Again, my problem is just when people abuse "change" to the extreme and I think you know what I'm getting at, because you're fairly intelligent. Having surgery to correct an abnormality or remove a potentially cancerous mole that could save your life is obviously a necessity and a privilege for those who can afford it. I'm not focusing on that here. What I am concerned about is the lack of self esteem in a person who feels that she must alter the size of her breasts or go out and buy herself a new nose, just because some shallow POS told her she isn't pretty enough. As has been proven evident in this very forum, quite a handful of people think Maggie is great looking and then you have those that don't find her all that attractive. You can't always change someone's mindset, but you don't have to go and change yourself.
If I offended you, I'm sorry for that; it wasn't my intention.
Well that's cool, I'm just saying lets be realistic here. All people change their natural appearance, even if it's just getting their hair cut. If you're a guy you shave. If you didn't you'd have a beard to your knees.
I assume you don't have a beard down to your knees. Does that necessarily make you shallow or someone with low self esteem?
I disagree with the assumption that someone who "buys themselves a new nose" is doing it because they're trying to change someones mindset, or because "some POS told them they weren't pretty enough." I also disagree that women who have work done are all troubled with low self esteem. That is an assumption also perpetuated in the media, and by extreme cases like MJ. I think that the majority of the millions of people every year in this country who get cosmetic surgery are doing it for the following reasons.
1.) To reverse signs of aging and to look on the outside how they feel themselves to be on the inside... in which case you could argue that they are trying to *return* to their
natural appearance which they have lost through time+gravity, sun-damage to their skin, etc.
2.) Because they have always been
personally unhappy with something about their appearance and they want to have it changed, for
themselves. Not for anyone else.
Speaking for myself, I do not suffer from low self-esteem, nor do I care what anyone else might say about my looks. I am happily married and I'm not looking to use my appearance as social currency, as a gold digger or to land some part in a film. Now, if I had the spare $$$ there are probably one or two things I would have changed, just because they bug me, and I have that option. Not because anyone else called me ugly as a child, or because I think it's going to get me a lot of dates, and certainly not because my goal would be to look like one of those "famous plastic people" who has their lips blown up to three times their natural size because Angelina Jolie is all the rage right now, or something really stupid like that.
So if I took offense to your comments it was only because from my personal perspective I can see that generalizing all people who have, or might have something done are "shallow" or have "low self-esteem" or are just easily impressionable by the opinions of others. God and everyone on these boards
knows that last part certainly isn't true about me. 
But I believe the vast majority of women aren't getting cut and pasted over a trend or an off-hand comment somebody made about their looks, if they put themselves through the time, trouble and expense it's a personal issue and a matter of preference.
