Advice and Relationships Again: A Hypester's Tale

[Optimus_Prime_]

I know. Trust me, if they offered, I wouldn't hesitate.

You're more likely, honestly, to f*** a friend than anyone else. I used to be like *you*, or others in this thread, and one thing I'll always remember is I sat in tortured silence not talking to people I wanted to f***...so girls do that too, ya know.

If they want to go ahead and think that, that's their problem. I'd just rather not have to deal with it.

If people think you don't care what their opinion is you won't have to deal with it.

You do that. How old are you? Guessing in your 20s.

I've said this only a dozen times...

...I'm 28, as of last Thursday.

 

[mikey1974]

And the bars and night clubs are full of these "predators" as you claim, yet women flock to these places to get picked up. SO why get all uppity?
Its not predator, its being a real man and getting some! That is all! And I have been getting some all summer long!

because you have the opportunity to be BETTER than that! whether you want to hear it or not, we're TRYING to help you here! you say you're 50 and want to be in a relationship and don't want to end up alone?

THEN ACT LIKE A MAN!!!

you're acting like a sexed-up, horn-dog teenager! just last week you were having a nervous breakdown about Fling Girl leaving you,and how you needed her in your life! now this week it's all about giving women/girls " a good dicking"...

Jesus Christ man, did you really put ANY effort into trying to make it work with Fling Girl?! cause you're right back into MTV *****e mode.

here's the bottom line - you WILL end up old and alone, because NO woman is gonna want to spend the rest of their life with you,cause you aren't interested in is banging chicks if they're willing. and,you know,that's fine,if that's what you want. but you claim it's not,yet that's the path you're taking. and don't bother crying to anyone here about it when Comic Girl moves on to someone else,and you realize you were used. cause hopefully by that point Fling Girl will be long gone and far away,cause quite frankly she deserves better than you are right now.

part of me hopes this an act you put on,trying to puff yourself up and come across as a "real" man for manipulating younger women into bed by preying upon their mental issues and insecurities. but part of me thinks this is the "real" you, a man-child who tries to hide his own fears and insecurities about being middle-aged by trying to lay younger women.

so,by all means,enjoy the rest of your life with no real,lasting,meaningful relationships. because you are apparently so selfish,so immature, so insecure,that you are incapable of looking at women as anything other than sex toys for your own amusement. i honestly had hope for you last week,when you pretended to realize what you lost with Fling Girl. now i realize that you just played us all in looking for sympathy here. well,i have no more sympathy for you,sir.

 

[steintym]

Its true. I was suppose to be a girl! And its no secret, my mom told me that. My name was suppose to be Ashley. Thats why t this day, when I got my ears pierced, my mom got me diamond studs. She buys me floral bed sheets and gave me the old floral curtains she had for my kitchen, pink and purple ones! Pretty cool! And she also likes my flare jeans and says they look good on me! And, yes, she knows I wear panties. She was a really good mom and never brought it up or embarrassed me about that.


Prob not a good idea in hindsight.

I made the Silence of the Lambs joke before, but holy crap ...

 

[Anita18]

Prob not a good idea in hindsight.

Have you told your mom you subconsciously hate her and hate all women? Cause I think she needs to know, although if she's still alive (if you're 50 and all, she must be up there too), the stories of your escapades might send her to an early grave.

 

[Anita18]

because you have the opportunity to be BETTER than that! whether you want to hear it or not, we're TRYING to help you here! you say you're 50 and want to be in a relationship and don't want to end up alone?

THEN ACT LIKE A MAN!!!

you're acting like a sexed-up, horn-dog teenager! just last week you were having a nervous breakdown about Fling Girl leaving you,and how you needed her in your life! now this week it's all about giving women/girls " a good dicking"...

