I'd still have sex with people who broke up with me. Even if they cheated.
Me too.
I'm very aggressive in the bed as it is. So it plays to my style. Like you, I'll come up with stuff to amuse myself. I'll usually pick a fun spot to, um, finish.
I think the funniest thing I've ever done (to me, anyway. Every girl I've ever told this to said I was a horrible person.) was I made plans to go out with this girl. It wasn't an official "date" or anything but it was pretty much known that we weren't trying to be friends or anything. So I meet up with her and her friend at the bar, we have drinks and when the bar closes, we go back to my house. So it's me, my roommate, and the two girls hanging out. Somewhere along the lines, the girl's friend starts giving me **** me eyes. I kinda chuckle to myself and say, "alright". So I end up hooking up with her friend in the next room. As we're starting she says, "I feel kinda bad about this; I think my friend really likes you." In my head I say, "Well, you're a bad person." but I just kind of gloss over it. So we do our thing and her friend leaves. Afterward, we're laying there and I turn to her and go, "So. Do you think this ruined any chance I have of still hooking up with your friend?" To which she replied, "Uh.... I don't know." I rolled over and had a pretty good laugh to myself.
Funny part about the whole thing, for some unknown reason, the original girl still agreed to go out with me again after that and we actually ended up dating a little bit. It was far from a normal relationship (it totally depended on the day whether or not we were actually dating according to her), but we did care very much for each other. It ended when she moved back to California. She's actually the one girl I've slept with that I liked that I mentioned earlier.
Wow, that ended up being way longer than I intended.
See this always confuses me.
Most women seem to be turned off, creeped out by the idea of men who just want to have casual sex.
I thought treating women with respect was the way to go.
You couldn't be more wrong. Women like sex just as much as we do. And casual sex does not mean you aren't treating them with respect. Being mean and lying to them would be not treating them with respect. Being upfront and saying, "Listen, I don't have any interest in a relationship and am only looking for something casual." is being totally respectful. And, actually, most women respect the truthfulness and are more likely to sleep with you than if you try to "play" them by lying, etc.
It's just later the thought enters my head. It's not full-on panic like other times I've been worried, it's just a little concern. Like I said, he hasn't complained and continues to kiss me, so I'm not that concerned.
There's this lecture I have to do this semester where I have two ex gfs in the class...
Happy for you.
