Confession is good for the Hype. - - Part 11

[Duke]

I made the mistake of drinking 2 Red Bulls on the same day, later on I had a stomach ache, suffice to say, never again.

 

[Warhammer]

I think you have way too high expectations for people and misinterpret acts of kindness for general affection. Not to mention, you seem to get attached way too quickly. I've had work friends before. We'd go out and eat together, and maybe occassionally hang out after work but that was it.

I'd drop that girl like a bad habit. The worst thing one can ever do to another person is to make them feel cheated. This girl sounds like she saw a good thing and took advantage of it. Then it was on to the next one just like that.

The strangest part is that he thinks they taste good.

I've had two friends who became addicted to Bawls probably 6 years ago. They drank that damn s*** everyday. I will admit. It was rather tasty. Too much guarana will f*** you up.

 

[nouan]

Did I err?

 

[nite-owl]

I confess I believe England's greatest Prime Minister is Lord Palmerston.

 

[Erzengel]

Pitt the Elder!!!

 

[gohei_]

There's no shortage of news stories out there about people who ended up in the hospital because they drank too many energy drinks per day, everyday. Get ahold of yourself before you end up becoming one of them.

Yeah, you're probably right.

The strangest part is that he thinks they taste good.

Why is that strange? You don't know which one I'm talking about, and it's not like they all taste the same.

 

[Warhammer]

I confess that there is a FB thread for students at my college that need rides. There is this BAD ASS girl who needs a ride to where I'm going tomorrow. I'm contemplating volunteering to take her home.

 

[gohei_]

I confess that there is a FB thread for students at my college that need rides. There is this BAD ASS girl who needs a ride to where I'm going tomorrow. I'm contemplating volunteering to take her home.

Do it man!

 

[SpideyVille]

I think you have way too high expectations for people and misinterpret acts of kindness for general affection. Not to mention, you seem to get attached way too quickly. I've had work friends before. We'd go out and eat together, and maybe occassionally hang out after work but that was it.

You see, in general I agree that that is an issue, so I can't argue much there. But I feel like this is a real case where the other person has to take some of the blame. I mean, I didn't have too many expectations going in, but I was pleasantly surprised with how well things were going with the friendship, and after a while certain things just felt like they were a daily routine. Like I wouldn't even have to ask her or her friend for a ride after work because she would just offer it herself, and even after I tried giving her money to pay for gas, she would never accept it and said it was her pleasure. But now she doesn't even wait up for me, and when I ask why she leaves so soon, she comes up with BS excuses like she thought I was in a meeting or something.

But the straw that has really broken the camel's back is that we made many plans for things to do together, one being that I would teach her how to use her camera while she would teach me how to take better pictures, but she's been very flaky about it lately. But yet, she goes and talks about how much she hates the new guy in her office and stuff, yet I found out she went to a wedding with him this weekend that he was photographing, since that's his side job. And it just makes me feel like she's lying about how she really feels and is only telling me the things that she thinks I want to hear to make me feel better. According to every one in my family who has known her for years, that's exactly what she does to everyone. So now I'm just caught in between whether or not this is a friendship worth fighting for, or if I should just give it up completely.

 

[Warhammer]

Do it man!

Done.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

Why is that strange? You don't know which one I'm talking about, and it's not like they all taste the same.

No two cats' piss is the same, but it's still piss.

 

[Erzengel]

You see, in general I agree that that is an issue, so I can't argue much there. But I feel like this is a real case where the other person has to take some of the blame. I mean, I didn't have too many expectations going in, but I was pleasantly surprised with how well things were going with the friendship, and after a while certain things just felt like they were a daily routine. Like I wouldn't even have to ask her or her friend for a ride after work because she would just offer it herself, and even after I tried giving her money to pay for gas, she would never accept it and said it was her pleasure. But now she doesn't even wait up for me, and when I ask why she leaves so soon, she comes up with BS excuses like she thought I was in a meeting or something.

