The "Friend Zone"

[ShadowBoxing]

Can men really "Friend Zone" a chick? I feel like I've done it (now), so I'd be inclined to say yes.

 

[Chris Wallace]

Nia Long's character got "zoned" pretty badly.

They kinda "zoned" each other as I see it; they both wanted it, but neither would make a move. I've seen this happen, too.
And yes, ShadowBoxing-a man can "zone" a woman as easily as the other way around. It just happens less often because men are typically the agressors, the hunters, what have you. It's generally on us to make the first move, therefore a woman rarely finds herself in the position of pursuing a man who isn't interested; if anything, she's wondering why he's not pursuing her. And if she finds that the guy's not interested in her, she's less likely to hang around hoping that he'll change his mind.

 

[SLVRSR4]

I've friend zoned girls a lot. I tend to attract all the wrong people for me, but am obligated to talk to someone if they approach me because I use to have anxiety issues in social settings.

I have a mother ****e dichotomy where if they aren't treated like my mom I become a ****e and it bothers me to no end.

 

[Chris Wallace]

Clarify that, please.

 

[SLVRSR4]

I can be fine with someone of the opposite sex until I have sex with them and then it sort of becomes an obsession. This has only happened once, but I'm afraid that it will happen again so I'm trying to refrain from the act so that I can be with someone who I enjoy being around without being fixated on that.

I'm not sure if that helps.

 

[Wylie Times]

I can be fine with someone of the opposite sex until I have sex with them and then it sort of becomes an obsession. This has only happened once, but I'm afraid that it will happen again so I'm trying to refrain from the act so that I can be with someone who I enjoy being around without being fixated on that.

I'm not sure if that helps.

That sounds more like being ***** whipped than being in the friend zone....

 

[Chris Wallace]

 

[Wylie Times]

If not for the fact that I first saw that movie when I was 12, I'd swear certain parts of it were based on my life.

Favorite quote: "He got a handicapped sign on his balls" LOL

 

[Chris Wallace]

I remember thinking "Who the hell would cheat on Halle w/Robin?"
But I did have a woman pretty much hit it & quit it; not a good feeling.

 

[Wylie Times]

I remember thinking "Who the hell would cheat on Halle w/Robin?"
But I did have a woman pretty much hit it & quit it; not a good feeling.

I know right, and that was when Hallie was so fine she was damn near hard to look at, like staring into the sun. She's still gorgeous but back then she was like

It's only really bad for that to happen with the sex is really good....

 

[Chris Wallace]

Huh?
If the sex was horrible & she never called you you wouldn't give a flying ****!

 

[Wylie Times]

Huh?
If the sex was horrible & she never called you you wouldn't give a flying ****!

That's what I meant, though hell even if the sex is average I wouldn't care, but if it was some world class once in a lifetime sex I might slip up and call for an encore a few times.

 

[Chris Wallace]

13 years ago I met a woman who I had great conversations with, was a lot of fun & the sex was mind-blowing. Somewhere along the way she "zoned" me. I wound up breaking contact with her &, I won't say that I never quite got her out of my system, but she's asleep in the next room right now.
That doesn't quite say it. A year ago I was living in Chicago. I moved to Kansas City to get back with her.

 

[Chris Wallace]

I would like to hear from some women who've been "zoned". Because I don't honestly htink it happens. I'm not saying it doesn't ever happen, but I just think that by & large a woman is far less likely to delude herself into thinking that hnaging around a man who's rejected her in hopes that he'll change his mind is a good idea, versus letting it go & moving on.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

I've friend zoned a women, but I don't think they stay in the friend zone the same way guys tend to. They'll move on.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I would like to hear from some women who've been "zoned". Because I don't honestly htink it happens. I'm not saying it doesn't ever happen, but I just think that by & large a woman is far less likely to delude herself into thinking that hnaging around a man who's rejected her in hopes that he'll change his mind is a good idea, versus letting it go & moving on.

