Confession is good for the Hype. - - Part 11

[SpideyVille]

I confess that part of the reason why I didn't want to work with my sister-in-law was because I wanted to say that I went out and got a job on my own without any help. I feel like the only reason I got this job was because she helped me with the recommendation and she lied on my resume to look like I was qualified. That isn't exactly how I wanted to go about getting my first job.

I applied for a job at a media production company today and I really, really hope to get it.

It'll be so nice to not spend the summer cleaning tables and actually have a job in the field I'm interested in.

Fingers crossed.

Good luck, hope you hear from them soon.

 

[ComicChick]

you can't let pride hold you back

this is a chance for you to make money, save up and move out of your mother's house. that's a positive

 

[SpideyVille]

you can't let pride hold you back

this is a chance for you to make money, save up and move out of your mother's house. that's a positive

Yeah, I've been thinking about that the most. At the the day, no matter what personal issues I have to deal with, like working with her, or commuting for almost 2 hours, or anything else, there seems to be a real reward. I've been trying to do the calculations, but if I were to save up, I think I could pretty much move out by the end of the year. But I'm starting to realize that I haven't thought about other things like buying furniture and utilities, so that still might be too soon, but at least its a start.

 

[Manic]

I'm extremely terrible at comforting people, which is making it very difficult to talk to my mother while my grandmother (my mother's mother) slowly slips away from us. My mom comes to me and talks about what's on her mind, and she just starts crying. I have no idea what to say. I don't even know how the hell I'm keeping myself together at this point.

 

[SpideyVille]

I'm extremely terrible at comforting people, which is making it very difficult to talk to my mother while my grandmother (my mother's mother) slowly slips away from us. My mom comes to me and talks about what's on her mind, and she just starts crying. I have no idea what to say. I don't even know how the hell I'm keeping myself together at this point.

I'm sorry to hear about this. I was going through something similar with my mom this past month after my dog died. I took it rough for about a week, but then I distracted myself enough to not think about it, but then my mom suddenly took it really hard and was looking for something or someone to blame because she couldn't accept that she was gone.

Me and my mom don't along well either so it was hard to try and comfort her, but I think the only thing you can do is just be there for her. When she talks, just listen and hug her when she cries. You don't necessarily have to say anything to make her feel better, but if you want to, try to remind her that this is just a part of life and that your grandmother will be going to some place better where she won't be suffering anymore. I mean, it sucks to hear that, especially when you're in a position where you feel powerless, but its the truth. Just try to be there for your mother and ensure her that everything will be okay and that you'll all stick together no matter what happens, and just try to cherish any last moments while you still can with your grandmother. And again, I'm sorry to hear about you going through this situation.

 

[Anita18]

I confess that part of the reason why I didn't want to work with my sister-in-law was because I wanted to say that I went out and got a job on my own without any help. I feel like the only reason I got this job was because she helped me with the recommendation and she lied on my resume to look like I was qualified. That isn't exactly how I wanted to go about getting my first job.

An opportunity is an opportunity.

I found out that one of my HS English teachers made stuff up when writing college recommendations for me. I'm not sure if her recommendations was the make or break, but now here's your chance to prove yourself.

I'm finding opportunities because I chose to be in the right place at the right time. I'm certainly not the most qualified, but if I have the passion and interest to put myself in the right place at the right time, I'm not gonna begrudge myself the opportunity if I come across them.

And yeah, moving out on your own is always more expensive than you first expect it to be. Rent is definitely the biggest expense though. Utilities are a recurring expense, but in my experience, even if you're living on your own, food will be a bigger expense. At least you wouldn't have to worry about car payments/insurance/registration/gas. Having a car adds up quickly.

NYC car insurance is ridiculous, for one. Especially if you're a young male.

 

[Anita18]

I'm extremely terrible at comforting people, which is making it very difficult to talk to my mother while my grandmother (my mother's mother) slowly slips away from us. My mom comes to me and talks about what's on her mind, and she just starts crying. I have no idea what to say. I don't even know how the hell I'm keeping myself together at this point.