But the straw that has really broken the camel's back is that we made many plans for things to do together, one being that I would teach her how to use her camera while she would teach me how to take better pictures, but she's been very flaky about it lately. But yet, she goes and talks about how much she hates the new guy in her office and stuff, yet I found out she went to a wedding with him this weekend that he was photographing, since that's his side job. And it just makes me feel like she's lying about how she really feels and is only telling me the things that she thinks I want to hear to make me feel better. According to every one in my family who has known her for years, that's exactly what she does to everyone. So now I'm just caught in between whether or not this is a friendship worth fighting for, or if I should just give it up completely.

It just seems like this "friendship" is one sided, and you're investing way too much energy rehashing it in your head and obviously in real life.

I mean if she doesn't want to give you a ride regardless of how many rides she gave you in the past, stop asking.

If you constantly have to ask her to hang out and spend time together, and she doesn't even bother? Stop asking.

You just have to stop obsessing over things like that. You can only put the ball in somebody's court so many times.

Go to work. Do your job. If she comes up to you fine. If you pass her, say hi, talk for a second. But stop, chasing after them for validation of your friendship.

 

[James]

I confess when I'm parking the pallet-jack at work into a tight spot, I often like to pretend I'm docking a giant space ship.

 

[Warhammer]

I confess when I'm parking the pallet-jack at work into a tight spot, I often like to pretend I'm docking a giant space ship.

 

[nite-owl]

Pitt the Elder!!!

 

[Superman 1265]

I confess that when DarkSovereignty posts, I can't help but be mesmerized by his avy for a minute or two.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

I don't like badass, or the $#%^ as compliments

 

[KevanG]

Done.

Don't forget to tell her that your nickname is Warhammer. I'm sure she'll dig that once you explain it.

 

[jonathancrane]

Another failure.

I tried a better attempt at finding someone:

-proximity
-similar interests
-less FBook dependency

but, she has stopped talking to me. I have no idea why; I avoided politics, religion, and talking about myself, and kept the communication at a fluid rate: not overwhelming/smothering, but consistent, to show that I did care to hear/read what she thought.


It is at points like this that I really believe I blew my chance at happiness years ago.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

'Sounds like you tried too hard to control the environment. Stuff like that's supposed to come natural, even if it does result in you talking about yourself.

 

[jonathancrane]

'Sounds like you tried too hard to control the environment. Stuff like that's supposed to come natural, even if it does result in you talking about yourself.

You are correct.

I tried to follow all of the advice I was given by multiple sources and personal experience (I had one date end horribly when I let slip that I liked Lovecraft's fiction. Her final words still pierce me as sharply and coldly as they did then: "Lovecraft was a racist f***.")

 

[The Original Bamfer]

So you've had a few bad apples... keep picking, just don't pick too hard. Be yourself and if it doesn't work out, move on and don't blame yourself. But finding someone who makes you happy isn't happiness, you've got to find that in yourself. If you don't, you never will be happy.

 

[jonathancrane]

So you've had a few bad apples... keep picking, just don't pick too hard. Be yourself and if it doesn't work out, move on and don't blame yourself. But finding someone who makes you happy isn't happiness, you've got to find that in yourself. If you don't, you never will be happy.

Thanks.

 

[SpideyVille]

So you've had a few bad apples... keep picking, just don't pick too hard. Be yourself and if it doesn't work out, move on and don't blame yourself. But finding someone who makes you happy isn't happiness, you've got to find that in yourself. If you don't, you never will be happy.

As some who is 24 and has never had a girlfriend, I will co-sign this. I've had my own share of bad experiences, and most of the time it was because of this kind of thinking. I spent most of my life looking for someone who would love me and make me feel better about myself, but I learned a while ago that the only person who can do that is yourself, and its something I have to continuously remind myself of because its easy to fall in the trap of meeting someone and depending on the feeling that you get when you're around them. Sort of like the friendship I mentioned here in one of my latest posts.

 

[Victarion]

I made the mistake of drinking 2 Red Bulls on the same day, later on I had a stomach ache, suffice to say, never again.

I've only gotten that from one of those coffee-flavored energy drinks. I think it was a Monster with Starbucks blended in. Disgusting. I confess that I once downed 12 cups of black coffee, and chased it later with a Monster Zero.