The Official "Ask A Brotha" Thread

[Mace Bloodstone]

Grape soda, fact or myth?

 

[ComicChick]

One of my best friends lives in VA, him and all his Filipino friends are all married to white girls. It's like you move down there, they come to your door and give you a fruit basket and a white girl.

how come you never say hey when you come down to visit them?

 

[WillardNation]

Yeah nothing wrong with having a preference but and I'm not saying that I don't have my preferences so this isn't a critical comment, it is strange to prefer someone of another race over your own. I mean what does that say about you and how you feel about your parents all that jazz?

My deceased sister was married to a white guy, whom my family loves because he's a good dude and he's taking care of their children. So basically my family seems to love white people. Look out white people we are coming for you!

On the same note this young black girl seemed to find it funny when I told her that I found white guys attractive.

Well hello...

Yeah, my family likes to mix it up too...white, Asian, French, South African. Although the area we live in isn't so accepting. Folks are so weird, I like all flavors of men.

My family has a thing for latin people. My brother is married to a woman of Mexican descent, the guy my sister claims to be her "soul mate" is of Mexican descent and the most prominent girl in my love life history is of Colombian descent. Although I like women of all races. I've come to realize lately that I really have a thing for Jewish women.

 

[chamber-music]

Dear Brotha,

Rock music, metal, nu metal. Yay or Nay?

Rock Music is cool I'm not much into Metal or Nu Metal.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

honeyvibe and vibeke i think

Ah yes, them too

 

[AndThePickles]

Haven't seen vibeke around in ages.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Grape soda, fact or myth?

Myth at least for me anyway.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

Dear Brotha,

Rock music, metal, nu metal. Yay or Nay?

I'd say black dudes who listen to metal are rare.

Nu-metal has more crossover appeal for blacks because the artists will sometimes rap in their songs.

I was into grunge and alternative in the 90's but stopped listen to the latest rock after that because it lost it's political edge.

My father-in-law, who is black, loves classic rock from the 60's and 70's. He's basically a black hippie who lives in the hood.

I'm not sure about the current generation of black kids though.

 

[Erzengel]

how come you never say hey when you come down to visit them?

I haven't been since like 2004.

 

[RockSP]

Grape soda, fact or myth?

I don't drink soda. Back when I did, there was no one kind I coveted above all others. No one else I know is obsessed with grape either.

 

[Pink Ranger]

Where did the grape beverage stereotype even come from? I'm Canadian, and this is one of those uniquely American things I hear about on the comedy shows, but never fully understood.

 

[Erzengel]

I remember joking around with some Canadians about the French being cowards and they didn't get it.

Of course it could be....

 

[Pink Ranger]

I remember joking around with some Canadians about the French being cowards and they didn't get it.

We generally have a more nuanced view of WW2 than just saying "Oh, the French surrendered, they must be cowards." Even as a joke, that's not really in our cultural language.

Remember that between the time when the Axis took France and the US and USSR joined the war, the two most powerful countries fighting the Nazis were Britain and Canada.

 

[Manic]

I always thought it was unfair that the French have been labeled as cowards and surrender-monkeys because of WWII. Sure their government caved in to the Nazis after 5 minutes, but the people of France never stopped fighting and they had the most famous resistance group in the whole war.

But I digress

I have no clue where the grape soda/drink stereotype came from. I can understand the Kool-Aid stereotype (dirt cheap packets of powder bought by underprivileged families) and even the watermelon stereotype (slaves making it a big part of their diet in order to flush the unhealthy table scraps out of their systems, and the tradition living on), but not grape drink.

 

[Pink Ranger]

I have no clue where the grape soda/drink stereotype came from. I can understand the Kool-Aid stereotype (dirt cheap packets of powder bought by underprivileged families) and even the watermelon stereotype (slaves making it a big part of their diet in order to flush the unhealthy table scraps out of their systems, and the tradition living on), but not grape drink.

Hey, I didn't even know these origins either. I'm learn-d-ing!! Thanks.

 

[chamber-music]

Where did the grape beverage stereotype even come from? I'm Canadian, and this is one of those uniquely American things I hear about on the comedy shows, but never fully understood.

I think the grape thing is American because that sterotype doesn't exist in the caribbean or african community.

 

[Manic]

Well, the watermelon thing is just part of the big soul food origin. Quite a bit of today's soul food was originally slave food. Slave owners used to throw out the parts of animals that people don't normally eat, and give them to the slaves. The slaves found unique ways to make that crap edible. Hence you get weird stuff like chitlins/chitterlings, which are just pig intestines.

 

[Pink Ranger]

I can't proper soul food in Toronto.

I might have to open up my own restaurant just to get some.

 

[PyroChamber]

What does everyone think when people say it's more acceptable seeing a black woman with a white man than it is seeing a black man with a white woman? And is it really more acceptable?

 

[Pink Ranger]

What does everyone think when people say it's more exceptable seeing a black woman with a white man than it is seeing a black man with a white woman?

Same reason why it's more acceptable to see an Asian woman with a white guy than an Asian man with a white (or any other ethnicity) woman.

The stereotype is that white men have the "droit de seigneur" to go around hooking up with women of any other "inferior" culture. It's a horribly damaging type of racism that crosses political lines: on the left wing, some so-called "sensitive" hetero men see it as their duty to sexually liberate women from oppressive misogynistic cultures.

On the other hand, if a man of colour dates a white woman, he's "stealing" one of "ours." Again, this form of racism belongs to both the right and left: some white male liberals see their relationships as exotic, cosmopolitan and transgressive, but if a man of colour dates his sister, then he's just being an Uncle Tom, or he's participating in "reverse exoticism," or falling prey to Western standards of beauty.

 

[Manic]

What does everyone think when people say it's more acceptable seeing a black woman with a white man than it is seeing a black man with a white woman? And is it really more acceptable?

It depends on who you're asking. I know that Hollywood sees things that way.

 

[chamber-music]

It depends on who you're asking. I know that Hollywood sees things that way.

True.

Some people are still by intimidated black men and black sexuality.

There is still that tired silly sterotype that black men are more sexually aggressive than other races.

 

[Raiden]

Well, the watermelon thing is just part of the big soul food origin. Quite a bit of today's soul food was originally slave food. Slave owners used to throw out the parts of animals that people don't normally eat, and give them to the slaves. The slaves found unique ways to make that crap edible. Hence you get weird stuff like chitlins/chitterlings, which are just pig intestines.

I think it is how they came up with the whole BBQ thing with the ribs, because the slave owners used to throw away the rib meat to their slaves and kept the sirloin for themselves.

Btw, if you want good pig intestines, you should check out the authethic Chinese restaurants, especially the Hong Kong BBQ and Taiwanese cruisine, because they've been making that along with other parts like pig's ears and other organs that Americans won't touch with a ten-foot pole into delicacies for a very long time.

 

[terry78]

It's the whole white knight mentality. Basically the white dude is saving the dark chick from her own status and giving her a better life. Though I have seen some couples where the white dude is worse off than she is, but still.

 

[Manic]

Btw, if you want good pig intestines, you should check out the authethic Chinese restaurants, especially the Hong Kong BBQ and Taiwanese cruisine, because they've been making that along with other parts like pig's ears and other organs that Americans won't touch with a ten-foot pole into delicacies for a very long time.

I don't like intestines as it is. Hell, I don't even eat pig's feet, and that's all up in the soul food catalog.

I used to go to a Hong Kong style cafe all the time. The food there was surprisingly western.