People often aren't looking for people to talk to. They just want people to listen and not judge them. You can just listen and that's enough.

Sorry to hear about your grandmother. It was really hard when my mom's mom passed away, and later my mom's dog. She appreciated that we were there for her, even if we didn't know what to say.

 

[SpideyVille]

An opportunity is an opportunity.

I found out that one of my HS English teachers made stuff up when writing college recommendations for me. I'm not sure if her recommendations was the make or break, but now here's your chance to prove yourself.

I'm finding opportunities because I chose to be in the right place at the right time. I'm certainly not the most qualified, but if I have the passion and interest to put myself in the right place at the right time, I'm not gonna begrudge myself the opportunity if I come across them.

And yeah, moving out on your own is always more expensive than you first expect it to be. Rent is definitely the biggest expense though. Utilities are a recurring expense, but in my experience, even if you're living on your own, food will be a bigger expense. At least you wouldn't have to worry about car payments/insurance/registration/gas. Having a car adds up quickly.

NYC car insurance is ridiculous, for one. Especially if you're a young male.

Yeah, the ironic thing is that she offered me this position about two years ago, when I still had one last semester left of classes to take. I chose to finish that semester, which lead to me meeting some people and getting into acting, which I think helped me gain a new outlook at life, as well as some self-confidence. But there's still part of me that wonders if I should have taken the job back then.

And as reluctant as I've sounded these past few days, I am very excited to just start and get into the hang of things. I just want to get this transition period over with already. And I must admit, the idea of having money in my pocket sure does sound like a great thing. I want to be wise with it though, so I'll try to start small and get into the habit of buying the little things I need. This past year has allowed me to learn how to live with a limited budget, so I hope I can continue to save at a rate where I never have to feel like I really need to depend on my next paycheck. Bad enough I just realized how much I'll need to spend on transportation alone. It won't be much once I get my paycheck, but right now, I barely have enough to get there for this week.

 

[Warhammer]

I confess that after a falling out (not an actual fight, but an accumulation of events) with a friend who was like a sister to me, I am completely fine with us not being friends anymore. I've just become so annoyed with her. For some reason, I feel it would be considered wrong that I feel no remorse for nearly cutting her off completely. I personally don't think it's wrong, but I feel like everyone else would view it as wrong.

I also confess that maybe I am too cold of a person for doing something like that.

 

[sabetoonth]

Meh, I've done it too a good number of people in the last few years. There's just really nothing worth holding onto them in pretty much every case.

 

[Warhammer]

My problem with that is I will look like the bad guy. This girl is a projector of blame. I was always viewed as the bad guy. I guess I care so much because I don't fancy being defamed.

 

[Bruce Banner]

I confess I went out with my high school crush Saturday. Despite feeling a lot more worn down and jaded lately, I had a moment that day that made me feel like a teenager again.

 

[sabetoonth]

Rock on, compadre

 

[SpideyVille]

I started my first day of work today and I already want to quit. Not because I don't like the job, but because I hate the commuting. It took me an hour to get there but over two hours to get back.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

I confess that I sometimes think there's a very thin line between strength and naivety.

 

[Matt Mortem]

I confess that I'm terrified by Grigori Rasputin. Scariest eyes of any person alive or dead

 

[Manic]

I confess that I'm terrified by Grigori Rasputin. Scariest eyes of any person alive or dead

True, but Watchmen and his work on Marvelman are legendary.

 

[Matt Mortem]

True, but Watchmen and his work on Marvelman are legendary.

 

[Anita18]

I started my first day of work today and I already want to quit. Not because I don't like the job, but because I hate the commuting. It took me an hour to get there but over two hours to get back.

