Official Relationship Thread: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

[Optimus_Prime_]

I bought a house.

That's why I haven't really posted in this thread in a while.

Wasn't pursuing anything at the time.

Although girls seem more interested in me now, than before I bought my house.

 

[knowsbleed]

Congrats on your house. Now you can spread your naked around that place.


Since everyone is giving an update on themselves... I've gotten back with my ex. Yeah, yeah... it's a mistake, don't do it, you'll regret it, you'll wind up dead in a ditch, you'll have glorious sex, you'll wind up pregnant... only if I'm lucky. But seriously, I'm old enough to realize that I'm making the right decision, until I make a wrong decision.

 

[Erzengel]

I would be get so much trim with the house I have right now.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I bought a house.

That's why I haven't really posted in this thread in a while.

Wasn't pursuing anything at the time.

Although girls seem more interested in me now, than before I bought my house.

Be careful however.

They will show more interest when you got a house, but will also push harder for a relationship. -even if you're not looking for one at the moment.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I would be get so much trim with the house I have right now.

It's a great house. Ranch style home. 2400 sqr feet, with a fenced in backyard.

I have a bar in the enclosed room they built inside the two-car garage. Nice, big Master Bedroom too. Three bedroom, two bath, nice wood fireplace in the living room.

Be careful however.

They will show more interest when you got a house, but will also push harder for a relationship. -even if you're not looking for one at the moment.

Eh? Really not a bad idea when you're a homeowner. But yes, I sense most of the girls after me really want something more serious now that I have my home.

 

[Anita18]

just paid for the reception hall right before christmas..thats about it.We were discussing photograhpers lastweek

The whole reception hall? Or just the deposit? My deposite was a few hundred dollars, which would hurt to lose, but not as much as laying down a few thou.

My coworker has a guy friend who got married. Turns out his fiancee had checked out of the relationship and was cheating on him during their engagement, but felt she needed to go through with the wedding. Her happy act dropped from her face the minute they left the reception hall. He had no clue up until then.

Save yourself the headache, and the money. If you're going to break up with her, do it now.

I bought a house.

That's why I haven't really posted in this thread in a while.

Wasn't pursuing anything at the time.

Although girls seem more interested in me now, than before I bought my house.

I was at my 10-year high school reunion a few weeks ago. A couple of really nerdy book-smart guys have extremely well-paying jobs and bought condos already. In the area, a basic condo could go for more than a half-mil, easy. It is the most expensive real estate in the country.

I'm not exactly sure if they were expecting more action from the women from owning a house (it doesn't seem like they ever did up to that point), but something tells me that if they weren't getting any action before, owning a house by itself may not help.

 

[Erzengel]

It does add to the whole security thing some women begin appreciating as they get older. Living with your parents, or sharing an apartment with 2 others may be okay for people in their early to mid 20s.

I do agree if that's all they have going for them, it's not going to necessarily help.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

The whole reception hall? Or just the deposit? My deposite was a few hundred dollars, which would hurt to lose, but not as much as laying down a few thou.

My coworker has a guy friend who got married. Turns out his fiancee had checked out of the relationship and was cheating on him during their engagement, but felt she needed to go through with the wedding. Her happy act dropped from her face the minute they left the reception hall. He had no clue up until then.

Save yourself the headache, and the money. If you're going to break up with her, do it now.


I was at my 10-year high school reunion a few weeks ago. A couple of really nerdy book-smart guys have extremely well-paying jobs and bought condos already. In the area, a basic condo could go for more than a half-mil, easy. It is the most expensive real estate in the country.

I'm not exactly sure if they were expecting more action from the women from owning a house (it doesn't seem like they ever did up to that point), but something tells me that if they weren't getting any action before, owning a house by itself may not help.

I think if you were marginally attractive before, it magnifies that.

 

[Anita18]

I think if you were marginally attractive before, it magnifies that.

I think some of them are attractive (I kinda crushed on one in high school) but they are like, emotionally clueless and unable to read women. Having a house will not fix that, unless you fall for a sugar mama.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

It does add to the whole security thing some women begin appreciating as they get older. Living with your parents, or sharing an apartment with 2 others may be okay for people in their early to mid 20s.

I've noticed as you get older if you want to date hot women, there is somewhat of an expectation you have certain things taken care of.

