The Lord of the Advice: The Two Towering Relationships thread

[terry78]

Man, this place.

 

[Godzilla2000]

If you are sincere, thanks for the positive reinforcement. I am taking a stand after being treated like crap by so many men lately. I am who I am and if a guy has to change me in order to like me then that's not what I define as love. You should love someone not for what you can change about them but who they are inside and out. If they can't be bothered to love me as a proud, plus sized woman then why are they even bothering to court me if only for selfish reasons? They're attitude brings me more pain that makes me feel good about myself. If they're so hung up in such a superficial world, I don't want to be a part of that at all. On the flip side are men who are too childish. In my view mirth and having fun is a great thing, but when it comes at the expense of another person, using shame and embarrassment to cause laughs, then it's a very very rude way of conducting oneself and I don't want to be a part of that either. For example:

Good Prank - Putting someone's car keys in a jello mold. (Saw this on The Office one time and it got my mind thinking.)

Bad Prank - Having friends put on an act, it can be anything, just to make someone scared.

One to me is innocent fun, the other is just plain nasty and vindictive.

 

[Anubis]

Guuurrl droppin' some knowledge up in this piece.

 

[Godzilla2000]

Guuurrl droppin' some knowledge up in this piece.

God...I hate when people speak like that.

 

[Anubis]

And here I was tryin' to give you the attention that you want.

That'll teach me.

 

[Godzilla2000]

And here I was tryin' to give you the attention that you want.

That'll teach me.

Well, speak like an intelligent, articulate human being and maybe I'll pay attention more. I'm not into this whole "Urban" or "Chav" crap nor do I like Rap and Hip Hop either.

 

[Anubis]

You're racist. We know.

 

[Godzilla2000]

You're racist. We know.

If you say so that I'm racist, whatever. Believe whatever twisted, mush headed lie you want to. I just don't care about anyone's fictional opinions of me anyway. Just because I am not biologically attracted to Hispanics or Blacks doesn't make me racist. That's just my personal preference. It's not racist to be attracted to white men when you're a white female. I'm also attracted to Native Americans and Asians. Doesn't sound racist to me.

 

[Anubis]

Well I stands corrected.

 

[Godzilla2000]

Well I stands corrected.

Is this a Bipolar attraction you have for me?

Anyways, it's not that I am not fair about my opinions concerning other races, I am just not into that whole "Urban" or "Chav" type of way of conducting oneself in life. I personally find it off putting and kind of crude. I mean regardless of your ethnicity you have the capacity to master the English language and speak with a wider vocabulary with other people. I just wish more people in general would start sounding like formally educated people around me with a firm grasp of the words in the dictionary. I admit that I am whiter than white bread in my behavior because that is the atmosphere I grew up in and when it comes to engagements with other people I am looking for that same quality. Even a conversation I can recognize as plain English is fine with me. You don't need to use fancy words or have to carry a dictionary around with you. Just speak to me using words I can actually understand. I'm not impressed by posturing and acting like you're the best thing on the planet. That's the one quality I hate about that whole "Urban" "Chav" thing, that by your words and actions in my mind it sounds like you're putting up a front of superiority. I am a quiet, sensitive, intelligent, introverted, thoughtful, philosophical thinker and I'd like to see some of those qualities reflected in a man in order for me to even consider him husband worthy material.

 

[Kane52630]

 

[Anita18]

Well, speak like an intelligent, articulate human being and maybe I'll pay attention more. I'm not into this whole "Urban" or "Chav" crap nor do I like Rap and Hip Hop either.

But we've already tried that (multiple times!) and it doesn't work.

Is this a Bipolar attraction you have for me?

