I finally responded to David's text messages. I asked him if he had tried to get anyone else to pick him up? He said, No. Aren't you available? I said I might be, but it's a little short notice (even though it technically isn't--as he's coming in on Monday). So we started talking via text message and this is how it went. David's texts are in blue, mine are in red (also David is notorious for not punctuating his s***):
"Well I was hoping we could get a bite to eat and talk"
"About what?"
"Some things I need to talk about"
"You mean about the estate and clearing up assets right?"
"Maybe but got other things on mind"
"Like what?"
"Can I stay at the house for Mon and Tues? Staying with fam for the rest of visit. Help defray hotel costs"
"Since when are hotel costs a problem for you? LOL"
"Anyway, that wouldn't be a good idea David."
"How come"
"So we'd be talking as friends? There's something I need to tell you."
"What"
"I have been kicking it with someone lately. Dating someone and it's gotten serious."
Now up till this point the texting had been pretty rapid-fire as David is extremely adept at using his Blackberry. But after I sent the last message several minutes passed without a reply. Then he came back with this:
"Chick or dick?"
"Does it matter?"
More silence. Then a few minutes later:
"Is it a dude"
"What's important to know is that I can only meet you as a friend. Have no problem picking you up, but not interested in visiting memory lane. I have other plans."
"Is it a dude"
"*sigh*"
More silence passed at this point. A good 20 minutes this time, so I decided to text him back.
"Are you still there?"
"Nope"
"Huh?"
"Is your new friend staying at the house"
I typed up a response to this in the affirmative but decided to put in my drafts and not send it. For some reason I felt that it would bring the stalker-flava out of David, who I already know has serious jealousy issues--and the temper to go with it. So I just reverted the subject a bit:
"I can pick you up from the airport and take you to a Hotel, but you can't stay at the house."
"I want to take you both out to dinner lol"
"Will you introduce me to your friend"
"Why the hell would I do that? No."
"F*** it then. Just pick me up and dump me somewhere"
"I am happy for you Caliph"
"How long have you been dating this person"
Again, I changed the subject here....
"Send me your itinerary David so I know what time to pick you up."
"I have a meeting to get into now, so just e-mail it to me and I will catch up with you later, okay?"
"k"
So that's how it went down. It's pretty f***ed up. I really wasn't expecting to tip my hand and tell David so soon--and certainly not via some electronic, impersonal means like text messaging, but I felt that he needed to know right up front what was going on. The part about him wanting to take me AND Jason kinda threw me for a loop. I couldn't tell if he was being passive-aggressive, sarcastic or genuine.
I'll be honest here: I don't want to be alone for Christmas. Loneliness is like my Kryptonite. I mean, I could always get with some friends or hell, take
myself out on the town and go bar and club hopping alone. But that sucks...especially when you have someone. But with Jason doing his thing on his own I was kinda looking forward to spending time with David's family. I do believe in platonic friendships and I think David and I could have one in the future. But now even that dinner invitiation might be off the table, now that David knows I'm no longer single.
Now, I feel obligated to tell Jason that my ex is coming to town. But I am hesitant to do so because the relationship is still so young and fragile. Why introduce an element of suspicion? After he saw the pic of Dave in the bathroom Jason later complimented me and said that I "know how to pick 'em". And he seemed to be genuinely fine with it. Both of these dudes are friggin adonises, and I've been lucky to be blessed with knowing them. But one is clearly in my past and one is definitely in the present (and hopefully the future).
Anyway. Jason is getting off the force early tonight so we can go see
Avatar. We will likely get something to eat afterwards too, so I
could let him know then. Or I could just opt to handle this with David on my own, sew up any loose ends with him and just move one with Jason with a clean slate.
*sigh*
Why must life be so complicated?
Isn't it grand?
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