Confession is good for the Hype. - - - - - - Part 15

[Erzengel]

I'm not a super private person but I rarely post anything personal on my public accounts except for food or vacation pictures. I have a few anonymous accounts across various social media outlets but there was a topic that came up about personal moments at a popular theme park with a employee, such as getting a free sticker or getting your picture taken with a character or just exemplary customer service. I have 3 experiences, technically 2 of those moments that we received, but after reading through a majority of the comments, I decided not to post about it. I fear others would use our experiences to force the theme park to do something similar for them because they read it online. If our experience happens to other people happen organically fine, but I don't want to put that thought into people's heads. I know that sounds weird but I do see a lot of entitlement online.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I'm not a super private person but I rarely post anything personal on my public accounts except for food or vacation pictures. I have a few anonymous accounts across various social media outlets but there was a topic that came up about personal moments at a popular theme park with a employee, such as getting a free sticker or getting your picture taken with a character or just exemplary customer service. I have 3 experiences, technically 2 of those moments that we received, but after reading through a majority of the comments, I decided not to post about it. I fear others would use our experiences to force the theme park to do something similar for them because they read it online. If our experience happens to other people happen organically fine, but I don't want to put that thought into people's heads. I know that sounds weird but I do see a lot of entitlement online.

That’s a considerate thing for you to do. If only all customers were so thoughtful.

A female coworker wants to be friends, invite me to bbq’s and asks for rides home. It would be fine if it weren’t for her very jealous boyfriend. I really don’t want to give her rides home anymore. Another coworker said he was treated the same way.

Another coworker implied today that she wanted to have babies with me. She asked my background and then was disappointed that it’s so similar to hers. Everything she says is sexual.

These are the people that I attract.

 

[InCali]

That’s a considerate thing for you to do. If only all customers were so thoughtful.

A female coworker wants to be friends, invite me to bbq’s and asks for rides home. It would be fine if it weren’t for her very jealous boyfriend. I really don’t want to give her rides home anymore. Another coworker said he was treated the same way.

Another coworker implied today that she wanted to have babies with me. She asked my background and then was disappointed that it’s so similar to hers. Everything she says is sexual.

These are the people that I attract.

I don't understand the whole jealousy thing. My experience is that if someone doesn't want to be with another, they generally find a way out. There are financial reasons for not splitting from someone you don't want to be with, but other than that, people leave the relationship.

My wife goes out to lunch with a male friend maybe once a month and they usually go for a walk afterwards and, you know what?, it's fine with me. She gets to have friends; both male and female.

People flirt. If you like them, great. If not, then you gently let them know. If you aren't comfortable going to BBQs or driving someone home after work, let them know why. I probably wouldn't care too much about jealous boyfriends, but on occasion, I guess they could present a real problem. My sense is that she'll probably get out from under his thumb at some point in the not so distant future. People generally don't stick with people like that unless there's some underlying reason.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I really have no idea what their relationship is like but it doesn’t seem good. I know they are both in rehab, so I think there may be some instability. The boyfriend just comes across as intimidating and aggressive.

I don’t want to be a jealous significant other either. Like you I think a woman should be able to have friends if both genders. Yes my ex wife cheated on me with a coworker that she was “just friends” with. I’m wiser now most likely I just picked the wrong person. Next time I’ll pick better.

 

[InCali]

I really have no idea what their relationship is like but it doesn’t seem good. I know they are both in rehab, so I think there may be some instability. The boyfriend just comes across as intimidating and aggressive.

I don’t want to be a jealous significant other either. Like you I think a woman should be able to have friends if both genders. Yes my ex wife cheated on me with a coworker that she was “just friends” with. I’m wiser now most likely I just picked the wrong person. Next time I’ll pick better.

Yeah.....that stuff happens, but it's really more their problem than it is yours. My wife tends to be a little bit (not too much) on the jealous side, but I just told her "Hey, look, if I fell in love with someone else and decided to leave, I'd just tell you in advance." We've been married a long time and I've never even had the inclination to get involved with someone else. Maybe it's a projection thing??

