Raiders of the Official Relationship Thread

[SuperSoldier985]

I signed up at two more online dating sites..

I seem to be a favorite of the hoodrat variety..

 

[bullets]

Yeah working 300 miles away and seeing each other every few weeks is FAR more preferable than being deployed. At least I know my bf is not being shot at!

One of my classmates last semester had a bf who was a Marine. She quite cheerily said, "He's coming back from deployment in a couple weeks! It went fine, he only almost died once!" I was like, "Girl...you are even more optimistic than I am, and that's saying something!"

I would always carry on with my girlfriend at the time as if nothing could happen. I'd joke about dying from heat exhaustion in the desert but that was the extent. So that way it never got too depressing when I wrote or called. I spent a year in Iraq and she told me "never again" when I got back, lol. ... Unfortunately the relationship fell apart over the next few months and I moved back home without her.

I signed up at two more online dating sites..

I seem to be a favorite of the hoodrat variety..

I get messages from some ugly women but try not to be rude. I usually tell them I'm there to read the forums. I got a message from some obese girl . Her profile pic was her laying on a bed with a sourpuss on her face I told her to change her profile pic and then I had to block her because she kept messaging me . I thought she was trolling at first , I couldn't believe it.

 

[Anita18]

I get messages from some ugly women but try not to be rude. I usually tell them I'm there to read the forums. I got a message from some obese girl . Her profile pic was her laying on a bed with a sourpuss on her face I told her to change her profile pic and then I had to block her because she kept messaging me . I thought she was trolling at first , I couldn't believe it.

If I'm not interested I usually don't bother replying. I mean, I was going into PoF every like, two weeks anyway. They'd probably forgotten about messaging me.

I did get one guy who kept on messaging me going, "Why haven't you replied? You're really missing out you know!" so I blocked him.

 

[LOBO3315a]

Sorry about that Anita, I won't do that again.

 

[Hound55]

Sorry about that Anita, I won't do that again.

Quoted so you can read the apology...













...and because every joke should be played up to a little more.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

I'm am starting to think I should just avoid relationships for the time being, go back to being a crazy vodka swillin' pot smokin/eatin street wanderer, meeting random people and fighting crime where it may cross my path on my days off.
I would join a monesary, but I have a funny shaped head. Anyway, I definitely think there would be a big pharmacutical market for penis pills that , y'know, take all the sexual desire out of your penis, just to take time off from the whole deal. Unless, they already sell those kinds of pills, if they do I would appreciate a link. this is not a joke post, hook me up if such pills exist please.
I don't know, is God alright with me living like this on my days off? Or whoever says what goes? Any priests on the forum? link please.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I signed up at two more online dating sites..

I seem to be a favorite of the hoodrat variety..

On POF, I'm a favorite of the fatty variety.

(I'm not talking the kinda cute, still pull it off and look good type either. )

 

[Erzengel]

I'm am starting to think I should just avoid relationships for the time being, go back to being a crazy vodka swillin' pot smokin/eatin street wanderer, meeting random people and fighting crime where it may cross my path on my days off.
I would join a monesary, but I have a funny shaped head. Anyway, I definitely think there would be a big pharmacutical market for penis pills that , y'know, take all the sexual desire out of your penis, just to take time off from the whole deal. Unless, they already sell those kinds of pills, if they do I would appreciate a link. this is not a joke post, hook me up if such pills exist please.
I don't know, is God alright with me living like this on my days off? Or whoever says what goes? Any priests on the forum? link please.

I'm not sure you ever mentioned it, but how long were you with the last person you dated?

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I'm am starting to think I should just avoid relationships for the time being, go back to being a crazy vodka swillin' pot smokin/eatin street wanderer, meeting random people and fighting crime where it may cross my path on my days off.
I would join a monesary, but I have a funny shaped head. Anyway, I definitely think there would be a big pharmacutical market for penis pills that , y'know, take all the sexual desire out of your penis, just to take time off from the whole deal. Unless, they already sell those kinds of pills, if they do I would appreciate a link. this is not a joke post, hook me up if such pills exist please.
I don't know, is God alright with me living like this on my days off? Or whoever says what goes? Any priests on the forum? link please.

You want to know how to shut off your sex drive?