I somewhat "zoned" a girl before. Although, it was a weird situation since she "zoned" me first. Went out with a girl a few times, didn't realize I asked her out about a week after she split up with her boyfriend though. On the second or maybe third date she mentioned this and how she didn't want a new relationship yet. Still kept seeing her though, hoping maybe things might change, which was stupid on my part, but I was hopeful since whenever we hung out it was just the two of us, doing somewhat date-like activities. Still wasn't getting any signs and then my personal life started to turn to crap and saw her as a good friend outside of my personal problems to sort of retreat to. However, a couple months after I made that decision was right around the time she was ready to move our friendship into a relationship, but I missed/ignored the signs, keeping her in the friend zone.

 

[Wylie Times]

Question:

Is it possible to "Zone" someone you've dated before?

 

[Chris Wallace]

Question:

Is it possible to "Zone" someone you've dated before?

Absolutely. Which is more painful, IMO. Whoever coined that "better to have loved & lost" crap obviously never tried it. You "zone" them when you dump them & then, while they're looking at the shattered fragments of what used to be their heart, say "We can still be friends." Yeah. That's what I really want to do with my newfound abundant free time. Hang out with my ex. Have something I want & can no longer have dangled in front of my face like a dog begging for a treat.

 

[Chris Wallace]

I somewhat "zoned" a girl before. Although, it was a weird situation since she "zoned" me first. Went out with a girl a few times, didn't realize I asked her out about a week after she split up with her boyfriend though. On the second or maybe third date she mentioned this and how she didn't want a new relationship yet. Still kept seeing her though, hoping maybe things might change, which was stupid on my part, but I was hopeful since whenever we hung out it was just the two of us, doing somewhat date-like activities. Still wasn't getting any signs and then my personal life started to turn to crap and saw her as a good friend outside of my personal problems to sort of retreat to. However, a couple months after I made that decision was right around the time she was ready to move our friendship into a relationship, but I missed/ignored the signs, keeping her in the friend zone.

Ouch. That can be undone, though-unless she's moved on.
But why do women do "signs"? Why can't they just say what they want? It's so much harder on us when playful flirtation, friendly banter & full-on come-ons are all presented the same way, leaving us with the fun task of guessing which one we're experiencing!

 

[Wylie Times]

Absolutely. Which is more painful, IMO. Whoever coined that "better to have loved & lost" crap obviously never tried it. You "zone" them when you dump them & then, while they're looking at the shattered fragments of what used to be their heart, say "We can still be friends." Yeah. That's what I really want to do with my newfound abundant free time. Hang out with my ex. Have something I want & can no longer have dangled in front of my face like a dog begging for a treat.

Damn.....Ok, so I guess I can't say I've never "zoned" anybody before.

 

[Chris Wallace]

You have?
You MUST give details.

 

[SLVRSR4]

That sounds more like being ***** whipped than being in the friend zone....

I would sleep with other women if I didn't do that. So in a sense I am whipped by the compulsion that I cause through women.

 

[Chris Wallace]

Huh?

 

[SLVRSR4]

Huh?

I'm still trying to figure it out myself. I had avoided sex for most of my life because I feared that and having just recently broken up with the one person where this did happen I'm afraid to have sex again because it might give me an answer.

So in essence I've friend zoned a lot of girls except this one who didn't friend zone me when we both want to be friends to find what it is I meant when I said this but it is still too early because we still have feelings that could lead to sex.

Or this is how I perceive it because this realization shattered most conceptions of my life! I don't know if that helps but I don't know how else to describe it.

 

[Wylie Times]

You have?
You MUST give details.

Me and my ex were together for about 4 years. I had to go out of country for a couple of years to further my studies while she still had about 4 years left of school. She wanted to quit school and come with me, I wasn't having that so I broke things off, we stayed in contact the entire time I was overseas. I've been back in the states for a couple months and we've since been hanging out but i'm going to Japan in 3 more months.

Our relationship was great, I just wasn't gonna have her delay her dreams for mine and I didn't want her just waiting on me for 2 years, but from what I've been hearing lately she HAS been waiting.