Confession is good for the Hype. - - - Part 12

[Erzengel]

you didnt answer when i called

I told you no more booty calls.

 

[Golgo-13]

I confess that i'm addicted to soda; more specifically 'Canada Dry's' Ginger Ale.

Not Seagrams, not Schweppes…i can taste the difference…i has to be Canada Dry.

 

[E-Man]

Sorry for your loss E-Man.

Thanks. It's hurting really bad, but I am remembering a lot of the good times now with him.

 

[-Arya-]

I'm all out of sympathy. When I do care about something, other people tell me it's stupid and that I shouldn't bother. Then they tell me what I should be concerned about. Sometimes I agree with them and sometimes not. It leads to arguments, which is exhausting.

I try to help people out in the best ways that I can, and then others tell me that what I did was either stupid or counter productive or hypocritical.

I guess I'm supposed to either sit around and care about nothing but myself, or be dictated to by others what I should care about, and how and why. God knows most people don't seem to give a rat's rear end about anything but their own petty interests but I never knew that I had to seek a consensus either before trying to help a situation.

Depending upon the context, my advice would be to trust your intuition, ignore the negative comments you're receiving and continue to help others.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Depending upon the context, my advice would be to trust your intuition, ignore the negative comments you're receiving and continue to help others.

I used to bring used containers and papers home from work to be recycled. My father though that was stupid. I donated money to children in Africa and India and again, my father said that was a "ridiculous" thing to do. Granted I owed him money for college, but keep in mind, I have him halfway paid back...and he just had a vacation in Europe, then two months later in Mexico and just last week had new carpet and tiles installed. Excuse me if I dont think he is hurting. I also tried dating a black woman, who didnt like that I provided free education to the Kenyan girl because I was destroying the girl's culture.

The girl was one of ten kids in her family, I dont see how it was such a blow to her native culture.

 

[-Arya-]

I used to bring used containers and papers home from work to be recycled. My father though that was stupid. I donated money to children in Africa and India and again, my father said that was a "ridiculous" thing to do. Granted I owed him money for college, but keep in mind, I have him halfway paid back...and he just had a vacation in Europe, then two months later in Mexico and just last week had new carpet and tiles installed. Excuse me if I dont think he is hurting. I also tried dating a black woman, who didnt like that I provided free education to the Kenyan girl because I was destroying the girl's culture.

The girl was one of ten kids in her family, I dont see how it was such a blow to her native culture.

Your father seems awfully critical for no apparent reason. There is nothing stupid about what you were doing; all of it is perfectly sensible. Is there someone you can speak with who is more understanding? Perhaps a sibling or close friend?

 

[Hobgoblin]

Your father seems awfully critical for no apparent reason. There is nothing stupid about what you were doing; all of it is perfectly sensible. Is there someone you can speak with who is more understanding? Perhaps a sibling or close friend?

My brother takes after my father. My mother is dead and probably wouldn't have liked my donations to the charities either. My relatives aren't that sympathetic. My friends are busy with being married and parents. They prefer to talk about those things than my problems.

I do have my shrink, but I dont get to see him again until the summer. We only meet once a year.

 

[-Arya-]

My brother takes after my father. My mother is dead and probably wouldn't have liked my donations to the charities either. My relatives aren't that sympathetic. My friends are busy with being married and parents. They prefer to talk about those things than my problems.

I do have my shrink, but I dont get to see him again until the summer. We only meet once a year.

I'm sorry to hear that. Your friends should have the time to listen to your problems. There are many people I know who are married, have kids and yet have the time to discuss issues I may have.

In regards to your psychiatrist, I would not continue going if it is only once a year. It will not be effective for you.

 

[SpideyVille]

I confess that my dad has been trying to reach out to me a lot lately. It's been two years since I took that big road trip with my friend to go find him in Rhode Island, and even though he came to see my show a few months later, I never got back into contact with him. It's not so much because I hold the same anger and resentment towards him that I had in the past, but more because I don't want him to expect me to go visit him or something since he lives so far and now I'm busy with my show.