That is Easy, birth control pills.

They will shut down a males sex drive very quickly.

Type E2 Oestrogen, Estradiol, will signal your brain to stop producing LH and FSH, and then your testes stop producing testosterone until the LH and FSH signal is turned back on.

Your skin will get soft, and you may be more emotional, but your penis will not be bothering you with any ideas.

 

[Erzengel]

And rely on your brain to do the thinking?

What kind of effed up idea is that?

 

[SuperMike335!!]

On POF, I'm a favorite of the fatty variety.

(I'm not talking the kinda cute, still pull it off and look good type either. )

LOL, ok, I've seen quite a few posts here with guys lamenting about getting e-mails from obese women, but not thinner ones.

Basic human sexual market. Those females who are less physically desirable do not get as many e-mails as the pretty ones.

The result is the ones who get less attention are going to have to go out an message guys themselves, that is all it is. They send lots of men massages.

Pretty girls do NOT have to send out as many e-mails, as they are busy sorting over all the e-mails they get sent every day. They are busy picking and choosing from men who send them messages, they don't have to send them.

This means that 9/10 of the random e-mails you get from a woman will be less attractive, weather it be having an extra 50 pounds, ugly face, or being a single mom.

Ladies, don't kill the messenger, I didn't make the cruel rules of the human mating market, I just observe and report. If you think you can explain it better go ahead.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

And rely on your brain to do the thinking?

What kind of effed up idea is that?

Well, it looks like his penis and his brain are not getting along too well, they both want different things. The brain end was asked what he could do to make it shut up.

Now if you are the other way around, and you think you should listen to your penis more, then the hromone of choice is my personal favorite:

This stuff will turn our Penis into a Sith Lord with powerful mind control ability.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

On POF, I'm a favorite of the fatty variety.

(I'm not talking the kinda cute, still pull it off and look good type either. )

I know Anita met her boyfriend on POF and that's great. However, I'm still a believer in "You get what you pay for".

 

[The Squirrel]

I've paid for eharmony before and I got nothing.

 

[steintym]

Anyone try one of those Ashley Madison or Cougar dating sites? Maybe gain a little knowledge and confidence from the experience with an older woman.

 

[Anita18]

You want to know how to shut off your sex drive?

That is Easy, birth control pills.

They will shut down a males sex drive very quickly.

Type E2 Oestrogen, Estradiol, will signal your brain to stop producing LH and FSH, and then your testes stop producing testosterone until the LH and FSH signal is turned back on.

Your skin will get soft, and you may be more emotional, but your penis will not be bothering you with any ideas.

For women, a typical side effect is also bigger boobs. Dubious that's an improvement for guys though.

I know Anita met her boyfriend on POF and that's great. However, I'm still a believer in "You get what you pay for".

And I messaged him first too. (He disagrees, but I'm always right on these things. )

Well, it takes patience. Some of you guys have been there less than a week. It took me three years to find him and countless weeding out of messages. I didn't whine or complain about getting ugly guys, I just kept going. You guys frankly don't have any real battle scars to complain about yet!

It's like the old saying: fast/cheap/good, pick two.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm not one of the most patient people around but 3 years on a dating site?

I'd expect to be on date like within 2-3 months of joining and actively pursuing something.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

For women, a typical side effect is also bigger boobs. Dubious that's an improvement for guys though.

And I messaged him first too. (He disagrees, but I'm always right on these things. )

Well, it takes patience. Some of you guys have been there less than a week. It took me three years to find him and countless weeding out of messages. I didn't whine or complain about getting ugly guys, I just kept going. You guys frankly don't have any real battle scars to complain about yet!

It's like the old saying: fast/cheap/good, pick two.

My girlfriend messaged me first. Didn't take three years though, I think it was more like 5 months, with a number of dates before that. I actually think my ex-girlfriend was the one that messaged me first also during my first go around on eHarmony, I know I met her at around the two month mark.

 

[Anita18]

I'm not one of the most patient people around but 3 years on a dating site?

I'd expect to be on date like within 2-3 months of joining and actively pursuing something.

LOL of course I'd been on other dates before I met my bf. It's just that they didn't go anywhere.

