Raiders of the Official Relationship Thread

[hopefuldreamer]

*chinks imaginary hypothetical glasses together*

 

[bullets]

I'd hit on your ugly friend

 

[hopefuldreamer]

In fairness, I don't have a lot of ugly friends. They're pretty much all skinny and gorgeous. I live in their shadows

You can hit on me! I'm not ugly, but i'm not so hot you'd have to pretend I wasn't attractive to get me to like you...

This is getting complicated...

Ooooh, i've got a fun game - Which one of these girls would you call the 'ugo' one! (one of them is me )

 

[SuperMike335!!]

... *sigh*

Now, I don't talk for all women, and I most definitely don't talk for 8/10 hotness women, but if some guy was chatting up my 'ugly' friend all night, i'd be incredibly happy for her.

My instinct would not be 'I can't let a guy talk to her, they should ALL want to talk to me!'

You know what you call a 'friend' like that?

A *****!

Secondly, do you have any idea what you've just done to her 'ugo' friend?

I mean, this is a girl who probably NEVER gets any attention, even though she's not totally unattractive, just because she's always standing in her hot friends shadow.

And you come along, and give her this incredible night where a guy seems to have chosen HER for once. She's absolutely on top of the moon, her hope restored, her self esteem improving.

Your then going to turn around and say 'Goodnight' to this girl, and walk out with her 'hot' friend?

You've just completely and utterly destroyed her.

P.S. I know it's just a coincidence, but I'M Becky Did you have to use that name?

Sorry I guess.

That technique is actually so effective that it is standard repertoire of experiences PUA’s, possibly the number one most effective of techniques widely known and used with repeated success. I didn’t invent it, but I can vouch for its effectiveness.

Ideally with that technique the girl you first open to should be attractive enough to the point where you could be just as well be satisfied with her looks too, even if her friend is more attractive.

That way if the guy finds out that he actually has a common interest, or can impress him in conversation. He might completely direct his efforts toward her. At the end of the day a relationship is about real connection, not just looks.

Now Becky, as for my picking your name in the example, it was just an accident I assure you. I feel bad. Had I known it would anger you so, I would have used it for all my examples.

If the UK ever takes me off the "banned from entry" list, I’ll certainly make it up to.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Do her, do her, who hasn't done her? Do her, do her....

 

[Kane52630]

Do her, do her, who hasn't done her? Do her, do her....

heh

 

[SuperMike335!!]

In fairness, I don't have a lot of ugly friends. They're pretty much all skinny and gorgeous. I live in their shadows

You can hit on me! I'm not ugly, but i'm not so hot you'd have to pretend I wasn't attractive to get me to like you...

This is getting complicated...

Ooooh, i've got a fun game - Which one of these girls would you call the 'ugo' one! (one of them is me )

Now this is a little more fun. Becky, you're the one in the middle. I can tell by the "I like to argue" expression on your face.

Hmmm.... The least attractive one?

Simple the girl next too you with too much light foundation on.

 

[twylight]

... *sigh*

Now, I don't talk for all women, and I most definitely don't talk for 8/10 hotness women, but if some guy was chatting up my 'ugly' friend all night, i'd be incredibly happy for her.

My instinct would not be 'I can't let a guy talk to her, they should ALL want to talk to me!'

You know what you call a 'friend' like that?

A *****!

Secondly, do you have any idea what you've just done to her 'ugo' friend?

I mean, this is a girl who probably NEVER gets any attention, even though she's not totally unattractive, just because she's always standing in her hot friends shadow.

And you come along, and give her this incredible night where a guy seems to have chosen HER for once. She's absolutely on top of the moon, her hope restored, her self esteem improving.

Your then going to turn around and say 'Goodnight' to this girl, and walk out with her 'hot' friend?

You've just completely and utterly destroyed her.

Way to go!

In fairness, I don't have a lot of ugly friends. They're pretty much all skinny and gorgeous. I live in their shadows

You can hit on me! I'm not ugly, but i'm not so hot you'd have to pretend I wasn't attractive to get me to like you...

