The Official "Ask A Brotha" Thread

[Pink Ranger]

There's a black girl at my job that I like. One time she approached me outside work and we had a ten minute conversation and we seemed to click. I thought about asking her out but we hardly interact because she has a different job at the airport. Also if I see her she is all business and from I hear she's like that all the time at work.
So there's a older black guy I work with and he asks me what girls I like at the airport and everything. he just does it to mess around but when if I mention her , he'll change the subject quickly. I think he's one of those guys that has issues with interracial relationships but won't say anything. Also there seems to be issues with it around here. A white guy got beaten half to death not too long ago for it.
Another thing is my parents are christian and against it. Oddly neither of these things would stop me but it does make me a bit hesitant because I'm worried how this girl feels about that. Some people won't date outside their race just to avoid issues with their family.


I know most people here don't have problems with interracial dating but how do your parents feel?

Dude, seriously, go for it. You can't live your life by other people's comfort levels.

As for my parents, I have a feeling my mother (only surviving parent) does not like the idea of Chinese men going out with non-Chinese women, but has not problem with Chinese women dating white guys.

Prejudice wouldn't be prejudice without double standards. I'll bet you a Klondike Bar that your workplace acquaintance would have little issue if your genders (you and the girl in question) were reversed.

 

[chamber-music]

I've got a Chinese friend who has to keep his white girlfriend on the downlow. His mom in particular doesn't approve.

In the 1950s West Germany did pay reparations to Jewish people through Israel for slave labor, perseuction during the holocauast, stolen property and so on.

Germany paid 3 Billion marks over 14 years.

 

[Erzengel]

I've got a Chinese friend who has to keep his white girlfriend on the downlow. His mom in particular doesn't approve.

In the 1950s West Germany did pay reparations to Jewish people through Israel for slave labor, perseuction during the holocauast, stolen property and so on.

Germany paid 3 Billion marks over 14 years.

I stand corrected. Although, survivors were still alive as it wasn't too far removed.

 

[Manic]

Most of my girlfriends in the past have been Asian. Anyone who's seen the awkward photos of me and my friends know that it's because nearly my entire social circle is Asian. Thing is, it made me a nervous wreck because I lived in constant fear that the girls' immigrant parents might hate black people (which has happened), on top of the fact that my own mother is against interracial relationships. It's not that I'm against dating black women; it's that I don't meet many single ones.

 

[chamber-music]

I swear the Asian girl thing is a African American thing because only a few black guys I know over here date Asian girls.

There its likely because their are far less of them over here than in the states. You can date Asian as in Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi girls but you seriously risk loosing your life dating them over here due to honour killings which is a cultural thing of families murdering their own daughters and their boyfriends for disobeying their parents, dating outside thier race, religion, tribal group, class or anything that supposedly embarrases the family.

 

[Erzengel]

Chamber, in the US, Asians are really considered to be Chinese, Japanese, Filipino, Korean, Vietnamese etc.

I know in other parts of the world Asians include Indian and Pakistan, etc. but usually in the States we refer to them as Indian/Pakistan.

Although around my neck of the woods , Indians tend to date other Indians but that's also because in many parts of my State, we have really big Indian areas.

 

[Asteroid-Man]

Not from an ancestry of slavery that I know of but why stop there?

Should Jews be suing Germany or Egypt?

I'm against it, especially if it comes out of my taxes.

That's completely different...

I feel reparations should be given to blacks in the form of school vouchers. Black students who excel at school work will be given the best education possible.

This gives the most capable and ambitious black children most the tools they need to empower themselves and thus their community.

Whites in general may hate the idea of reparations but I think they'd accept the school voucher-reparations program over tax money going toward welfare seemingly endlessly. If we have to lose welfare because of the tea party politics I'd hope we could at make up for it with this school-voucher-reparations program.

I like the school voucher thing. We've got that in Canada for First-Nations people.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

And not to mention the massive research to determine who really was descended from slavery. Again, who's going to be responsible for THAT? A government agency? And who's paying that agency? Taxes.

If you would've "qualified" for slavery 200 years ago and you're a citizen you would qualify for reparations today.

No agency needed.

 

[enterthemadness]

That's tough bullets.

Like I've said, I like women of all races. I love women with natural red hair, I love Canadian women. Do I have a preference? Yea, I guess I find white women a bit more attractive...but I rather go out with a black, latina, asian woman if I had the chance. The only tie breaker is a white woman with natural red hair and/or Canadian. She can just be good looking...even okay looking. Basically if I was on that lane ABC dating show, it would end quickly. "Hold up, red hair and Canadian? Oh yes please." You may ask what if it's a Canadian-Latina/Black/Asian/Mixed? To which I would say...might need 2 seasons to decide.

