The "Friend Zone"

[Chris Wallace]

DAMN! That's straight outta the Friend Zone rulebook they give to girls in middle school :~S

You overlooked "You can have any girl you want."

 

[PyroChamber]

You overlooked "You can have any girl you want."

Yeah, it's like "obviously I can't if I couldn't get you".

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Ran into this girl last night who I guess "friend zoned" me...although I stopped talking to her after she shot me down, so I guess that doesn't count. Long story short, she was a lot less hot than she was the last time I saw her, granted in was a Sunday night, but she'd lost her shape (still had big ****, her body just wasn't as put together as it's been in the past -- probably stopped running and training as much as she used to). Anyways she came onto me a bit. She obviously isn't attracting as much attention as she used to, or at least that was the impression I got from our short conversation.

-- So, in conclusion, I think I've found one semi-positive to the friend zone. If they don't see you for a long time, and you come back looking 20x better than you looked when they knew you, it can be an almost instant win. I probably could've banged her if we weren't simply passing each other in the supermarket.

 

[Chris Wallace]

I think that only works if you refuse to go into the FZ, and/or, as in your case, break all contact. The woman I'm with now "zoned" me 13 years ago. I broke contact. When we got back in touch, one thing led to another & here we are.

 

[DV8]

Ran into this girl last night who I guess "friend zoned" me...although I stopped talking to her after she shot me down, so I guess that doesn't count. Long story short, she was a lot less hot than she was the last time I saw her, granted in was a Sunday night, but she'd lost her shape (still had big ****, her body just wasn't as put together as it's been in the past -- probably stopped running and training as much as she used to). Anyways she came onto me a bit. She obviously isn't attracting as much attention as she used to, or at least that was the impression I got from our short conversation.

-- So, in conclusion, I think I've found one semi-positive to the friend zone. If they don't see you for a long time, and you come back looking 20x better than you looked when they knew you, it can be an almost instant win. I probably could've banged her if we weren't simply passing each other in the supermarket.

I would have banged her right there in the meat department

seriously though, SB only backs up a point I made earlier . . . the only way to avoid or escape the friend zone is to NOT become a friend . . . you can be an acquaintance, but not a friend . . .

because while the friend is waiting for the girl to come around after she's broken up w/ her boyfriend, the acquaintace is the one that will end up banging her . . .

 

[SLVRSR4]

I would have banged her right there in the meat department

seriously though, SB only backs up a point I made earlier . . . the only way to avoid or escape the friend zone is to NOT become a friend . . . you can be an acquaintance, but not a friend . . .

because while the friend is waiting for the girl to come around after she's broken up w/ her boyfriend, the acquaintace is the one that will end up banging her . . .

Isn't this whole being with a partner about love and not associated with sex? At least for a little while it seems everything mentioned in this thread involves it more than the feelings that don't come about from such acts.

Have I been watching too many disney movies that weren't a goofy movie?

 

[Nivek]

One of these days I gotta contribute to this thread. I probably have 4 pages of various "Nivek Tales of Hook Up Woe" to add here.

 

[DV8]

Isn't this whole being with a partner about love and not associated with sex? At least for a little while it seems everything mentioned in this thread involves it more than the feelings that don't come about from such acts.

Have I been watching too many disney movies that weren't a goofy movie?

Yes, it is about love . . . and I'm sorry if sometimes my posts seem to refer specifically to sex; but sex is a part of this equation . . . obviously everyone in the friend zone wants to have sex with the person that 'friended' them . . .

my point here is to make your intentions clear towards that other person; that you want to have a romantic relationship with them, not be their 'buddy' . . . and it basically boils down to two types of people: people in the friend zone; and people that actually get the girl . . .

 

[Johnny Drama]

One of these days I gotta contribute to this thread. I probably have 4 pages of various "Nivek Tales of Hook Up Woe" to add here.

I find that incredibly hard to believe...

Spoiler

Just kidding man

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Isn't this whole being with a partner about love and not associated with sex? At least for a little while it seems everything mentioned in this thread involves it more than the feelings that don't come about from such acts.

Have I been watching too many disney movies that weren't a goofy movie?

Well, I think the biggest thing missing when you're put in the friend zone is the physcial part of the relationship. It's all look, but don't touch and when you're attracted to the person that's a really hard pill to swallow. You've got the emotional connection, but not the physical. It's in a way why friends with benefits is also difficult, you've got the physical, but you've got to emotionally keep your distance.

 

[Chris Wallace]

You don't really get the emotional, either. Not the FULL emotional.

 

[SLVRSR4]

Yes, it is about love . . . and I'm sorry if sometimes my posts seem to refer specifically to sex; but sex is a part of this equation . . . obviously everyone in the friend zone wants to have sex with the person that 'friended' them . . .

my point here is to make your intentions clear towards that other person; that you want to have a romantic relationship with them, not be their 'buddy' . . . and it basically boils down to two types of people: people in the friend zone; and people that actually get the girl . . .

I was a little worried about that. I may be narcissitic or something but I enjoy self-pleasure more than sex and like sex because it says that you are comfortable with that person.

I just think that sex is a poor basis for a relationship because it is a small window for what I hope would be more than that because you can only have enjoyable sex for so long.

 

[Chris Wallace]

I was a little worried about that. I may be narcissitic or something but I enjoy self-pleasure more than sex and like sex because it says that you are comfortable with that person.

I just think that sex is a poor basis for a relationship because it is a small window for what I hope would be more than that because you can only have enjoyable sex for so long.

If there's no connection outside the bedroom, only then will the sex get old.

 

[Chris Wallace]

Now it seems like I may be in the position I've dreaded. She's saying we may not work out, & has asked me if, that being the case, I would be willing to remain friends. She has also suggested scaling back to simple casual dating. I'm thinking I need to make a complete break & try to purge her from my memory.

 

[Gilpesh]

Now it seems like I may be in the position I've dreaded. She's saying we may not work out, & has asked me if, that being the case, I would be willing to remain friends. She has also suggested scaling back to simple casual dating. I'm thinking I need to make a complete break & try to purge her from my memory.

Because of this.... you need to that. Pronto.

 

[Chris Wallace]

Only problem is, it's not that simple. We live together, in a city I'm still not familiar with, & my kid is with us. I'm thinking I should wait until school lets out, then high-tail it back to Chicago.

 

[Gilpesh]

Wow. Really? She wants to go back to casual dating from the living together part? How in the heck would that even work?

 

[Chris Wallace]

I have no earthly clue. We were talking about it this morning, & it didn't make a lick of sense to me.

 

[Gilpesh]

Like.... she may as well say, "Yeah. I might come home with a guy from time to time... but we're still going out. I swear."

Or, does it mean someone takes couch surfing duty?

 

[Chris Wallace]

No-she's proposing we live separately but continue to see each other. I ask, what's the point? Either I'm what you want or I'm not. If I am, then we should stay & try to figure this out. If not, peace. I really don't see a third option.

 

[Johnny Drama]

that is just cold on her part...

 

[Gilpesh]

Yeah. Um. That's stupid. If she wants to keep seeing you, why not work it out the way it is now?

Cause how would living apart fix things, especially when you would probably move back in together if it does fix things?

 

[Chris Wallace]

My point exactly.

 

[The Squirrel]

I think I'm in the friend zone with most of the girls at this school. Good thing I'm transferring to a new school.

 

[Chris Wallace]

How do you get zoned by multiple girls in the same timeframe?