A Necessary Evil
One. Bad. Day.
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This is true.
Finally worked up the courage to ask this guy I'd been flirting with for the last few months out on a date. It's been a day, and no response.
She may even sleep with you, but it may not mean anything.
that's way too much pressure. you need to go unload one first.No, she won't. She told me that when I lose my virginity it needs to be someone I am in love with.
Yeah I use to think that way to.
It was right between wait tIl I got married and the first opportunity.
that's way too much pressure. you need to go unload one first.
Yup. My (now married) friend still really enjoys it when she gets attention from guys. She wouldn't kiss now though, but heavy flirting is still okay with her. Not sure if the hubby knows, but yeah. She has no intention of leaving him anyway, she just likes the attention and power over guys.She probably just wants the attention.
There's even the possibility she may not want YOU as her boyfriend.
Hah, it can take people weeks to get back to you re: invitations. I sent my wedding invites out two weeks ago and I'm JUST getting RSVPs back. Postal service within the state should take a day. Not even my officiant has responded. I hope he's still showing up!I wanted to be a bit creative, so I designed this cute/somewhat quirky invitation. Or at least I tried to.
"Good enough" is relative in relationships. It's all about how you're compatible, not about "goodness" or "standards" or all that crap.
And yes, I'm part of a wedding-planning online community now and there are many, many brides who cut off contact with their families because they've been emotionally abusive and want to control everything, including destroying the relationship between the two altar-bound partners. You don't HAVE to have other people get up all into your bzns if you don't want them to. You do have a choice - get them out of your life. Right now she doesn't see that option, but it's there. She has to want it enough, and she doesn't. I don't know what else to tell you.
She could have cared for you before her parents got in the way, but if she won't go to bat for you in the face of her parents, whom she has a choice in not listening to, what about other things? What about when you two are looking for jobs, or other real-life things that are actually going to affect both of you directly? If she has no faith in you now, she won't have faith in you then.
I'm so anxious and sexually frustrated/embarrassed that it's literally first opportunity for me.
People aren't nearly as predictable as we want them to be. I have more hermit-y tendencies than my fiance, but I'm willing to go out and try new things. And I'm also more willing to tolerate crowds. It's weird.Well I've always wondered whether I'd ever be really compatible with anyone, she's the first one who managed to convince me that I was wrong and that I can be compatible with a member of the opposite gender. Problem is, now I'm starting to wonder if it's her or not. I should really try looking for a social introvert next time, instead of someone as extroverted as her.
Thing is, she's somewhere inbetween. Which makes it still more confusing.
I'm a rare woman who doesn't care for gifts. Gifts mean nothing to me. Which is actually a good thing because my fiance is CRAP at giving them! He wouldn't know a meaningful gift for me if it hit him in the face!You really don't need to tell me anything regarding this. But yeah do tell me what I ought to do regarding the gifts. Please? Still confused here.
It's always the two of you. Probably equally. Makes it simpler. That allows for room to improve yourself, while still keeping faith that it was mostly a compatibility issue.I need to have more faith in myself before I expect someone like her to have faith in me at all. I dunno if I should be blaming myself for this entire thing (which would be productive) or her.
You seem convinced that she sees this as a failure. I'm not so sure she does. Sounds to me like she is itching for something different; and hey, that's her choice and it's okay. That sort of thing happens all the time.I couldn't agree more. But I'll add that it's usually the two individuals within the relationship who LET the others get involved.
It's all about choice. At the end of the day, we're all still responsible for our failures. Because, yes, we just weren't good enough.
1. Have you 2 actually been on a date?
2. Has this guy even bought you anything yet?
You're in a place and in a culture where being sexually active isn't necessarily a social taboo, do you want to be in a relationship with this person or just bed her?
If it's the former, well tough luck since she isn't open to it. Maybe she will be someday but why wait for her if she's not into it? If it's the latter, then you seem to have an open path. If I were you I'd hook up with someone else.
1. Have you 2 actually been on a date?
2. Has this guy even bought you anything yet?
How old are you?Well I'm already over her, so it must have been the latter. I've really tried looking other places for women, but none give me the time of day when I try to talk to them.
Are you not an outgoing personWell I'm already over her, so it must have been the latter. I've really tried looking other places for women, but none give me the time of day when I try to talk to them.
Well I've always wondered whether I'd ever be really compatible with anyone, she's the first one who managed to convince me that I was wrong and that I can be compatible with a member of the opposite gender. Problem is, now I'm starting to wonder if it's her or not. I should really try looking for a social introvert next time, instead of someone as extroverted as her.
Thing is, she's somewhere inbetween. Which makes it still more confusing.
Return them?You really don't need to tell me anything regarding this. But yeah do tell me what I ought to do regarding the gifts. Please? Still confused here.
I need to have more faith in myself before I expect someone like her to have faith in me at all. I dunno if I should be blaming myself for this entire thing (which would be productive) or her.
I'm guessing you are in school?21, going on 22 this may.
Are you not an outgoing person
I'm guessing you are in school?
School you should have such a huge selection of meeting people. Classmates, parties, after school activities?