Revenge of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[Erzengel]

You'd be surprised that some people, are socially awkward. Maybe a bit of asperger's or some sort of disorder.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

Myself, as i have said before, was hamstrung throughout my adult life by my suffering from what they call body dysmorphia, which some folk might not take seriously, but i pretty much had it going on really bad, i have heard of worse cases where folk could not leave the house no matter what, but i guess i was could have been one of them if i did not use alcohol to help me actually get out of the house, which i had to do after pacing the place, unable to go outside.

The funny thing was, i did get over that condition, but what do you know, a couple of months later my world was turned upside down and i suddenly had a job that made it impossible for me to ask women out, although, in those couple of months inbetween i did in fact ask a woman out, scary as it was, i did actually go for it.
and then after my first year of doing that job, i end up getting really ill and debilitated for two years, which i am only just now starting to come out of.

Psychologically, i think i am sorted out, it's just that i have not had the chance to test myself out in normal physical health, of the kind that other people take for granted.
so, i am curious to find out who i really am. I guess i still have some problmes to work out, but i should be better than ever at my job and at being a normal human being, as long as i recover and get something akin to normal sleep.

Anyway, in tersm of my love life, i can only try my best and see what happens, and try not to be a nut about things that are out of my control.

 

[Godzilla2000]

You'd be surprised that some people, are socially awkward. Maybe a bit of asperger's or some sort of disorder.

I guess I am what you could call socially awkward. It might be because of functional autistic affliction. I don't rule that out at all, but it also is because I pretty much don't like to butt my nose into someone else's business unless they want me to. This is why I tend to just stand back and let other people introduce themselves to me because i feel it should be their choice if they want me involved in their lives.

I think using hypnotic techniques to mess with the mind of anyone, in order to mess up their relationship, well, those actions are pure evil, no two ways about it.
Especially, when the person/s know that the subject of their experiments is in a very vulnerable state of mind due to physical damage being inflicted on their brain/mind over a prolonged period of time, and is therefore not in their real state of mind in the first place.

Anyone who does not take this into consideration - well, they are a party to this evil.

Anyone who spreads lies and twists the truth against this person, they're involved in actions of true evil as well.

edit: eh, fug it, i edited out the plastic surgery p.o.v., it's not as simple as i put it, and i can't be arsed talking about it anymore.

If you're referring to my post then I have no clue what you're talking about. I'm just saying that things that aren't life threatening operations shouldn't even be paid for by a significant other if the other person wants it done. I personally think it's a waste of money when such funds could go to much better things, like helping children with cancer be happy for the duration of their young lives before they're snuffed out prematurely by such a horrible disease. If I was a guy and my wife/girlfriend begged me to pay for them to add bigger boobs or chop half their face off I'd tell them they do that and I leave them because I fell in love with them as they are. I've been mercilessly picked o n because I have big boobs, am plus sized, etc. etc. whatever petty excuse idiots can come up with to make themselves feel better about their own low self esteemed selves. But you know what? I'm not getting plastic surgery and they can just shove their vain selves into the deep dark hole of their anuses. That is unless they still have those sticks stuck up them. If anything their nastiness has made me a stronger person.

Anyways, if a woman who has a totally desirable, cool, intelligent, nice, sexy looking guy as a husband thinks she needs to make herself look better by going under the knife even after he's already committed to her then she's certifiably nuts to think she needs to do anything to herself to keep him. Man, I'd love to have that kind of guy to myself because he likes me as I am. Women who are maniacally obsessed with their looks are so crazy and delusional. I can't stand being in the same room with them when these kinds have it all but still aren't happy. I wish I could slap some sense into them and tell them to wake up to see that great man they have beside them who married them that I'd be honored to have as just a friend. I just don't tolerate weenie whiners who have such handsome men in their lives. The reason why a lot of my past male friends left their girlfriends or wives was because of this emotional insecurity that seemed to manifest after the initial endorphin rush ebbed. They felt insecure themselves around these women like they were walking on eggshells all the time in their presence and the most innocent of statements meant to sound supportive would set them off into a hysterical fit of Soap Opera level dramatics. They couldn't live with such unnecessary stress so they left. Me being a woman myself I can say that we can be too harsh on men sometimes and don't understand how their brains process information.

