarr]

Well he's admitted that he's more a dom. And I doubt the subs would want to have to teach.

Nor would they want anything to do with a "Dom" who gets drunk and shows poor judgment in his dealings with other people in the scene, let alone actually play with one.

jag

 

[Sloth7d]

Maybe, he should start out a sub?
I mean even on the internet you gotta be a noob before you become a mod, right?

 

[kainedamo]

It doesn't really work like that, Sloth.

I didn't go to this thing 'cause I wanted some quick action. I went because I was genuinely interested and wanted to meet people.

I'm very bad at reading peoples body language, probably due to my dyspraxia. And I probably shouldn't drink at these events.

So what do you guys think I should do? Do you think I should wait a few days, message her, say I got a bit drunk and overstepped my boundaries and I'm sorry? Do you think maybe I'm worrying about it too much, and should just sort of message and be like "so do you still want to hang out?". Should I wait till I see her in person and just try again?

 

[Dorian Gray]

....blaming your inability to read body language on dyspraxia if just stupid...it's a poor excuse to making a dumb decision while under the influence.

 

[Harlekin]

It doesn't really work like that, Sloth.

I didn't go to this thing 'cause I wanted some quick action. I went because I was genuinely interested and wanted to meet people.

I'm very bad at reading peoples body language, probably due to my dyspraxia. And I probably shouldn't drink at these events.

So what do you guys think I should do? Do you think I should wait a few days, message her, say I got a bit drunk and overstepped my boundaries and I'm sorry? Do you think maybe I'm worrying about it too much, and should just sort of message and be like "so do you still want to hang out?". Should I wait till I see her in person and just try again?

Here's a tip: Move on and let her be.

 

[TheDeparted]

I think your first problem was that you were trying to get together with a girl at a "MUNCH".... um.... yeah... not exactly the type of girl that you would bring home to meet the parents... unless their into that type of thing...

 

[Darthphere]

Its sad at this point. KD needs to walk around in a plastic bubble around women.

 

[TheDeparted]

one thing I have learned... when dealing with women... then covet what they can not have... if you acted available or interested to soon... boom... friend zone... or you considered "wierd"....... best thing to do, is surround yourself with many female friends...

 

[Darthphere]

one thing I have learned... when dealing with women... then covet what they can not have... if you acted available or interested to soon... boom... friend zone... or you considered "wierd"....... best thing to do, is surround yourself with many female friends...

LAWL! "Friend Zone".

 

[TheDeparted]

LAWL! "Friend Zone".

worst thing ever... happened to me 3 1/2 times....... lol

1/2 time becuase I ended up messing around with her best friend..... so it kind of worked out...lol

 

[The Last Meatbag]

Your life is ruined, you were drunk and put your arm around a girl.




You need to stay away from the sauce man, you act WAAAY too crazy.

 

[jaguarr]

It doesn't really work like that, Sloth.

I didn't go to this thing 'cause I wanted some quick action. I went because I was genuinely interested and wanted to meet people.

I'm very bad at reading peoples body language, probably due to my dyspraxia. And I probably shouldn't drink at these events.

So what do you guys think I should do? Do you think I should wait a few days, message her, say I got a bit drunk and overstepped my boundaries and I'm sorry? Do you think maybe I'm worrying about it too much, and should just sort of message and be like "so do you still want to hang out?". Should I wait till I see her in person and just try again?

jag

 

[Erzengel]

It doesn't really work like that, Sloth.

I didn't go to this thing 'cause I wanted some quick action. I went because I was genuinely interested and wanted to meet people.

I'm very bad at reading peoples body language, probably due to my dyspraxia. And I probably shouldn't drink at these events.

So what do you guys think I should do? Do you think I should wait a few days, message her, say I got a bit drunk and overstepped my boundaries and I'm sorry? Do you think maybe I'm worrying about it too much, and should just sort of message and be like "so do you still want to hang out?". Should I wait till I see her in person and just try again?

I think you blew your spot already.

If you want to "message" her and apologize. Fine. But that's it. Anything else after that that is not ititiated by her, since you put the ball in her court by mesaging her will come off as needy and sad.

 

[Darthphere]

I think you blew your spot already.

If you want to "message" her and apologize. Fine. But that's it. Anything else after that that is not ititiated by her, since you put the ball in her court by mesaging her will come off as needy and sad.

I think it already does.

