The Official "Ask A Brotha" Thread

[chamber-music]

I think black women get a bad rap. I do believe SOME fit into the bad mold however. The black women that bother me are the ones who complain about there being no good black men around but turn around and say they want a thug and wonder why their man always cheats on them and beats them up and is in and out of jail.

That isn't a black women exclusive thing. Plenty of women and men of a variety of races say they want a bad boy or a slag and then when the relationship goes bad blame all men or women for it

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

That isn't a black women exclusive thing. Plenty of women and men of a variety of races say they want a bad boy or a slag and then when the relationship goes bad blame all men or women for it

Right.

 

[BizarroAids]

I dated a black girl once, and I enjoyed every minute of it. The only bad thing was her brother hated me, but the parents and grandparents approved.

 

[tzarinna]

Yeah nothing wrong with having a preference but and I'm not saying that I don't have my preferences so this isn't a critical comment, it is strange to prefer someone of another race over your own. I mean what does that say about you and how you feel about your parents all that jazz?

My deceased sister was married to a white guy, whom my family loves because he's a good dude and he's taking care of their children. So basically my family seems to love white people. Look out white people we are coming for you!

On the same note this young black girl seemed to find it funny when I told her that I found white guys attractive.

Yeah, my family likes to mix it up too...white, Asian, French, South African. Although the area we live in isn't so accepting. Folks are so weird, I like all flavors of men.


My coworkers, no matter where I work, call me "white girl", 'cause I'm not your regular 'sista' from the hood. I try to rein in my geekiness in their presence to avoid this face---> Luckily I have a couple of comrades at work that are into The Walking Dead TV series and comics.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

I think every race is beautiful for unique reasons.

I would never rule out any race for love.

That said my porn collection is mostly black guys doin it with white girls but I think it's simply because you have a greater pool of actresses who are white to draw from.

 

[Raiden]

All my brothers are with white women. I don't care one way or the other but I just thought that I'd mentioned it. I honestly hate when black chicks say "white women are stealing our men." I don't have any men so yeah. I'm sure that some black guys like white women for all the wrong reasons but I'd like to believe that most don't.

Do black women prefer black men, or do they have other preferences?

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

I dated a black girl once, and I enjoyed every minute of it. The only bad thing was her brother hated me, but the parents and grandparents approved.

If it was an older brother then it might not have been because you were white.

Yeah, my family likes to mix it up too...white, Asian, French, South African. Although the area we live in isn't so accepting. Folks are so weird, I like all flavors of men.


My coworkers, no matter where I work, call me "white girl", 'cause I'm not your regular 'sista' from the hood. I try to rein in my geekiness in their presence to avoid this face---> Luckily I have a couple of comrades at work that are into The Walking Dead TV series and comics.

I don't know why this made me LOL!

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

I can't blame Halle Berry for changing teams and dating white guys. She gave the brothers a fair chance but they were either abusive or sex addicts.

Then again her baby daddy called her the N-word so maybe she has bad taste in men in general.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

I can't blame Halle Berry for changing teams and dating white guys. She gave the brothers a fair chance but they were either abusive or sex addicts.

Then again her baby daddy called her the N-word so maybe she has bad taste in men in general.

That's what it is. No matter who she chooses he will be a DBag!

 

[BizarroAids]

If it was an older brother then it might not have been because you were white.



I don't know why this made me LOL!

He was older than me by a year or two I think. It was in the summer of 03, even though it was brief she did take me to the Usher/ Eminem concert. And I'm not sure on this, but I think she's the main reason I saw 2 Fast 2 Furious.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

This is an interesting article. Appearently over twice as many black guys marry outside their race (22 percent) than black women do (9 percent). This creates a shortage of available black men to marry.

So the question is why isn't their a mass exodus of black women pursuing white guys?

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/04/us/04interracial.html

 

[chamber-music]

All Halle Berrys guys except her current one have been *****ebags. Thats more to do with her taste in men than their race.

I think every race is beautiful for unique reasons.

I would never rule out any race for love.

I feel the same way.

There are attractive women of a variety of races.

Race isn't a deal breaker in who I date.

 

[E-Man]

I think it depends on the area you are from. I don't know many black guys that have dated white women. I know that we are attracted to some of them, but I've rarely seen it in many of the circles I'm a part of. I think it's just something that gets blown out of proportion because black women see celebrities with white wives and girlfriends, but that's only a small sample or things, plus there are a ton of black celebs that have black wives.

