The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - - - - - - Part 26

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[the last son]

OK. I'm tossing it straight into the trash.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah whatever helps. It's just a poster and a drawing anyway.

 

[enterthemadness]

Need to self pity rant.....27 years old (well, in Sept on the 5th) and still never kissed a woman, but had a few chances to do so...and it feels like it is slipping away.....








like the world cup from Team USA.



tied that in beautifully. Feel so much better.

 

[Erzengel]

If you could go back would you of not had sex?

 

[the last son]

Who

 

[Erzengel]

Etm.

 

[The Shape]

Did he choose not to or it just hasn't happened?

 

[Anita18]

Did he choose not to or it just hasn't happened?

I think he mentioned he did once, but it wasn't in the context of a relationship.

You don't have to kiss to have sex.

 

[enterthemadness]

If you could go back would you of not had sex?

Yes. I would go back. And not had sex.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

I'm an *******.

Let's have a few characters. X, Y, Z, and myself.

X can be that girl that I thought liked me, so I developed feelings for her, and she rejected me.
Y can be the guy she likes.
Z can be this other girl who all of us are friends with.

X has been telling me that she likes him, she has told Z this as well. Then tonight we all hang out for a three hours or so. It's so bloody obvious that she likes him; I didn't need to know the fact. She had him drive her home; I brought her there. Now I'm not bitter about this, I was rejected three weeks ago. I was more upset at the possibility of her hating me then her rejecting me. So Y escorts me home since I was out a bit late with the license I have. I text him that I appreciate his help. Then I text him, "What's up with you and X?" He says he doesn't really know, he thinks he likes her but she also says she hates him. Which she does say that, jokingly. I ask him if he likes her, and he says, "Kinda." I tell him to make the moves, and he says he thinks he will. I tell him to not tell her that I talked about her to you. I still feel like X doesn't like me as much as she use to since I expressed my feelings for her and she just wants to be friends.

What do I do? I excitedly tell Z about the good news. She asks if she can tell X about it, I tell her no. She says that X is really upset since she feels like she creeped Y out. She wants her to know that everything is gonna be alright. I tell her no, but I then tell Y that I told Z and that X is upset since she thinks she ****ed everything up. He says, Dammit my name*. I feel like an ******* for stabbing him in the back. However, Z told X to express her feelings to Y when she feels ready. Upset, she tells him immediately. I tell Z that I feel like a dick for doing this, stabbing him in the back. I mean, he likes her, and she likes him. Is it in good favor? I don't want Y to chicken out, and X to be really upset that she screwed something up.

 

[DJ_KiDDvIcIOUs]

My best advice to getting chicks is just get drunk and crack jokes. I honestly hardly even acknowledge females when I first meet them. Confidence is key guys. If you come off like your not sure of yourself they can smell it and it turns them off. I grew up with no confidence it when I stopped giving a **** when is when I started picking girls up. I don't want to brag but I get my fare share of ladies on a regular basis and it's all about confidence. If you don't have any, act like you do. Fake it till you make it as they say. I haven't bought a girl a drink in years

EDIT: And no I'm not saying act like an ***hole, only insecure women respond to that BS

 

[Anita18]

I'm an *******.

Let's have a few characters. X, Y, Z, and myself.

X can be that girl that I thought liked me, so I developed feelings for her, and she rejected me.
Y can be the guy she likes.
Z can be this other girl who all of us are friends with.

X has been telling me that she likes him, she has told Z this as well. Then tonight we all hang out for a three hours or so. It's so bloody obvious that she likes him; I didn't need to know the fact. She had him drive her home; I brought her there. Now I'm not bitter about this, I was rejected three weeks ago. I was more upset at the possibility of her hating me then her rejecting me. So Y escorts me home since I was out a bit late with the license I have. I text him that I appreciate his help. Then I text him, "What's up with you and X?" He says he doesn't really know, he thinks he likes her but she also says she hates him. Which she does say that, jokingly. I ask him if he likes her, and he says, "Kinda." I tell him to make the moves, and he says he thinks he will. I tell him to not tell her that I talked about her to you. I still feel like X doesn't like me as much as she use to since I expressed my feelings for her and she just wants to be friends.

What do I do? I excitedly tell Z about the good news. She asks if she can tell X about it, I tell her no. She says that X is really upset since she feels like she creeped Y out. She wants her to know that everything is gonna be alright. I tell her no, but I then tell Y that I told Z and that X is upset since she thinks she ****ed everything up. He says, Dammit my name*. I feel like an ******* for stabbing him in the back. However, Z told X to express her feelings to Y when she feels ready. Upset, she tells him immediately. I tell Z that I feel like a dick for doing this, stabbing him in the back. I mean, he likes her, and she likes him. Is it in good favor? I don't want Y to chicken out, and X to be really upset that she screwed something up.

This is why I stay out of other people's business.

You shouldn't be friends with someone to act as their carrier pigeon. Let them sort out their own s***. This incident was a mistake, but you don't have to get further involved if you don't have to.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

I thought I could help them out.

 

[Anita18]

I thought I could help them out.

Oh I know, but too many cooks in the kitchen and all. -patpat- Let them sort it out.

 

[Dark Raven]

I'm an *******.

Let's have a few characters. X, Y, Z, and myself.

X can be that girl that I thought liked me, so I developed feelings for her, and she rejected me.
Y can be the guy she likes.
Z can be this other girl who all of us are friends with.

