Lord of the Advice: Return of the King of Relationships

[Erzengel]

Asperger's. That's why I noted that Dreadstar might be my cousin in 25 years.

Maybe he IS my cousin from the future!

Godzilla2000.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

No offense, but maybe he has down syndrome, and is slow on the uptake? Would explain a lot.

Maybe. He wouldn't be the first poster. We all strongly suspect JAL had issues, and Ghostrider87 definitely had something they monitored him for. I usually doubt it's that, I know functioning adults who come off like ******s on anything that requires writing, so I'm not jumping to that conclusion, but I can understand that line of thinking.

 

[The Squirrel]

Is it an ex? I demanded to see my coworker's profile on Match.com so I could give him some tips. Fun times. What's funny is that he found his ex on there and Match.com said they'd be good for one another.

No, just someone who I use to go to the same church as.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Can I just say, I think this has gone a bit too far...

 

[MrWayne]

15 pages in... why stop now?

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Because it feels wrong to be talking about whether or not a person is mentally disabled, on an open forum that they are going to come back and read...

Maybe that's just me?

 

[The Guard]

I don't think mentally disabled, so much as narcissistic.

I got here late. I don't know what's going on here...but Anita in traffic stopping shorts? This I'd like to see.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Yeah the mentally disabled sh** is an extreme accusation. Certainly has happened, so there's precedent for it, but I haven't seen much to suggest anything that out of the ordinary.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I don't think mentally disabled, so much as narcissistic.

^This.

 

[MrWayne]

Well I wasn't intentionality being mean, and meant no ill will. That's why I said no disrespect. I was being sincere with a slight pinch of humor since I know it isn't something funny to laugh about. But at age 50 you'd think he would know about the bees & birds.

But seriously, we kid because we care

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Meh, I don't care about Dreadstar.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I don't know him personally, nor am I really trying to defend him, just I don't think, given what I have seen so far that he is mentally challenged. I'd be more inclined to believe he's just not the age he claims or that he is because I know people his age that are very much like him.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I know a guy at fifty five who is basically a slightly watered down Ghostrider87. All his "girlfriends" are waitresses at bars he goes to, and he's constantly broke because these girls fleece him for his money with no return. I think he relies mostly on prostitutes. The way he talks though, while clearly stupid, is hopelessly arrogant. He constantly makes himself out to be Casanova, and always has a story that seems dubious and over exaggerated. In fact much like Dreadstar he makes big deals out of meaningless interactions. Yet he's gainfully employed as our Foundry man, makes good money and understands his work. So, yeah, I just feel that's a bald assertion.

 

[Anita18]

I don't think mentally disabled, so much as narcissistic.

I got here late. I don't know what's going on here...but Anita in traffic stopping shorts? This I'd like to see.

Wrong thread!

Keep an eye out on the photo thread after July 20, I'll probably post something worth seeing.

 

[MrWayne]

Advanced tickets are where Anita?? lol

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

I don't know him personally, nor am I really trying to defend him, just I don't think, given what I have seen so far that he is mentally challenged. I'd be more inclined to believe he's just not the age he claims or that he is because I know people his age that are very much like him.

Dreadstar has a dozen personality disorders and a profound lack of self-awareness. It's also quite possible he's just very stupid and naive without being mentally handicapped.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Seriously, is calling another poster stupid even allowed on this forum?

How did this turn so nasty?

I mean, I had a problem with him suggesting he shouldn't have to care about our problems to get advice in this thread... but the guys not done anything to deserve THIS much vitriol.

It's just being mean. Really mean. Like the bully who waits for you outside of school to kick you in the nuts mean...

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I feel like the Internet throws that stuff around too liberally. *Shrug* I know some very disabled people that love forums and messageboards because they come off as perfectly normal on them.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I feel like the Internet throws that stuff around too liberally. *Shrug* I know some very disabled people that love forums and messageboards because they come off as perfectly normal on them.

Exactly the point. A lot of people find solace on the internet because they won't get ridiculed or treated like an outcast because they're a bit different...

