Gymrats & Stalkers: "I Was Assaulted In A Public Restroom"

[Lightning Strykez!]

Two nights is a pretty short amount of time...what I find interesting is the sudden need to leave and then return in an hour.

Me too.

I think he figured that since I am more experienced in M2M action (I confessed to him that I had done this before and had been in an 11 year relationship--but I didn't mention David's name) that I'd eventually figure out a way to pin him in the bedroom too?

 

[Marx]

Probably got scared, and blew off some steam.

Then came back in, went to the restroom, and blew off more steam.

Guy probably is just too scared to try anything but the "top" position.

I can understand 'cold feet' but it's obvious Jason has an attraction.

 

[knowsbleed]

The emotions in this thread are almost overwhelming. I almost feel the need to purchase some popcorn and turn off my cell phone.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Guy probably is just too scared to try anything but the "top" position.

Yah, but remember what he said in the parking lot? "Who would want to get s*** on their d***".

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

I can understand 'cold feet' but it's obvious Jason has an attraction.

Big time agreed.

Jason obviously has feelings here. Probably just isn't sure how to release them.


Without his hand. j/k

 

[Marx]

Yah, but remember what he said in the parking lot? "Who would want to get s*** on their d***".

He obviously didn't mean that man.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

Yah, but remember what he said in the parking lot? "Who would want to get s*** on their d***".

Remember how he was also sorta bashing gays?

 

[Marx]

Big time agreed.

Jason obviously has feelings here. Probably just isn't sure how to release them.


Without his hand. j/k

I just think it is a little ridiculous that Jason's STRONG attraction leads him to release by himself in another room instead of expressing that with the person he is actually interested in.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

Dude's definitely scared, and probably is still struggling with what people will think of him if he's not only into other guys, but is the "bottom" of the relationship.

Confusion is probably one of his biggest problems right now.

 

[Prison Mike]

Well LS, at least you made progress from the other night. Who knows? Maybe tonight you'll be doing him!

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

I just think it is a little ridiculous that Jason's STRONG attraction leads him to release by himself in another room instead of expressing that with the person he is actually interested in.

I was actually offended by that move on his part. We haven't spoken much today because I am still pissed with him. I thought it was inconsiderate. I know that when David would often travel--sometimes out of the country--and he'd call me or use my pictures to handle his business, whatever. But that was different. We were partnered at the time, and he made sure I KNEW he was "using me" to get his nut.

This situation, on the other hand...was just too damn weird for words.

 

[knowsbleed]

Personally, I wouldn't put up with any "confusion". After just getting out of a very long term relationship myself, I'm not ready to deal with any ******** games... at all. Hassle free, confusion-free sex is fine by me... but anything that even resembles drama is out the door for me. I drop that noise as if it were a used condom and I don't even bother tying the end... that's how much I won't put up with it.

LS... you may have a different level of patience... but this sounds too serious too soon for me.[/jus' sayin']

 

[-Arya-]

This situation, starting from the bathroom brawl and continuing onto recent events, should be made into a short story. This is very engaging.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Well LS, at least you made progress from the other night. Who knows? Maybe tonight you'll be doing him!

Mike, I doubt it. I am really angry. And when I'm angry, my joint goes limp.

If we were partnered, a situation like this would result in glorious angry sex. But outside of a committed relationship? Hell naw.

I mean, come on...I was laying right there in the bed less than 15 feet away from him in the bathroom!

 

[Marx]

Dude's definitely scared, and probably is still struggling with what people will think of him if he's not only into other guys, but is the "bottom" of the relationship.

Confusion is probably one of his biggest problems right now.

...but at the same time, it's not like the actions they would take in the bedroom are automatically going to be thrown into the public eye.

I was actually offended by that move on his part. We haven't spoken much today because I am still pissed with him. I thought it was inconsiderate. I know that when David would often travel--sometimes out of the country--and he'd call me or use my pictures to handle his business, whatever. But that was different. We were partnered at the time, and he made sure I KNEW he was "using me" to get his nut.

This situation, on the other hand...was just too damn weird for words.

I honestly can't say that I blame you man. It's very strange.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Personally, I wouldn't put up with any "confusion". After just getting out of a very long term relationship myself, I'm not ready to deal with any ******** games... at all. Hassle free, confusion-free sex is fine by me... but anything that even resembles drama is out the door for me. I drop that noise as if it were a used condom and I don't even bother tying the end... that's how much I won't put up with it.