I remember at 25 living with my [cooler] roommates and thinking it was so cool. Then at 28 living with two different roommates in the same house we rented and now not finding it so cool. Also I noticed girls just not seeing the convenience of living downtown as so special anymore.

House represents commitment as well. 30-year mortgages, 20-year mortgages are no laughing matter, and definitely serious adult stuff.

Living by the seat of your pants in some apartment isn't the same when you start reaching your thirties.

Also, by the time you're 28 most of the women who are of appropriate dating age for you probably have or already are dating guys who have bought homes or condos. They don't wish to downgrade back to a guy barely paying rent, or who doesn't seem to have long term financial aspirations.

I always feel like, whether it seems apparent or not, the back of a woman's mind has considered whomever she chooses to sleep with could father a kid. Women always seem to favor guys who are resourceful for their relative age group. Jocks are the height of success in high school. Smarter kids and high profile athletes become the winners of college. Then the smart guys who are good with money and or hard workers succeed more in adult life.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I've noticed as you get older if you want to date hot women, there is somewhat of an expectation you have certain things taken care of.

I remember at 25 living with my [cooler] roommates and thinking it was so cool. Then at 28 living with two different roommates in the same house we rented and now not finding it so cool. Also I noticed girls just not seeing the convenience of living downtown as so special anymore.

House represents commitment as well. 30-year mortgages, 20-year mortgages are no laughing matter, and definitely serious adult stuff.

Living by the seat of your pants in some apartment isn't the same when you start reaching your thirties.

Also, by the time you're 28 most of the women who are of appropriate dating age for you probably have or already are dating guys who have bought homes or condos. They don't wish to downgrade back to a guy barely paying rent, or who doesn't seem to have long term financial aspirations.

I always feel like, whether it seems apparent or not, the back of a woman's mind has considered whomever she chooses to sleep with could father a kid. Women always seem to favor guys who are resourceful for their relative age group. Jocks are the height of success in high school. Smarter kids and high profile athletes become the winners of college. Then the smart guys who are good with money and or hard workers succeed more in adult life.

I always was wary of buying property when I was single. I know two people who bought condos when they were single and then within a year met the girl they'd eventually marry. Both had a very hard time selling the condo when they wanted to move. One was actually living in the condo with his wife, toddler daughter and infant daughter before they sold the condo and could move to a house. The other still owns the condo and rents it out. I always had the mindset of settling down with a girl, not property. I know another couple that's engaged, they both own their houses, so now it's the question of who sells their house, just something I never wanted to deal with, buying something I knew would be short term. Now that I'm married we're talking about getting a house, but want to make sure we find the right place in the right area where we'll raise a family. Want our next move to be the last one for a long, long time.

 

[Erzengel]

The thing that always swayed me from renting is because of how much it was and it was almost a mortgage payment.

 

[knowsbleed]

I move too much to buy a house. Buying one is easy enough, but selling one is not worth the pain and effort. I'll just rent until I retire.

 

[Zatanna]

I've noticed as you get older if you want to date hot women, there is somewhat of an expectation you have certain things taken care of.

I would hope as you get older, finding someone who's just "hot" isn't a priority.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I always was wary of buying property when I was single. I know two people who bought condos when they were single and then within a year met the girl they'd eventually marry. Both had a very hard time selling the condo when they wanted to move. One was actually living in the condo with his wife, toddler daughter and infant daughter before they sold the condo and could move to a house. The other still owns the condo and rents it out. I always had the mindset of settling down with a girl, not property. I know another couple that's engaged, they both own their houses, so now it's the question of who sells their house, just something I never wanted to deal with, buying something I knew would be short term. Now that I'm married we're talking about getting a house, but want to make sure we find the right place in the right area where we'll raise a family. Want our next move to be the last one for a long, long time.

I wanted to buy a house before I got married.

Hopefully I'll follow through with stage 2 of my plan if I ever get married and put the house down in a pre-nupial agreement as mine.

Condos can be a pretty tough sell, but my house has good resale value. It's in a really nice neighborhood with mostly original families and is large enough for at one kid. So it's a great home for my thirties.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I would hope as you get older, finding someone who's just "hot" isn't a priority.

Hot may not be the reason I marry or have a relationship.

Certainly makes a good first impression though.

 

[Anita18]

The thing that always swayed me from renting is because of how much it was and it was almost a mortgage payment.

What sways us FROM buying our own place is if you have a problem, you have to fix it yourself. And you'd have to stay in one place at least 5 years to make the initial investment worthwhile.

