Revenge of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[Anubis]

In a minor conundrum...
Ex girlfriend is now dating a friend of mine...he had a bunch of people to his house the other night, I show up, they both look at me funny.
Whats the etiquette here? Is it wrong for me to show up somewhere where they are and make things awkward, or is it wrong of them to expect me to not come over to his place and hang out with my friends?

Were you invited?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I generally have a policy of avoiding any relationship between myself and a girl I've hooked up with when she has a boyfriend. Unless I was content with being friends with them.

 

[Anita18]

Exactly. There's no man who looks at Mila Kunis is thinking anything other than a mess of hormones. Moreover, as you say, the threshold is less. The girl I was with last night as I said, was 113, and she keeps thinking she's gotten fat and I make fun of her a bit for it. I think it's hilarious. She could gain 15 more lbs before even it'd be noticeable but I'm not arguing with her. If you're average at I think you'll find you'll be rewarded by being a little more direct with people. It will display a lot of self confidence. Guys appreciate a girl they can count on more than anything. Hot chicks play a lot of wishy washy games with people because I find they don't know how to say no.

Wait...you actually asked her?

I find that most guys have NO gauge as to how much a girl really weighs 90% of the time. People think I weigh 90 lbs but I'd quite literally be dead if I weighed that little!

 

[Hound55]

That's what I was thinking at the time as well...

Mind you, if she's someone whose self-image is so reliant on the physical it's not impossible that her weight could come up in regular conversation or with minor probing (such as "You think YOU'RE fat? Pfft... How much do you weigh? 113? That's not fat.")

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Wait...you actually asked her?

I find that most guys have NO gauge as to how much a girl really weighs 90% of the time. People think I weigh 90 lbs but I'd quite literally be dead if I weighed that little!

No, I didn't ask her. She mentioned it about a week ago. She was complaining about 'getting fat' in Hawaii because she was lighter before.

 

[redmarvel]

In a minor conundrum...
Ex girlfriend is now dating a friend of mine...he had a bunch of people to his house the other night, I show up, they both look at me funny.
Whats the etiquette here? Is it wrong for me to show up somewhere where they are and make things awkward, or is it wrong of them to expect me to not come over to his place and hang out with my friends?

Did you bring a date with you? Without a date it could definitley be awkward. If you can manage a "hot" date, even better. Eye candy will take everyone's mind off an awkward situation.

 

[Anita18]

That's what I was thinking at the time as well...

Mind you, if she's someone whose self-image is so reliant on the physical it's not impossible that her weight could come up in regular conversation or with minor probing (such as "You think YOU'RE fat? Pfft... How much do you weigh? 113? That's not fat.")

No, I didn't ask her. She mentioned it about a week ago. She was complaining about 'getting fat' in Hawaii because she was lighter before.

Or that.

 

[Hound55]

Elementary...

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

This girl and I had this very nice time that you should read nothing sexual into. I was a gentleman and did nothing remotely human, but on the off chance that we may have behaved in an adult manner I rate my performance very highly. We'll say I was as good as Watchmen is a good graphic novel. Epic performance for me.

 

[Clerk]

Can you talk like that here?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Can you talk like that here?

They are welcome to censor it. I used no bad language and I am a little drunk right now. But it's the SHH moderators call. I won't be continuing the discussion.

 

[Clerk]

Go slower.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Go slower.

I made it completely SHH! friendly.

 

[Clerk]

Say it again, but flick your tongue after.

 

[John McGuirk]

Keep going, I'm almost there

 

[Hound55]

This girl and I had this very nice time that you should read nothing sexual into. I was a gentleman and did nothing remotely human, but on the off chance that we may have behaved in an adult manner I rate my performance very highly. We'll say I was as good as Watchmen is a good graphic novel. Epic performance for me.

I'm reading that you were an alien and you "probed" her...

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

She did that thing with her [beeeeeeeeeeep]five times[beeeeeeeeeeep]golf clubs[bleep]Wookie mask[beeeeeeeeeeep]with a tire iron[beep] you know what I'm talking about

 

[Angel_Faerie]

He and I had a very in-depth conversation last night about where things stand with us, and he revealed two issues he's having preventing him from getting more serious when it comes to the two of us.

1. Apparently his ex is trying to weasel her way back into his life. He's trying to decide whether or not to get back with her or to stick with me and get more serious. He said that while there are reasons they were together for over a year, there are also reasons they broke up that might still be there were they to reconcile. He isn't going to rush into a decision either way, and we're going to continue to date while he thinks it over, but I do admit insecurity is creeping in and I'm worried he'll pick her.

2. He's had quite a bit of experience with women (which I already knew). But what he revealed is that he's worried that due to my inexperience if we get more serious and have certain experiences (kissing, sex, etc) that he'd be taking away my chance to have those firsts with someone with the same experience level as me.

I'm not really sure what I should tell him when it comes to all this.

 

[SpideyVille]

The fact that he's even considering getting back with her, let alone telling you about it, doesn't sound good. She could weasel her way into his life as much as possible, but if he doesn't stop it, that means part of him wants her more. And if he's willing to not commit to you because of that, then I don't think he's worth it because it really shouldn't be an issue if he was already dating you. It should be an easy decision to not get back with her.

But of course, if things don't work out, just remember that the problem wasn't you, so don't blame yourself.

 

[Angel_Faerie]

I'm ok with no commitment at this point. We've only been dating a month. Now if we continue for several months with no commitment, that's a different story.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Also I've always believed it's better to have "first" with someone who has experience. Not someone who doesn't. That's just me though.

 

[BlackLantern]

I don't get this whole thing of keeping any sort of relationship going with your ex....you broke up for a reason, pick up your s*** and get the hell on


I don't talk or even socialize with any of my exes....

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

It's hard to completely turn away girls who once let us regularly ***** their ******.

 

[BlackLantern]

not if you have your head on straight

 

[Anubis]

Yeah, don't be a poop, give that b***h the boot.