This is getting complicated...

Ooooh, i've got a fun game - Which one of these girls would you call the 'ugo' one! (one of them is me )

Not getting into the hot/not thing Because in my opinion they're all hotter than me. But the girl on the left reminds me a bit of Eve Myles's smile. The girl to your left has an ill-matching foundation, which detracts from her overall attractiveness. I want to fix it! *pulls out her caboodles box*

 

[LOBO3315a]

Ooooh, i've got a fun game - Which one of these girls would you call the 'ugo' one! (one of them is me )

I'd try to parlay you all into my first reverse gang-bang......

 

[bullets]

In fairness, I don't have a lot of ugly friends. They're pretty much all skinny and gorgeous. I live in their shadows

You can hit on me! I'm not ugly, but i'm not so hot you'd have to pretend I wasn't attractive to get me to like you...

This is getting complicated...

Ooooh, i've got a fun game - Which one of these girls would you call the 'ugo' one! (one of them is me )

Your the hottie in the middle I'm not calling any of your friends ugly though but the two on the left are less attractive IMO.

 

[AndThePickles]

... *sigh*

Now, I don't talk for all women, and I most definitely don't talk for 8/10 hotness women, but if some guy was chatting up my 'ugly' friend all night, i'd be incredibly happy for her.

My instinct would not be 'I can't let a guy talk to her, they should ALL want to talk to me!'

You know what you call a 'friend' like that?

A *****!

Secondly, do you have any idea what you've just done to her 'ugo' friend?

I mean, this is a girl who probably NEVER gets any attention, even though she's not totally unattractive, just because she's always standing in her hot friends shadow.

And you come along, and give her this incredible night where a guy seems to have chosen HER for once. She's absolutely on top of the moon, her hope restored, her self esteem improving.

Your then going to turn around and say 'Goodnight' to this girl, and walk out with her 'hot' friend?

You've just completely and utterly destroyed her.

P.S. I know it's just a coincidence, but I'M Becky Did you have to use that name?

Amen!

And seriously, there are plenty of men in the world. Anyone who gets pissy that a friend is getting hit on instead of her isn't a true friend at all...she's a jealous attention ****e. Those type of girls aren't worth being around. I'll never forget going to the beach with a friend back in middle school...back then I was painfully shy, and she was super outgoing. I really looked up to her, so I asked her to help me with my outfit one night. The next day, she confessed that she purposely picked a less attractive outfit because she didn't want me looking better than her. Sadly, there are grown women who still act that way

 

[bullets]

That's nothing compared to the stuff guys do to c***block each other

 

[Boy Scout]

So...today I grew some balls and talked to a girl.

It happened today while me and some of my schoolmates went on a field trip to see a play. While we waited for the show to start, we all sat out in the lobby and started talking. It started out as a group discussion, but eventually, we started focusing just on each other.

I don't remember what we were talking about, but I do remember making sure to look her directly in the eyes and to not disrupt the flow of the conversation because of nervousness. I just stayed calm and didn't try to be someone I'm not just to impress her.

Finally, after about fifteen or twenty minutes of waiting, we were ushered inside. Luckily, we were in the same row, only a seat or two apart, so we started talking again after a while. This time it was about Twilight and horror movies. Again, I looked her in the eyes while she talked (and occasionally at her legs and chest. I didn't care if she saw me, and I think she did, but apparently it didn't bother her at all) and this time, I specifically made sure to listen more than talk, although it was by no means a one-sided conversation.

Finally, we had one more (short) conversation during intermission. What basically happened was I looked her in the eyes. And when I say looked, I mean I looked. I tried to give her a piercing, intense stare. And apparently I succeeded, because she like lost her train of thought for a second and just looked back at me. That's never happened to me before. Ever.

I know, I know, I didn't do all that much, really, but for my first time really putting myself out there and talking to a girl I'd actually consider dating, I think I did alright.