Jesus Christ man, did you really put ANY effort into trying to make it work with Fling Girl?! cause you're right back into MTV *****e mode.

here's the bottom line - you WILL end up old and alone, because NO woman is gonna want to spend the rest of their life with you,cause you aren't interested in is banging chicks if they're willing. and,you know,that's fine,if that's what you want. but you claim it's not,yet that's the path you're taking. and don't bother crying to anyone here about it when Comic Girl moves on to someone else,and you realize you were used. cause hopefully by that point Fling Girl will be long gone and far away,cause quite frankly she deserves better than you are right now.

part of me hopes this an act you put on,trying to puff yourself up and come across as a "real" man for manipulating younger women into bed by preying upon their mental issues and insecurities. but part of me thinks this is the "real" you, a man-child who tries to hide his own fears and insecurities about being middle-aged by trying to lay younger women.

so,by all means,enjoy the rest of your life with no real,lasting,meaningful relationships. because you are apparently so selfish,so immature, so insecure,that you are incapable of looking at women as anything other than sex toys for your own amusement. i honestly had hope for you last week,when you pretended to realize what you lost with Fling Girl. now i realize that you just played us all in looking for sympathy here. well,i have no more sympathy for you,sir.

Valiant post mikey, but I'm afraid it's to no avail.

I don't think any of us have any sympathy for him anymore though...

 

[Dreadstar]

I am not playing anyone. If I was I would have said that I bedded comic chick and all her friends many times over. But thats not the case.

I know you are correct, I need to man up.

And I dont subconsciously hate her and hate all women. At least I hope not.

 

[Boy Scout]

You're more likely, honestly, to f*** a friend than anyone else.

Too true. Hell, I've done more with my friends than I have with my girlfriends (but to be honest, that's not saying much).

I used to be like *you*, or others in this thread, and one thing I'll always remember is I sat in tortured silence not talking to people I wanted to f***...so girls do that too, ya know.

Talking to girls isn't a problem for me. I just wasn't sure how to bring up sex.

If people think you don't care what their opinion is you won't have to deal with it.

You'd think.

 

[steintym]

Have you told your mom you subconsciously hate her and hate all women? Cause I think she needs to know, although if she's still alive (if you're 50 and all, she must be up there too), the stories of your escapades might send her to an early grave.

"A boys best friend is his mother" - Norman Bates

 

[Dark Raven]

Ok well changing subjects here, just going back to this girl I've been chatting to online who is 2-3 hours away and now wants to talk on the phone or skype. I want to write to her and say that I don't think it's worth it, because I don't want to get into a long distance relationship.

However, once question she might ask if I bring up the long distance aspect is why, if that were a problem, I even contacted her in the first place knowing that she is that far away? At the time I wasn't giving it much thought and was just sowing further afield because I wasn't getting any responses nearer to home. So I wasn't specifically contacting her but anyone who might be open. However, it just turned out that she replied.

Ever since she did, I realise that I don't want something that far away. But I can't say to her that I was just contacting anyone and she just happened to respond. That would make her feel like a nobody. So how can I get round that in a tactful way?

I realise I could just not reply anymore, but I think it would be nicer and more considerate if I did at least give some kind of explanation so that she doesn't think it's something she's done or wonder why I've suddenly stopped writing.

 

[knowsbleed]

*reads posts since last logged on*

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... *ahem*...


*composes self*

I just messaged her what kind of food she likes. She's at work, so I won't get a reply until she has a break or she gets off work later tonight. I do plan on looking up some recipes online, and we have a few cook books lying around the house. I don't plan on serving wine since I can't get a hold of it (And I don't have the funds for it.), but if I can get a hold of it somehow I might pour us a glass or two :P

We also don't have the greatest set of dishes, but I know we have a few nice plates that we use for big dinners, so I can try to find them in the cupboard somewhere. The candle is a nice touch, especially since I plan on having it out on the patio so we can be alone without people pestering us.

Thanks guys

I'm not sure if this is where I ask this, but I figure some of you in here might be able to give me a few good ideas.
This girl I like is leaving on the 18th for Germany for a year. She's having a going away party, but I want to do something special, that being make her a nice dinner. Now, seeing as I've never done something like this and I want it to be special, I need some ideas of what to serve, atmosphere, what to say/do, etc. Normally I wouldn't stress over this, but I really do like this girl and I want to do something extraordinary before she leaves.

