I ****ed up. Again.

[hippy fascist]

Love that film :heart:

 

[hippy fascist]

sadly my skill is to act like a hormonal woman...

as a result of this most of the women I attract look like shaved orangutans in jack boots

I'm getting really tired of tucking the ol' fella between my legs

 

[DV8]

^Lol and cringe simultaneously . . . .

 

[kainedamo]

So I'm talking away to her on the site's chatroom. She seems to like me. She's using alot of smiley's and stuff and asking me questions.

Should I ask for her mobile number? How do I drop that into conversation?

 

[Erzengel]

Easy there Speedy. You have the sublty of Gozilla storming through Tokyo and the patience of a premature ejaculator.

I'm assuming this "chat" is the first one? Why don't you just take it slower.

 

[kainedamo]

Perhaps. But she just said I could give her my number. " well maybe
we could arrange sumthing" is what she said.

 

[Duende Verde]

So I'm talking away to her on the site's chatroom. She seems to like me. She's using alot of smiley's and stuff and asking me questions.

Should I ask for her mobile number? How do I drop that into conversation?

Send her to a picture of your genitalia or link her to some S&M porn and tell her that's what you want to do.
It will work wonders for you.

 

[kainedamo]

She just added "as mates". Thats what I get for moving too fast. Ah well, I can still impress her face to face.

Except, I have absolutely no idea what to talk to her about face to face. Oh man.

 

[Erzengel]

Perhaps. But she just said I could give her my number. " well maybe
we could arrange sumthing" is what she said.

Wait did she ask you or did you ask her?

If you asked her...geez you are hopeless.

Over anxious guys are something a turnoff.

 

[Darthphere]

Ah well, I can still impress her face to face.

Except, have you seen your face?

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

I haven't contacted her at all since the "munch", and got the following message from her...

Thought I'd say hi I'm of to do some walking today you up to anything nice?


So... I guess I didn't screw up as badly as I thought?? I'm gonna say to her "hey I'm gonna go ride my sweet sweet bike today, baby!!"

Or alternatively, I'll say "It's a really lovely day and I thought I'd take my new bicycle out for a bit."

EDIT: Okay, I sent the latter. Maybe I should have asked something else, or thrown in a funny quip, or something.

You fool.
You should've said: "It's a lovely day and since you are my new bicycle, I'm going to come over and ride you for a bit."
She'd've melted.

 

[kainedamo]

Wait did she ask you or did you ask her?

If you asked her...geez you are hopeless.

Over anxious guys are something a turnoff.

Girls are so weird like that.

Girls always complain that guys never ask them out, or they can never find nice guys, etc. But when a guy shows interest, he's being "over anxious". Why can't a girl just be flattered that a guy wants to take her out. It's not like I'm asking for her hand in marriage. I just wanna hang out.

But yeah, it is best to know a person for a little while first. Then again, alot of girls I'm interested in very quickly find boyfriends. It's like a damn race!

 

[Erzengel]

If you are over anxious, it comes off as needy and women can sense that. Just geez, talk to her for a while.

It's like you are asking what song she wants on when you guys have sex the first time?

Slow down.

 

[kainedamo]

But what I don't understand is, is do girls have some sort of dating rule book printed into their brains? I don't understand why, if you're getting along fine with someone, why that person can't express interest. Why does it HAVE to be that you need to know them for a period of time first? Why does expressing interest before this point come off as needy?

Saying "oh I'm so hard for you" on a chatroom is needy. Saying I really, really like you when you haven't even been on a date yet is needy. Saying "maybe we could just hang out sometime, watch a movie or something" isn't needy in my book.

 

[Erzengel]

Well my usual answer is to trust you feelings and instincts but since both are pretty much a non issue, you need someone to hold your hand.

It's like this, first chat since you made an ass of yourself, you already want her number, after you have her number, you are already asking her for a date, before the date is even over you are asking her out on the 2nd, and while the 2nd date is going on, you are asking her if she wants to be your gf.

See where I'm going with this? You feel the need to have something concrete, like a number or a date. You can't just try and connect with her and just use your instincts to know when is the right time to ask things.

 

[Darthphere]

You cant be a player if you dont follow the rulebook.

 

[kainedamo]

Well my usual answer is to trust you feelings and instincts but since both are pretty much a non issue, you need someone to hold your hand.

It's like this, first chat since you made an ass of yourself, you already want her number, after you have her number, you are already asking her for a date, before the date is even over you are asking her out on the 2nd, and while the 2nd date is going on, you are asking her if she wants to be your gf.

See where I'm going with this? You feel the need to have something concrete, like a number or a date. You can't just try and connect with her and just use your instincts to know when is the right time to ask things.

Yeah, this makes sense. And that is needy behaviour, I agree. I dunno, I think I sorta panic and think if I don't make a move soon she's gonna lose interest or something. I try too hard to make things work.

 

[Erzengel]

Things progressed differently with people. Some people move fast, others slow. If things click, they just happen. And honestly, even if she does say yes to a date, it doesn't automatically mean things are golden.

My real advice to you is to stop thinking of this as levels or steps but just go with the flow and see where it takes you.

 

[Calvin]

But what I don't understand is, is do girls have some sort of dating rule book printed into their brains? I don't understand why, if you're getting along fine with someone, why that person can't express interest. Why does it HAVE to be that you need to know them for a period of time first? Why does expressing interest before this point come off as needy?

Most people can, especially if the girl is already into you. From what I can tell, at this point, she's neither here nor there, so the overall mood isn't there. If you're charming and/or good looking enough, you can be forward and have it work. But if you find that girls are constantly getting turned off by your forwardness, then that kind of pace might just be out of your league. Learn to be patient and take it slow. And if that doesn't work, I'm sure there's a blind, deaf girl out there with your name on it.

 

[Tangled Web]

Kainedemo is too forward. I think I'm not nearly forward enough (backwards if you will?)

What is a good approach to knowing how forward to be?

 

[GunBlade]

Lol

 

[Assassin]

haha, what else is new

 

[Assassin]

I just looke dup munch

 

[kainedamo]

Most people can, especially if the girl is already into you. From what I can tell, at this point, she's neither here nor there, so the overall mood isn't there. If you're charming and/or good looking enough, you can be forward and have it work. But if you find that girls are constantly getting turned off by your forwardness, then that kind of pace might just be out of your league. Learn to be patient and take it slow. And if that doesn't work, I'm sure there's a blind, deaf girl out there with your name on it.

I'll take it easy from now on. I knew it was the wrong thing to do to ask for her number, but I couldn't hep it But she did say I could give her mine... *shrugs* I gotta take it alot more easy.