But you know what? When a relationship fizzles out to the point where the little things can't be fixed and it causes both parties undue stress then there's not much else you can do. Would you rather live in an environment where you can't eat, you can't sleep and you can't be happy because of someone else's low self opinion of themselves? Hey, I had to live with that for a few years from myself and it was literally hell! I'm still trying to shake that awful time and it will be a slow recovery, but I just have to tough it out. Some of these girls just don't know how lucky they have it to have some guys in their lives and then they don't realize it until it's too late and the damage has been irretrievably done. Should people have to suffer, kill themselves slowly from the inside out because the other person is so emotionally needy that they have to resort to disfiguring themselves at the other person's expense? My biggest defense against the divas that poke fun at me is to ask them how many surgeries they've had to look perfect and then I tell them I've had 0 and I'm happy, so who's the one who should be ashamed of themselves? Why should I be shamed by these plastic Barbie Dolls for not thinking so horribly of myself that I would use a guy to turn myself into another clone of them? I'm looking out for #1 now and just being happy with who I am whether my physical looks are acceptable to the egomaniacs or not, with or without a guy in my life.

It's just gotten to the point where I'm just sick and tired of other people trying to make me feel bad about the genetics God gave me.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

I guess I am what you could call socially awkward. It might be because of functional autistic affliction. I don't rule that out at all, but it also is because I pretty much don't like to butt my nose into someone else's business unless they want me to. This is why I tend to just stand back and let other people introduce themselves to me because i feel it should be their choice if they want me involved in their lives.

you could miss out on some kind of shy nice guy in that case.

If you're referring to my post then I have no clue what you're talking about. I'm just saying that things that aren't life threatening operations shouldn't even be paid for by a significant other if the other person wants it done. I personally think it's a waste of money when such funds could go to much better things, like helping children with cancer be happy for the duration of their young lives before they're snuffed out prematurely by such a horrible disease. If I was a guy and my wife/girlfriend begged me to pay for them to add bigger boobs or chop half their face off I'd tell them they do that and I leave them because I fell in love with them as they are. I've been mercilessly picked o n because I have big boobs, am plus sized, etc. etc. whatever petty excuse idiots can come up with to make themselves feel better about their own low self esteemed selves. But you know what? I'm not getting plastic surgery and they can just shove their vain selves into the deep dark hole of their anuses. That is unless they still have those sticks stuck up them. If anything their nastiness has made me a stronger person.

Anyways, if a woman who has a totally desirable, cool, intelligent, nice, sexy looking guy as a husband thinks she needs to make herself look better by going under the knife even after he's already committed to her then she's certifiably nuts to think she needs to do anything to herself to keep him. Man, I'd love to have that kind of guy to myself because he likes me as I am. Women who are maniacally obsessed with their looks are so crazy and delusional. I can't stand being in the same room with them when these kinds have it all but still aren't happy. I wish I could slap some sense into them and tell them to wake up to see that great man they have beside them who married them that I'd be honored to have as just a friend. I just don't tolerate weenie whiners who have such handsome men in their lives. The reason why a lot of my past male friends left their girlfriends or wives was because of this emotional insecurity that seemed to manifest after the initial endorphin rush ebbed. They felt insecure themselves around these women like they were walking on eggshells all the time in their presence and the most innocent of statements meant to sound supportive would set them off into a hysterical fit of Soap Opera level dramatics. They couldn't live with such unnecessary stress so they left. Me being a woman myself I can say that we can be too harsh on men sometimes and don't understand how their brains process information.

But you know what? When a relationship fizzles out to the point where the little things can't be fixed and it causes both parties undue stress then there's not much else you can do. Would you rather live in an environment where you can't eat, you can't sleep and you can't be happy because of someone else's low self opinion of themselves? Hey, I had to live with that for a few years from myself and it was literally hell! I'm still trying to shake that awful time and it will be a slow recovery, but I just have to tough it out. Some of these girls just don't know how lucky they have it to have some guys in their lives and then they don't realize it until it's too late and the damage has been irretrievably done. Should people have to suffer, kill themselves slowly from the inside out because the other person is so emotionally needy that they have to resort to disfiguring themselves at the other person's expense? My biggest defense against the divas that poke fun at me is to ask them how many surgeries they've had to look perfect and then I tell them I've had 0 and I'm happy, so who's the one who should be ashamed of themselves? Why should I be shamed by these plastic Barbie Dolls for not thinking so horribly of myself that I would use a guy to turn myself into another clone of them? I'm looking out for #1 now and just being happy with who I am whether my physical looks are acceptable to the egomaniacs or not, with or without a guy in my life.

