The Temple of Doomed Relationships

[DV8]

Thanks guys. I thought about it and decided to just leave it up for the time being. I can tell her I like to read the forums and try to act like it's a non issue. We haven't made our relationship official yet. So at least I can get away with it for now. It seems to be going well but I'm still uneasy about being with someone.

I think that's the way to go; make her work for it . . . you have NO obligations to this chick yet . . . ****, I don't even oblige to chicks I see often AND bone when there's not a label on it . . . then again, I don't like "labels"; but I digress . . . the point is, make her work for it

 

[Lily Adler]

My friend and I had a strange discussion about what is the most appropriate amount of time for cuddling. I personally hate cuddling it's cute for like a few minutes but after that it's like get off me I'm tired and I don't want you breathing all over me. Sometimes I think old television shows had the right idea with the separate beds. So I pretty much said about 10-15 minutes. What do you guys think?

 

[Erzengel]

I twist and turn in my sleep so unless it's a nap, you aren't being held and I'm not being held.

 

[LOBO3315a]

Saw a really pretty lady at Wal-Mart this evening. Black hair, wearing tight work out pants, totally smoking. I went into the frozen foods section where she was just for a better look. I even made eye contact with her, and she smiled and excused herself for being in my way. Just as I was about to make a funny comment of some sort, I went over my current situation in my head: Unemployed and living with my mom.

So I turned around, walked to the self-checkout, paid for my things, and left the store.

 

[BrollySupersj]

My friend and I had a strange discussion about what is the most appropriate amount of time for cuddling. I personally hate cuddling it's cute for like a few minutes but after that it's like get off me I'm tired and I don't want you breathing all over me. Sometimes I think old television shows had the right idea with the separate beds. So I pretty much said about 10-15 minutes. What do you guys think?

I very much enjoy it. It's a nice feeling to be held, and hold someone else. But that's me, I'm a romantic type.

 

[Anita18]

I lurrrrve the cuddling. Plus I'm always cold and it's a good excuse to steal my bf's body heat.

 

[lordofthenerds]

Saw a really pretty lady at Wal-Mart this evening. Black hair, wearing tight work out pants, totally smoking. I went into the frozen foods section where she was just for a better look. I even made eye contact with her, and she smiled and excused herself for being in my way. Just as I was about to make a funny comment of some sort, I went over my current situation in my head: Unemployed and living with my mom.

So I turned around, walked to the self-checkout, paid for my things, and left the store.

 

[DV8]

My friend and I had a strange discussion about what is the most appropriate amount of time for cuddling. I personally hate cuddling it's cute for like a few minutes but after that it's like get off me I'm tired and I don't want you breathing all over me. Sometimes I think old television shows had the right idea with the separate beds. So I pretty much said about 10-15 minutes. What do you guys think?

yeah . . . kinda depends on my mood; if I'm super tired, I will just fall asleep cuddling but I like it cool when I sleep, so all that extra bodyheat is generally annoying; gets me all sweaty and uncomfortable; I'm like *****, MOVE! Lol

 

[BrollySupersj]

Saw a really pretty lady at Wal-Mart this evening. Black hair, wearing tight work out pants, totally smoking. I went into the frozen foods section where she was just for a better look. I even made eye contact with her, and she smiled and excused herself for being in my way. Just as I was about to make a funny comment of some sort, I went over my current situation in my head: Unemployed and living with my Dad.

So I turned around, walked to the self-checkout, paid for my things, and left the store.

I hear ya man...I hear ya. I've given up on all things relationship related, until I can end up being worth a damn.

 

[DV8]

Saw a really pretty lady at Wal-Mart this evening. Black hair, wearing tight work out pants, totally smoking. I went into the frozen foods section where she was just for a better look. I even made eye contact with her, and she smiled and excused herself for being in my way. Just as I was about to make a funny comment of some sort, I went over my current situation in my head: Unemployed and living with my mom.

So I turned around, walked to the self-checkout, paid for my things, and left the store.

If you ask me, that would've been an AWESOME line!

 

[SpideyVille]

I hear ya man...I hear ya. I've given up on all things relationship related, until I can end up being worth a damn.

