Wylie Times
Superhero
- Joined
- Feb 13, 2009
- Messages
- 6,957
- Reaction score
- 1
- Points
- 31
There's one problem with that:
=/=
It shouldn't matter....charm goes a LONG way.
There's one problem with that:
=/=
I'm bi it was really early in the morning when i typed thatI don't understand this at all, so are you a gay guy, straight guy, bi? You're not going to get anywhere with a lesbian if you have a dick and you've said you've been friends with her for 5 years, I'm sure you've known this. I think you're only chance with her is a sex change. Gotta get this girl out of your mind if you're going to find someone else.
There's one problem with that:
=/=
There's one problem with that:
=/=
Do you know how many women think confidence is attractive/sexy?
You don't even have to BE confident as long as you ACT confident.
Mumbling, staring at the ground with your hands in your pocket isn't a way to any woman's heart.
I'll say! My parents would think you were a gang member.
It also depends on the way you dress. If you dress relatively nicely (ie, not like you're in construction) and cover up the tats some, it might be easier to meet the neighbors.
There's one problem with that:
=/=
There's one problem with that:
=/=
Do you know how many women think confidence is attractive/sexy?
You don't even have to BE confident as long as you ACT confident.
Mumbling, staring at the ground with your hands in your pocket isn't a way to any woman's heart.
I don't know. Arrogance is acting like you're inherently better than everyone else. "I rock, everyone else here is a loser."there's a thin line... very thing line what it comes to the perception of Arogance and Confidence
there's a thin line... very thing line what it comes to the perception of Arogance and Confidence
I don't know. Arrogance is acting like you're inherently better than everyone else. "I rock, everyone else here is a loser."
Confidence is acting like you could do anything you put your mind to. It doesn't even have to be like, Bill-Clinton-charismatic, just speak up so people know what you're saying.
Then again trying to put on a confident face CAN easily lead to coming off arrogant for some. What I'm saying is that to an outsider, there's a definite difference.
My ex was shy and meek by nature, but in trying to act confident (especially in large groups of people), he totally went overboard and instead most people thought he was an arrogant prick.
there's a thin line... very thing line what it comes to the perception of Arogance and Confidence
Sounds too much like me. I've always been shy and laid back. I never found small talk interesting but if you get me on the right subject like music or film I will talk your ear off but with what I think of as confidence in my opinions. I've noticed over the years my confidence comes off different to people than it should and a good percentage of the people I've met in my life don't like me.
It also doesn't help that I have a fairly deep and loud voice so a lot of times I come off to people as I'm boasting or shoving my opinions down someone's throat. Just sucks because that's not what I was intending and I'm just being myself.
Another Erz rule besides:
ACT confident.....
Is
NUMBERS, NUMBERS, NUMBERS!!!
Dating is all a numbers game. Ask 100 girls out, a few will say yes.
There's one problem with that:
=/=
you don't need to look like him, you just need to grow a pair. you haven't even tried yet and your already rejecting yourself...any woman on here will agree with me.
Well, this says a lot, you aren't confident in yourself, I think you need to work on you before trying to find a girl. Do something that will give yourself some confidence, it can be something small or something big, just something that will make you feel better about yourself. That's something I noticed when I started running, it made me feel better about myself, like I was doing something other than just working, then going home to watch TV, gave me a confidence boost. Can't get a girl if you don't believe in yourself.
Tried what yet?
Asking 2 beautiful women whom I've never met to take an exotic cruise with me where we'll make love all weekend?
You're right, I haven't tried that.
But I have put myself out there lots of times in regards to women, and many different types of women. I've hit on bartenders and waitresses, and asked them out. Working in restaurants, I have gone up to tables of girls whom I was attracted to and talked to them to ask them out. I've tried to get to know co-workers and classmates, and ask them out. I've met girls in bars or parties that I've tried to ask out or get their number. I've tried to talk to friends of female friends. Hell, I've even responded to personal ads put on the internet I've pretty much tried it all.
There have been times where I have been obviously less than confident, and I've known it, and don't really blame anyone other than myself.
There have been times when I felt I was smooth and confident, and it didn't work out for whatever reasons, and I never had any hard feelings about the situation, because sometimes you're just not into someone on that level, and that's cool. There are a lot of girls that I've known that are both pretty, and have a great personality that I just couldn't get into like that. I can accept it if the girl just isn't into me. I've even developed friendships with many of the girls who "rejected" me in this fashion.
But mostly, I have a girl who I'm attracted to, who always acts friendly with me, wanting me to talk to her, often times being flirty with me, we talk about perhaps going out sometime, and then I make the move to ask them, and they get all weirded out because I had the nerve to ask them out. So we don't go out, I stop paying attention to them because it's clear to me that they aren't interested, and then they start getting all butt hurt about the fact that I'm not showing interest in them anymore, and become offended at the thought of me thinking they aren't interested. So, I try again, asking them out, or for a phone number, or what have you, nothing happens, they act weird about me asking them out, we never go out, and the cycle continues.
When you have a history of not getting the girl, plus people in your ear telling you to "lower your standards" because the girls you are going after are "out of your league", it becomes difficult to have the confidence that you can put yourself out there and get any girl you want - or any girl at all for that matter.
P.S.: I'm not qq'ing, I'm merely carrying on the conversation that we are having is all. I'm not sitting here sulking, or depressed, or anything of the sort. Just partaking in conversation before I get to my reading before work
I tend to scare people the first time they hear me laugh. Something about the pitch of my speaking voice makes me completely inaudible in a noisy environment, even when I'm trying to project, but people can hear me laugh from across the room.Sounds too much like me. I've always been shy and laid back. I never found small talk interesting but if you get me on the right subject like music or film I will talk your ear off but with what I think of as confidence in my opinions. I've noticed over the years my confidence comes off different to people than it should and a good percentage of the people I've met in my life don't like me.
It also doesn't help that I have a fairly deep and loud voice so a lot of times I come off to people as I'm boasting or shoving my opinions down someone's throat. Just sucks because that's not what I was intending and I'm just being myself.
You know, I really dislike the term "standards" when used here. What does that even MEAN? Looks? Socioeconomic status? Educational status?When you have a history of not getting the girl, plus people in your ear telling you to "lower your standards" because the girls you are going after are "out of your league", it becomes difficult to have the confidence that you can put yourself out there and get any girl you want - or any girl at all for that matter.
My friend "flirts" with someone she met in school, but it's nothing like, "I was thinking about you all night" or "I was dreaming of you and I wish you were here" kind of talk. It's just good conversation with a little sexual tension every now and then. To her, it's just fun, and probably for him too, since he knows she's taken.Not just girls but guys as well need to realize that there is a reason and purpose for flirting. If you're not attracted to said person and just want to be friends...Do Not Flirt with them. There is a difference between flirting and joking around in a friendly manner.
This is in regards to what you said Nell about girls that weren't interested in you on that kind of a level that still flirt around like they are.