PyroChamber
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Sometimes I just think women have strange ways of thinking.
No, you'll increase your chances of scoring if you visibily demonstrate who you are and what you have to offer, and it fits into something that is socially accepted.
I can't bring myself to believe that anymore. Maybe it works in some social atmosphere's more than others but definitely not where i come from.
A lot of the time, jerks win out because they are simply more demonstrative. That, and they tend to have better surface attributes, which leads to the mindset of them not having to try with women, and so they act like jerks.
True and the jerks out there I believe are not only more persistent but evoke an overwhelming sense of sexual dominance which I've discovered is a factor in whether you get some. Sometimes it just comes down to those simple primal instincts.
Right, but do they become putty because the men are jerks, or because the men demonstrate an ability to exert control, and some level of confidence?
I'm almost completely certain it's about their ability to demonstrate their sexual dominance which is unfortunately linked to how cold hearted and cruel they can be. (Screw it, I am completely certain.) We have to find some kind of balance between being tender and being callous... fun. i believe you said something about that earlier.
Don't look for that weakness to just disappear as they get older. It just doesn't work that way with most people.
Damn...
Actually, the reason women usually want the asses is because someone else wants them, which makes them appear more desirable. Monkey see, monkey do.
true.
And even if he wants a long term relationship, odds are he'll still want sex on some level.
its all about the nice guys lol, what bout the nice girls? we get no love either
and i can't speak for all females, just myself, but i find the acting like a jerk completely unattractive. when you're trying to act like a jerk to get with a girl or something, the key word is act. i'm not attracted to guys who try to brag and show off or try to put on airs to impress people.
it's what you do when you think no one is watching that i look out for.
there was a guy i was 'talking to' at one point, totally cool and everything around me, one time he didn't think anyone was around, his true self came out. complete and utter prick. i wasn't attracted to him after that.
and on the other hand, so i don't appear a hypocrite. there has been a guy or two that i wasn't initially really attracted to, but once i saw him when he didn't know i was around, i saw some of the good things he did/said/etc, i grew more attracted.
its all about the nice guys lol, what bout the nice girls? we get no love either
and i can't speak for all females, just myself, but i find the acting like a jerk completely unattractive. when you're trying to act like a jerk to get with a girl or something, the key word is act. i'm not attracted to guys who try to brag and show off or try to put on airs to impress people.
it's what you do when you think no one is watching that i look out for.
there was a guy i was 'talking to' at one point, totally cool and everything around me, one time he didn't think anyone was around, his true self came out. complete and utter prick. i wasn't attracted to him after that.
and on the other hand, so i don't appear a hypocrite. there has been a guy or two that i wasn't initially really attracted to, but once i saw him when he didn't know i was around, i saw some of the good things he did/said/etc, i grew more attracted.
some people might find that creepy
but i understand what you're saying
if you take it literally lol, yeah it does sound kinda creepy/stalkerish.
but seriously though, you can really tell fake people from sincere just by observing them 'when the cameras are off' so to speak.
that's why those hidden camera shows used to be such a hit, cuz it shows how ppl really act, no chance to put up facades and crap
lol yeah i know what you mean. I used to do the same thing whenever i was around a girl. I would always try to "be on my best behavior" in the event that maybe she was watching me at all times. I eventually realized that doing that wouldn't help me as much as i thought. Sure she might be interested in me, but if she would try to get to know me she would just be disappointed to find out that inside i'm not the same as i was trying to be outside, and then she'll completely lose interest. Now I'd rather just be myself at all times, that way if a girl becomes interested, i'd know it's for being who i am not someone else.
I think every guy here knows that's not true. We have to put up a fascade. Since this a comicbook forum, compare it to a secret identity vs the superhero.
She Says vs. He Says: Do Girls Really Like Dating Jerks?
By Christine Hassler and Jason Ryan Dorsey
Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Feb 24, 2008
Christine Hassler and Jason Ryan Dorsey
I think these are what really separates the "nice" guy from the "jerk". The jerk really does see himself as being superior to the girl and feels like they have to control the girl, and it doesn't help when there are girls who subject themselves to this belief and allow it to continue. The nice guy on the other hand, realizes that they are on the same level as the girl. They also feel no need to control her for she is her own person who should make her own decisions.SHE SAYS: No, but we think we do. As someone who dated a jerk, whom I now refer to as my "learning experience," I admit to falling under the jerk spell.
Here's how the jerk spell works: we meet the jerk and in some twisted way are seduced by his confidence, charm, and passion. We don't see these as the disguises they are: confidence is really arrogance, charm comes from him being a player, and his passion is being the center of his own universe.
