Confession is good for the Hype. - - Part 11

[James]

LOL. The dude has been dead for 97 years & he won't be coming back. Nothing to fear there.

Says you t:

 

[Manic]

Oh my God, dude, quit your damn whining. This is what it means to be an adult. Your life from before is pretty much over. 9 times outta 10 you'll always be working a job you hate just for the money in your pocket. And what was that boos**t about not wanting a handout? Don't you know that that's how the effin' world works? There is no getting a job on your own. Not anymore. Hell, not ever really. You know somebody that can help you get a job you f**king take it!

Besides, once you get your first pay check, you'll get over that s**t.

Yeah, what Anubis said. The working world is full of disappointments and inconveniences. You haven't even encountered an a-hole boss/supervisor or co-worker yet. You're still in the easy part. Either get used to it, go into business for yourself and prepare to work even harder just to turn a profit, or drop out of society altogether.

 

[Anubis]

I really do mean that part about the first check. I remember when I first started working full time. I hated the hours, hated the commute, then I got paid. I never had that much money before in my life. I got over the hours and the commute that day. Then....life kicks in and you realize that check ain't enough. You aren't working enough hours.....and the commute is even longer than before.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah, what Anubis said. The working world is full of disappointments and inconveniences. You haven't even encountered an a-hole boss/supervisor or co-worker yet. You're still in the easy part. Either get used to it, go into business for yourself and prepare to work even harder just to turn a profit, or drop out of society altogether.

My husband does this and wouldn't change it for the world. It isn't enough to like, buy a BMW with, but we've got minimalistic tendencies and it will do just fine.

Life isn't fair. Or rather, it is very fair depending on how you look at it. If you want the perks, you gotta work for them. I suffered for 4 years in college feeling stupid doing science classes I wasn't good at, and I got incredibly lucky with my cushy job with supportive and fun people. My husband studied engineering for 5 years in a school he disliked, and even when he had a cushy job after college, he spent every night learning programming, enough that he could quit engineering and go into programming and dictate his own hours and not have to deal with bosses and coworkers. He doesn't **** around, he works every morning right when he wakes up.

People wish they had his life, but they don't want to have the discipline. Sorry, life doesn't work that way. The highly-paid lawyers I know, they work 100-hr weeks. It isn't all fancy cars and restaurants. It comes from somewhere.

And that's why people who are lazy in high school and college get the short end of the stick when it comes to the job market. You have to put in the work somewhere, either in school or self-study, or in a job where you're only a minion and other people tell you what to do. You have a choice - work your butt off and prove you're worthy of respect at that company and get places, or complain about it and go nowhere.

 

[Manic]

Disclaimer: Putting in hard work in college is no longer a guarantee for a decent job after graduating. Thanks for ruining the system, Baby Boomers and Generation X.

 

[Anita18]

Disclaimer: Putting in hard work in college is no longer a guarantee for a decent job after graduating. Thanks for ruining the system, Baby Boomers and Generation X.

You have to be smart about it too. Having a degree in X doesn't mean the world owes you anything, even if getting that degree was hard. I know some very successful liberal arts majors who knew how to leverage what they had, and science majors who are flailing.

Of course, things were a lot easier when I graduated than now. The job market really sucks. But even back then, you still needed to leverage what you had and seize opportunities. I had a classmate who majored in electrical engineering in the friggin' Bay Area (tech and startup mecca of the world) who claimed she couldn't get a job. Times aren't easier now that she has a PhD...

You have to be even more adaptable now than ever. Find where the jobs are and leverage your skills to do them.

 

[Anubis]

Also, make friends. Network, and most important, sleep with ugly people and call them the next day.

 

[SpideyVille]

It's only your first day! Wait until you're months in.

Are the hours really that long? Even though my friend has long commute times, she still has a few hours after dinner to write and catch up on TV shows.

Or are you one of those people who need A LOT of sleep? It seems like I can survive on half the amount of sleep my husband gets.

The way these past couple of days have been, I wake up at around 5:30am (mostly because I'm not a morning person and it takes me a while for my mind and body to feel okay. Then I leave my house at around 7:15 to catch a train to the city, then a train to Jersey, followed by a bus to the job, where I start at 9am and don't get out until 6pm. The ride back home is harder because more people are trying to get into the city, and the public transportation, especially in New York, is completely unreliable despite all of the fare hikes that have occurred in the last couple of years. If things worked in my favor, I could get home as early as 7:30pm, but so far I haven't gotten here until 8:15pm. By then, I barely have time to eat dinner and shower before I have to be back in bed.

Its really a stark difference from before where I would be home all day and I would stay up all night and have time to work on various art and writing projects and play video games.