It's just them wanting something to complain about. That would be like me complaining that black female singers want white men because Pearl Bailey, Diana Ross, and Billie Holiday married white men at one point.

 

[chamber-music]

I live in London and interracial relationships are very common. Half the people who live on my street are in interracial relationships.

This is an interesting article. Appearently over twice as many black guys marry outside their race (22 percent) than black women do (9 percent). This creates a shortage of available black men to marry.

So the question is why isn't their a mass exodus of black women pursuing white guys?

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/04/us/04interracial.html

I think black women are less likely to date white men and white men are less likely to date black women.

Women have hire standards then men as well I thinking.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

Do black women prefer black men, or do they have other preferences?

9 percent of black women marry outside their race and 8 percent of white women marry outside their race.

Compare that to Asian women who marry outside their race 40 percent of the time (mostly to white guys).

In other words, Asian men are screwed.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

9 percent of black women marry outside their race and 8 percent of white women marry outside their race.

Compare that to Asian women who marry outside their race 40 percent of the time (mostly to white guys).

In other words, Asian men are screwed.

So wrong but I still 'd!!

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

Another interesting article.

Black women are the least likely to date outside their race.

and

For equal success with a white woman, an African-American needs to earn an additional $154,000; a Hispanic man needs $77,000; an Asian needs $247,000.

http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/04/13/single-female-seeking-same-race-male/

 

[I SEE SPIDEY]

Yeaaaah, I don't think white people are going to mind that.

Ha, I don't think so either.

How dare you!?!

Terry78 responded the same playful way when I said something similar to that. lol

Yeah, my family likes to mix it up too...white, Asian, French, South African. Although the area we live in isn't so accepting. Folks are so weird, I like all flavors of men.


My coworkers, no matter where I work, call me "white girl", 'cause I'm not your regular 'sista' from the hood. I try to rein in my geekiness in their presence to avoid this face---> Luckily I have a couple of comrades at work that are into The Walking Dead TV series and comics.

I'm apart of the mythical black female geek tribe too. My sister and I agree that we are really Gay white male nerds trapped in black women's bodies.

Do black women prefer black men, or do they have other preferences?

From my experience, black women mostly prefer black men. They almost seem afraid to say that they think that a white guy is hot from fear of what I don't know. It's always, "he's attractive for a white guy." A strange thing to say in my opinion as I don't have any qualifiers.

As for my own preferences....Well, I um like all types and see myself marrying and black guy honestly but I'm probably a little more attracted to white guys. If we are telling the truth here, that's the truth.

Maybe it's because a lot of the black guys I live around are ghetto and have their pants hanging off of their ass. I've met plenty of cute black dudes who aren't like that though so I'm not trying to stereotype. I just hate ghetto personalities and dress and that goes for any race really.

 

[Erzengel]

Cool to date a black or white woman, all I need to do is make a quarter of a million dollars a year.

 

[E-Man]

I'm apart of the mythical black female geek tribe too.

Oh that's just sexy!

My sister and I agree that we are really Gay white male nerds trapped in black women's bodies.

Ew, that's just nasty.

 

[Hobgoblin]

9 percent of black women marry outside their race and 8 percent of white women marry outside their race.

Compare that to Asian women who marry outside their race 40 percent of the time (mostly to white guys).

In other words, Asian men are screwed.

Nah. My Vietnamese friend married a white woman. True he divorced her but still.

Oh that's just sexy!


Ew, that's just nasty.

My thoughts exactly. It went from hot to awkward quickly.

 

[chamber-music]

Most black people I know and meet these days are the non-ghetto kind.

I think most black people in general are tired or that ghetto stuff. Even the people I know that some would say are ghetto or thug or whatever aren't that really like that if you get to know them.

 

[Pink Ranger]

9 percent of black women marry outside their race and 8 percent of white women marry outside their race.

Compare that to Asian women who marry outside their race 40 percent of the time (mostly to white guys).

In other words, Asian men are screwed.

As an Asian male (not heterosexual, but still, I have eyes to see) you're pretty much bang on with that last point. I would hate it if I was straight.

Although the percentage you cite seems a little high to me, but not surprisingly so.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

My sister and I agree that we are really Gay white male nerds trapped in black women's bodies.

That's HOT! Wait, what...

 

[I SEE SPIDEY]

Oh that's just sexy!


Ew, that's just nasty.

That's a funny joke Mr!

That's HOT! Wait, what...