Raiders of the Official Relationship Thread

[Mrs. Sawyer]

It's good that you're over that Nell.

 

[SuperSoldier985]

Ugh...

At this rate, I'll have to put off women for another year...

*cries inside*

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Ugh...

At this rate, I'll have to put off women for another year...

*cries inside*

Hmm?

 

[The Original Bamfer]

Unfortunately, I used to flip out when a girl I liked would add me on Facebook, thinking it meant "she liked me".

I was once a sad, sad case.

No, I've matured since those days. I was taking a jab at myself.

And I was taking a jab at ou.

 

[bullets]

I like smiling. Smiling's my favorite.

Mine too t:


Also I might have a date this weekend off POF. We chatted for a bit tonight and she said she'd message me after work , so I'll try asking her tomorrow night.

 

[SpideyVille]

I mentioned how I found the profile on OK Cupid from a girl that's in the same play as me. We had a rehearsal today and ended up walking home together because she lives a couple of blocks away from me. I'm not attracted to her and for some reason it was kind of weird talking to her knowing that I had found her profile. But it would've been awesome had I actually been attracted to her.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I mentioned how I found the profile on OK Cupid from a girl that's in the same play as me. We had a rehearsal today and ended up walking home together because she lives a couple of blocks away from me. I'm not attracted to her and for some reason it was kind of weird talking to her knowing that I had found her profile. But it would've been awesome had I actually been attracted to her.

Is she ugly? If she's not ugly I'd seriously just try having a little fun with her. You don't have to like try anything, but just go out for drinks and see what happens. Girls are attracted to guys who around other women. So if you can maintain a girl in your life it's a good thing. Also, don't be afraid to mess around. It's good fun.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

And I was taking a jab at ou.

That's nice, but who's ou?

 

[The Original Bamfer]

It's Frenglish for "you". Duh.

 

[AndThePickles]

I have a very strong intuition that not being able to smile naturally in photos indicates a lack of confidence. When I had those issues I was exactly like that. My smiles looked awkward in photos. I usually smirked on profile pictures. Now they are all natural smiles.

I disagree; some people just really dislike posing for photos. My boyfriend has all the self confidence in the world, but I still have to beg him to smile if we're taking a "nice" picture together.

 

[Hound55]

I disagree; some people just really dislike posing for photos. My boyfriend has all the self confidence in the world, but I still have to beg him to smile if we're taking a "nice" picture together.

"I am smiling..."

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I disagree; some people just really dislike posing for photos. My boyfriend has all the self confidence in the world, but I still have to beg him to smile if we're taking a "nice" picture together.

I've seen his photos on Facebook and his smile doesn't look awkward to me, so that really isn't the point I made. I said if your smile is awkward in photos it indicates a lack of confidence, not if you don't like posing for photos. That wasn't what I said.

 

[SuperSoldier985]

Hmm?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I don't understand why you have to "put off women". Are there none around? Where do you live? Is it some secluded place?

 

[LOBO3315a]

I like smiling. Smiling's my favorite.

Make work your favorite, ok? Work is your new favorite.

 

[Erzengel]

Not until I can work barefoot and in my underwear will work be my favorite.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Yeah whatever. My coworker doesn't really need any more aura and mystique though - he's French (very obvious from his name) and has a hot accent.

Your boyfriend is 300 miles away after all...

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Unfortunately, I used to flip out when a girl I liked would add me on Facebook, thinking it meant "she liked me".

I was once a sad, sad case.

No, I've matured since those days. I was taking a jab at myself.

You should definitely take things like this as an indication of interest. Just don't hyperventilate every time this happens. She probably did it because she does like you, but if you overreact to it, it's a real turn off. Like Hitch says, the only thing you should be trying to do with women, the only job you have, is to not f*** up (and be patient). Try to let them come to you a bit.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

You should definitely take things like this as an indication of interest. Just don't hyperventilate every time this happens. She probably did it because she does like you, but if you overreact to it, it's a real turn off. Like Hitch says, the only thing you should be trying to do with women, the only job you have, is to not f*** up (and be patient). Try to let them come to you a bit.

No, you should never take that as a sign of interest. I accept any friend request from Facebook as long as I've met the person once in real life. Doesn't mean anything though. If she's starting to go out of her way to talk to you, that's a different story, accepting Facebook friend requests is meaningless.

