The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - Part 21

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[Anita18]

I can deal with combative women. My mother was combative, so I am used to strong willed women. I have to admit, I do wonder if she is reacting to me this way because I'm a suburban white guy. Sometimes I think she is trying to "convert me" to be less of a small town white guy...even though I am not a stereotypical white guy at all. I'm a Democrat, support gay marriage and am pro-choice, etc.

Sounds like most suburban white guys I know. But then again I hail from liberal commie San Francisco Bay Area and Los Angeles. I get the feeling that anyone my age in either of those areas, if they were anti-gay, Republican, or anti-abortion, would be stoned immediately.

And LOL it sounds like you do have a problem with combativeness if you don't like feeling accused and lectured to all the time. There IS a difference between being strong-willed and wanting to pick a fight all the time. I am strong-willed and I imagine I command respect (I've never been played by a guy or cheated on), but I don't go out to pick intellectual fights with people.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Sounds like most suburban white guys I know. But then again I hail from liberal commie San Francisco Bay Area and Los Angeles. I get the feeling that anyone my age in either of those areas, if they were anti-gay, Republican, or anti-abortion, would be stoned immediately.

And LOL it sounds like you do have a problem with combativeness if you don't like feeling accused and lectured to all the time. There IS a difference between being strong-willed and wanting to pick a fight all the time. I am strong-willed and I imagine I command respect (I've never been played by a guy or cheated on), but I don't go out to pick intellectual fights with people.

I'm from a red-as-a-baboons-bare-butt area of Illinois. She is from Chicago. We were studying library science, which is a very liberal field. I think that as soon as people find out where I am from, they instantly assume that I am "one of those people."

I'm too liberal for my home town, too conservative for Chicago. Go figure.

 

[Erzengel]

 

[Anubis]

 

[Warhammer]

Watching that made me feel almost as bad as he did.

 

[Erzengel]

I was bothered by some of the comments assuming that she's a b', or a horrible person because she did that. If this is a real video, a reasonable situation is she just wasn't feeling it.

 

[Warhammer]

Those people are just salty.

Yeah, it's a risky move. He had a 50/50 chance. Unfortunately, she wasn't about it and he felt dumb. Or she could be a girl who likes permission before holding hands or kissing. There isn't nothing wrong with that honestly.

 

[Erzengel]

A 50/50 chance at least to me, means there was no way to gauge how the date was going and there was mixed signals all night.

Not talking, uninterested, looking at her phone all night, and if he still did that, then it's a risky move.

If she's engaging, the physical boundary has been broken, there's more than a 50/50 shot that there's interest.

 

[Astro13Zombie]

I was bothered by some of the comments assuming that she's a b', or a horrible person because she did that. If this is a real video, a reasonable situation is she just wasn't feeling it.

Same here.
The whole "friend zone" thing is pretty stupid

 

[Warhammer]

A 50/50 chance at least to me, means there was no way to gauge how the date was going and there was mixed signals all night.

Not talking, uninterested, looking at her phone all night, and if he still did that, then it's a risky move.

If she's engaging, the physical boundary has been broken, there's more than a 50/50 shot that there's interest.

You got a point there.

Same here.
The whole "friend zone" thing is pretty stupid

Yeah, I agree. Take the loss and move on.

 

[Anita18]

I've been friend-zoned by guys. -shrug- And yeah, you just take the loss and move on.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

The movie of my life.

 

[Warhammer]

Take the Loss

Starring Nell Izzay

Nominated for Best Actor

 

[DarkSentinel]

I've learned recently to friendzone the friendzone

The point is, I'm awesome. I just forgot how awesome I was, and because of that I struggled when it came to women. But when you realize how awesome you are, then to hell with struggling. Do your thing and let them come to you when they realize how awesome you are. And if they never do, it's their loss. THEIR loss, not yours.

DS out.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Take the Loss

Starring Nell Izzay

Nominated for Best Actor

Do documentaries have actors?

 

[Dark Raven]

I've learned recently to friendzone the friendzone

The point is, I'm awesome. I just forgot how awesome I was, and because of that I struggled when it came to women. But when you realize how awesome you are, then to hell with struggling. Do your thing and let them come to you when they realize how awesome you are. And if they never do, it's their loss. THEIR loss, not yours.

DS out.

I don't think people should entirely try to avoid the friend zone. If people shy away from it, then it makes things very black and white: either you're romantically involved or you're not friends at all, and nothing in between. But sometimes you want to be friends with the opposite sex as well as potentially being involved with them. So if you avoid the friend zone like the plague, then how can you actively lend support to someone in their time of need or do anything out of the goodness of your heart if you're always worried that such actions will paint you as only a friend and nothing more?

 

[Warhammer]

I've learned recently to friendzone the friendzone

The point is, I'm awesome. I just forgot how awesome I was, and because of that I struggled when it came to women. But when you realize how awesome you are, then to hell with struggling. Do your thing and let them come to you when they realize how awesome you are. And if they never do, it's their loss. THEIR loss, not yours.

DS out.

One time, I unconsciously friend zoned someone. I really her, but I become so meticulous with not crossing boundaries and acting like I don't like her because I didn't want to jeopardize the friendship. I later found out that she liked me but was intimidated. Ain't that some s***? Though I will say that even though it was a missed connection, it turned into a great friendship.

Sometimes, people like each other but the timing is off. That last bit sounded straight out of a Hallmark movie.

Do documentaries have actors?

It sounds good enough to be a biography.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I was bothered by some of the comments assuming that she's a b', or a horrible person because she did that. If this is a real video, a reasonable situation is she just wasn't feeling it.

I didn't read any comments, but the title seemed off right from the start. Without any context, let's say this is a first date between the guy and girl or even a second date. He might've thought things were going well during the date and she'd be interested in a kiss. She didn't, maybe just didn't feel that spark and didn't want to lead the guy in with a kiss, so she stopped it. This guy probably wasn't friendzoned, his "relationship" with that girl was probably over. They went on a couple dates, she wasn't that interested and stopped it. Nothing wrong with that. A girl isn't a b*tch or horrible if she's not interested. That's just my take though.

 

[DarkSentinel]

When I say "friendzone the friendzone" what I mean is that I don't let the idea (read "dread") of that happening deter me from simply being myself around women anymore. If they like what they see then they'll go for it. If they don't then they won't.


Either way, I win

 

[Anita18]

I didn't read any comments, but the title seemed off right from the start. Without any context, let's say this is a first date between the guy and girl or even a second date. He might've thought things were going well during the date and she'd be interested in a kiss. She didn't, maybe just didn't feel that spark and didn't want to lead the guy in with a kiss, so she stopped it. This guy probably wasn't friendzoned, his "relationship" with that girl was probably over. They went on a couple dates, she wasn't that interested and stopped it. Nothing wrong with that. A girl isn't a b*tch or horrible if she's not interested. That's just my take though.

Yah. I mean, what were her options? Say "Sorry, I'm not feeling it" and be called a b**** but at least both can move on, or kiss him like he wants, date him for a few months even though she isn't feeling it, then break up with him having wasted his (and her own) time, and still be called a b**** at the end of that.

I know which option I'd take, given I'd be called a b**** either way.

 

[the last son]

I would online date, but I'm poor, uneducated and live with my parents. Not much going for me social status wise. Oh well, guess I'll just keep working out everyday and try to get a great body.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well a woman definitely should never be called a ***** for not reciprocating feelings or attraction.

However that video is the story of my life and exactly the reason why I am where I am today, so I can sympathize with the poor bastard.

 

[chaseter]

Why keep coming in here then if you aren't or won't ever be in a relationship???