The Joker
The Clown Prince of Crime
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And I am sorry for you loss as well.
Thank you.
That's the funny thing about emotions and feelings...they're not always rational. It can take time and experience to sort these things out. And for ohers a crap load of money and therapists.
Of course these things happen, it's part of life. But it doesn't make it any easier and when it comes to being a husband to a wife, and a father to a daughter, you have a desire, rather a NEED, to want to protect them. And you can tend to come down on yourself when harm comes their way...whether you could have really done anything or not.
Of course a parent will have the sense of duty to protect their child, but every parent knows you can't protect them from something you have no control over, like an illness. If we could see a serious illness coming then life would be so much easier, as we could do something to possibly avoid it. But we can't.
Spider-Man feels a sense of duty to protect the city, just like Batman does for Gotham, and every other hero does for the city's they are in. But they don't all blame themselves for every death that happens in it just because they were unable to stop it. That's what weak minded characters would do.
People who beat themselves up and blame themselves for something that they are clearly not to blame for are being weak and silly. Again I'm sorry if that sounds harsh but that is how I feel. I always hated the excuse that emotions make people do or feel crazy things, just like the weak excuse that someone being insane gives a free pass for a character to do things that make no sense or have stupid motives for something.
That's just lazy excuses for weak writing. If Peter Parker beats himself up for someone dying, it's because he was to blame in some way. He's not the type to carry guilt for something he really couldn't have prevented. The whole basis of his being Spider-Man is because he didn't act when he could have and should have. He's not so weak minded that he lays himself a guilt trip for things beyond his control.
And while you say that, I believe there is a great deal of people out there who would strongly disagree, including myself. It takes a great deal of strength NOT to kill yourself. To take that pain and that heartache, and still manage to push on and upward despite of it.
Well that is what I was saying. I can understand people who do end up committing suicide because as you said they don't have that strength and will to handle the pain.
I know I've been there. It crossed my mind after I lost my little brother. But it was in the days after he passed away and the emotional hurt was still raw and I thought I'd never get to grips with it. But I'm happy to say I discovered I'm stronger than I thought I was. But I know that sadly not everyone has the same inner strength.
I appreciate the conversation. We may not see eye to eye, but you're passionate and well spoken.
Thank you. You too.
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