The jerk sniffs out our insecurities and uses them to reel us in with compliments that eventually turn into criticisms.
Are there girls that actually think like this? I mean if you fall for the guy because he looks strong and confident, what makes you think you can suddenly change that. It's not like he's gonna lose his confidence and suddenly become a pushover.We use our normally rational inner voice to convince ourselves that we can tame him or that with the right kind of girlfriend he will lose his jerk armor and transform into a leading man fit for a romantic comedy. Come on ladies, what are we thinking?!
Exactly. Most guys tend to act like jerks because they see all the other guys acting like jerks and get rewarded for it. Why would they change if nobody points out what they're doing is wrong.A jerk loves being a jerk -- way more than he loves us. I guess if they've always gotten away with treating people poorly and nobody ever set them straight, why would they change?
Unfortunately, there are some jerks that are smart enough to know when to hide that "jerk" part of them, and it's usually when they have the woman's attention and see she's not falling for whatever he's doing. So he "changes the play" and pretends to be a nice guy just to get in with a date. After that, he'll continue with his normal jerk behavior.The only challenge worth overcoming when dating a jerk is to not let him affect or define your self worth. So if there is a jerk out there making your heart go pitter-pat and estrogen is messing with your reasoning, go ahead and let him woo you, but when he asks for your number tell him that you only date guys who prove their value by respecting a woman. If he's a jerk he'll roll his eyes, say you have an attitude and snicker as he leaves. If he sincerely accepts your ground rules, then chances are you should give him at least one date to prove he's relationship material. Although you may not be spellbound at first, the nice guy without all the smooth answers may ultimately fulfill your needs in more meaningful ways.
Why must girls always try to prove things to their friends. I really hate it when girls have to have their friends' "seal of approval". Honestly, if you're only going out with me because your friends think it's a wise move, then there's already a problem. And this also holds true with "naysayer" friends. It shouldn't matter if your friends don't like the guy. If you like him then give him a chance. After all, YOU know what's best for yourself, not your friends.HE SAYS: As much as I hate to say it, girls love jerks! At least until the jerk stops calling, which is usually right after he gets what he wants. Speaking from the guy's perspective, I've never quite understood what draws sane, attractive, bright women to guys who act like jerks. Maybe it is the thrill of the unexpected. Maybe it is trying to outplay him in his own game. Maybe it is hoping that deep down he is a nice guy and you are going to prove it to your naysayer friends. What I do know is that too many women who could easily be in a healthy relationship instead choose the cliffhanger ending of dating a jerk that walks with a swagger, winks at anything that moves, and always has a one-liner at the ready.
Absolutely true. Most guys are nice guys, but they become jerks because they see that's what the girl they want prefer. What they should be thinking is that if that's what the girl prefers, then she just isn't the right one for you.Truth be told, there aren't many nice guys who haven't considered acting like a jerk, especially when they steal your girl (here I speak from experience).
1. He's probably a jerk if he tells you to skip desert because your butt already jiggles enough.
Another good way to distinguish how much of a jerk a guy is, whether he seems nice at first or not.2. He's definitely a jerk if he "guilts" you into doing things that make you feel bad about yourself -- usually starting with the line "If you really cared about me..."
3. He's absolutely a jerk if he takes you on a date and leaves you the bill, while he leaves with the waitress.
1. He's probably a jerk if he tells you to skip desert because your butt already jiggles enough.
If a guy does this, he isn't just a jerk, he's a really really dumb guy.
I would absolutely say this to a girl. Why would that make me a jerk & dumb in your opinion though? I would say this with a sly smile and an obvious playing tone. It's not what you say but the way you say it (playful like the way you would joke with your buddies busting each other's chops).
But that's the thing. It shouldn't have to be that. You should be able to love someone for who they are not who they try to be. And sure, you can compare it to having the dual identity, but does it always work out when heroes do that? When the hero's love interest finds out about the dual identity, they are shocked to discover the person they loved was keeping a big secret from them and realize that they truly don't know that person as well as they think. Then they have to decide whether they'll stay with the person and accept them for who they are and work things out, or leave the person because they see the person as a completely different person. That's the risk you take when you decide to put up a facade. And if a person can't love you for who you really are, there's no point in being with that person because the side that you hide will eventually come out and they're going to disappointed that they were decieved like that.
I wish it worked that way but it doesn't. The harsh reality is that if you don't put on your tights and save some lives, Lois will ignore you...
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