Raiders of the Official Relationship Thread

[The Squirrel]

The one on the far left is pretty cute.

 

[WillardNation]

She wouldn't know me since I made a fake account with the name Howard the Duck.

My name on PoF is Craig_T_Nelson and my profile pic is Neil Patrick Harris.

 

[SuperSoldier985]

follow up on my "fishing trip: hehe

had 3 messages and got 2 emails from the site saying users wanted to meet me.

not too shabby for one night, but none of their profiles caught my eye

 

[DBryan]

I haven't reached out to anyone on the sites (I set up a fake account on both okcupid and PoF). But I did see a few girls that I would be interested in based on their pics and some stuff I read on their profiles.

Getting them to actually talk to you is another matter.

 

[SuperSoldier985]

Getting them to actually talk to you is another matter.

Yeah, I would expect that the ratio of men vs women on those sites are probably 5 to 1. The typical girl on those sites are usually receiving dozens of messages a day.

 

[SpideyVille]

haha , Well played SpideyVille

This is an internet message board forum where an attractive woman posted a picture of herself in a thread for people who cant function around women in the real world.

And not just a picture of herself, but of 4 attractive friends as well.

Lets just count our blessings that the poor girl doesn't have an inbox full of creepy marriage proposal and sex requests, while the more extreme stalkers track her ip address.

Just another example of why we can't have females posting their pics on this board.

My name on PoF is Craig_T_Nelson and my profile pic is Neil Patrick Harris.

Haha, nice.

Getting them to actually talk to you is another matter.

Yeah, I can't imagine how unbearable it must get for people who use these sites and are actually sending messages to people with real hopes that they'll respond.

 

[DBryan]

Yeah, I would expect that the ratio of men vs women on those sites are probably 5 to 1. The typical girl on those sites are usually receiving dozens of messages a day.

That seems to be the case.

Ah geez. Sometimes I think, modern society has very unfair rules. Or maybe its not society, but instinctual stuff that's come about because of evolution.

There's a lot of pressure on women to be physically attractive and that's unfair to them. Expectations are unrealistic and potentially harmful.

Whereas with men, men have to do so many things. Showing your funny, smart, charismatic, show leadership qualities. If you aren't able to show certain attributes right off the bat, many women won't give you a second glance. You'll notice on those dating sites, there are some women with a list as long as their arm stating what they do and don't want in a man.

People who aren't in relationships are seen as losers.

Society perpeptuates a lot of unhealthy expectations.

 

[SuperSoldier985]

That seems to be the case.

Ah geez. Sometimes I think, modern society has very unfair rules. Or maybe its not society, but instinctual stuff that's come about because of evolution.

There's a lot of pressure on women to be physically attractive and that's unfair to them. Expectations are unrealistic and potentially harmful.

Whereas with men, men have to do so many things. Showing your funny, smart, charismatic, show leadership qualities. If you aren't able to show certain attributes right off the bat, many women won't give you a second glance. You'll notice on those dating sites, there are some women with a list as long as their arm stating what they do and don't want in a man.

People who aren't in relationships are seen as losers.

Society perpeptuates a lot of unhealthy expectations.

Things used to be so much simpler I suppose...

 

[Anubis]

Well, we do get to pee standing up and don't bleed for a week out of the month and of course there's that whole childbirth thing.....decent trade off in the end.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah, I would expect that the ratio of men vs women on those sites are probably 5 to 1. The typical girl on those sites are usually receiving dozens of messages a day.

It slows down A LOT after the first few weeks. Again, it got to the point where every two weeks I'd check messages on POF and get maybe 5 new ones. Maybe one of whom I'd message back, haha. And I swear to this day I messaged my bf first, so it isn't always the guys fighting over girls.

Free online dating sites aren't the fast street to a relationship, but it can work out for you if you're patient and just make it casual. And yeah, it's a matter of numbers like in real life. Mr. Looks-Like-S/He's-Perfect isn't ever guaranteed to message you back...

 

[Anita18]

Well, we do get to pee standing up and don't bleed for a week out of the month and of course there's that whole childbirth thing.....decent trade off in the end.

Two of my friends on Facebook are pregnant right now. Reading their status messages about morning sickness and/or hormonal mood swings...I don't ever want to be pregnant either.

