The "Friend Zone"

[Chris Wallace]

Here's a question; why do women keep male friends around them-who they KNOW are interested in them-when they get into a committed relationship? Is he like the fire extinguisher in the glass case?

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Here's a question; why do women keep male friends around them-who they KNOW are interested in them-when they get into a committed relationship? Is he like the fire extinguisher in the glass case?

Because the man is stupid and continues to answer the phone when she calls. If you can't handle her being in a relationship with someone other than you, then you gonna need to move and and avoid contact with her.

 

[Erzengel]

I think a lot of times, women think that a man can have a strictly platonic relationship and in terms of women knowing that the guy likes them, sometimes they feel the feelings will subside.

 

[Chris Wallace]

That's like locking a junkie in a meth lab & tying his hands. I know you want it, you can't have it. You can look, but you can't touch.

 

[terry78]

You are basically a dick in a glass case. Every woman has a backup. That guy she can go to comfort her or take care of her, and she has to give up nothing to get it.

 

[PyroChamber]

I've always wondered, does this always happen when the guy is going after a really good looking woman? Like if you were put in "the zone" by a woman that wasn't so good looking would it even matter?

 

[Chris Wallace]

Y'all are not gonna believe this. I wrote a bog (well, I didn't so much write a blog as copy & paste what I'd previously posted here obto my blog) about the Zone, & it led to me & my girl getting into an argument after she read it. I still don't know why she got so pissed, like the idea of not wanting to hang out with somebody that you want but can't have is so appalling!

 

[-Arya-]

This thread is depressing. Perhaps its better to not even bother with women.

 

[Chris Wallace]

I've always wondered, does this always happen when the guy is going after a really good looking woman? Like if you were put in "the zone" by a woman that wasn't so good looking would it even matter?

This brings me to a recent revelation I've had, in regard to what a man looks for in a mate vs. what a woman looks for. Men, by & large, are not willing to compromise our physical criteria while a woman is typically not going to compromise her emotional criteria. That is to say, if a man wants a Beyonce type-for example, he's gonna pursue the Beyonce type no matter what, while a Jill Scott will get no play. Not even if she is a perfect match for him in EVERY OTHER WAY. She will most likely be one of the rare instances of a woman getting zoned. Now a woman can want an LL type, but if a dude built like Michael Jackson steps to her & he is on her emotional & mental level, she will forsake the 6-pack. (Mind you, this does not necessarily mean she's looking for the "good" man; just the man who has the kind of mentality that she's looking for.) So what I personally think is that when a woman zones a guy, it's because he meets some of the requirements of what she's looking for in a mate, (or she wouldn't hang out with him at all) but not all. When a man zones a woman, I think she has probably all but one of the qualities he's looking for.

 

[Chris Wallace]

You are basically a dick in a glass case. Every woman has a backup. That guy she can go to comfort her or take care of her, and she has to give up nothing to get it.

That's how I see it.

 

[Cain]

I don't play that friend zone stuff. I make it very clear to girls that I'm interested in them on that level as soon as I meet them. The friend zone is a colossal waste of time and a self esteem killer why put yourself through that misery when you don't actually have to.

 

[Chris Wallace]

So if they tell you they just want to be friends, then what?

 

[Cain]

So if they tell you they just want to be friends, then what?

If that happened to someone I knew I'd tell them to cut them off, there is no reason to put yourself through something like that there are millions of women out there. You need to love yourself and look out for yourself before anything else. It also helps to know yourself. That's what attracts women to men in the first place at least in my case and most guys I know. Some girls will reject you but some girls wont, one thing most will appreciate is the fact that you're being honest about it. Don't be headstrong about it and don't be a pervert but make it clear you want more than just friendship with them from the beginning. Otherwise you are destined for hell (friend zone). Be out for self there is nothing selfish about it you're just caring for the person who was with you from birth to death is all.

 

[Chris Wallace]

I like that.