It's just gotten to the point where I'm just sick and tired of other people trying to make me feel bad about the genetics God gave me.

eh, if you are trying to insinuate that i would want someone i loved to have plastic surgery, you are completely out of your mind.
I mean, really not in touch with reality. I don't know who you are, and you sure as hell don't know me, so try keeping your strange opinions to yourself and please try to refrain addressing me with such veiled insults again.

When i responded to you initially with that reply a few weeks ago, about you feeling that your partners siblings could be a problem etc, i honestly thought i was addressing a person in their teens, the fact you were almost 40 blew me away when you revealed your age. As i guess it did with other posters as a couple of folk asked you what age you were when you posted that bizarre sibling stuff up.
So, i guess i am not surprised at the level of veiled insult you have stooped to here.

also, if you had not been so deliberately misleading about being a brand new poster, and revealed who you were initially, i would not have responded to your psosts at all.
Because i remember you, you went after me with an obsessive way with insults a long time ago when i was here under another name, that you know damn well about, as i have revealed it in other posts.

Try to get a grip of yourself, you are kind of out of it.

 

[Godzilla2000]

eh, if you are trying to insinuate that i would want someone i loved to have plastic surgery, you are completely out of your mind.

I'm not saying that at all. I'm just saying that there are some girls out there who like to use their man to enhance their own physical looks to further some sort of selfish goals of theirs. What I'm saying is that if I have a male friend that has been victimized by one of these sorts of girls then they would be in for a world of vocally expressed opinions by yours truly if I was in the same room with them if they start attacking my male friend for refusing to pay for such selfish procedures. It goes back to my contemplation about that whole feminine Razzle Dazzle thing and how some guys are completely fooled by the physical beauty of a woman. It's like I say in my sig, it's funny what a little money in a man's pocket will bring out in certain types of women, especially the ones obsessed with looking perfect all the time and having expensive tastes to add to that.

 

[Anita18]

Fine. I'll go polish my helmet. I'll polish my helmet all night long.

I totally snorted.

You'd be surprised that some people, are socially awkward. Maybe a bit of asperger's or some sort of disorder.

There are degrees of it, definitely. ETM doesn't show as much of it as say, my younger cousin. I'm sure my cousin has undiagnosed Asperger's. You can't really hold a conversation with him, because he'll go into technical jargon very quickly. He isn't interested in what other people are doing or what they're thinking. My bf is like that a little, but it's not so much complete uninterest as it is wanting to focus more on his own life.

Nobody's had him diagnosed because he's a very smart kid technically, and now he's working on Wall St earning big bucks. His saving grace from being a complete utter *****ebag IMO will be his social awkwardness, although I did mention to his brother that I hoped he wouldn't get trapped by a woman looking for a sugar daddy. His brother replied that he's certain he'll find a wife like their mom, who genuinely loves her husband but also spends a lot of his money on her shopping addiction.

I guess I am what you could call socially awkward. It might be because of functional autistic affliction. I don't rule that out at all, but it also is because I pretty much don't like to butt my nose into someone else's business unless they want me to. This is why I tend to just stand back and let other people introduce themselves to me because i feel it should be their choice if they want me involved in their lives.

I'm like that too, but I just consider it plain old shyness.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

I'm not saying that at all.

Ok, if you genuinely were not insinuating that, I apologise, because that kind of thought or notion is completely alien to my way of thinking, I have never looked at anyone and thought they should get plastic surgery(apart from myself, haha).
I was mainly talking about folk who have real problems with self image to the point where it is preventing them from living their lives properly, that it can be a good idea for them.
I wouldn't want to judge anyone who wanted to get it done for purely cosmetic reasons, although, like the most responsible doctors, i would suggest to them first that they try to be happy with themslevs just the way they are and re-align their perceptions.
But if you really want a bigger nose and expanded feet so you can join the circus, you should go for it.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I don't like to throw the word disorder around because in my mind it should be confined to extreme cases. This isn't directed at any particular poster I just feel as though most social awkwardness is conquerable and frequently all in your head. It is something you can turn off in certain cases. That's not to say anyone does this intentionally. I think a lot of people, especially smart people, can hold onto anxieties and fears as well as they can facts and logic.