 

[Hobgoblin]

It depends a lot on how you feel about your partner and about yourself. She withdrew almost all affection from me, just enough to keep me in line. She felt like she could be with someone else without consequences. I resented the way she treated me and I liked it when other women seemed attracted to me. Sure, there was some temptation on my side but I didn’t let myself act on it. I was a grown man and in control of myself, not some hormonal teenager.

She and I even discussed cheating hypothetically and said if we found someone else we’d end the marriage. I think she just liked the thrill of getting away with something. So maybe a small amount of jealousy isn’t a bad thing. It protects you from people that you shouldn’t trust.

 

[Lily Adler]

I confess I don't know who Moby is and don't think I've ever heard one of his songs.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I confess I don't know who Moby is and don't think I've ever heard one of his songs.

South Side, he collaborated with Gwen Stefani. He also did Porcelain.


I used to like his stuff but I guess he fell out of favor because I haven’t heard anything from him in years. The fact that I don’t pay attention to new music has nothing to do with it.

 

[squeekness]

I confess I don't know who Moby is and don't think I've ever heard one of his songs.

His Extreme Ways was the final theme music for the first three Jason Bourne movies and my favorite of h>s.

 

[Cap2024]

It’s both a joy and a challenge (due to expectations) to work on a film that’s The Conjuring adjacent; that is to say the Warrens were involved and James Wan knows of the source material.

I know I can get this right though.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Women are certainly comfortable with telling me about their cycles.

 

[Lily Adler]

“Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.”​

― Mark Twain

We, however, are not onlookers

 

[ComicChick]

Women are certainly comfortable with telling me about their cycles.

at some point we just don't care anymore lol. depends on their age.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I’m mature about it but it’s like “why do they feel the need to tell me about that? Do I tell them about my bodily functions?”

They’re all in their twenties.

 

[InCali]

I’m mature about it but it’s like “why do they feel the need to tell me about that? Do I tell them about my bodily functions?”

They’re all in their twenties.

Dude.....I hate to break it to you, but that's a good thing.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Are you serious?

 

[InCali]

Are you serious?

Dead serious.....I can explain in detail if necessary.

It's a little bit late, but

 

[Hobgoblin]

Dead serious.....I can explain in detail if necessary.

It's a little bit late, but

Use finger puppets.

 

[Lily Adler]

I’m mature about it but it’s like “why do they feel the need to tell me about that? Do I tell them about my bodily functions?”

They’re all in their twenties.

Well on heavier months...

 

[GunBlade]

I confess past online "friends" cross my mind whenever I log in.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I confess past online "friends" cross my mind whenever I log in.

Same here. I consider connecting to people that I haven’t seen in decades and then I change my mind.

 

[Erzengel]

I’m mature about it but it’s like “why do they feel the need to tell me about that? Do I tell them about my bodily functions?”

They’re all in their twenties.

They see you as one of the "girls" or safe enough to say stuff around you.

 

[InCali]

They see you as one of the "girls" or safe enough to say stuff around you.

I don't think that's exactly the case. For whatever reason, women have generally been very comfortable talking to me about menstrual cycles, old affairs, (wanted and unwanted) pregnancies, and so on and it wasn't because they saw me as one of the girls. My best guess is that is came down to them trusting me and wanting to share how they were feeling.

EDIT: Missed the "safe" part of your post. That's been my experience. Trust/safe is about right.

 

[MissMarvelous]

In my case, it's not the other person... but rather: I'm comfortable talking about it aloud. And that's it.

The topic? Everything: sex, period/s, relationships, self-love, scary health issues or worries, really everything. Well, except politics.

But one must learn to read the room and stop the conversation if the other person is getting uncomfortable with the topic.

 

[Lily Adler]

In my case, it's not the other person... but rather: I'm comfortable talking about it aloud. And that's it.

The topic? Everything: sex, period/s, relationships, self-love, scary health issues or worries, really everything. Well, except politics.

But one must learn to read the room and stop the conversation if the other person is getting uncomfortable with the topic.

What is love?