Same here to some extent. I haven't given up, but I haven't actively pursued anything like I would have in the past. I applied for this job at my school and I'm hoping I get it because I think it will do a lot to make me start to put in more of an effort now.

 

[Anubis]

But you're in school. Not having a job or money in school isn't that big a deal. You'll get paid when you get that check!

 

[SpideyVille]

I just finished my last semester so it has now become a problem.

 

[Anubis]

Well, look at it this way.....you're pretty much f**ked like everybody else that just graduated into this s**ty economy.....so already you have something in common.

 

[Anita18]

Well, look at it this way.....you're pretty much f**ked like everybody else that just graduated into this s**ty economy.....so already you have something in common.

Seriously.

My friend who just got into a relationship is unemployed. And so is her bf. Although they're both writers so it's not totally unheard of...

I think as long as you're making some headway into SOMETHING (even just your own project), that's way more attractive than sitting at home twiddling your thumbs and feeling sorry for yourself.

 

[Anubis]

Which is attractive for a certain segment of women. Mostly Cougars.

 

[bullets]

My friend and I had a strange discussion about what is the most appropriate amount of time for cuddling. I personally hate cuddling it's cute for like a few minutes but after that it's like get off me I'm tired and I don't want you breathing all over me. Sometimes I think old television shows had the right idea with the separate beds. So I pretty much said about 10-15 minutes. What do you guys think?

I'm the same way. I can enjoy cuddling for a few minutes but I need to be able to move around. Also I can't sleep with someone in my arms. I've had girls request that and I've tried but never been able to sleep like that .

Saw a really pretty lady at Wal-Mart this evening. Black hair, wearing tight work out pants, totally smoking. I went into the frozen foods section where she was just for a better look. I even made eye contact with her, and she smiled and excused herself for being in my way. Just as I was about to make a funny comment of some sort, I went over my current situation in my head: Unemployed and living with my mom.

So I turned around, walked to the self-checkout, paid for my things, and left the store.

Are you able to scrounge up enough to go on dates? You might be able to find someone that understands the situation.

 

[Anita18]

Totally not serious, but maybe you guys who are afraid of talking to girls might want to be a spider to get laid:

If your partner is likely to devour you after sex, snapping off your genitals inside her and running away might seem a reasonable reproductive strategy. This game plan is used by males of the orb-web spider Nephilengys malabarensis and, it turns out, continues to work in their favour regardless of whether they survive the encounter.

http://www.nature.com/news/spiders-dodge-cannibalism-through-remote-copulation-1.9939

Although that only gives you one chance to do it, unless you had the ability to regrow your nads.

 

[Anita18]

On a more serious note, might I re-emphasize the necessity of standing up for yourself and making your long-term needs heard in a relationship before taking things down a very serious path?

One of my friends is pregnant, and has been depressed pretty much the whole time. I was trying to give her a pep talk (as I'm wont to do) and she just told me that her husband lied when he said he wanted to try having kids soon. He's been railing at HER for the past 5 months about their predicament. No wonder why she's been in such a bad place mentally and emotionally.

They're both extremely religious (figures, right?) and I don't think they took the consequences of sex seriously enough. On top of that, the husband didn't want to do any premarital counseling and he doesn't even talk to her about working out this whole becoming-a-parent thing. Isn't that what the whole friggin' point of marriage is, working things out instead of pretending that their problems are magically going to go away? Or blaming the other person when you damn well know it's partly your fault too?

Unfortunately I know she'll blame herself if the marriage fails, because of the whole religion thing. And of course this is not a family situation that's good for any kid coming into this world. This is exactly why I give money to Planned Parenthood - I know she doesn't believe in abortion, but I don't think she's nutty enough to say no to condoms and BC, which Planned Parenthood makes cheap and available. No child deserves parents in a situation like that.

So yeah, don't just gleefully get hooked to the first person who's willing to drop their pants for you. Talk things out first!