It is what it is, I'm not one to go whining about my lot in life if I don't get what I want right away. Besides, this was all after my Craigslist personals ad fiasco (with 1000 responses and about 5 dates with no bf), so I had already accepted I was a weirdo of the very rare variety (nobody really knows what to do with an introverted girl who stutters) and needed to find someone equally rare who would accept me for me. It wasn't like I was waiting for fireworks to go off at our first meeting and love at first sight. My standards were admittedly set pretty low - just accept me, and you have a good shot.

 

[bullets]

I'm not one of the most patient people around but 3 years on a dating site?

I'd expect to be on date like within 2-3 months of joining and actively pursuing something.

It usually doesn't take that long to find a date. However on POF some people claim to have spoken to a person in chats for months before setting up a date. I think if you don't have a phone number by the third message it's time to move on. Unless you find someone long distance which is kind of odd to begin with.

Anyone try one of those Ashley Madison or Cougar dating sites? Maybe gain a little knowledge and confidence from the experience with an older woman.

Or find myself a sugar mama

 

[Erzengel]

I agree that one shouldn't give up after a few bad experiences or things not happening right away on a dating site.

I do believe there is something like AF said about getting what you pay for and that pay sites where people have to invest money and for the most part are looking for someone are probably in general better than say craigslist. I'd rather not have to sift through 1,000 responses.

 

[Anita18]

I agree that one shouldn't give up after a few bad experiences or things not happening right away on a dating site.

I do believe there is something like AF said about getting what you pay for and that pay sites where people have to invest money and for the most part are looking for someone are probably in general better than say craigslist. I'd rather not have to sift through 1,000 responses.

Oh, I did it on a complete lark and I have no intention of doing it again.

Most of the messages revived my faith in the male species though. My ad didn't have any cleavage photos, or boast about how hot I was. It was all about how geeky I am. And I probably got 20x more responses in that week than the average CL chick. (I was actually pleasantly surprised too that I only got 3-5 penis pictures. ) So what if it didn't work out in the end, I definitely didn't come out of it thinking that guys were pigs. I just hadn't found my guy yet.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

It usually doesn't take that long to find a date. However on POF some people claim to have spoken to a person in chats for months before setting up a date. I think if you don't have a phone number by the third message it's time to move on. Unless you find someone long distance which is kind of odd to begin with.

Or find myself a sugar mama

This happens on all dating sites I'm sure, both people are too scared to move the relationship offline and keep exchanging emails. I always found that to be ridiculous and not what a dating site is for, which is just to introduce you to people you wouldn't normally meet. Exchange a couple emails to generate an initiate interest but make sure to take things offline as soon as possible. Also, I'd suggest even if you're not super attracted physically to a girl right away if there's something in the profile that stands out personality wise it never hurts to respond if she emails you. If nothing else it's good practice, just make sure things are casual. I went out with some girls I wasn't super attracted to physically, but responded and went out with them anyway, always had a good time and hoped they did, never went past a first date, but that's okay.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well, it takes patience. Some of you guys have been there less than a week. It took me three years to find him and countless weeding out of messages. I didn't whine or complain about getting ugly guys, I just kept going. You guys frankly don't have any real battle scars to complain about yet!

It's like the old saying: fast/cheap/good, pick two.

I've had a profile on POF for the better part of 2 or 3 years. Granted, I didn't set it up, a female friend of mine did, but I figured if it was up, I'd go and update it, and check up with the messages and stuff.

SuperMike, that's actually a good point.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

LOL of course I'd been on other dates before I met my bf. It's just that they didn't go anywhere.

It is what it is, I'm not one to go whining about my lot in life if I don't get what I want right away. Besides, this was all after my Craigslist personals ad fiasco (with 1000 responses and about 5 dates with no bf), so I had already accepted I was a weirdo of the very rare variety (nobody really knows what to do with an introverted girl who stutters) and needed to find someone equally rare who would accept me for me. It wasn't like I was waiting for fireworks to go off at our first meeting and love at first sight. My standards were admittedly set pretty low - just accept me, and you have a good shot.

You're saying you had to go through 1000 guys just to get one to accept you?

For women, a typical side effect is also bigger boobs. Dubious that's an improvement for guys though.

I never said side effect free.