With
great power there must come
great responsibility.
I've long believed Spider-Man's origin as told in AF#15 is damn near perfect. Start to mess with it, tinker around with its elements, and all that ends up happening is that you undermine the central message. These elements ought to be sacrosanct:
- It must be Spider-Man, in costume, who fails to act to stop the burglar, not Peter, the civilian. Peter must connect his failure to use his powers responsibly to the tragedy that befalls him. If he is in civvies, I argue this gets undermined as Peter doesn't use his powers in his civilian garb, nor would any bystanders expect that he has the power to (easily!) stop the burglar.
- The burglar must kill Ben.
- Spider-Man must realize that Ben's killer is the same burglar he let escape; this hammers home his failure to use his powers responsibly.
- Spider-Man must bring the killer to justice, and not succumb to the temptation for revenge; this is the first truly responsible use of his powers and marks his acceptance of the lesson.
AF#15 emphasized #1 by having a policeman order Spider-Man to stop the burglar, but Spider-Man arrogantly brushes him off (Raimi downgrades the cop to a security guard, and also gives Spidey a reason beyond arrogance to let the burglar go). It also uses #3 to reinforce #4; the shock at recognizing Ben's killer's face is what drains Spider-Man's wish for revenge.
The Ultimate comics were the first to screw up item #1, and now Webb has followed suit, by having the civilian Peter be the one who fails to act (Raimi straddled the line by having the early-costumed but unmasked Spider-Man let the burglar go; a fair adaptation). Nobody has dared mess with #2 or #3. Raimi again straddled the line with #4 by having the burglar fall to his death accidentally; Spectacular corrected this flaw by having Spidey save the burglar. Webb has now chosen to all but eliminate #4 and instead has Peter accept the lesson through a much longer - and I'd argue less satisfying - route.
tl;dr version: Spidey's origin has never needed updating. Spidey adaptations that do so tend to weaken it, not enhance it.