Anyways, it's not that I am not fair about my opinions concerning other races, I am just not into that whole "Urban" or "Chav" type of way of conducting oneself in life. I personally find it off putting and kind of crude. I mean regardless of your ethnicity you have the capacity to master the English language and speak with a wider vocabulary with other people. I just wish more people in general would start sounding like formally educated people around me with a firm grasp of the words in the dictionary. I admit that I am whiter than white bread in my behavior because that is the atmosphere I grew up in and when it comes to engagements with other people I am looking for that same quality. Even a conversation I can recognize as plain English is fine with me. You don't need to use fancy words or have to carry a dictionary around with you. Just speak to me using words I can actually understand. I'm not impressed by posturing and acting like you're the best thing on the planet. That's the one quality I hate about that whole "Urban" "Chav" thing, that by your words and actions in my mind it sounds like you're putting up a front of superiority. I am a quiet, sensitive, intelligent, introverted, thoughtful, philosophical thinker and I'd like to see some of those qualities reflected in a man in order for me to even consider him husband worthy material.

Who said Anubis wanted to marry you? You can have fun and joke with a guy without judging him for husband material.

That's what you guys are for, anyway.

 

[Speedball]

Guuurrl droppin' some knowledge up in this piece.

I totally read that in Rogers voice because of your avatar.


I seriously hope girls don't judge me as husband worthy material, because they're going to very disappointed...

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Of all the people to reply too over the last few pages, she picks Anubis?

Actually made me cry with laughter.

Ah, simple things please simple minds

 

[Anita18]

Of all the people to reply too over the last few pages, she picks Anubis?

Maybe we ought to dole out our own advice using chav speak!

But seriously Godzilla2000, it's quite unnecessary to require men be husband material to even have a conversation with them. Or assume that every single man you come across wants to put a ring on your finger.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

That's the one quality I hate about that whole "Urban" "Chav" thing, that by your words and actions in my mind it sounds like you're putting up a front of superiority.

I'd have said most people consider those who speak well and use a wide range of 'big fancy words', are the one's putting on an air of superiority. Trying to sound posh and 'above' everyone else.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Maybe we ought to dole out our own advice using chav speak!

But seriously Godzilla2000, it's quite unnecessary to require men be husband material to even have a conversation with them. Or assume that every single man you come across wants to put a ring on your finger.

Damn straight they do!

Dat's why all dem *****es be jelous of our home girl.

 

[Erzengel]

Is this a Bipolar attraction you have for me?

Anyways, it's not that I am not fair about my opinions concerning other races, I am just not into that whole "Urban" or "Chav" type of way of conducting oneself in life. I personally find it off putting and kind of crude. I mean regardless of your ethnicity you have the capacity to master the English language and speak with a wider vocabulary with other people. I just wish more people in general would start sounding like formally educated people around me with a firm grasp of the words in the dictionary. I admit that I am whiter than white bread in my behavior because that is the atmosphere I grew up in and when it comes to engagements with other people I am looking for that same quality. Even a conversation I can recognize as plain English is fine with me. You don't need to use fancy words or have to carry a dictionary around with you. Just speak to me using words I can actually understand. I'm not impressed by posturing and acting like you're the best thing on the planet. That's the one quality I hate about that whole "Urban" "Chav" thing, that by your words and actions in my mind it sounds like you're putting up a front of superiority. I am a quiet, sensitive, intelligent, introverted, thoughtful, philosophical thinker and I'd like to see some of those qualities reflected in a man in order for me to even consider him husband worthy material.

Instead of making laundry lists of what you EXPECT in a man, why don't you go out and try and meet one?

 

[Mrs. Sawyer]

Actually made me cry with laughter.

Ah, simple things please simple minds

Kane knows how to pick the perfect gifs at the perfect time.

 

[Anubis]

Is this a Bipolar attraction you have for me?