Are you a pretty good cook? If not, order it from a nice place and bring it home... heat it up at home. It will work out much better and you won't need to worry about prep time for food... you can worry about prep time for showing her how much you care.

As far as atmosphere and what to say/do, etc... you know her better than we do, cater to what you think would be fun/memorable for her. There's no 'default' setting for this... if she is a romantic/corny person, then pretty much anything will do... if she is more eclectic then go for something SHE would be interested in. OR, give us some more info about her and we might be able to help better.

 

[Anita18]

And I dont subconsciously hate her and hate all women. At least I hope not.

Judging from what you post on here about women....you do. There's no question about it.

Might I throw out another piece of advice that I think you'll ignore? You're 50. You claim you don't want to be alone. But you hate women (or AT THE VERY LEAST don't respect them) and unfortunately you don't go for the guys. Have you thought of talking to a therapist to figure this out?

Cause as mikey said, you keep this up and you WILL be alone. Guaranteed. And no woman of childbearing age is going to want to just bone a 70-year-old without some serious money behind it. Unless he's Mick Jagger. Sorry.

 

[Anita18]

Ok well changing subjects here, just going back to this girl I've been chatting to online who is 2-3 hours away and now wants to talk on the phone or skype. I want to write to her and say that I don't think it's worth it, because I don't want to get into a long distance relationship.

However, once question she might ask if I bring up the long distance aspect is why, if that were a problem, I even contacted her in the first place knowing that she is that far away? At the time I wasn't giving it much thought and was just sowing further afield because I wasn't getting any responses nearer to home. So I wasn't specifically contacting her but anyone who might be open. However, it just turned out that she replied.

Ever since she did, I realise that I don't want something that far away. But I can't say to her that I was just contacting anyone and she just happened to respond. That would make her feel like a nobody. So how can I get round that in a tactful way?

I realise I could just not reply anymore, but I think it would be nicer and more considerate if I did at least give some kind of explanation so that she doesn't think it's something she's done or wonder why I've suddenly stopped writing.

Just say you aren't feeling it and you just want to be friends. It's the truth, because you don't want a long-distance relationship with her. If she were truly special, you would. But you don't, so she's not that special to you.

Any sane woman would be okay with that. After all, she would do the same thing if the shoe was on the other foot.

 

[Lasirius]

I am not playing anyone. If I was I would have said that I bedded comic chick and all her friends many times over. But thats not the case.

I know you are correct, I need to man up.

And I dont subconsciously hate her and hate all women. At least I hope not.

Just shut the **** up already. If your stories are a joke then it's becoming boring and tiresome, if you're for real then you should be locked up just for the way you express yourself on this thread.

Ok well changing subjects here, just going back to this girl I've been chatting to online who is 2-3 hours away and now wants to talk on the phone or skype. I want to write to her and say that I don't think it's worth it, because I don't want to get into a long distance relationship.

However, once question she might ask if I bring up the long distance aspect is why, if that were a problem, I even contacted her in the first place knowing that she is that far away? At the time I wasn't giving it much thought and was just sowing further afield because I wasn't getting any responses nearer to home. So I wasn't specifically contacting her but anyone who might be open. However, it just turned out that she replied.

Ever since she did, I realise that I don't want something that far away. But I can't say to her that I was just contacting anyone and she just happened to respond. That would make her feel like a nobody. So how can I get round that in a tactful way?

I realise I could just not reply anymore, but I think it would be nicer and more considerate if I did at least give some kind of explanation so that she doesn't think it's something she's done or wonder why I've suddenly stopped writing.

Yeah, just like Anita said. Just tell her what you're posting here, it shouldn't be this difficult.

 

[knowsbleed]

I know plenty of men like Dreadstar, their lives revolve around sex. Sex should not be the center of gravitation for a relationship for for these people, it is. I find it primitive.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

You do that. How old are you? Guessing in your 20s.

And how old are you? Because you certainly don't act the age you claim.

 

[Anita18]

I know plenty of men like Dreadstar, their lives revolve around sex. Sex should not be the center of gravitation for a relationship for for these people, it is. I find it primitive.

