Confession is good for the Hype. - - - Part 12

[Duke]

It's an interesting thing to think about.

I'm a teenager so I go from loving people to hating people every 30 minutes. I mean, it's probably morbid, but I think about it sometimes.



Hahaha, that's similar to how I think too.

And a little morbid too. LOL

 

[Erzengel]

Lisa: It may be bleak, but this music is really getting to the crowd.
Bart: Eh, making teenagers depressed is like shooting fish in a barrel.

 

[Teelie]

I've disappeared from here before for several months and no one noticed. At least I don't think anyone did (I didn't do any searches to find out but no one welcomed me back or asked where I went either when I returned). Although I probably wasn't really a "known" name as it were either at that time. Even now I'm sure I can vanish for six months and no one would realize it.

That's probably true of most members though. Sometimes people just drop off and no one realizes it.

 

[SpideyVille]

I've always taken great pride in my ability to "kill myself off". I'm a very private person, so whenever I didn't have to go out to school or work, I would mostly stay home all day and wouldn't bother anybody. And I also believe that every now and then, people need to take some time away from others to get back in touch with themselves, because sometimes you hang around people so much that you start to act just like them and you sort of lose your own sense of identity, and it isn't until you're alone and no one is watching that you remember who you really are. And even though nowadays everyone is connected by social media, it is sort of easier to go off the grid. I don't friend just anyone on facebook, unless its for networking and I don't give my number out freely so I make sure that I only stay in touch with people who will stay in touch with me.

And that's what I've been doing for the last month since I quit my job. I kinda feel bad because I have ignored a few people at certain points, but at the same time, there are so many other people who haven't even tried to reach out to me, including the person who I considered to be my best friend at the job. And its things like that that show you who your real friends are, since in many cases, it's an "out of sight, out of mind" thing.

I've always been a shy person, and even though I can be an attention ****e at times when things are positive, there are many ties when I just prefer to go unnoticed .

 

[Erzengel]

Did you and your "best friend" at your job ever hang out outside of work?

 

[webhead9707]

And a little morbid too. LOL

Oh absolutely.

I've disappeared from here before for several months and no one noticed. At least I don't think anyone did (I didn't do any searches to find out but no one welcomed me back or asked where I went either when I returned). Although I probably wasn't really a "known" name as it were either at that time. Even now I'm sure I can vanish for six months and no one would realize it.

That's probably true of most members though. Sometimes people just drop off and no one realizes it.

I MISSED YOU SO MUCH TEELIEEEEEE.

I've always taken great pride in my ability to "kill myself off". I'm a very private person, so whenever I didn't have to go out to school or work, I would mostly stay home all day and wouldn't bother anybody. And I also believe that every now and then, people need to take some time away from others to get back in touch with themselves, because sometimes you hang around people so much that you start to act just like them and you sort of lose your own sense of identity, and it isn't until you're alone and no one is watching that you remember who you really are. And even though nowadays everyone is connected by social media, it is sort of easier to go off the grid. I don't friend just anyone on facebook, unless its for networking and I don't give my number out freely so I make sure that I only stay in touch with people who will stay in touch with me.

And that's what I've been doing for the last month since I quit my job. I kinda feel bad because I have ignored a few people at certain points, but at the same time, there are so many other people who haven't even tried to reach out to me, including the person who I considered to be my best friend at the job. And its things like that that show you who your real friends are, since in many cases, it's an "out of sight, out of mind" thing.

I've always been a shy person, and even though I can be an attention ****e at times when things are positive, there are many ties when I just prefer to go unnoticed .

It's definitely easy to lose sight of yourself. I get what you're saying.

 

[webhead9707]

Lisa: It may be bleak, but this music is really getting to the crowd.
Bart: Eh, making teenagers depressed is like shooting fish in a barrel.

 

[SpideyVille]

Did you and your "best friend" at your job ever hang out outside of work?

Other than when she would give me a ride to the train after work, or we would go out together for lunch, no. The offer was always there, but since she lives in Jersey and I live in NY, and her not wanting to drive into the city, we never did hang out, except for this one thing on Thanksgiving, since she was part of the family. And of course, that got me in trouble because someone decided to start a rumor and say that we were cuddling in the kitchen, even though I never, ever touched her in any kind of way. So maybe that was for the best.

 

[NickNitro]

I admit I went out to the gas station the other night and bought Doritos and ate them as a late night snack.

 

[bullets]

I admit I went out to the gas station the other night and bought Doritos and ate them as a late night snack.