Anyways, it's not that I am not fair about my opinions concerning other races, I am just not into that whole "Urban" or "Chav" type of way of conducting oneself in life. I personally find it off putting and kind of crude. I mean regardless of your ethnicity you have the capacity to master the English language and speak with a wider vocabulary with other people. I just wish more people in general would start sounding like formally educated people around me with a firm grasp of the words in the dictionary. I admit that I am whiter than white bread in my behavior because that is the atmosphere I grew up in and when it comes to engagements with other people I am looking for that same quality. Even a conversation I can recognize as plain English is fine with me. You don't need to use fancy words or have to carry a dictionary around with you. Just speak to me using words I can actually understand. I'm not impressed by posturing and acting like you're the best thing on the planet. That's the one quality I hate about that whole "Urban" "Chav" thing, that by your words and actions in my mind it sounds like you're putting up a front of superiority. I am a quiet, sensitive, intelligent, introverted, thoughtful, philosophical thinker and I'd like to see some of those qualities reflected in a man in order for me to even consider him husband worthy material.

Now that, is the very definition of self absorbed!

Also, what's wit all this Chav crap? You learned a new word so now you're gonna keep using it to make you sound more sophisticated? Do you call elevators lifts as well?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Is this a Bipolar attraction you have for me?

Anyways, it's not that I am not fair about my opinions concerning other races, I am just not into that whole "Urban" or "Chav" type of way of conducting oneself in life. I personally find it off putting and kind of crude. I mean regardless of your ethnicity you have the capacity to master the English language and speak with a wider vocabulary with other people. I just wish more people in general would start sounding like formally educated people around me with a firm grasp of the words in the dictionary. I admit that I am whiter than white bread in my behavior because that is the atmosphere I grew up in and when it comes to engagements with other people I am looking for that same quality. Even a conversation I can recognize as plain English is fine with me. You don't need to use fancy words or have to carry a dictionary around with you. Just speak to me using words I can actually understand. I'm not impressed by posturing and acting like you're the best thing on the planet. That's the one quality I hate about that whole "Urban" "Chav" thing, that by your words and actions in my mind it sounds like you're putting up a front of superiority. I am a quiet, sensitive, intelligent, introverted, thoughtful, philosophical thinker and I'd like to see some of those qualities reflected in a man in order for me to even consider him husband worthy material.

This guy seems more your speed.

 

[twylight]

Of all the people to reply too over the last few pages, she picks Anubis?

Who wouldn't? He's a fine, fine specimen of a man.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Who wouldn't? He's a fine, fine specimen of a man.

Well... he does make a lot of jokes

 

[twylight]

Well... he does make a lot of jokes

I'd husband him just for that.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

If you are sincere, thanks for the positive reinforcement. I am taking a stand after being treated like crap by so many men lately. I am who I am and if a guy has to change me in order to like me then that's not what I define as love. You should love someone not for what you can change about them but who they are inside and out. If they can't be bothered to love me as a proud, plus sized woman then why are they even bothering to court me if only for selfish reasons? They're attitude brings me more pain that makes me feel good about myself. If they're so hung up in such a superficial world, I don't want to be a part of that at all. On the flip side are men who are too childish. In my view mirth and having fun is a great thing, but when it comes at the expense of another person, using shame and embarrassment to cause laughs, then it's a very very rude way of conducting oneself and I don't want to be a part of that either. For example:

Good Prank - Putting someone's car keys in a jello mold. (Saw this on The Office one time and it got my mind thinking.)

Bad Prank - Having friends put on an act, it can be anything, just to make someone scared.

One to me is innocent fun, the other is just plain nasty and vindictive.

Have you actually been on dates with these guys? You never answer this question and a it's pretty important one. You're always talking about love and marriage and guys being husband material, that's part of the problem. Start just looking for a good guy to date, worry about love and marriage later. From one or two dates you can't expect feelings of love to emerge, that happens over time and while those feelings start to emerge, you realize whether you want to be with this guy for the long haul. Love at first sight very rarely happens, you seem to want this fairy tale disney romance or a romantic comedy life, so you seem to create all these obstacles in your mind, evil women plotting against you, men trying to distract you from the prince, etc... I really think some consueling could help you.