Official Relationship Thread: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

[hopefuldreamer]

I need a woman opinion about my situation. So I started talking to this girl that I met on a dating site. We exchange numbers and Skype. I found her to be very cute and funny and she told me she feels the same. We talk 2-4 hours a day for almost two weeks. Last Wednesday she told me she was sick and I haven't heard from her since? I called and text numerous times a day. I've gotten no reply. Some of my friends have said this might be her testing me to see if I'm serious. Idk what to make of it. For all I know she can be dead or simply done with me. Which is weird we never had any fights or disagreement. Our first date was Suppose to be in Disneyland next week

You said she was sick, but what were here exact words if you don't mind me asking?

When it comes to women, you can tell so much just by the way they say it, that looking at the exact wording might help us here.

Other than that, all you can do is wait. Maybe she is sick. It's not even been a week yet.

If she never replies again, it's possible she got really really sick, but much more likely she lied and just didn't wanna go through with the date. So on to the next one.

But she may contact you sometime soon all apologetic and explaining herself. You just don't know.

 

[L.A.]

You said she was sick, but what were here exact words if you don't mind me asking?

When it comes to women, you can tell so much just by the way they say it, that looking at the exact wording might help us here.

Other than that, all you can do is wait. Maybe she is sick. It's not even been a week yet.

If she never replies again, it's possible she got really really sick, but much more likely she lied and just didn't wanna go through with the date. So on to the next one.

But she may contact you sometime soon all apologetic and explaining herself. You just don't know.

She text me good morning and she said she was sick with a sad face. She said she was congested with a dry cough. She's going to take some Meds after she eats some Bread and rest. Couple of hours later I text her back if she feeling better and she replies no I'm still in my bed. And that was her last text. I haven't heard from her since.

 

[Anita18]

Yes I thought it was serious. She a vacation planner for Disneyland. It was her idea to go to Disneyland. Hell it was her who message me, asked for my number, called me everyday, Skype me. I'm so confused.

Oh that makes a lot more sense - she WORKS for Disneyland, therefore you both will get in free. I was like, $90 per person is kind of a serious first date.

Even then, getting stuck in a theme park all day together is kind of a serious first date. It's possible that she got cold feet after she realized how far she jumped in. Or maybe she still feels like crap. Congested with dry cough shouldn't be tooo serious, but people can still feel bad and not feel like talking to you. Only thing to do really is wait.

 

[Erzengel]

She text me good morning and she said she was sick with a sad face. She said she was congested with a dry cough. She's going to take some Meds after she eats some Bread and rest. Couple of hours later I text her back if she feeling better and she replies no I'm still in my bed. And that was her last text. I haven't heard from her since.

It's been almost a week. Unless she was hospitalized, a week is a long time. Especially if you were talking every day.

I mean, she could have been chatting with 2 other guys and you. Maybe she connected more with one of them and cut you loose.

If you want to text her again tomorrow, since it's a week go for it. If she doesn't respond by like Friday? I think you got your answer.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I need a woman opinion about my situation. So I started talking to this girl that I met on a dating site. We exchange numbers and Skype. I found her to be very cute and funny and she told me she feels the same. We talk 2-4 hours a day for almost two weeks. Last Wednesday she told me she was sick and I haven't heard from her since? I called and text numerous times a day. I've gotten no reply. Some of my friends have said this might be her testing me to see if I'm serious. Idk what to make of it. For all I know she can be dead or simply done with me. Which is weird we never had any fights or disagreement. Our first date was Suppose to be in Disneyland next week

In my mind two weeks is way too long to be communicating before a first date, especailly since you were talking every day. Plus, it sounds like she planned the date from your next post. She's on a dating site to go on dates, not make a penpal, which is all you are before you meet face to face.

 

[L.A.]

In my mind two weeks is way too long to be communicating before a first date, especailly since you were talking every day. Plus, it sounds like she planned the date from your next post. She's on a dating site to go on dates, not make a penpal, which is all you are before you meet face to face.