Most of them are at least honest about it though, like Optimus. I respect him because he's honest about it. Not this "I don't want to be alone" kind of crap but cannot commit and then have to tell themselves they're a man because they're able to stick their junk into a semi-willing warm hole. That just takes a special kind of cluelessness. But like all people, you reap what you sow....

 

[knowsbleed]

Haha, I don't think Optimus's entire interest in women centers purely on sex... but if it does then you are right, he doesn't come across a penis who just happens to have access to the internet. I've come to realize quite a few years ago that sex is not the #1 priority in a relationship, it was pretty high on my list but now I don't rank it in my top 5 priorities. I do see innuendo everywhere and I think it's fun to joke about it, but I don't let my libido control my actions.

Dreadstar, you seem like you want something more... but I don't even know if you know what you want.

 

[Lasirius]

Most of them are at least honest about it though, like Optimus. I respect him because he's honest about it. Not this "I don't want to be alone" kind of crap but cannot commit and then have to tell themselves they're a man because they're able to stick their junk into a semi-willing warm hole. That just takes a special kind of cluelessness. But like all people, you reap what you sow....

And funnily enough, he was crying over fling girl just a few days ago how she was the love of his life and would do anything to get her when they "dated" for like a week.

 

[Lord Valumart]

So tomorrow I got to and hang out with this girl from work and do some awesome fun archery. We've been hyped about it since I booked it the other week. The place is pretty far away from where we both live, I have to pick her up since I live further away. I mean this is going to be the longest ammount of time we've spent together, like 4/5 hours. So I guess this is when I find out if we can tolerate each other for a long period of time?

 

[Dark Raven]

So tomorrow I got to and hang out with this girl from work and do some awesome fun archery. We've been hyped about it since I booked it the other week. The place is pretty far away from where we both live, I have to pick her up since I live further away. I mean this is going to be the longest ammount of time we've spent together, like 4/5 hours. So I guess this is when I find out if we can tolerate each other for a long period of time?

You should plan some backup topics to discuss in case you run out of things to say. Of course, if you don't need them, then all well and good, because that means you can actually get on with each other.

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

You should plan some backup topics to discuss in case you run out of things to say. Of course, if you don't need them, then all well and good, because that means you can actually get on with each other.

You shouldn't really need to plan conversations... if you click, you click. t:

I'm sure they'll be fine.

 

[mikey1974]

I know plenty of men like Dreadstar, their lives revolve around sex. Sex should not be the center of gravitation for a relationship for for these people, it is. I find it primitive.

honestly,in your teens to mid/late 20's i can see it. you're young. your libido is out of control. you're not looking for the full,long-term relationship yet (in most cases,anyway). so you wanna go out and have sex with women who are attractive to you.

but then there comes a little thing called GROWING UP! learning to control yourself. and learning that a relationship,and love, is the most important thing between a man and a woman. and sex then comes naturally through that,as a way of becoming intimate and closer to one another. and potentially to have children together.

Dreadstar is still in his late teens/early 20's mindset,apparently,where it's " i got a *****,i wanna hump!" unable to even ATTEMPT to commit to one woman,much less have an ongoing,fulfilling, lasting relationship.

but no one can do anything about it but himself. he's gotta break that thought process and lack of impulse control.

just cracked open beer #4 !!

 

[Dark Raven]

Dreadstar is still in his late teens/early 20's, apparently,where it's " i got a *****,i wanna hump!" unable to even ATTEMPT to commit to one woman,much less have an ongoing,fulfilling, lasting relationship.

Fixed.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

And funnily enough, he was crying over fling girl just a few days ago how she was the love of his life and would do anything to get her when they "dated" for like a week.

Yeah, how long has 'Fling Girl' lasted? She came later, no? Like June/July? I'll have to check my crazy calendar because I didn't write it down in my 'asinine stuff I read on the Internet' day planner.

 

[Anita18]

You shouldn't really need to plan conversations... if you click, you click. t:

I'm sure they'll be fine.