 

[terry78]

In fairness, I don't have a lot of ugly friends. They're pretty much all skinny and gorgeous. I live in their shadows

You can hit on me! I'm not ugly, but i'm not so hot you'd have to pretend I wasn't attractive to get me to like you...

This is getting complicated...

Ooooh, i've got a fun game - Which one of these girls would you call the 'ugo' one! (one of them is me )

The one with the biggest boobs. Done and done.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

In fairness, I don't have a lot of ugly friends. They're pretty much all skinny and gorgeous. I live in their shadows

You can hit on me! I'm not ugly, but i'm not so hot you'd have to pretend I wasn't attractive to get me to like you...

This is getting complicated...

Ooooh, i've got a fun game - Which one of these girls would you call the 'ugo' one! (one of them is me )

Can I just have all 5 of you?

/internet creeper

 

[Anubis]

Heh, I'm reminded of Professor Stinson's lecture on the Cheerleader Effect.

 

[steintym]

In fairness, I don't have a lot of ugly friends. They're pretty much all skinny and gorgeous. I live in their shadows

You can hit on me! I'm not ugly, but i'm not so hot you'd have to pretend I wasn't attractive to get me to like you...

This is getting complicated...

Ooooh, i've got a fun game - Which one of these girls would you call the 'ugo' one! (one of them is me )

Good looking group. I'm sure you get plenty attention on a night out.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

So...today I grew some balls and talked to a girl.

It happened today while me and some of my schoolmates went on a field trip to see a play. While we waited for the show to start, we all sat out in the lobby and started talking. It started out as a group discussion, but eventually, we started focusing just on each other.

I don't remember what we were talking about, but I do remember making sure to look her directly in the eyes and to not disrupt the flow of the conversation because of nervousness. I just stayed calm and didn't try to be someone I'm not just to impress her.

Finally, after about fifteen or twenty minutes of waiting, we were ushered inside. Luckily, we were in the same row, only a seat or two apart, so we started talking again after a while. This time it was about Twilight and horror movies. Again, I looked her in the eyes while she talked (and occasionally at her legs and chest. I didn't care if she saw me, and I think she did, but apparently it didn't bother her at all) and this time, I specifically made sure to listen more than talk, although it was by no means a one-sided conversation.

Finally, we had one more (short) conversation during intermission. What basically happened was I looked her in the eyes. And when I say looked, I mean I looked. I tried to give her a piercing, intense stare. And apparently I succeeded, because she like lost her train of thought for a second and just looked back at me. That's never happened to me before. Ever.

I know, I know, I didn't do all that much, really, but for my first time really putting myself out there and talking to a girl I'd actually consider dating, I think I did alright.

That all sounds pretty good

 

[steintym]

So...today I grew some balls and talked to a girl.

It happened today while me and some of my schoolmates went on a field trip to see a play. While we waited for the show to start, we all sat out in the lobby and started talking. It started out as a group discussion, but eventually, we started focusing just on each other.

I don't remember what we were talking about, but I do remember making sure to look her directly in the eyes and to not disrupt the flow of the conversation because of nervousness. I just stayed calm and didn't try to be someone I'm not just to impress her.

Finally, after about fifteen or twenty minutes of waiting, we were ushered inside. Luckily, we were in the same row, only a seat or two apart, so we started talking again after a while. This time it was about Twilight and horror movies. Again, I looked her in the eyes while she talked (and occasionally at her legs and chest. I didn't care if she saw me, and I think she did, but apparently it didn't bother her at all) and this time, I specifically made sure to listen more than talk, although it was by no means a one-sided conversation.

Finally, we had one more (short) conversation during intermission. What basically happened was I looked her in the eyes. And when I say looked, I mean I looked. I tried to give her a piercing, intense stare. And apparently I succeeded, because she like lost her train of thought for a second and just looked back at me. That's never happened to me before. Ever.

I know, I know, I didn't do all that much, really, but for my first time really putting myself out there and talking to a girl I'd actually consider dating, I think I did alright.

Good for you.

Don't let the opportunity pass now, though. Go for it and ask her out.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Amen!