Oh my God, dude, quit your damn whining. This is what it means to be an adult. Your life from before is pretty much over. 9 times outta 10 you'll always be working a job you hate just for the money in your pocket. And what was that boos**t about not wanting a handout? Don't you know that that's how the effin' world works? There is no getting a job on your own. Not anymore. Hell, not ever really. You know somebody that can help you get a job you f**king take it!

Besides, once you get your first pay check, you'll get over that s**t.

You're right. On one hand, I hate this because its not what I'm used to, but on the other hand, I really feel like I need to be removed from my comfort zone so that I can finally grow up and become an adult. There's just this battle within me and the louder voice is the one that is screaming to get out, but I know I can't because of how much my sister in law stuck her neck out for me.

And yeah, everyone keeps telling me about how much my mindset will change once I get a check. Just thinking about the money that I'm expected to get has gotten me excited with all of the possibilities for what I'll be able to do now that I'll have money.

Yeah, what Anubis said. The working world is full of disappointments and inconveniences. You haven't even encountered an a-hole boss/supervisor or co-worker yet. You're still in the easy part. Either get used to it, go into business for yourself and prepare to work even harder just to turn a profit, or drop out of society altogether.

I've actually considered dropping pout of society altogether because I am an extreme introvert and have never wanted to deal with people. Luckily, all I do is punch numbers into a computer and I get paid a lot for that, but my biggest fear is having to deal with people. In terms of working conditions, a lot of people have told me that this is the best situation that I could have found myself in, especially given my lack of real working experience.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

Sounds like a great job.

 

[Anita18]

Its really a stark difference from before where I would be home all day and I would stay up all night and have time to work on various art and writing projects and play video games.

You're right. On one hand, I hate this because its not what I'm used to, but on the other hand, I really feel like I need to be removed from my comfort zone so that I can finally grow up and become an adult. There's just this battle within me and the louder voice is the one that is screaming to get out, but I know I can't because of how much my sister in law stuck her neck out for me.

That's a good realization to make. Especially since as you get older, you'll have less and less of a safety net. It doesn't even sound like you have much of one to begin with right now, but yeah. It's really an opportunity for you, especially if you don't have much work experience.

And you still get the chance to do that. It's called the weekend.

I've actually considered dropping pout of society altogether because I am an extreme introvert and have never wanted to deal with people. Luckily, all I do is punch numbers into a computer and I get paid a lot for that, but my biggest fear is having to deal with people. In terms of working conditions, a lot of people have told me that this is the best situation that I could have found myself in, especially given my lack of real working experience.

I'm an extreme introvert, but I'm still quite interested in people. I could listen to people all day, which is good because that means I don't have to talk to them.

What would be your dream job then, if you didn't want to work with people? I mean, even artists and writers have to hustle to get known, unless you're such a friggin' genius that you don't have to.

My husband is a freelance programmer who works from home, and even though he doesn't have to deal with coworkers and bosses, he still needs to deal with clients. At least that's only twice a week, at most.

I highly recommend programming for extreme introverts, if you can hack it. It works very well for my dad and my husband. And it's also very high paying at a lot of places...because not everyone can or is willing to do it.

And well, you're here and you're dealing with us. I think you're less of an extreme introvert than you think you are.

 

[Matt Mortem]

I confess I still don't know what a reasonable portion of spaghetti is.

 

[Anubis]

Big enough to fit in the palm of your hand.

 

[ComicChick]

i confess i emailed the store director today asking about the department transfer from last august and when i could move back. i've gotten the run around and about 5 different stories and have never gotten a straight answer.

i'm afraid he'll tell me i won't be switching back to my old department and if he says that, i'm really considering transfering or resigning.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

You might get a promotion if you don't resign

 

[SpideyVille]

That's a good realization to make. Especially since as you get older, you'll have less and less of a safety net. It doesn't even sound like you have much of one to begin with right now, but yeah. It's really an opportunity for you, especially if you don't have much work experience.

And you still get the chance to do that. It's called the weekend.

Yeah, everyone keeps saying that I'll get used to it, and since yesterday was a better, faster day, I'll keep up with it. But I'm definitely already looking forward to have a half day and a day off next week. And I know I'll have the weekend free, but I almost feel like there's so much that I'm going to try to cram into those days, and it doesn't help with the whole paranoia that I have with time.

I'm an extreme introvert, but I'm still quite interested in people. I could listen to people all day, which is good because that means I don't have to talk to them.

What would be your dream job then, if you didn't want to work with people? I mean, even artists and writers have to hustle to get known, unless you're such a friggin' genius that you don't have to.

My husband is a freelance programmer who works from home, and even though he doesn't have to deal with coworkers and bosses, he still needs to deal with clients. At least that's only twice a week, at most.