You've got real issues my friend.

 

[Duran Man]

I confess that I feel really good about my life after reading some of these confessions.

 

[Teelie]

I MISSED YOU SO MUCH TEELIEEEEEE.

Thanks, though I doubt you even knew who I was.

And to expand on my previous post, realizing it might sound like no one cares, there are people who will notice eventually someone is gone. It doesn't always happen right away but no one should think themselves so disposable or meaningless to just disappear and no one would care.

Sometimes you do need to just get away, which is fine. Most people I know occasionally feel overwhelmed and need a break from it all but usually they'll let you know in advance when they are doing so.

 

[Slushy]

Sometimes people just drop off and no one realizes it.

I'm bad at keeping in touch with people. A friend of mine passed away a few years ago and I just found out about it recently.

 

[Duke]

I admit I went out to the gas station the other night and bought Doritos and ate them as a late night snack.

You're living on the edge, Nick.

 

[NickNitro]

**** I'm really trying to eat clean and I devoured a bag and some white cheddar popcorn. I've shamed my family name.

 

[Duke]

Well, now you can hang your head in guilt or stand in the corner for a few hours.

 

[Teelie]

I'm bad at keeping in touch with people. A friend of mine passed away a few years ago and I just found out about it recently.

I've lost touch with friends over the years. Some of them gradually, some abruptly. Facebook makes it easier to check up on their status if they use it. Most of them are doing fine and have what seems like a nice life but others I've not been able to find a trace of. I just hope they are doing fine too.

At least no one I know of has died or gone to jail for anything.

 

[NickNitro]

Well, now you can hang your head in guilt or stand in the corner for a few hours.

Ill just workout twice as hard tonight! Leg day *****es!

 

[Erzengel]

Other than when she would give me a ride to the train after work, or we would go out together for lunch, no. The offer was always there, but since she lives in Jersey and I live in NY, and her not wanting to drive into the city, we never did hang out, except for this one thing on Thanksgiving, since she was part of the family. And of course, that got me in trouble because someone decided to start a rumor and say that we were cuddling in the kitchen, even though I never, ever touched her in any kind of way. So maybe that was for the best.

I think you might had some unrealistic expectations.

I use to work with 2 women and we went out to lunch all the time. When they left my job, I'm Facebook friends but we don't hang out or really talk.

We were work friends.

 

[Anubis]

Which could mean anything from a simple "Hi" in the morning to a HJ in the broom closet.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

I confess... My dad's funeral and the Mass we held the next day are two of the most positive experiences of my life. I love my dad and I miss him, but the truth is the ceremonies at both and the way it brought people together were all just totally positive. I feel guilty a little even thinking that, but my brother thought the same thing too.

 

[Erzengel]

Which could mean anything from a simple "Hi" in the morning to a HJ in the broom closet.

One of them put her finger up my butt but that was for some assignment.

 

[Anubis]

Naturally.

I confess... My dad's funeral and the Mass we held the next day are two of the most positive experiences of my life. I love my dad and I miss him, but the truth is the ceremonies at both and the way it brought people together were all just totally positive. I feel guilty a little even thinking that, but my brother thought the same thing too.

Sorry for your loss man.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

Sorry for your loss man.

Thanks for the kind words.

 

[Anita18]

I'm bad at keeping in touch with people. A friend of mine passed away a few years ago and I just found out about it recently.

My high school piano teacher and the neighbor who babysat me as a kid in NJ passed away years ago and I only found out from Googling their names on a whim.

Although I blame my mom for not knowing about the piano teacher, because she took lessons from her every now and again after I went off to college...and stopped shortly before the teacher passed. At least they lived in the same area, ya know? I did write the neighbor every few years, but we had no other connection I would know what was happening in her life.


I'm a member of a figure skating forum, and many posters there are older and someone passes away every few years. (Last year was rough - we lost two and one was under 30.) Someone always hears and reports on the board, so I suspect that many members are at least Facebook friends off the forums as well, and some are friends in real life.

I think you might had some unrealistic expectations.

I use to work with 2 women and we went out to lunch all the time. When they left my job, I'm Facebook friends but we don't hang out or really talk.

We were work friends.

Yeah, that's why I like Facebook. I like seeing what everyone's up to, but I'm an extreme introvert so I usually don't feel up to actually meeting up with them in person. It doesn't mean I don't care. I do. Sometimes it's just enough to pop them a note and let them know that someone's listening.

I think a friend is someone who cares about you. That's all.