 

[Godzilla2000]

Ok, if you genuinely were not insinuating that, I apologise, because that kind of thought or notion is completely alien to my way of thinking, I have never looked at anyone and thought they should get plastic surgery(apart from myself, haha).
I was mainly talking about folk who have real problems with self image to the point where it is preventing them from living their lives properly, that it can be a good idea for them.
I wouldn't want to judge anyone who wanted to get it done for purely cosmetic reasons, although, like the most responsible doctors, i would suggest to them first that they try to be happy with themslevs just the way they are and re-align their perceptions.
But if you really want a bigger nose and expanded feet so you can join the circus, you should go for it.

I just think altering what God gave you because of the stupidity of others or yourself is just wrong. I know the vain people say they do it for themselves, but really the truth is they do it for the approval of others not themselves. They want people to stare at them because of what they've had done. Now in extreme cases like birth defects such as hare lips and horrific disfigurements I do agree with people getting it done of only so they can live normal lives without being maligned by the ignorant masses.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

So, Mr. Shy, timid and too afraid to ask a girl out Nell just got told by a woman tonight that I am especially bold with my flirting and come ons - in an attractive way.

This is what im talking about. I am a walking contradiction. Women tell me how much they love me. Women tell me how bold I am. Men tell me how confident I carry myself, and how strong a personality I have.

Yet somehow im too shy and nervous to ask girls out on dates, and when I do, its typically met with a decline.

I must learn how to find my balance and capitalize off the obvious strengths of my personality.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

I just think altering what God gave you because of the stupidity of others or yourself is just wrong. I know the vain people say they do it for themselves, but really the truth is they do it for the approval of others not themselves. They want people to stare at them because of what they've had done. Now in extreme cases like birth defects such as hare lips and horrific disfigurements I do agree with people getting it done of only so they can live normal lives without being maligned by the ignorant masses.

Ok, let's bring God into it, haha...ah....
Maybe sometimes God wants you to do something about something you were born with, since you have got yourself into such a state that therapy would do no good.
The only thing you can be sure of is that God wants you to be happy, so if the only solution to that, in some extreme cases, is getting surgery, then that is what he would want you to do.

Again, I'm mainly talking about folk in extreme cases of distress, which i can empathise with, I know how destructive that can be to your life.

I wouldn't call a hare lip 'horrifically disfiguring' necesarily, there are different degrees of disfigurement with that condition, it depends on the level of disfigurement and your own p.o.v I guess.
But, i would say that there are folk with big ears/noses/whatever, who have had just as much negative attention as birth defects like that, to the point of them feeling afraid to go out in public, or it hobbling their confidence when it comes to the opposite sex.
So, i really don't see the difference between a hare lip and something like that, other than that you feel can brandish some kind of argument that one is 'natural' and the other not, sure, one is a birth defect, an accident, but they can both have the same level of devastation on the mind, and that is what is pertinant here, a guy with big ears or a big nose could have it harder from other people, and with what is going on in his own mind, than a guy with a hare lip, easily.
If you going to bring God into it, then you best be prepared to accept the fact that he determined that the person get the hare-lip or birth defect in the first place, and that is just as 'natural' and as much of a test of character as giving a person big ears/nose/excessive weight/whatever.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

I don't like to throw the word disorder around because in my mind it should be confined to extreme cases. This isn't directed at any particular poster I just feel as though most social awkwardness is conquerable and frequently all in your head. It is something you can turn off in certain cases. That's not to say anyone does this intentionally. I think a lot of people, especially smart people, can hold onto anxieties and fears as well as they can facts and logic.

Aye, i do not use the word 'disorder' lightly, I only used that term for a period in my life because I had gotten myself into such a state that my mind indeed had reached a level of illness that it determined every step of my life, and it had negative impacts on everything i did. The frame of mind i ended up getting into did reach the level of being a mental disorder, but, y'know, it is a state of mind that ends with the ight frame of mind, unlike others you are born with like autism or asperger's.

I don't think folk should think of conditions such as Autism or Aspergers as a 'disorder', as they are usually implied as being, they are natural conditions, sure, they might not be the best conditions to have in the modern urban world, in a lot of circumstances, but they are natural human conditions and no-one should be ashamed of those conditions.
Back in the days of the caveman, it would be the person with autism or asperger's who would sit for hours on end with two sticks of wood trying to get a fire on the go, with that single minded determination, just as nowadays it could be that guy who sits for hours on end coming up with some new invention.