Unfortunately, that's the reality of A LOT of people in large cities. My best friend and her husband commute 30 miles one way on the worst freeway in Los Angeles every day for their jobs. In good traffic it takes 40 minutes. In bad traffic, closer to 2 hours. Unfortunately that's the best they can do - they work 60 miles apart and they decided to suffer equally.

At least you aren't the one driving? Pack a book, prep some good music, get some earplugs and sleep, don't just wallow in it if you have the chance to distract yourself. When I'm stuck in traffic I can only listen to good music, I can't even read or take a nap!

Keep your eye on the prize. If you quit this job, how long will it take for you to get a new one? How much longer will you live at home with a mom who doesn't appreciate you?

 

[SpideyVille]

Unfortunately, that's the reality of A LOT of people in large cities. My best friend and her husband commute 30 miles one way on the worst freeway in Los Angeles every day for their jobs. In good traffic it takes 40 minutes. In bad traffic, closer to 2 hours. Unfortunately that's the best they can do - they work 60 miles apart and they decided to suffer equally.

At least you aren't the one driving? Pack a book, prep some good music, get some earplugs and sleep, don't just wallow in it if you have the chance to distract yourself. When I'm stuck in traffic I can only listen to good music, I can't even read or take a nap!

Keep your eye on the prize. If you quit this job, how long will it take for you to get a new one? How much longer will you live at home with a mom who doesn't appreciate you?

Yeah I know. It's just that by the time I got home last night, I felt like I barely had time to eat and digest before it was finally time to go sleep. And its such a big change for me because I've spent the past year without any obligations to be some place, and even before that, all of my schools were within walking distance to my house, so I was able to avoid long bus/train rides for many years.

I have my mind on the prize, but it just feels like my mind and body are at war with each others and it feels like too much to handle at times, especially since I've very particular with my time and how much I try to get out of it.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah I know. It's just that by the time I got home last night, I felt like I barely had time to eat and digest before it was finally time to go sleep. And its such a big change for me because I've spent the past year without any obligations to be some place, and even before that, all of my schools were within walking distance to my house, so I was able to avoid long bus/train rides for many years.

I have my mind on the prize, but it just feels like my mind and body are at war with each others and it feels like too much to handle at times, especially since I've very particular with my time and how much I try to get out of it.

It's only your first day! Wait until you're months in.

Are the hours really that long? Even though my friend has long commute times, she still has a few hours after dinner to write and catch up on TV shows.

Or are you one of those people who need A LOT of sleep? It seems like I can survive on half the amount of sleep my husband gets.

 

[Anubis]

Oh my God, dude, quit your damn whining. This is what it means to be an adult. Your life from before is pretty much over. 9 times outta 10 you'll always be working a job you hate just for the money in your pocket. And what was that boos**t about not wanting a handout? Don't you know that that's how the effin' world works? There is no getting a job on your own. Not anymore. Hell, not ever really. You know somebody that can help you get a job you f**king take it!

Besides, once you get your first pay check, you'll get over that s**t.

 

[James]

I confess that I'm terrified by Grigori Rasputin. Scariest eyes of any person alive or dead

That is one interesting dude! I just did a little reading on him and his death is quite the tale. Evidently he was poisoned, shot four times and beaten, but it wasn't until the assassins tossed him into the water that he finally up and died -from drowning. That's nuts!

Also, apparently a short time after being buried a group of people took Rasputin's remains and burned them. According to those who watched it burn, the body sat up and moved around, understandably freaking the heck out of everyone there. This is explained by the tendons tightening during death, loosening (due to "improper cremation" and causing the bodies hips and legs to move, giving the appearance of someone trying to stand. Even knowing that, I would still crap my pantaloons.

 

[Duke]

I confess that I'm terrified by Grigori Rasputin. Scariest eyes of any person alive or dead

LOL. The dude has been dead for 97 years & he won't be coming back. Nothing to fear there.

 

[Bruce Banner]

Rock on, compadre

Thanks, Captain.

Hope all has been good for you.