When ALL the drains backed up one day, we just called our landlord's maintenance man and with his connections, everything was fixed the next morning. His plumber had to go underneath the apartment and replace all the old pipes. The thing was that he knew who to call to get this done at 8am on Saturday morning. If it was up to us, we'd have no clue where to go. We wouldn't have been able to use the sinks or tubs for days. And we didn't pay one extra cent for this service, because the pipes were super-old and the plumber agreed it wasn't our fault.

And this past week when my fiance was visiting his grandpa, the toilet backed up into the bathtub because the septic tank was clogged, and he had to get bleach and boiling water to clean it up himself. It was disgusting.

My boss bought his first house when he got a position at Tulane. Then Katrina happened and flooded it a good 4 feet. Of course, they had to take care of ALL the cleanup and sell the house so he could move to find a lab he could use. He's in his early 40s and promises to rent until they die.

So YMMV on the whole renting vs. buying thing. Fiance and I are also pretty flighty and not set on settling anywhere right now, so buying definitely does not make any sense for us.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

It depends on where you are from too. New York renting is just a way of life, but they definitely have various statuses of renting. But there buying would be a HUGE deal, but not something you'd be seen as immature for not having done by your forties. So environment plays a role.

Also people who travel alot for work, of course.

In the south living in the city is mostly for losers and poor people.

 

[Anita18]

It depends on where you are from too. New York renting is just a way of life, but they definitely have various statuses of renting. But there buying would be a HUGE deal, but not something you'd be seen as immature for not having done by your forties. So environment plays a role.

Also people who travel alot for work, of course.

In the south living in the city is mostly for losers and poor people.

Right. We live in SoCal, and here (as well as NorCal), you really do have to be filthy rich to afford a house. Everything that's not in gangland is over a million dollars.

Given how we avoid corporate jobs, I don't think we'll ever be able to afford our own house.

 

[Erzengel]

My house was brand spanking new with a 10 year warranty on the big stuff.

Plus I got this house during when it was very opportune to buy then to sell.

Interest rates were also very low and I'll consider refinancing if it lowers a point.

 

[Anubis]

It's a great house. Ranch style home. 2400 sqr feet, with a fenced in backyard.

I have a bar in the enclosed room they built inside the two-car garage. Nice, big Master Bedroom too. Three bedroom, two bath, nice wood fireplace in the living room.

Spoiler

Eh? Really not a bad idea when you're a homeowner. But yes, I sense most of the girls after me really want something more serious now that I have my home.

Now that looks like a floor you can spit on.

 

[Nave 'Torment']

I bought a house.

That's why I haven't really posted in this thread in a while.

Wasn't pursuing anything at the time.

Although girls seem more interested in me now, than before I bought my house.

Congratulations man! That must feel great -- I'm sure it's a definite plus for your romantic pursuits. Good on ya!

 

[Nave 'Torment']

Right. We live in SoCal, and here (as well as NorCal), you really do have to be filthy rich to afford a house. Everything that's not in gangland is over a million dollars.

Given how we avoid corporate jobs, I don't think we'll ever be able to afford our own house.

I wouldn't mind having my own place but it'd also feel very restrained -- like you've anchored down. I just can't see myself anchored in one place, and don't think I really want to.

But if I had to buy a place it'd probably be in some secluded forest outside of civilised society where I can dump the hacked bodies of all those dead critics have some privacy. *coughs*

 

[Nave 'Torment']

Now that looks like a floor you can spit on.

Watch this one Optimus!

 

[kane9321]

The whole reception hall? Or just the deposit? My deposite was a few hundred dollars, which would hurt to lose, but not as much as laying down a few thou.

My coworker has a guy friend who got married. Turns out his fiancee had checked out of the relationship and was cheating on him during their engagement, but felt she needed to go through with the wedding. Her happy act dropped from her face the minute they left the reception hall. He had no clue up until then.

Save yourself the headache, and the money. If you're going to break up with her, do it now.


I was at my 10-year high school reunion a few weeks ago. A couple of really nerdy book-smart guys have extremely well-paying jobs and bought condos already. In the area, a basic condo could go for more than a half-mil, easy. It is the most expensive real estate in the country.

I'm not exactly sure if they were expecting more action from the women from owning a house (it doesn't seem like they ever did up to that point), but something tells me that if they weren't getting any action before, owning a house by itself may not help.

Thankfully just the deposit