 

[SpideyVille]

I found this awesome girl .. but she's a Mets fan. I'll pass.

I lied, she wasn't awesome.

 

[SuperSoldier985]

It's never been harder to be a suitable man these days...

 

[DoomsdayApex]

It's never been harder to be a suitable man these days...

That's why I'm a man-****e nowadays.

I use to be the 'nice guy'.

 

[DBryan]

It's never been harder to be a suitable man these days...

Yeah seriously.

I can have a million and 1 things in common with a person, ranging from musical tastes, to what books we read, religious beliefs, political opinions, countries we've been to, etc etc etc and somehow, for some reason, it gets you absolutely nowhere. Nowhere.

Before the age of the internet, you'd be lucky to meet someone of the opposite sex with just a few of those things in common, both people would probably consider themselves lucky

 

[SuperSoldier985]

That's why I'm a man-****e nowadays.

I use to be the 'nice guy'.

Please, teach me your ways.

 

[DoomsdayApex]

Please, teach me your ways.

Other than putting on 20-40 lbs of muscle, surprisingly, slight changes in wardrobe and attitude/behavior make a difference.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah seriously.

I can have a million and 1 things in common with a person, ranging from musical tastes, to what books we read, religious beliefs, political opinions, countries we've been to, etc etc etc and somehow, for some reason, it gets you absolutely nowhere. Nowhere.

Before the age of the internet, you'd be lucky to meet someone of the opposite sex with just a few of those things in common, both people would probably consider themselves lucky

That's cause when you get down to it, that stuff really doesn't matter in a relationship. Any girl who thinks her partner has to have everything in common with her is due for a harsh reality check, IMO.

 

[SpideyVille]

Yeah seriously.

I can have a million and 1 things in common with a person, ranging from musical tastes, to what books we read, religious beliefs, political opinions, countries we've been to, etc etc etc and somehow, for some reason, it gets you absolutely nowhere. Nowhere.

Before the age of the internet, you'd be lucky to meet someone of the opposite sex with just a few of those things in common, both people would probably consider themselves lucky

Well the intriguing thing about this is sometimes opposites attract. Like I've always been a firm believer of having a lot in common, or at least the important things in common with a potential partner. But I've learned as I've gotten older that sometimes you can hit it off on a completely different level with a partner that you don't share as much in common with, and that can be more fun since you can both open each other up to new things.

 

[twylight]

I had an awkward moment with OkCupid. I messaged a divorced woman and we started talking on IM , She started talking about religion and why her marriage failed. Anyway I said something about church and she took it offensively. I can't remember what it was but it seemed irrational for her to get upset over. So we stopped talking. A few weeks later I come around the corner of an aisle at Walmart and almost bump into her. We both looked at each other for a few seconds before realizing why we recognized each other. Then we both walked in opposite directions like nothing had happened.

Like a boss.

 

[bullets]

Like a boss.

You know it

Ah geez. Sometimes I think, modern society has very unfair rules. Or maybe its not society, but instinctual stuff that's come about because of evolution.

There's a lot of pressure on women to be physically attractive and that's unfair to them. Expectations are unrealistic and potentially harmful.

I checked out the forums on POF. There's a forty year old woman who has cerebral palsy and asks why men won't give her a chance. Kinda sad but life just isn't fair. You just have to make the best out of it I suppose.

 

[DoomsdayApex]

That's cause when you get down to it, that stuff really doesn't matter in a relationship. Any girl who thinks her partner has to have everything in common with her is due for a harsh reality check, IMO.

This. Right here. Full of win.

Women will say that they want a dependable guy who is educated and sensitive but the moment they run into a gentleman with alpha arms and a handsome face, all of that mumbo-jumbo flys out the window, and he can have zero in common with her.

Trust me, I've been on both sides of the spectrum.

 

[ComicChick]

don't feel , i dont even get a second glance in real life :/

 

[SuperSoldier985]

Other than putting on 20-40 lbs of muscle, surprisingly, slight changes in wardrobe and attitude/behavior make a difference.

Oh I don't have time for that.

But it does point out a fact that women can sometimes be much more superficial than men..

 

[twylight]

don't feel , i dont even get a second glance in real life :/

Don't feel I don't get a first glance in real life.