Let me reframe my point
I dont want a Spider Man movie to have sole focus on Action and Humour like the Avengers
You seem to have misunderstood what I just said. The reason that no one scene is devoted to one particular character's emotional state and nothing else is not because action and humour are considered more important. It's because Whedon is balancing multiple characters and plot elements so he is more economic with his time. That's just the nature of the ensemble beast though, it's still very much about the characters and how they feel but the way that's expressed is less overt and covers multiple things in one scene.
I should also point out that action and humour are not the sole focus of the film so much as they appear to be
your focus. Humour, for example, is not focused on and presented as a constructed comedic set piece, it's just a by-product of everything else. The focus of the scenes is the relationships between the characters and how they feel but humour arises due to the wit in Whedon's script. I could argue that action was the sole focus of TASM but I'd be wrong because the plot requires action and is intertwined with the characters. The same occurs in Avengers, but the spectacle is bigger.
We need more than just an Idea
A Teenage boy with powers would reveal them to the girl he likes.
Immature decision but Realistic
Because his Uncle died recently and she is trying to make him come out of the grief early
Let me elaborate on what I mean by the complexity of these relationships. I agree with you that Peter would reveal his identity to Gwen or that Gwen would invite Peter to dinner because they are attracted to each other. However, that's the extent of their relationship, they like each other. I can assume it's because they like the traits the other displays, although there is no time spent demonstrating this. It is an idea, and as you said, we need more.
With Natasha and Clint, there is an understanding as to why their relationship exists. Both of them are disconnected from others due to their profession so they find kinship in each other because of their similar attitude. We also know that as Natasha deals with her past by adopting a clinical view of events, she sees Clint as somebody she needs to help. On top of that, we know that their relationship is solidified by companionship in previous dangers. "This is like Budapest all over again"-"You and I remember Budapest very differently!"
Neither relationship is delved into very deeply, but I can better answer the question "why Clint?" or "why Natasha?" when it comes to why those characters share those scenes with each other than I can with Peter or Gwen. Their relationship is better defined.
I dont see any 'Shared human experience' in that scene
The human experience is the awkward situation that we can relate to, the response to which shows characterisation. The original point was that the moment demonstrates that the characters are human and maintain that humanity even in extreme situations. The moment is intended to be funny, it's not deep. It's also far from empty or devoid of humanity.
I made my point earlier on
Avengers has humanity,definitely a lot more than Transformers but the main focus is Action and Humour and while that looked good in TA,I dont want to see that in a Spider-Man movie
All aspects i.e Action,Humour,Drama and Emotion should get equal focus.Which is why I consider SM2 as a perfect comic book movie
As I mentioned before, action and humour aren't the main focus of the Avengers. Character is, all the humour, drama and emotion come from that. It's discouraging that you don't see that the majority of the comic moments exist to serve the drama and emotion. Saying humour is a main point is reductionist and not a fair assessment of Whedon's film. However, it's cool to know we both think highly of Spider-Man 2.
But SM1 was a lot more kid friendly
Perhaps. It doesn't change the fact that both The Avengers and TASM are films aimed at a broad audience, kids and adults.
Disagree
But its all about opinions
Indeed. I personally think Webb's characters are more broad in that they adopt attributes they need for the story but feel more 'free'. Their worldviews are more vague, their lines aren't as definitive as, say, "I'm always angry" or "Love is for children. I owe him a debt".
To be honest,I dont remember that scene
Would it be totally out of line to suggest that much of your disagreement comes from vague recollections of scenes?
Actually on the contrary,I felt that montage was great but ended quickly,should have been longer imo
Montage? I was talking about the scene in which he awakes on the subway, is confused and accidently starts a fight with the carriage. That established he didn't know his own abilities or strength, was confused and was played for laughs. My point was it made the other scene redundant.