 

[hopefuldreamer]

My friend and I had a strange discussion about what is the most appropriate amount of time for cuddling. I personally hate cuddling it's cute for like a few minutes but after that it's like get off me I'm tired and I don't want you breathing all over me. Sometimes I think old television shows had the right idea with the separate beds. So I pretty much said about 10-15 minutes. What do you guys think?

I love cuddling, and I'd sleep like it if I could... Unfortunately, I can't, so I usually wait until they've nodded off and do Ross' tuck and roll

Saw a really pretty lady at Wal-Mart this evening. Black hair, wearing tight work out pants, totally smoking. I went into the frozen foods section where she was just for a better look. I even made eye contact with her, and she smiled and excused herself for being in my way. Just as I was about to make a funny comment of some sort, I went over my current situation in my head: Unemployed and living with my mom.

So I turned around, walked to the self-checkout, paid for my things, and left the store.

You've just finished school and don't have a job yet... So?

You're not a 40 year old eating tuna out of a can and dancing on the street for money!

It's not as much of a put off as your thinking

If you ask me, that would've been an AWESOME line!

 

[Nave 'Torment']

I'm all for cuddling, is that weird to hear from a guy?

 

[Erzengel]

On a more serious note, might I re-emphasize the necessity of standing up for yourself and making your long-term needs heard in a relationship before taking things down a very serious path?

One of my friends is pregnant, and has been depressed pretty much the whole time. I was trying to give her a pep talk (as I'm wont to do) and she just told me that her husband lied when he said he wanted to try having kids soon. He's been railing at HER for the past 5 months about their predicament. No wonder why she's been in such a bad place mentally and emotionally.

They're both extremely religious (figures, right?) and I don't think they took the consequences of sex seriously enough. On top of that, the husband didn't want to do any premarital counseling and he doesn't even talk to her about working out this whole becoming-a-parent thing. Isn't that what the whole friggin' point of marriage is, working things out instead of pretending that their problems are magically going to go away? Or blaming the other person when you damn well know it's partly your fault too?

Unfortunately I know she'll blame herself if the marriage fails, because of the whole religion thing. And of course this is not a family situation that's good for any kid coming into this world. This is exactly why I give money to Planned Parenthood - I know she doesn't believe in abortion, but I don't think she's nutty enough to say no to condoms and BC, which Planned Parenthood makes cheap and available. No child deserves parents in a situation like that.

So yeah, don't just gleefully get hooked to the first person who's willing to drop their pants for you. Talk things out first!

I know quite a few couples who broke up after they just had a baby. It really didn't have to do with religion, more so the guy not understanding the severity and consequences of their actions.

It was usually followed by the "I love you but I'm not in love with you excuse."

Some of the guys bolted even right before their wives had the children.

 

[Nave 'Torment']

I dunno, the last girl pretty much sent me to a field of depression and self-assessment. And it's very true - I need to get my Alpha skills up if I ever expect to be loved by the girls I fall for.... I'm still in school so I guess the job bit isn't that hard (and hell, I'm living in a third-world country where poverty is pretty much the norm) but as a freelance writer I get around so I guess that's something. Not that it helps with the women here though.

Honestly, whenever I start caring for someone (and I'm not stretching the truth when I say it's very, VERY rarely) I start caring too much. To the point where, like the girl I've been talking about here, it feels as though it's being wasted and that I sure as hell deserve to care that way for someone who cares back. Otherwise there's no point in it at all right? Is that too selfish, or self-deceiving? The strong way I feel about her matters more than just sexual attractiveness, more than any of the other **** people say are "important to get the girl" - **** that. What I feel should be worth more than that. And if the women I keep falling for can't see that, then it's their loss. I'd give away my world for her (whoever she is), but she has to be more than someone who's foolin around, right?

Or, again, am I just beating around the bush and should just get some backbone? :S

 

[Nave 'Torment']

I know quite a few couples who broke up after they just had a baby. It really didn't have to do with religion, more so the guy not understanding the severity and consequences of their actions.

It was usually followed by the "I love you but I'm not in love with you excuse."

Some of the guys bolted even right before their wives had the children.

Weak.

It's more and more the norm even around here in Bangladesh. The people are just more conscious about hiding it.

 

[Nave 'Torment']