X has been telling me that she likes him, she has told Z this as well. Then tonight we all hang out for a three hours or so. It's so bloody obvious that she likes him; I didn't need to know the fact. She had him drive her home; I brought her there. Now I'm not bitter about this, I was rejected three weeks ago. I was more upset at the possibility of her hating me then her rejecting me. So Y escorts me home since I was out a bit late with the license I have. I text him that I appreciate his help. Then I text him, "What's up with you and X?" He says he doesn't really know, he thinks he likes her but she also says she hates him. Which she does say that, jokingly. I ask him if he likes her, and he says, "Kinda." I tell him to make the moves, and he says he thinks he will. I tell him to not tell her that I talked about her to you. I still feel like X doesn't like me as much as she use to since I expressed my feelings for her and she just wants to be friends.

What do I do? I excitedly tell Z about the good news. She asks if she can tell X about it, I tell her no. She says that X is really upset since she feels like she creeped Y out. She wants her to know that everything is gonna be alright. I tell her no, but I then tell Y that I told Z and that X is upset since she thinks she ****ed everything up. He says, Dammit my name*. I feel like an ******* for stabbing him in the back. However, Z told X to express her feelings to Y when she feels ready. Upset, she tells him immediately. I tell Z that I feel like a dick for doing this, stabbing him in the back. I mean, he likes her, and she likes him. Is it in good favor? I don't want Y to chicken out, and X to be really upset that she screwed something up.

I wish you would just substitute in different names instead of x, y and z. It makes it harder to read and more abstract with letters.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I thought I could help them out.

It doesn't sound like they needed or asked for your help.

You like the girl. You got rejected. She leaves a gathering with another guy... And you text him asking what's going on with them?

Sounds to me like it's more fishing for information than it is trying to 'help' them...

Then you tell the girls friend that he is probably going to ask her out? Why? That's not helpful either... It's just gossiping. And stuff like that can actually RUIN the chance of it actually happening...

I mean, you telling him she's upset and thinks she creeped him out... That is not helping. That could very well make him NOT want to go out with her.

And if I were her, I'd be seriously pissed at you for that. And if I were him I'd be seriously pissed at you for telling anyone else that I was thinking about asking someone out.

This situation involves two people only. They don't need your helping hand... They need you to leave them to it.

Sorry if that comes across harsh, but it just doesn't seem like anything you have done has actually assisted, even if you thought in some way it would...

 

[Persistence]

I agree with Dark Raven about the letters.

I also agree with hopeful...stay out of other people's business in general. You have a conflict of interest in discussing the girl you like's relationship. I know you feel you're trying to help her by "hooking" her up wiht someone else, but you're helping yourself because you want to create closure for yourself and don't like seeing her pine after other guy. You want to see if they would actually work out to cure your own curiosity.

You need to step back away from this girl regardless of how you feel about her. You're not going to get respect being her orbiter. You can keep in touch, but if you have difficulty controlling feelings, the more you hang around her, the more confused and hurt you will be. It's difficult hearing this now around your age (I think you're about to go college?) but when you get older you'll understand its best to live a simpler life than a convoluted one.

 

[Eddie Dean]

Here's a super sitcomy situation for you guys - Start talking to this gal on OKCupid, cute as a button, really funny, lots of the same interests, well, things keep on going and it turns out she's the sister of a co-worker who I really, really dislike. What should I do? Just go with the flow or set my computer on fire, grow a beard and move to Russia?

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

If it was me, I think I would do the latter.

But Russia may not be far enough, I would try the Antarctic.

 

[Erzengel]

Here's a super sitcomy situation for you guys - Start talking to this gal on OKCupid, cute as a button, really funny, lots of the same interests, well, things keep on going and it turns out she's the sister of a co-worker who I really, really dislike. What should I do? Just go with the flow or set my computer on fire, grow a beard and move to Russia?

I'd love to date the sister of my enemy.

 

[Dark Raven]

Here's a super sitcomy situation for you guys - Start talking to this gal on OKCupid, cute as a button, really funny, lots of the same interests, well, things keep on going and it turns out she's the sister of a co-worker who I really, really dislike. What should I do? Just go with the flow or set my computer on fire, grow a beard and move to Russia?

You should watch Revenge for some tips. Emily VanCamp deliberately married the son of her enemies and ****ed him in more ways than one just to hit back at them.

 

[enterthemadness]

So, learned my crush is in a relationship. It seems long distance. I'm not sure, I was doing 80 line and she was talking to a coworker nearby about it.


So today I had a dream about work. Her and I were working together and we got close and a coworker called us out on flirting. She was sitting on me lap in the dream?


Still get rejected everyday online on POF.

 

[enterthemadness]

Ya'all...this is why I can't get a girlfriend or reasons why I should quit until my life is in order.

1. Live at home like a loser
2. Borrow a family car like a loser
3. Work part time only and make less than $500 a month usually.
4. Don't really have any experience...that I am proud of. Only been in two short term relationship that were both online long distance and I ended them like a *******...to chase after a woman in real life. I'm a prick.
5. Just for kicks, I'm 5'5.
6. I haven't been in a relationship in 4 ****ing years, either online, long distance, or in real life.

So, in short my life is not in order and I shouldn't ask anybody out until it's in order, and that could be years. Although if I had my own ****ing car and my own auto insurance, I be out and about in 6 months to a year. In either a motel, hotel, or likely with people I do not know called 'roommates'.


Hell, I'm almost 27 and see no difference living with family or a roommate. Meaning, both are looked down upon options in your late 20's. Well, if you are a man. I don't give a **** if I am going out with a woman and she is living with a roommate or at home. The last woman I went out with was 35 and was living with a roommate. She had 4 kids.