Well our schedules didn't match, she had to request time off for the weekends

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Well our schedules didn't match, she had to request time off for the weekends

You said you were skyping, so your schedules had to match up sometimes. When my wife and I first started dating we had plans during the weekend, so we just made time during the week to see each other.

 

[L.A.]

You said you were skyping, so your schedules had to match up sometimes. When my wife and I first started dating we had plans during the weekend, so we just made time during the week to see each other.

Yes I asked her if she wanted to see me sooner but she really insisted our first date in Disneyland when were both off. She Also discussed about me coming over for dinner and spending the night and eventually meeting her family. Oh well her lost.

 

[Erzengel]

Yes I asked her if she wanted to see me sooner but she really insisted our first date in Disneyland when were both off. She Also discussed about me coming over for dinner and spending the night and eventually meeting her family. Oh well her lost.

Before even the first date?

Slow...down.....

 

[L.A.]

Before even the first date?

Slow...down.....

Not the first time a girl has told me before even going on a first date lol I guess I'm just a charming guy

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Before even the first date?

Slow...down.....

I'm with you, talk about meeting the family before a first date would freak me out big time.

 

[L.A.]

The one thing that burns me is that her uncle owns a Gamestop and was going to hook me up with NBA 2k13! Now I have to get up early on black Friday and pay for my copy?!

 

[L.A.]

I'm with you, talk about meeting the family before a first date would freak me out big time.

I'm 28 and ready to settle down so that don't really scare me anymore lol

 

[TinkTonks]

I'm with you, talk about meeting the family before a first date would freak me out big time.

I once went out with someone who told me his mother's only wish was to have more grandchildren. It was our first date. He was like 'my mom is really pushing me to give her grandchildren, like reeeeeeally pushing me. My brother already has two kids, and I have always tried to be just like him.......so anyway, what are you doing tomorrow?'

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I'm 28 and ready to settle down so that don't really scare me anymore lol

I was ready to settle down when I met my wife 3 years ago, however, I still wanted to spend some time alone together before being introduced to the family. I waited two months to introduce her to my family and that wasn't really even planned, I was planning on running a race on Thanksgiving with my sister and she registered for the same race, so I just figured I'd introduce my family to her then. I met her parents a couple weeks later. Both weren't really planned or even talked about more than a few days in advance. Just feels like jumping the gun to me and rushing the normal pace of relationships. Although now everything is stalled, so maybe not.

 

[Anita18]

The one thing that burns me is that her uncle owns a Gamestop and was going to hook me up with NBA 2k13! Now I have to get up early on black Friday and pay for my copy?!

I once went out with someone who told me his mother's only wish was to have more grandchildren. It was our first date. He was like 'my mom is really pushing me to give her grandchildren, like reeeeeeally pushing me. My brother already has two kids, and I have always tried to be just like him.......so anyway, what are you doing tomorrow?'

Although honestly, pushing kids on a woman is different from pushing kids on a man. The woman has to be pregnant first! I'm in that "Aww babies are cute" phase, but I still haven't gotten over the "morning sickness really does not sound fun" phase. But my best friend's SIL just had her first baby, 1 year almost to the day she got married. "She's on a schedule, 3 kids before 35." IIRC she's 31 now.

I didn't meet my fiance's parents until 7 months after we started going out. (I met his dad separately and earlier, I forgot when.) But I guess it was supposed to be a big deal since I was the only gf of his that they had met.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

So it's been about a month or so since I've talked to that girl with the boyfriend. We still run into each other all the time at school, and it gets awkward everytime since I don't talk to her and she is visibly upset by the fact that I don't talk to her. But I told her this was gonna happen, I told her I wasn't going to be her walking ego boost, and that I wasn't going to play the whole "give her attention" game only for her to go running back to her guy.

Unfortunately, outside of that I've been in a slump. Asked out a lesbian, have another girl that comes around every so often showing a little bit of effort, only for nothing to ever happen, and finally worked up the nerve to ask out another girl I've been crushing on only to get shot down. It's been a rough go for me lately.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

So it's been about a month or so since I've talked to that girl with the boyfriend. We still run into each other all the time at school, and it gets awkward everytime since I don't talk to her and she is visibly upset by the fact that I don't talk to her. But I told her this was gonna happen, I told her I wasn't going to be her walking ego boost, and that I wasn't going to play the whole "give her attention" game only for her to go running back to her guy.

