Confession is good for the Hype. - - - Part 12

[SpideyVille]

I think you might had some unrealistic expectations.

I use to work with 2 women and we went out to lunch all the time. When they left my job, I'm Facebook friends but we don't hang out or really talk.

We were work friends.

Now that I've taken a step back from the whole situation, I can see things more clearly for what they were. The biggest reason why we got along was because we were both outcasts of the family and we knew that people didn't like us because we didn't try to be like them. But at the same time, I was in a place where I didn't talk to many of my friends from school anymore, and she's a mother of two kids who doesn't have any friends either and spends most of her time at work. So there were a number of similarities that helped us have a bond that we didn't have with many other people in our lives, so it seemed like we were closer than we might have actually been, especially since we also talked a lot during the weekends and when we got out of work. So it wasn't just like we were only talking while we were there.

But the biggest difference between us was that while I stick to things that I like, she is always changing her mind, which is why there were a few weeks where we didn't talk, since that new guy started and they bonded over other stuff and suddenly it was all up to me to try to grab her attention because if left alone, I don't know if she would have came to me to talk. And that's always been a struggle of mine because I always feel like I need to be the one who keeps the friendship going, and that just makes me question how real the friendship really is.

Yeah, that's why I like Facebook. I like seeing what everyone's up to, but I'm an extreme introvert so I usually don't feel up to actually meeting up with them in person. It doesn't mean I don't care. I do. Sometimes it's just enough to pop them a note and let them know that someone's listening.

I think a friend is someone who cares about you. That's all.

Yeah I like Facebook too because it does provide a way to keep in touch with people that you may not have ever kept in touch with or gotten to know as well in the past. Like right now I'm back at my college working on a show with some of my friends, and while it feels kind of awkward since its been over a year and a half since I was there, they've still seen what I've been up to and I've seen what they've done in my absence. So it sort of breaks the ice a bit since I don't feel like we have to start all over again. Plus sometimes you just get caught up with your own stuff and you forget about people until one day you see them pop up on your feed.

 

[Duke]

I confess that because of the Pepsi One may cause you cancer thread I opted for ice tea at lunch today.

 

[Superman 1265]

I went for a walk one night and found a shopping cart on the sidewalk...

I dunno why, but I took it home with me.

 

[Duke]

I went for a walk one night and found a shopping cart on the sidewalk...

I dunno why, but I took it home with me.

It was a lonely shopping cart & because you took it in, it's eternally grateful.

 

[Erzengel]

Now that I've taken a step back from the whole situation, I can see things more clearly for what they were. The biggest reason why we got along was because we were both outcasts of the family and we knew that people didn't like us because we didn't try to be like them. But at the same time, I was in a place where I didn't talk to many of my friends from school anymore, and she's a mother of two kids who doesn't have any friends either and spends most of her time at work. So there were a number of similarities that helped us have a bond that we didn't have with many other people in our lives, so it seemed like we were closer than we might have actually been, especially since we also talked a lot during the weekends and when we got out of work. So it wasn't just like we were only talking while we were there.

But the biggest difference between us was that while I stick to things that I like, she is always changing her mind, which is why there were a few weeks where we didn't talk, since that new guy started and they bonded over other stuff and suddenly it was all up to me to try to grab her attention because if left alone, I don't know if she would have came to me to talk. And that's always been a struggle of mine because I always feel like I need to be the one who keeps the friendship going, and that just makes me question how real the friendship really is.

With relationships as well as friendships, it should be a give and take experience with you not always having to go out of your way. If that girl really wanted to be your friend, she would have made an effort.

 

[SpideyVille]

With relationships as well as friendships, it should be a give and take experience with you not always having to go out of your way. If that girl really wanted to be your friend, she would have made an effort.

Yeah, that's something I've come to learn and put into practice a lot in the past couple of years. I used to have really bad self-esteem, but now I only have a moderately low self-esteem and there have been a few people that I've just stopped bothering with because it was clear that I was the one who was making most of the effort. But in the case of my job, it was easier to be friends with someone who would be there some of the time as opposed to being friends with no one, or with people who would only talk trash about you and make you feel like crap.