 

[SpideyVille]

I agree, especially nowadays where some people have a couple of thousands of friends on Facebook, chances are that a good percentage are only people that they only met once and felt like that was enough to accept a request from them.

I too used to place a lot of stock in that like Nell, but as AF15 says, the whole concept of Faecbook friends is meaningless. It's just a number, and unless you actually interact with the person in real life, they are more of an acquaintance at best.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

No, you should never take that as a sign of interest. I accept any friend request from Facebook as long as I've met the person once in real life. Doesn't mean anything though.

Hmmm , no it's a fairly clear indication of interest. If someone requests you on Facebook as a friend, and it's a girl, that to me would indicate at least a passing interest (I'm pretty sure that's what we're talking about).

I'd say friend requesting them is a no-no, but I've made that work

If she's starting to go out of her way to talk to you, that's a different story, accepting Facebook friend requests is meaningless.

Exactly why I said "Just don't hyperventilate every time this happens" and "Try to let them come to you a bit".

This is this whole "play it cool" thing. Girls come to me constantly, and usually "friend requesting" and "facebook" is exactly where it starts. One girl who used to like my status's and stuff like that randomly showed up at my Manufacturing company yesterday.

Facebook, quite frankly is one of the single best hook-up inventions ever.

If she's starting to go out of her way to talk to you

This is not something that happens to you regularly? I mean you have girls that text you and call you on a somewhat daily basis, right? I guess I'm a little confused. I kind of assumed most people have girls that show interest in them. Making girls interested in you is pretty easy imo. Doesn't mean they like you. Interest is a fairly fleeting thing.

 

[steintym]

I don't understand why you have to "put off women". Are there none around? Where do you live? Is it some secluded place?

I was wondering this as well.

SuperSoldier, is there a reason for putting off women for a year? Or was that just a statement of general disappointment?

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Hmmm , no it's a fairly clear indication of interest. If someone requests you on Facebook as a friend, and it's a girl, that to me would indicate at least a passing interest (I'm pretty sure that's what we're talking about).

I'd say friend requesting them is a no-no, but I've made that work

Exactly why I said "Just don't hyperventilate every time this happens" and "Try to let them come to you a bit".

This is this whole "play it cool" thing. Girls come to me constantly, and usually "friend requesting" and "facebook" is exactly where it starts. One girl who used to like my status's and stuff like that randomly showed up at my Manufacturing company yesterday.

Facebook, quite frankly is one of the single best hook-up inventions ever.

You and I clearly have different opinions of Facebook, I've never thought of it as a "single's bar" or hook-up invention. It's a way to keep in touch with friends I haven't seen in a while that's it.

This is not something that happens to you regularly? I mean you have girls that text you and call you on a somewhat daily basis, right? I guess I'm a little confused. I kind of assumed most people have girls that show interest in them. Making girls interested in you is pretty easy imo. Doesn't mean they like you. Interest is a fairly fleeting thing.

Well, considering I've been in a relationship for almost two and a half years now and live with my girlfriend, getting girls to call and text me is not in any way a priority or wanted.

 

[bullets]

I get a lot of friend requests from old friends , exes , and ex coworkers. There's a few of them that do show interest but now I'm states away so there's really not much I can do about it. Kinda sucks.

However I've never thought of it as an avenue to date someone. At least not in average situations. So unless your hitting it off with them in person or having IM chats , I just wouldn't put any stock in it.

 

[AndThePickles]

I've seen his photos on Facebook and his smile doesn't look awkward to me, so that really isn't the point I made. I said if your smile is awkward in photos it indicates a lack of confidence, not if you don't like posing for photos. That wasn't what I said.

I guess in this case it's a matter of interpretation, then. There are plenty of pictures where I have to ask him to smile and when I look at the photo later, the smile isn't "natural" looking at all. And in my mind, it will sometimes make the entire pic look awkward. I get what you're saying, but also feel that there is a large window for exceptions. Spoons was just a close to home example, but there are plenty of people out there who just don't like posing for photos, which could therefore lead to an awkward smile in the picture. It isn't particularly worth a debate to me, though, so I guess in this case I'll just say that if I saw a pic where someone had an awkward smile, my first conclusion wouldn't automatically be that he or she lacked confidence.