 

[Kritish]

Oh man. Oh man I hate my life.

SO!! I went to this thing. I don't think I should explain what it is... except Daisy knows what it is... a "munch" and it was my first. I met this girl who I had been talking to online previously. And earlier today I was all dramatic and sent her a message saying "I don't think I'm going to go I don't feel comfortable" but then I ended up going. So I went, and the people there were nice, I was talking away to everyone. And I was talking to the girl, and all was well. I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime, go to the pub or the cinema, and she said "yeah, maybe". And seriously, thats the most positive indication that I was gonna get a date in maybe 2 years. Thats how much things suck for me.

So later, when we were all heading home, I was outside with her. I was kinda drunk, and was talking to her. And I put my arm around her, which I definately think was a move too far. She gave this other guy a look which definately said "I want this guy to go away now". So I guess I came on too strong. ARGH!! Women are so difficult. Between that, and her eventually reading my stupid message where I said I wasn't gonna go at all, yeah. She's never gonna talk to me again. I suck.

P.S. I'm drunk.

Kill yourself.

 

[CyberFaust]

Did kaine get cooties from the arm touch?

Will his e-buddy ever talk to him again?

Was the random guy she looked at Chris Hanson?


Tune in next time!

same bat-time, same bat-hourt:

 

[Duende Verde]

It doesn't really work like that, Sloth.

I didn't go to this thing 'cause I wanted some quick action. I went because I was genuinely interested and wanted to meet people.

I'm very bad at reading peoples body language, probably due to my dyspraxia. And I probably shouldn't drink at these events.

So what do you guys think I should do? Do you think I should wait a few days, message her, say I got a bit drunk and overstepped my boundaries and I'm sorry? Do you think maybe I'm worrying about it too much, and should just sort of message and be like "so do you still want to hang out?". Should I wait till I see her in person and just try again?

Did you have your penis sticking out of your pants the whole time?
Maybe that's what turned her off...

 

[kainedamo]

jag

I'm getting a telepathic message from Jag...

He's saying, "I love you, Kaine! And I wish you good luck with your current predicament ". The telepathic smiley was particularly appreciated.

 

[jaguarr]

I'm getting a telepathic message from Jag...

He's saying, "I love you, Kaine! And I wish you good luck with your current predicament ". The telepathic smiley was particularly appreciated.

Your dyspraxia causes you to misread people yet again.

jag

 

[kainedamo]

jag

 

[hippy fascist]

what was the selection process for the hoff avatars. It seems to be a plague confined to the hype perverts...

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Uh it sounds like once the girl met you she wasn't interested.

Biggest indication was the "yeah maybe" when you asked her out.

Move on.

He really overstepped his bounds in the beginning when he asked her to go out sometime.

 

[kainedamo]

Well how would you have went about it, ShadowBoxing?

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Well how would you have went about it, ShadowBoxing?

Exactly how I do.

- First you have to (as with any relationship, with men or women) is establish a rapport. Find something you can talk about together that you share (anything really) and if there is something beyond simple small talk it will come out in the conversation.

- After you talk for a while try to pick up on signals. Smiling. Nodding. Intense interest in the conversation. laughing at (what you think) jokes you tell (despite whether or not you think they are funny). Expressing general interest in you (asking you about things, specifically names, numbers, activities, etc.). Or the opposite. Making reference to needing to be elsewhere. Looking uncomfortable in their own skin. Breaking eye contact frequently. Giving indirect answers. (these would be signs to end it where it is) Anything that would generally indicate the person has no interest in you. This doesn't quiet work exactly the same for girls talking to guys, as sometimes the latter behavior is actually reccomended for men as a way of making women desire them MORE. But I wouldn't really bother with the "reverse physcology" stuff yet...at least not for you.

- If she seems genuinely interested, ask her for her phone number. Phone Numbers are the okay to ask her out (at least at a later date). The phone is a very direct way to contact someone, it also indicates that "yes you may talk to me outside of this bar, classroom, work setting".

- Sometimes people will break off conversations at the phone number, if she persists then I would suggest buying her a drink (if you haven't done this yet...however I tend to hold drinks to later. You're selling yourself not Sam Adams Beer and Mixed Drinks).

- Generally if you can keep a conversation for about two to three hours you can get that person to go "out" with you (i.e. come back to your place). At the very least, if she doesn't, she IS probably interested in you enough to take you up on a future offer.