 

[SpideyVille]

I confess that I am very OCD when it comes to time. Like I freak the F out whenever I feel like I'm wasting it when I know I have something to look forward to. There are days when I don't have any plans that involve me having to go out, so I make plans with myself to get certain projects done at home and when someone calls me randomly to go somewhere, I can almost never do it because in my mind I haven't prepared myself and don't feel ready since my mind was already set on doing other things. I guess that's why I hate flaky people, because I can almost get nothing done if I know I have to be somewhere at a certain time, and when people don't show, I feel like they wasted so much of my time.

 

[Erzengel]

You have to loosen up that tie of yours.

If someone called me up right now, in the middle of whatever, I'd drop everything.

 

[Schlosser85]

A customer accidentally dropped $20 at work without noticing. I waited a bit to see if he'd come back, then debated back and forth about pocketing it. Paranoid about getting in trouble, I ended up just surreptitiously tossing it in my drawer, which lo and behold was over at the end of the night. He never came back.

 

[SpideyVille]

You have to loosen up that tie of yours.

If someone called me up right now, in the middle of whatever, I'd drop everything.

I don't really know why I've had this problem for the last few years. The best I can think of is that there was this girl I liked many years ago and I spent so much time trying to be her friend and make her like me that when things fell apart, I looked back at those last few months and felt like I wasted time on her, and ever since then I've had this fear of wasting time.

I know it's really bad, but I've had to tell people many times that even though I have most days where I'm doing "nothing", in terms of having plans with people, that if they want to hang out or do something, they need to let me know the day before so I can plan around it. Yet the funny thing is that once I'm out, I almost never want to go back home and I'd kill so much time doing nothing with people.

 

[Duke]

A customer accidentally dropped $20 at work without noticing. I waited a bit to see if he'd come back, then debated back and forth about pocketing it. Paranoid about getting in trouble, I ended up just surreptitiously tossing it in my drawer, which lo and behold was over at the end of the night. He never came back.

Call me an overgrown boy scout, but I'd probably would've given it back to the customer.

 

[Schlosser85]

That would be another course of action, yes.

 

[Schlosser85]

Also work-related, it makes me uncomfortable enough to be around when skeezy old guys are hitting on co-workers their son's age, but now my co-worker's husband swung by tonight to drop off a flower bouquet to one of my co-workers (who's much younger than him or his wife).

So skeevy.

 

[Duke]

Also work-related, it makes me uncomfortable enough to be around when skeezy old guys are hitting on co-workers their son's age, but now my co-worker's husband swung by tonight to drop off a flower bouquet to one of my co-workers (who's much younger than him or his wife).

So skeevy.

Different strokes for different folks.

 

[Schlosser85]

Working there makes me grateful I'm not a girl.

 

[Erzengel]

I don't really know why I've had this problem for the last few years. The best I can think of is that there was this girl I liked many years ago and I spent so much time trying to be her friend and make her like me that when things fell apart, I looked back at those last few months and felt like I wasted time on her, and ever since then I've had this fear of wasting time.

I had a phobia for years because I would make plans with people, and feared up until the day of because I use to have usually women call me the day of to cancel.

So even when I had plans, I still expected the to flake out.

But waste of time is relative. I mean, if you date a girl for a year and things don't work out. Is that year a waste of a year? If you're friends with someone for 2 years and you drift apart, was that a waste?

I know it's really bad, but I've had to tell people many times that even though I have most days where I'm doing "nothing", in terms of having plans with people, that if they want to hang out or do something, they need to let me know the day before so I can plan around it. Yet the funny thing is that once I'm out, I almost never want to go back home and I'd kill so much time doing nothing with people.

I think I've mentioned how stunted in growth you are whether it's by your family or limited experience.

Think you need to make some really friends with worthwhile people, you need to get out on your own, and you need a decent gf. Not necessarily in that order.

 

[Schlosser85]

Yet the funny thing is that once I'm out, I almost never want to go back home and I'd kill so much time doing nothing with people.

If I were you, I wouldn't want to go back home either. You let your family have way too much power over you.

 

[charl_huntress]

I let my dog poop on this person's lawn who I don't like...and I didn't pick it up.

In my defense, they have the worse dog on the block and this dog constantly barks at all hours of the night.

 

[SpideyVille]

I had a phobia for years because I would make plans with people, and feared up until the day of because I use to have usually women call me the day of to cancel.