And seriously, there are plenty of men in the world. Anyone who gets pissy that a friend is getting hit on instead of her isn't a true friend at all...she's a jealous attention ****e. Those type of girls aren't worth being around. I'll never forget going to the beach with a friend back in middle school...back then I was painfully shy, and she was super outgoing. I really looked up to her, so I asked her to help me with my outfit one night. The next day, she confessed that she purposely picked a less attractive outfit because she didn't want me looking better than her. Sadly, there are grown women who still act that way

That is why Cads, like yours truly, behave as we do.

 

[Boy Scout]

That all sounds pretty good

Thanks. And I'm definitely gonna follow up on it. We're gonna have to work together later on, because we were both cast in our school play, so we'll be spending a lot of time together. Who knows what'll happen? t:

I'm also going to continue to work on putting myself out there by talking to more people (and flirting when necessary). No reason to limit myself to just one girl. There were a lot of things I could have done better, and if I keep working on it, it'll eventually come naturally.

Good for you.

Don't let the opportunity pass now, though. Go for it and ask her out.

Thanks, man.

I asked one of my friends about her, and apparently, she isn't looking for a boyfriend right now. Trust me: this girl is hot. If she wanted a boyfriend, she'd have one. But I don't think it'd be smart to stop what I'm doing just because someone who isn't her told me she doesn't want a boyfriend. So what I'll do is slowly build up to that point, but because I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket, I'm going to talk to other girls too. I don't want to end up back at square one if she rejects me.

 

[Erzengel]

Geez, how many people are going to quote her pic on the same page.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

So...today I grew some balls and talked to a girl.

It happened today while me and some of my schoolmates went on a field trip to see a play. While we waited for the show to start, we all sat out in the lobby and started talking. It started out as a group discussion, but eventually, we started focusing just on each other.

I don't remember what we were talking about, but I do remember making sure to look her directly in the eyes and to not disrupt the flow of the conversation because of nervousness. I just stayed calm and didn't try to be someone I'm not just to impress her.

Finally, after about fifteen or twenty minutes of waiting, we were ushered inside. Luckily, we were in the same row, only a seat or two apart, so we started talking again after a while. This time it was about Twilight and horror movies. Again, I looked her in the eyes while she talked (and occasionally at her legs and chest. I didn't care if she saw me, and I think she did, but apparently it didn't bother her at all) and this time, I specifically made sure to listen more than talk, although it was by no means a one-sided conversation.

Finally, we had one more (short) conversation during intermission. What basically happened was I looked her in the eyes. And when I say looked, I mean I looked. I tried to give her a piercing, intense stare. And apparently I succeeded, because she like lost her train of thought for a second and just looked back at me. That's never happened to me before. Ever.

I know, I know, I didn't do all that much, really, but for my first time really putting myself out there and talking to a girl I'd actually consider dating, I think I did alright.

The longest journey begins with the first step.

Right now it seems you are in the phase of simply building your comfort with girls.

Keep doing what you are doing, and do not make any major mistakes that look creepy like calling a girl a whole lot, and don't ever follow one around like a puppy.

But go ahead and hang out with them, make eye contact, and interact. Building your comfort level you will enhance your confidence.

The most important thing to remember is not to fear being shot down. If you get rejected do not take it as you being a failure, but a learning experience. Make a mental note of everything.

Don't be afraid of ending a conversation on your terms too. If you try to get a number, try get it within less than 2 minutes and have a reason to get going "I have to return some videotapes" is a good one, its silly, humor filled, and she may even giggle at the reference.

The benefit of keeping initial contact short and sweet is you have less chance to make a fool of yourself by saying something dumb, and even better you also keep the allure of mystery vs. spilling your whole life story.

Out of curiosity how old are you? Is this a Highschool play, or college?

 

[Erzengel]

What's a videotape?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Avoid Patrick Bateman quotes. Was that suggestion meant as a joke?

Just make sure you don't talk her to death, next time you see her try to say something like "what do you like to do/whatre ya doing this weekend? I'd like to hang out". Sounds to me like you're in like flint.