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I'm glad none of my husband's friends have recommended Gone Girl yet. He usually only goes to movies when a friend has recommended it directly. 500 Days of Summer was awkward enough, when we saw it together early in our relationship.I will say this the movie Gone Girl will definitely making you think twice about the person you are wanting to date, or eventually marry. I am single but that movie has me really aware about the kinds of girls I attract etc lol.
It's the same for everyone you meet though, although it's magnified in a romantic relationship. You can approach everyone with suspicion, or you could approach everyone with some optimism and faith.It is scary that you really don't know.
You could be with someone 1 month, 1 year, 10 years and people do change. Whether you meet at 15, 25 or 35.
But you can't also live under a rock all your life.
You shouldn't feel guilty about it. Relationships aren't like, "Okay, you clean the dishes this evening, and I'll let you keep me awake tonight!" Just doesn't work that way. We have to accommodate each other's needs all the time. It isn't a tit for tat transaction.Really really hoping my guy gets a job soon. Not looking good so far, and he's gonna run out of money soon... Don't know what i'm going to do then!
It's just so hard being in one room when he's up all night and I need to sleep. The headphones thing was okay for a bit but it's hard cause sometimes I just sleep through tv noise so he thinks it's okay to turn the tv on... But then on the occasions it does wake me up and i'm kind of half asleep and have to tell him to stop and watch something on the comp with headphones instead, he's started being a bit of a sad puppy about it and it makes me feel guilty like i'm kicking him to the floor or something.
I know he's trying and he's been doing a lot of things to try and make it better. He cleans a lot, he has bought a lot of household stuff, he successfully plumbed in the washing machine and got that sorted, and he cooks for me sometimes.
But I just don't know how I feel about the whole thing.
He's eating a lot of ****** food and as gained a lot of weight lately, I guess cause he's depressed about being jobless, but it's just making it harder.
Obviously if all of this was happening further down the relationship and we were in love, it would feel different. But right at the beginning when we were still sort of feeling each other out... It's just not helping the relationship blossom into anything more
Exactly.I just... I'm not sure I want this anymore.
I feel like my life was better and I was happier before we started seeing each other.
I feel like the reasons I stuck with it are the wrong reasons. I feel like I was just indulging in the affection and the comfort of having someone, anyone hold me... But knowing deep down the whole time that he's not the right guy for me.
And I feel like I took him in cause I do care about him, and I felt sorry for him and wanted him to have someone in his life that would.
But I just don't think i'm ever going to fall in love with him.
And personally, I don't see a relationship working without that part.
He wants to get back into electrician jobs. But all he's doing is sending off cvs online and he doesn't get anything back.
He's not the kind of guy who is into 'projects'. He's a stoner, he lays around all day watching movies and sleeping... Which is what i'm like when i'm depressed.
But when I got to my lowest point, I did an Open University course in creative writing.
And since i've been in Bristol, i've kept myself busy with a much much wider social life and events calendar which has made the mundane job seem less depressing because I feel like i'm living life to the full.
I guess I was hoping for a guy that would compliment that, not lure me back into laziness and apathy.
He's a stoner, he lays around all day watching movies and sleeping...
You don't "tell her how to talk," you tell her it offends and upsets you. If she ignores you and keeps doing it anyway, you'll have to judge how much it matters to you. But someone who continues to do something even after they know it upsets you, isn't a good partner.I started dating a woman and while we are getting along, some things bother me. She has a habit of throwing a derogatory word for gays around, even though she knows I dont like it. We've only been dating a few weeks and I dont want to tell her how to talk.
Also, how do I tell her she has bad breath?