So even when I had plans, I still expected the to flake out.

But waste of time is relative. I mean, if you date a girl for a year and things don't work out. Is that year a waste of a year? If you're friends with someone for 2 years and you drift apart, was that a waste?

Yeah, I've had that problem too where sometimes I worry that something is too good to be true and I almost expect the person to flake out on me more than I expect them to show up. And there was this girl who did just that a few months and we never met and that's when I learned to stop trying so hard.

But in the case of dating someone and then breaking up, I look at that differently because I look at that as a growing experience and something to learn from. Same with friends. In Fact, I recently spoke to an old friend of mine and asked why we drifted apart and haven't been as close as before, and she told me exactly why and what I did and it was something I never realized that I do, and it explains a lot about why things have happened the way that they have with me, so I try to use things like that as a way to not make the same mistake the next time and find some kind of positive in it.

I think I've mentioned how stunted in growth you are whether it's by your family or limited experience.

Think you need to make some really friends with worthwhile people, you need to get out on your own, and you need a decent gf. Not necessarily in that order.

Yeah that's why I'm really looking forward to working on this show for the next two months because there are some familiar faces there, but also a bunch of new people that I've never met before and I am trying to live each day one by one and actually enjoy the journey, as opposed to waiting to get this over with. Its been so long since I had a group of people that I feel like I can start fresh with. At my job, it was never like that because my SIL pretty much put me down as this young kid in an office full of grown ups. But now, I feel like a grown up amongst young adult and it makes me feel like I actually belong and so I am getting comfortable here.

If I were you, I wouldn't want to go back home either. You let your family have way too much power over you.

It's a tricky situation. I mean, most of the work that I do for myself with writing and art is something that I can only get done at home, so I feel the need to be here. But at the same time, the thing that hurts me the most is my family, especially my mother who is just super negative about everything, including positive situations and opportunities. That's why I cherish whatever alone time I can get at home because it allows me to be productive, and when I'm productive, I'm happy. But when I'm not, I feel miserable and when I usually go out, I go and talk to people about how miserable I am and what I can do to fix it. Its a weird cycle that I'm trying to force to work in my favor.

 

[ComicChick]

You have to loosen up that tie of yours.

If someone called me up right now, in the middle of whatever, I'd drop everything.

you didnt answer when i called

 

[E-Man]

I confess that I hate feeling angry with my uncle who just passed away a couple of days ago. We're uncovering that he had severe high blood pressure and high cholesterol, and he disregarded taking his medicine or getting treated for it. It hurts so much missing him right now that I don't want to feel this way, but I can't help but hate that he didn't take care of himself better. The kicker is that he was very health conscious about what he ate, and he appeared to be in good shape. Now he's gone, and I just wish that we all would have known those problems so that we got on him about it. I feel as though he would still be here if he just took his medicine and saw the doctor more.

 

[Black Narcissus]

Wes Anderson

One of those pointless, quirky-for-quirky's sake wes anderson flicks like the royal tannenbombs or rushmore that has nothing to say.

 

[Duke]

I confess that I hate feeling angry with my uncle who just passed away a couple of days ago. We're uncovering that he had severe high blood pressure and high cholesterol, and he disregarded taking his medicine or getting treated for it. It hurts so much missing him right now that I don't want to feel this way, but I can't help but hate that he didn't take care of himself better. The kicker is that he was very health conscious about what he ate, and he appeared to be in good shape. Now he's gone, and I just wish that we all would have known those problems so that we got on him about it. I feel as though he would still be here if he just took his medicine and saw the doctor more.

Sorry for your loss E-Man.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I'm all out of sympathy. When I do care about something, other people tell me it's stupid and that I shouldn't bother. Then they tell me what I should be concerned about. Sometimes I agree with them and sometimes not. It leads to arguments, which is exhausting.

I try to help people out in the best ways that I can, and then others tell me that what I did was either stupid or counter productive or hypocritical.

I guess I'm supposed to either sit around and care about nothing but myself, or be dictated to by others what I should care about, and how and why. God knows most people don't seem to give a rat's rear end about anything but their own petty interests but I never knew that I had to seek a consensus either before trying to help a situation.

 

[Victarion]

It sounds like you need to take some time out for yourself, Hobgoblin.