Lord of the Advice: Fellowship of the Relationship

[amazingfantasy15]

well after a month I decided to go back on the dating scene. last week I started talking to one of my cousin friend over the phone and Skype. She going to school for her Lvn. we have been talking everynight since Tuesday and we decided to go on a date this Sunday. She is really old fashioned and wants me to ask permission from her parents to take her out. This will be my first date without my ex in 4 years. Almost all my friends and family are against this saying its too early that I'm still healing and vulnerable. Plus the fact that she is only 20. but I'm definitely going to take it slow this time around and watch all the warning signs I didn't see before in my previous relationship. Any tips or advice you guys want to give me?

Well, that's a given if you have to ask her parents permission to even go on a date with her. That's a warning sign right there.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I'm good at making out. I'm good at sex and I'm a little baffled when people say they aren't or when they aren't. I think its mostly anxiety.

I think more often than not it's a question of tastes, and no one is actually 'good' or 'bad'.

For instance, my friend says he boyfriend is a bad kisser because he doesn't like using tongue at all.

Personally, i kind of like non tongue kissers. But that's because I've had bad drool experiences.

Myself, I like about a 70/30 ratio of non tongue/a bit of tongue.

But it's the same sort of thing with sex.

Someone could say someone was bad because they were too slow or too fast... But it might be just too slow or to fast for their preference.

 

[Anita18]

I think more often than not it's a question of tastes, and no one is actually 'good' or 'bad'.

For instance, my friend says he boyfriend is a bad kisser because he doesn't like using tongue at all.

Personally, i kind of like non tongue kissers. But that's because I've had bad drool experiences.

Myself, I like about a 70/30 ratio of non tongue/a bit of tongue.

But it's the same sort of thing with sex.

Someone could say someone was bad because they were too slow or too fast... But it might be just too slow or to fast for their preference.

 

[terry78]

Basically I just assume when a chick says a guy was bad in bed basically he didn't give her an orgasm. I don't know what else it could be.

 

[SpaceWay2009]

^That's what I would think, too. lol

 

[Anubis]

I was with a chick for awhile that refused to have sex in any other position than Missionary. I went out for a pack of smokes and haven't seen her since.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Basically I just assume when a chick says a guy was bad in bed basically he didn't give her an orgasm. I don't know what else it could be.

Other things it could possibly mean:
He couldn't get it up. He suffered from micropenis. He came before his pants were down. He started crying. He insisted on calling her "mother." He literally crapped the bed. He stroked out and died during sex. He was actually a she. Finally... anal.

 

[Schlosser85]

Some girls like that last one. Just saying.

 

[Erzengel]

Those are the girls you bring home.

 

[Schlosser85]

Though considering girls don't have prostates, I'm not sure why...

 

[Erzengel]

Women can orgasm from anal sex.

 

[Schlosser85]

Well, I imagine with simultaneous vaginal stimulation.

But me wading into technicalities of heterosexual sex is going quite a ways beyond my area of expertise.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

True. A woman who likes anal is a keeper. But the reason she's a "keeper" is because it's so rare to find one who likes it. Some will do it for their boyfriend on their birthday, but it doesn't mean they like it.

 

[Schlosser85]

I have heard this complaint from several straight men.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Ew. No anal for me please.

 

[Anubis]

Eh, you get used to it.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I don't think that's something I want to get used to.

 

[Anubis]

Pfft, I'm going for smokes.

 

[terry78]

Can we have one thread on this board not devolve into a discussion about anal?

 

[Anubis]

You're asking the impossible there chief.

 

[LOBO3315a]

This thread never fails to amuse.

 

[WillardNation]

I did one girl in the butt. Never again. Although, why I thought it was a good idea to do a girl I met on myspace two days prior in the butt, I'll never know. Ah, to be 21 again...

I might do it again. But planned this time. I've learned that that is definitely not a spur of the moment type of thing....

 

[terry78]

I like how all the women mysteriously vanished when this topic came up.

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[enterthemadness]

Ah, Geez. Mother of God...

 

[Anita18]

Can we have one thread on this board not devolve into a discussion about anal?

Really? I thought all discussions on SHH always devolved into a discussion about TDK and/or Chris Nolan.

I say NO to anal. To be fair, I tried it once. Now, I've never been through childbirth nor have I broken a bone, but it was literally THE most painful thing I have ever experienced. My menstrual cramps (as bad as they can be) did not compare. I told him to stop and then I lay in the fetal position completely quiet and close to tears for about a minute. No long-term side effects, but man, during and immediately after was TERRIBLE.

I don't think he wants to try it again either. It was probably a *****-killer watching me in such pain for so long.

And sure, I suppose working on it is supposed to help, but if warming up doesn't work, I don't want to experience that kind of pain ever again unless it's to pop a kid out.