I don't think that people should be throwing around terms like that at other folk so easily, because it is a way of dismissing *other* problems a person has been facing in their lives, that have been incredibly difficult to handle and surmount, and it is incredibly insulting for those problems to be dismissed by folk saying 'Ah, he just has some mad condition like Aspergers or whatever, don't listen to him.' Insulting, not because they say they have the condition per se, but because they do not want to take the truth of the matter onboard and instead wish to spread lies and disinformation about someone.
I wouldn't throw aorund terms like that myself, because it is insulting not only to people who have other problems in their lives that have been incredibly difficult, but also to the people who live with those conditions, because their lives are now being used, in certain contexts of insinuation, as schoolyard taunts, the conditions being used as terms of dismissal and insult.

 

[Godzilla2000]

Ok, let's bring God into it....

I always do bring God into it because it's natural for me or anyone else to look the way that they do. Why should we have to cause ourselves so much mental duress over things that are genetic in nature? I'll never be a Size 0 nor will I ever be a single digit dress size. But I'm not falling all over myself in dark depression and despair because my body can't fit the constraints of egocentric people. If they can't accept the fact I will always be a size 14-16 dress size then I don't know what to tell them. My goal in life is to make ladies and girls just like me who are average sized and healthy feel good about themselves. I'm all about kicking those boxes of shallowness from the outside and busting through the walls of prejudices based on the exterior looks of someone. I am going to believe in myself as being just as attractive as someone with a 12 inch waist. I don't need plastic surgery to make myself feel good about myself.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

So, Mr. Shy, timid and too afraid to ask a girl out Nell just got told by a woman tonight that I am especially bold with my flirting and come ons - in an attractive way.

This is what im talking about. I am a walking contradiction. Women tell me how much they love me. Women tell me how bold I am. Men tell me how confident I carry myself, and how strong a personality I have.

Yet somehow im too shy and nervous to ask girls out on dates, and when I do, its typically met with a decline.

I must learn how to find my balance and capitalize off the obvious strengths of my personality.

Can't say, but that sounds like a good sign at least. You should be careful who you flirt with, and you should remind yourself it's okay to go home empty handed. Maybe you're flirting with someone who doesn't deserve all that attention?

The thing about being "declined" is it was bound to happen, i.e. from the moment you met this person. About all you can do is f*** it up.

Also think about what works for you. For some reason I found talking about math, science or politics work for me. I don't honestly think the content of what I say is important because I think what they hear is the passion in my voice. I'm told I channel RDJ a little bit.

I think you also have to realize why people flirt. You're probably going to say to get laid and while I hear that it's not a compelling argument. Flirting in and of itself seems like a daft method that could better be accomplished by a series of direct statements - you know, like when you want Bob to go get you a beer at the bar. It's not though is it? So you're establishing something different. Really, in my mind, flirtation is something that comes out of being relaxed. I'm not trying to think of anything to say, I'm just relaxing and letting some base impulses take over.

Flirting should also develop some baseline for intimacy. In other words when your flirting with someone you want to establish some personal details about her and about yourself. Letting someone in on something is important is key. What it is, that's up to you.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I think part of the "jerks get girls" complex is that people who get girls inherently look out for themselves. In other words they are a little selfish or at least self serving. The Proverbial "Nice Guy" sees this primarily from the vantage point of the girl, who may cry or get upset at his comments.

To pick something that would be unextreme from the Man's perspective might be "wanting a night for himself and as buddies". Is that really that prick-ish. Don't you occasionally want nights away from your parents, siblings or co-workers? Some of whom you may love dearly. Is it wrong for you to want occasional solitude or to surround yourself with a new crowd? Not really. People do it all the time.

So I think two big personal changes which link back to confidence is having a somewhat self serving nature which factors in your desire to survive and thrive. People who can do this better, better compete are seen as more attractive. If you're going to be a good boyfriend your not going to look good for them if you can't first do right by yourself. Obviously physical fitness, financial well being, having certain *ahem* genetic benefits, or even emotional stability would fall into this is they illustrate self maintenance.

 

[terry78]

Girls want you to be just enough of an ass that you don't let them walk over you, but not so much that you're like savagely cheating or beating them.

 

[Angel_Faerie]

I went on my first ever 100% no-question (none of that "half-date" crap) date last night t:

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Girls want you to be just enough of an ass that you don't let them walk over you, but not so much that you're like savagely cheating or beating them.

Yup, pretty much.