 

[Erzengel]

If you would've "qualified" for slavery 200 years ago and you're a citizen you would qualify for reparations today.

No agency needed.

Yeah, I'd vote against that in a second.

 

[enterthemadness]

I forgot to add my Neo-Paganism may be a deal breaker for some women. Outside the Paganism/Wiccan community. But I am serious Hype...I dunno what it is, but I just love Canada and it's women.

 

[Pink Ranger]

. The only tie breaker is a white woman with natural red hair and/or Canadian.

Melissa says hi.

 

[bullets]

Your parents are against interracial dating because they are Christan
never heard that one before. I've heard of parents not wanting their kids to date outside their faith but never heard of a person say they wouldn't want their child to date someone a different ethnicity because they were christian unless they were Mormon, Amish or something.

My family have told me they would prefer if I married a black girl but have no problem if I didn't as long as I'm happy although it might be a bit awkward as my parents can be a bit un-PC sometimes so when I've had girlfriends of different races I've had to tell them to watch what they say as it can be embarrassing.

Well my father is mostly against it and points to the bible. My mother on the other hand is against it for other reasons. Their church believes you should stay within your own race. The only exceptions is if they were married before getting "saved". I have friends that went to other churches across the board and have heard it. It's not something they advertise but you'd find out not long after attending. It just depends on where you go and of course not all Christians think that way.

Dude, seriously, go for it. You can't live your life by other people's comfort levels.

As for my parents, I have a feeling my mother (only surviving parent) does not like the idea of Chinese men going out with non-Chinese women, but has not problem with Chinese women dating white guys.

Prejudice wouldn't be prejudice without double standards. I'll bet you a Klondike Bar that your workplace acquaintance would have little issue if your genders (you and the girl in question) were reversed.

Yeah if the roles were reversed I think it would be less of an issue. It seems less common in this area to see a white guy with a black girl. I can handle people not accepting it but I just hope she isn't influenced by it.

 

[RockSP]

I swear the Asian girl thing is a African American thing

I never heard that this was supposed to be one of our stereotypes until this thread. I see the white/asian thing much, much more.

 

[BizarroAids]

Bullets, I'm just going to say, you only live once. Do what makes you happy. You're family can't be mad forever. Go for it dude!

 

[bullets]

Thanks man , now I just need an opening to talk to this girl again.

 

[Pink Ranger]

Thanks man , now I just need an opening to talk to this girl again.

What do you mean? We just gave you one. Just go up to her and say, "Hey, I was talking with some strangers on the internet about you, and they told me to just go for it."

Try that, and come back and tell us how it went.

 

[BizarroAids]

Shake it you cocoa goddess..

No I'm kidding, I'm not sure what your opener should be, what is her personality type?

 

[bullets]

What do you mean? We just gave you one. Just go up to her and say, "Hey, I was talking with some strangers on the internet about you, and they told me to just go for it."

Try that, and come back and tell us how it went.

haha , I tell her it's a white boy thing and see what she says.

Shake it you cocoa goddess..

No I'm kidding, I'm not sure what your opener should be, what is her personality type?

Well if I see her at work she seems very focused and stressed out. From what I'm told she doesn't talk and is kind of shy. Then I saw her at Walmart. She was behind me in line and initiated conversation. I was in my work uniform so she tapped me on the shoulder and asked if I could help with her car( as a joke). It's hard to describe but she was down to earth and friendly. The whole time I was thinking "why haven't I talked to her before?". I've only saw her from a distance at work lately She works at a different part of the airport and within my schedule so we only interact if I have to go over there and it hasn't happened lately.

 

[E-Man]

Thanks man , now I just need an opening to talk to this girl again.

Walk up to her and ask her what her favorite sammich is. If she says she doesn't eat sammiches she isn't worth it.

 

[terry78]

Knock yourself out, bro. Worst she can say is no. And yes, I know what that sounds like.

 

[bullets]

Yeah it's better than not knowing. I hate rejection but I can live it. Worse case scenario , she doesn't like sammiches, lol.

 

[Axl Van Sixx]

Dear Brotha,

As a white guy, is it racist or insensitive if I sing a reggae song in a Jamaican accent?

 

[enterthemadness]

Dear Brotha,

Rock music, metal, nu metal. Yay or Nay?

 

[ComicChick]

No WAY! Names. We have you Spidey and Katie. That's 3. Who's the other 2?

honeyvibe and vibeke i think