I highly recommend programming for extreme introverts, if you can hack it. It works very well for my dad and my husband. And it's also very high paying at a lot of places...because not everyone can or is willing to do it.

And well, you're here and you're dealing with us. I think you're less of an extreme introvert than you think you are.

This has been the problem for the past year. I haven't applied to too many jobs because I still don't really know what I want to do, other than something involved with art. Like I look at my friend who recently got a job as a tech support for a magazine publisher in the city, and he is really into art as well and has tried to get me a job doing stuff there. He couldn't because I didn't have any experience, but I look at his situation as one that I would prefer more because he's right where I want to be in the city.

As for dealing with people, as long as I know what I'm doing and saying, I don't mind talking to co-workers or my boss. But my sister-in-law said I'm going to have to answer phone calls at some point, and that really worries me because I hate phones, and I don't want to deal with customers or vendors and mess things up. At least when I was doing paintings, most of my clients came from my friend, so I would do a painting, give it to him and get the money back from him. There was only a couple of people that I had to talk to for work, and that happened on Facebook, which was also a strain.

 

[Erzengel]

I've actually considered dropping pout of society altogether because I am an extreme introvert and have never wanted to deal with people. Luckily, all I do is punch numbers into a computer and I get paid a lot for that, but my biggest fear is having to deal with people. In terms of working conditions, a lot of people have told me that this is the best situation that I could have found myself in, especially given my lack of real working experience.

Are you though?

You've been in stage shows and acted no?

You just don't situations that you aren't comfortable in. Once you get use to things, I'm sure you'd be fine.

I've said this before, I think you're just emotionally stunted with an overbearing parent and not enough social experience.

 

[I SEE SPIDEY]

I confess, talking of about racial issues is impossible because I'm surrounded by people who think that racism doesn't exist. You can't get anywhere during a conversation because it always veers off into black people are racist too and institutional racism doesn't exist because I didn't get that job. Why do black people get to use the N.Word but white people can't? This other group was discriminated against as well so black people have no right to complain? And so on and so forth. Sigh.

 

[SpideyVille]

Are you though?

You've been in stage shows and acted no?

You just don't situations that you aren't comfortable in. Once you get use to things, I'm sure you'd be fine.

I've said this before, I think you're just emotionally stunted with an overbearing parent and not enough social experience.

I'm kinda weird because I can be shy and quiet at times, but I almost always want some kind of attention. I mean, I really do love my privacy and being on my own, but if I'm forced to be around a group of people, I wouldn't mind opening up about myself, as long as I feel comfortable and can trust the people. Like I actually like the ladies I work with because I've spent most of the past three days just hanging around with them. But as for everyone else at the office, I haven't said anything other than "hello" to a few people.

And I'm definitely feeling much better about things, although I really hate the commute back home. I'm convinced I have really bad luck when it comes to catching trains home.

 

[sabetoonth]

I confess that when I read to the baby I either do it as Sean Connery or in a New England accent.

 

[Warhammer]

I confess, talking of about racial issues is impossible because I'm surrounded by people who think that racism doesn't exist. You can't get anywhere during a conversation because it always veers off into black people are racist too and institutional racism doesn't exist because I didn't get that job. Why do black people get to use the N.Word but white people can't? This other group was discriminated against as well so black people have no right to complain? And so on and so forth. Sigh.

Those people remind me of that lunch scene in American History X when Edward Norton goes off on her husband's boyfriend about Rodney King, etc. I remember people posting on that video on YouTube saying "He has a point" or "That is so true." They completely miss the point of the scene.

 

[nite-owl]

I confess I think I might end up being a crazy cat man.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

Watching the old videos when my younger brothers were infants really make me want to be a parent, but I am so afraid of getting very intimate to people these days

 

[Ultimatehero]

I'm one of those guys who thinks I'm going to die young. Granted I thought I was going to die when I'm 25 which I am now and doesn't seem possible. So upping that age to 30. Thing is, it doesn't really bother me or scare me. Not a suicidal thing. Just I've had a relatively good life and have been able to contribute back to society as a storyteller. So, life will be well lived.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

I confess that I went to the eye doctor and he said while I don't have cataracts, I am getting this cloudy thing in my eye. I'm not even 20 years old yet.

 

[sabetoonth]

I confess that even before I saw MOS I had pretty much come to the conclusion I'm gonna wait for Iron Man 3 on DVD. Of course I still expect to be dragged along this coming weekend anyway. And if IM3 isnt there we're watching White House Down(which I also don't care enough to see in the theaters). Its not a feeling that there's no way IM3 could stack up to MOS, or a fear it'll do better. I just can't give a damn.