 

[Erzengel]

And I think too many guys mistake the "I'm just not attracted to you." for "I think you're a nice guy. Other reasons why we can't just date." Just because you're "nice" to a girl doesn't mean she has to date you.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Can't say, but that sounds like a good sign at least. You should be careful who you flirt with, and you should remind yourself it's okay to go home empty handed. Maybe you're flirting with someone who doesn't deserve all that attention?

The thing about being "declined" is it was bound to happen, i.e. from the moment you met this person. About all you can do is f*** it up.

Also think about what works for you. For some reason I found talking about math, science or politics work for me. I don't honestly think the content of what I say is important because I think what they hear is the passion in my voice. I'm told I channel RDJ a little bit.

I think you also have to realize why people flirt. You're probably going to say to get laid and while I hear that it's not a compelling argument. Flirting in and of itself seems like a daft method that could better be accomplished by a series of direct statements - you know, like when you want Bob to go get you a beer at the bar. It's not though is it? So you're establishing something different. Really, in my mind, flirtation is something that comes out of being relaxed. I'm not trying to think of anything to say, I'm just relaxing and letting some base impulses take over.

Flirting should also develop some baseline for intimacy. In other words when your flirting with someone you want to establish some personal details about her and about yourself. Letting someone in on something is important is key. What it is, that's up to you.

I definitely think it's a good thing.

Sorry if I made it sound wrong, when I say "this is what I don't get", I mean about myself, not women.

I don't get how I can go from being apparently so confident and forward, yet so shy and timid around women at the same time. With the people that I am around, particularly on campus, there is an image of me of being this smooth ladies man, a player, that is always with a different woman. The reality couldn't be anymore different than that, lol. There's only a close handful of people that I've told the truth to.

I hear from others all the time, who are part of certain "cliques", how certain groups of girls are just totally in love with me and talk about me all the time (not necessarily romantic, but possibly).

Even this current girl now that I'm kinda talking to, she's practically hitting me over the head with the fact that she's interested in me and wants to go out, and yet I'm still shy and hesitant to ask her out. I have, and unfortunately the timing has been off and we haven't been able to go out yet, but I'm still incredibly nervous as crap about actually making the move on her. Despite being given every hint possible that making a move is what she wants me to do.

It's me who's confusing myself. I'm not even so much confused by the women as much anymore as I am with myself. Obviously, what I've done with myself has worked to this point - the changes I've made in my life have made me a more confident and self loving person, and apparently that is translating, as people want to be around me, and I do make an impression on people. I guess I'm just not used to being confident in myself (I never really have been in my life until the past year or 2) so I don't really know what to do with all of it, lol. I guess, even though this is in the relationship advice thread, this post is more about me, and self reflection, than it is a girl and how to whoo her. I feel like I'm past the point of needing to ask "what to do" every step of the way. I think I know, I just don't realize I know, so I seek validation for every move I make.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

And I think too many guys mistake the "I'm just not attracted to you." for "I think you're a nice guy. Other reasons why we can't just date." Just because you're "nice" to a girl doesn't mean she has to date you.

Bingo! Just cause you flirt and dance with a girl doesn't mean that either. Lots of guys seem to waste time on lost causes. They try so hard to be clever and "nice" that they miss whether or not their was any reciprocity or chemistry to begin with.

Often times when we 'hook up' is when we say or do the dumbest things because that's what happens when the hormones start to race. I've noticed guys who tell me they have the 'gift of gab' actually turn off 99% of all women because all that aggressive flirting just smacks of desperation.

 

[enterthemadness]

Awwww, I knew you guys loved talking about me. I'm 24, not 25. .....the woman I lost my V card to was a mistake, hence why no kissing. Duh. End of discussion.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Girls want you to be just enough of an ass that you don't let them walk over you, but not so much that you're like savagely cheating or beating them.

I think sometimes its a ambition thing. Ambitious men can be ruthless in getting what they want. Women want to be paired with these men and are ok with the way they treat others, so long as they dont treat them that way.

Not all women are that way of course, but sometimes I wonder about some of them.

 

[AndThePickles]

I went on my first ever 100% no-question (none of that "half-date" crap) date last night t:

Congrats, that's so awesome!!!! Very, very proud of you.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Tomorrow night, I'm going to try and get laid. It has been a while. Over two months now.

Well, I didn't get laid, but I got two phone numbers. I probably could have tried to drag one back to my man-cave, but why risk scaring them off? I have plenty of time.
Plus, I met the creative director for Ubisoft (behind Assassin's Creed, Splinter Cell, etc) so that was pretty random and cool. He gave me his business card.