Lord of the Advice: Fellowship of the Relationship

[Anita18]

I didn't mean to say that you should respond, all I meant is that I probably wouldn't be able to just cut her out completely cold turkey like that, and that after 4 years you should have some sort of emotional response to her doing what she did, and not just being all "well whatevs, I don't care, on to the next one"

Yeah, it can be hard. When I broke up with my ex-bf, he was studying abroad so it was very easy, relatively. I couldn't see him even if I wanted to. When he came back it was still very awkward, but I made the best of it. It's not really about ignoring the other person if the relationship ended amicably. You just need space to figure out what's best for you emotionally.

 

[Paroxysm]

What base is it if a chick looks at you then looks away quickly?

 

[Hound55]

It means she saw you in her peripherals, then on second glance caught just how ugly you are and looked away as if to try not to stare...

 

[Anita18]

She's seeing if you're still staring at her.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Whenever a girl looks right at you try not to break eye contact or look away.

 

[Erzengel]

Then mouth the words...you're dead.....

 

[terry78]

"God, he was ugly....let me pretend to be looking at something else so he couldn't see me metaphorically retching in horror."

 

[L.A.]

My ex just text me she misses me with all of our old pics. Man this is tough

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

My ex just text me she misses me with all of our old pics. Man this is tough

I'm sure it is. Tough it out. Just relax, listen to music, get drunk, do 'other' things, [blackout]*********e to anime,[/blackout] whatever. Just get your mind off of it and don't respond. At all.

 

[Erzengel]

My ex just text me she misses me with all of our old pics. Man this is tough

Stay on target.....

 

[Anubis]

It means she saw you in her peripherals, then on second glance caught just how ugly you are and looked away as if to try not to stare...

 

[Daniel Thompson]

This chick I went to the bar with last night really was acting a fool. She got drunk off 2 teleports and tried to convince men that she was not a dude cause she got a raspy voice. She got teased as a kid for her raspy voice and think that people think she a dude. She not a dude and she is a women, but with a raspy voice.

She stepped on two guys foot, argued with the secruity guard to let her back in but he would not cause she was drunk and I had to walk her home with her trying to kiss me and convince me to have sex with her. So I took her home and went to my house.

Now I can never show my face at that bar again cause people there think that I'm aclown now for going to the bar with her, even though we was just friends. I cannot even tell you the other horror crap that she did. I feel like will smith from his song girls in the world aint nothing but trouble, bad luck with females continues.

 

[Erzengel]

You should of had sex with her. That would have showed her.

 

[Daniel Thompson]

^ She not an attractive chick really.

 

[Anita18]

My ex just text me she misses me with all of our old pics. Man this is tough

Great, now she's stooped down to begging and manipulating you like a 2-year-old. Now you have to treat her like one. If you let her get away with it, she WILL take advantage of you again.

Women like that give women in general a bad name! Some of us really are sane and act like adults, I promise.

 

[L.A.]

Well I didn't respond to her text and now she text me ok I guess you don't want to talk to me anymore. I'm sorry

 

[terry78]

Well I didn't respond to her text and now she text me ok I guess you don't want to talk to me anymore. I'm sorry

She'll be back. Women can't stand being ignored.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

She'll be back. Women can't stand being ignored.

Truth.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

This chick I went to the bar with last night really was acting a fool. She got drunk off 2 teleports and tried to convince men that she was not a dude cause she got a raspy voice. She got teased as a kid for her raspy voice and think that people think she a dude. She not a dude and she is a women, but with a raspy voice.

She stepped on two guys foot, argued with the secruity guard to let her back in but he would not cause she was drunk and I had to walk her home with her trying to kiss me and convince me to have sex with her. So I took her home and went to my house.

Now I can never show my face at that bar again cause people there think that I'm aclown now for going to the bar with her, even though we was just friends. I cannot even tell you the other horror crap that she did. I feel like will smith from his song girls in the world aint nothing but trouble, bad luck with females continues.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I don't get what she's doing.

What does she think you texting her back will achieve? Does she think she's going to win you back by TEXTING that she misses you?

My god that's weak!

If someone really wanted to fight for you, they'd be trying a little bit harder than that.

I'd say she actually hasn't accepted it's over. It's almost like she's just expecting that you'll come to your senses, and she's just trying to encourage you to get there quicker.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

What base is it if a chick looks at you then looks away quickly?

It depends if she looks away to the side, OR if she looks down when breaking eye contact.

This is based on my experience.

If she looks down, go talk to her. Likely she is interested, but too intimidated to make contact. I've had much better results with getting numbers from girls who did just that. On the first date they might even say "I can't believe you talked to me, I was like omg he is talking to me, what do I do?"

Looking away to the side shows less interest. It does not mean you cannot get her number, and actually make something of it, but I find this to be more mixed results, and more often a miss than a hit.

 

[L.A.]

I don't get what she's doing.

What does she think you texting her back will achieve? Does she think she's going to win you back by TEXTING that she misses you?

My god that's weak!

If someone really wanted to fight for you, they'd be trying a little bit harder than that.

I'd say she actually hasn't accepted it's over. It's almost like she's just expecting that you'll come to your senses, and she's just trying to encourage you to get there quicker.

And what Burns me the most she still hasn't accepted responsibilities for her actions and apologize

 

[The Guard]

Nor is she likely to, unless she gets desperate, at which point she will use it as a manipulation tactic. People rarely accept being the bad guy.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Feeling pretty gutted right now.

As I said a few pages back, my Mum and her boyfriend of 10 years are in the process of seperating right now. He's still been living there, she's still cooking the meals, still washing and ironing his clothes and they still been kissing hello and goodbye. Basically they were ending on good terms... Well as good as these things can end when a woman decides it's over because the man won't admit that the relationship isn't working.

And then last night she found out he's been seeing another woman for a month now behind her back.

What a complete idiot.

Couldn't he wait? Couldn't he at least move out and wait for the relationship to be actually over first? Is he really so pathetically incapable of looking after himself that he had to set himself up with another woman he could sponge off of and depend upon straight away?

My mum had given him an out from the relationship. It was going to end with him still the good guy and my relationship with him would have been unaffected, and I'd still be quite happy to treat him like a Dad like I have most of my life.

And now... Well he's not called me or spoken to me once in the last month... So I guess moving on from my mum, and getting with this new woman... I guess that means moving on from me too.

Well he can stuff it. He's not my Dad, he's just some knob.

And what Burns me the most she still hasn't accepted responsibilities for her actions and apologize

*****.

Seriously, she's not apologized? And she thinks you should get back together?

She doesn't care about your feelings at all does she?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

And what Burns me the most she still hasn't accepted responsibilities for her actions and apologize

The fact that you report this stuff here irks me. I understand this is tough but quit f***ing talking about her. Just don't say her name or make reference to her at all. You're not doing yourself any favors belaboring over it. It's over, it's done, you've made your decision so there's no need to even entertain the subject anymore. You won't forget about it and get over it if you keep bringing it up.