Unfortunately, outside of that I've been in a slump. Asked out a lesbian, have another girl that comes around every so often showing a little bit of effort, only for nothing to ever happen, and finally worked up the nerve to ask out another girl I've been crushing on only to get shot down. It's been a rough go for me lately.

Tbh I feel like for a few of us, most of life is a slump

You just gotta wait for those rare bits of luck and good timing. At least that's what i keep telling myself!

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Advise please?

How do you go about courting a work colleague in an office environment? Or is it impossible?

 

[Erzengel]

It's a little tricky. I've said it wasn't a good idea especially if this is one of your occupations.

You working at a bar, or summers in retail, it's different.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Tbh I feel like for a few of us, most of life is a slump

You just gotta wait for those rare bits of luck and good timing. At least that's what i keep telling myself!

Meh, only my love life is a slump. Everything else in my life has been pretty successful the past few years.

P.S.: Happy Thanksgiving y'all!

 

[chamber-music]

Advise please?

How do you go about courting a work colleague in an office environment? Or is it impossible?

Perhaps try at a more social enviroment like a christmas party or ask them out for a drink after work or something.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

It's a little tricky. I've said it wasn't a good idea especially if this is one of your occupations.

You working at a bar, or summers in retail, it's different.

Yeah, I think you're probably right... it's just so like me that the first person i've genuinely had a crush on in that 'the minute you see them your heart flutters' way would be completely untouchable.

Meh, only my love life is a slump. Everything else in my life has been pretty successful the past few years.

P.S.: Happy Thanksgiving y'all!

It's the relationship thread dude. I was exclusively talking about love lives

The rest of my life is a constant rollercoaster, not a slump at all!

And Happy Thanksgiving to y'sall aswell. I know we don't celebrate it here, but my friends and I were out for a drink tonight and did have a little cheers to thanksgiving

Perhaps try at a more social enviroment like a christmas party or ask them out for a drink after work or something.

Unfortunately am too new to be invited to the christmas party.

Thought he and I are the only two people in our section working christmas eve and boxing day... and I asked him today if he was the type to wear silly hats, and his response was 'why have you got some?'

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

It's the relationship thread dude. I was exclusively talking about love lives

The rest of my life is a constant rollercoaster, not a slump at all!

And Happy Thanksgiving to y'sall aswell. I know we don't celebrate it here, but my friends and I were out for a drink tonight and did have a little cheers to thanksgiving

Okay, so yea my love life has always been a slump, so can me being in a slump really be called a "slump?"

I've just had my confidence shaken recently because, since my ex girlfriend and I broke up, I've had a lot of girls either showing interest in me (or at least what I thought was interest - making an effort to talk to me, flirt with me, and see me) that wasn't really interest, girls showing interest in me when they already had boyfriends, or one girl that just flat out said no (okay, she didn't flat out say "no", she gave me the bogus "I don't know... I'm really busy" run around, but I know what that means). And as of late, I've had some instances of my rejections being thrown back in my face... so that hasn't helped my confidence.

And yea, I know not everyone in this thread is American, thus not everyone celebrates Thanksgiving, but still, it can't hurt to send good wishes towards someone right? My Thanksgiving evening was pretty damned awesome, I hope everyone else's was as well.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I'm having no more luck than you.

I have an active social life, go out two or three times a week and am constantly meeting new guys.

I flirt, occasionally get a snog, and even more occasionally (like three this year) hook up with a fwb.

But in terms of dating, i get shot down every single time i show actual interest in being someones gf. Constantly told they like me, think i'm hot and would bang me but don't see me 'like that'.

I'm not even sure what that means

The people that DO want me to be their gf are usually either shy/creepy or old men

You are not alone in your struggles my friend. The dating game is a tough one unless your undeniably hot.