I really feel like a bad son though, even though he went so many years without even looking for me unless he needed something from my mom.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Sometimes...my smell reminds me of my grandfather.

 

[E-Man]

Sometimes...my smell reminds me of my grandfather.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Yup.

 

[MrMaooz]

I confess that my parents are forcing me to go to Pakistan over the summer. I told them that I really don't want to. It's been 10 years since I've last gone, and my parents were disappointed when I told them I don't want to go. They expect to be missing all my relatives there, when in reality, I know none of them.

 

[DarknessOfDeath]

I confess that I am bisexual...though this ain't news to me, I realized that a long time ago back in high school...but never admitted it until I came to grips with who I really am. Only a select few people know this.

 

[Superwoman Prime]

I confess that I am bisexual...though this ain't news to me, I realized that a long time ago back in high school...but never admitted it until I came to grips with who I really am. Only a select few people know this.

There's at the very least one other SHH poster you can relate to there.

 

[DarknessOfDeath]

And who's that?

 

[Warhammer]

I confess that my parents are forcing me to go to Pakistan over the summer. I told them that I really don't want to. It's been 10 years since I've last gone, and my parents were disappointed when I told them I don't want to go. They expect to be missing all my relatives there, when in reality, I know none of them.

I know how you feel. It may sound unappreciative and rude of me, but I am well aware I have family on my father's side that care for me and would love for me to visit. But in reality, I feel like a stranger to them because I can count on my hand how many times I've seen them. It's great when I am around them and I do feel like I belong at times, but after my parents' divorce when I was 8 or 9, we were never allowed the chance to form a solid bond. It also doesn't help that they live in another part of the country.

 

[Superwoman Prime]

And who's that?

me

You know, their name just left me. Sorry.

 

[DarknessOfDeath]

me

You know, their name just left me. Sorry.

Oh. No worries. It's okay.

 

[Superwoman Prime]

Confession: I have been going to bed at respectable times (9-12 PM).

 

[SpideyVille]

So I turn 25 today, and I kinda feel like I haven't accomplished nearly as much as I should have at this point in my life.

 

[SpideyVille]

So the cast of my show surprised me with a cake today at the end of rehearsal and it really made me kind of teary eyed. I've wished for someone to throw me a surprise on my birthday for so long that I finally gave up on it and expected nothing from anyone. So to see how a bunch of people who were practically strangers weeks ago have embraced me like this really make me happy and I'm tired of losing out on good friends because I'm so anti-social. I'm really looking to change that.

 

[Anubis]

Oh please, you can't start worrying about stuff you haven't accomplished until you're 35.

 

[charl_huntress]

I confess that my parents are forcing me to go to Pakistan over the summer. I told them that I really don't want to. It's been 10 years since I've last gone, and my parents were disappointed when I told them I don't want to go. They expect to be missing all my relatives there, when in reality, I know none of them.

Try to have fun, Maooz. You may just have some fun if you try.

 

[Anita18]

So I turn 25 today, and I kinda feel like I haven't accomplished nearly as much as I should have at this point in my life.

I think it's a give and take. I turned 30 last week and there are people my age who are already VPs where they are. A college roommate I had during one summer is doing just that. She's presenting at TEDx and has worked in a bunch of really big-name companies. Most of what I remember about her is that she was incredibly disciplined - she diligently studied for the LSAT at the same time every day and went to bed at the same time every night, so no wonder I haven't racked up as many accomplishments on paper as she has!

If you keep reading the "Top 30 ____ under 30" lists then yeah, they'd make you feel bad for sure. But then you look around and see folks who are doing dead-end jobs at 45 too. So it's all relative.

The most important thing is that you can enjoy yourself in whatever you're doing. It's really easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to others, that you don't enjoy your own journey. And that's what life is - it's a journey. You don't get a prize at the end for being the most accomplished whatever. You just have to find what makes you excited, and in doing that, you can inspire others as well.