LS... you may have a different level of patience... but this sounds too serious too soon for me.[/jus' sayin']

If I didn't have feelings for him, I'd have kick him to the curb. And it's not just because he came to my defense/saved my life in that restroom fight either. I am really feeling him...he's a great, charming cat. And you guys now have a bit of an idea of what he looks like, so...you can get a sense of how attracted I am to him too.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

...but at the same time, it's not like the actions they would take in the bedroom are automatically going to be thrown into the public eye.



I honestly can't say that I blame you man. It's very strange.

How much does he know about relationships with other men? He's worried about roles it might make, or what he might have to do.

He's just green.

 

[Marx]

How much does he know about relationships with other men? He's worried about roles it might make, or what he might have to do.

He's just green.

...but he has to recognize that it's no different than any other relationship. He has to realize how it would affect the other person if they knew he went into a seperate room to release himself instead of sharing that experience. He can't be that dumb.

 

[knowsbleed]

I never said you should "kick him to the curb"... but I would definitely provide a "No Games In This House" clause, make him sign it with some sort of bodily fluid to prove he means it.

I'm all for expressing my feelings to the person I'm with without any hint of confusion... I don't play the confusion game. I feel like a DJ sometimes in the relationship, I wait for the song to break itself down... and then I let them hear it... extend it... so the KNOW that it's the breakdown, "This is where I tell you what I expect... and you get to reciprocate if you so choose to".

 

[-Arya-]

...but he has to recognize that it's no different than any other relationship. He has to realize how it would affect the other person if they knew he went into a seperate room to release himself instead of sharing that experience. He can't be that dumb.

Except he's never been with a man before. You can't expect him to just realize this in an instant. If he is aware that this is just another relationship then perhaps he isn't considerate in general.

 

[Marx]

Except he's never been with a man before. You can't expect him to just realize this in an instant. If he is aware that this is just another relationship then perhaps he isn't considerate in general.

I am completely understanding of his innocence with male relationships. I just don't understand why he chose to leave the room to release himself...after already darting out for an hour earlier. That just dumbfounds me.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

...but he has to recognize that it's no different than any other relationship. He has to realize how it would affect the other person if they knew he went into a seperate room to release himself instead of sharing that experience. He can't be that dumb.

Agreed. Especially as he wants sex. On his terms, instead of thinking of it as a two way street.

I believe he should be given some leeway, here, but he needs to also realize that a relationship with another guy is the same as a relationship with a woman, it's not something you string along.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Except he's never been with a man before. You can't expect him to just realize this in an instant. If he is aware that this is just another relationship then perhaps he isn't considerate in general.

Which is the only reason I am allowing him to continue to exist in my space.

I remember being in his shoes. And I was David's first M2M too, so I remember David needing time too. The difference is that David was very clear from the outset that he wanted to take things slow. We dated for nearly THREE MONTHS before actually consummating our relationship for the first time (he was out of town a lot on business).

Jason, on the other hand, is cupping my ass, tweaking my nipples and washing my adam's apple with his tongue and then leaving my sword drawn in the air without a goddaym sheath!!!!! It's foul!

 

[-Arya-]

I am completely understanding of his innocence with male relationships. I just don't understand why he chose to leave the room to release himself...after already darting out for an hour earlier. That just dumbfounds me.

His anxiety got the best of him that night. There's always tomorrow....

 

[Marx]

Agreed. Especially as he wants sex. On his terms, instead of thinking of it as a two way street.

I believe he should be given some leeway, here, but he needs to also realize that a relationship with another guy is the same as a relationship with a woman, it's not something you string along.

Exactly.

Which is the only reason I am allowing him to continue to exist in my space.

I remember being in his shoes. And I was David's first M2M too, so I remember David needing time too. The difference is that David was very clear from the outset that he wanted to take things slow. We dated for nearly THREE MONTHS before actually consummating our relationship for the first time (he was out of town a lot on business).

Jason, on the other hand, is cupping my ass, tweaking my nipples and washing my adam's apple with his tongue and then leaving my sword drawn in the air without a goddaym sheath!!!!! It's foul!

I think it's very noble that you are being so understanding...but you have a right to feel what you feel.

His anxiety got the best of him that night. There's always tomorrow....

Two times in one night?