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Exactly the point. A lot of people find solace on the internet because they won't get ridiculed or treated like an outcast because they're a bit different...

Well, yes, but what I meant was I know people with mental disorders who can mask them on the internet when they respond to things in writing, as we do. Whereas in real life their mental ticks and cognative issues are right in front of everyone. Conversely, just go look at my Facebook wall, some of my quite successful friends (some even own their own business) can't communicate in writing worth of crap. Although for some reason I notice things like insecurity, arrogance, narcissism, self-absorbed tendencies and how well read someone is come across in writing pretty apparently.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

All true.

I think the main thing is though, since no one can know for sure about those things by inferring from how someone sounds online, and it's incredible easy to be hurt or take offense at being referred to in that way by strangers (whether it's true or not); it just shouldn't be up for discussion and conjecture.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I'm rather unconcerned with his feelings, quite honestly, but telling someone they are mentally disabled is like accusing someone of rape. Unless you know something concrete, or that person has said so themselves, it's just not an accusation you hurl out there.

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

I'm having a hard time believing much of what Dreadstar has been going on about. But I do agree that calling them out as being mentally ******ed is a bit much...

My basic ethos is, if you have to boast about it, it's quite likely that it never happened at all. Or certainly nothing like you say it did.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I'm having a hard time believing much of what Dreadstar has been going on about. But I do agree that calling them out as being mentally ******ed is a bit much...

My basic ethos is, if you have to boast about it, it's quite likely that it never happened at all.

He reminds me a bit like our Foundry man who I mentioned previously. I find braggarts to actually be very honest from a certain perspective. Generally they give you more than enough information to hang them with if you're really paying attention to their rants. My general inclination is to believe most of what they say is based on reality, you know, in the same way The Exorcist is based on a true story. Yes, it's tru-ish, but there are enough questions about it to make it seem very exaggerated. Plus they usually yadda-yadda over certain parts, and or dance around the fact that nothing is really happening.

 

[Dreadstar]

At your reported age (which you never give us a straight answer about really) I would expect you to have enough women experience under your belt to know that many women string guys along and play games.

For them a sucker is born every minute, and I've tried to be nice, but you're one of those suckers. You're clearly very insecure or something, I don't know.

I really think you have to be a kid. You think like one. You have these overly emotional outbursts over nothing. That's a huge turn off. If you carry on like this in reality I really have trouble understanding how you end up with any women.

Where did you meet this fling girl anyways?

Yeah, you just seem massively immature. The hyperbolic over analysis, the whole asinine theories about Comic Girl's childhood, the chronic "why would she do that" when the answer is so painfully obvious you actually answer your own question by asking it. I'd expect that from some virgin High School student who still has crushes.

I wouldn't expect it from a near fifty year old.

I just figure you would've met enough people and dealt with enough BS to spot what Comic Girl is doing. Hint: It's complete bullsh**.

I am a very high strung individual. I know I have to learn how to calm down. I over react to many things. Thats why I have high blood pressure.

You are correct, NO one wants to be with someone that has emotional out bursts like I do. So lesson learned. I am going to do what I have to get that under control. I have been told this by several people, but I am stubborn, so I do not listen the first time. I need to hear it from many different people before I start to take it seriously.

I met fling girl off a dating site, thats why I expect her to want a serious NO BS relationship.

I saw fling girl last night. She asked if she can see me. So it was very nice to be with her. It went well. She keeps saying that in one year she is gojng to sell her place and move to another city, but that she might be able to because of her kids. Why tell me that? Thats like a lame duck coach! No matter what you do, it makes no difference. I know what I SHOULD do (does not mean I will do it) I should take it easy and go with the flow. But what I want to do is ask her WTF? Hypothetical situation, we stay together for a year, then how does this move thing figure into it? One day I wake up and she sents me a text saying she is moving to another city? WHAT the hell???? I see this as a commitment issue, but its prob just me being needy. YES, I will admit I am a needy person!

BUt then again, she just met me so thats why. STILL, I would like to see some form of commitment from her. This is why I call her fling girl! This is week 5! SO I have broken the 1 month barrier.