Revenge of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[Mrs. Sawyer]

so tomorrow is Friday and I'm closing

crossing my fingers haha

I may walk in.

 

[steintym]

Someone seems a little hard (impossible?) to please.

Too many expectations and demands ...

 

[Erzengel]

Incidentally, happy birthday Erz.

I'll put it here rather than start new topic, because I know you frequent here and I am just THAT damn lazy.

Thank you. Posting from a hotel room in Vegas. I know this has been discussed ad nauseum but Jin you have unrealistic expectations for men & relationships. You are saying how you will do this and that when in a relationship. After a while if you are having this much issue meeting people maybe you need to change your situation.

 

[LOBO3315a]

I just feel sorry for the poor soul who jumps through her hoops, braves the barbed wire, and destroys himself to just have her consider whether or not she will go on a date with her.

I'm sure there's a guy out there, but I still feel for him.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

Can someone tell me why it's all of a sudden bad to have rational and thought out excuses? Why are some people in this type of thread getting attacked while others get away with it? I think that some people have forgotten that one doesn't have control over everything. Everyone has an excuse for something, so these people who shoot down one's excuse when it comes to this type of thread are no better and are guilty as well.

 

[Cuyan]

Here we go again.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Can someone tell me why it's all of a sudden bad to have rational and thought out excuses? Why are some people in this type of thread getting attacked while others get away with it? I think that some people have forgotten that one doesn't have control over everything. Everyone has an excuse for something, so these people who shoot down one's excuse when it comes to this type of thread are no better and are guilty as well.

The problem in an excuse is that it's an excuse. It's a lie people tell themselves why something isn't working out. What you need is a reason.

 

[LOBO3315a]

Reason /=/ Excuse

 

[S.A.A.D.]

The problem in an excuse is that it's an excuse. It's a lie people tell themselves why something isn't working out. What you need is a reason.

So let me get this straight, even an excuse that is true is also a lie. A lie to someone who can't prove that the excuse is a lie. People here want others to blame themselves for things that they aren't guilty of, lastly, I would like to say that these people are ****** detectives and that they aren't psychics despite what they think.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

I'm effing tired of people who think that they know as much as they do.

 

[Cuyan]

I'm effing tired of people who think that they know as much as they do.

I know as much as I do.

 

[Anubis]

I know slightly less as I do.

 

[Kane52630]

I know this thread will be entertaining.

 

[steintym]

I know I've enjoyed this last page.

 

[LOBO3315a]

I don't know that I enjoy this thread as much as I do.

For the record, an excuse and a valid reason are not the same things.

An excuse is just that; a way for someone to try and weasel out of something. I can't take out the garbage because it's raining is a fine example. You can take out the garbage if you really want to even if it is raining, you'll just get wet.

A valid reason has supporting evidence and can be proven. I can't take out the garbage because its a holiday and the dump is closed. You could pack it up, and take it to the dump, but it would serve no purpose if you can't drop it off because the place is closed on a holiday.

See the difference?

 

[steintym]

Don't bring logic into this t:

 

[Anita18]

Not to mention of course we aren't psychics - we give advice pursuant to the information we're given. And obviously we can't know the whole story of a poster's life, so it's on that poster to give us the information needed to get good advice. If they give us crap information, we'll give them crap advice because that's the best we can do.

Did I just bring more logic into this?

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Not to mention of course we aren't psychics - we give advice pursuant to the information we're given. And obviously we can't know the whole story of a poster's life, so it's on that poster to give us the information needed to get good advice. If they give us crap information, we'll give them crap advice because that's the best we can do.

Did I just bring more logic into this?

That is one of my favorite responses, "Well you don't know the whole story, if you knew the whole story, you'd be saying something different". Well duh, those posts are mostly just people not hearing what they wanted though.

 

[Angel_Faerie]

So I'm going out for sushi with the guy I went on a date with last week. He says the place we're going has some sort of vegetable dish with no fish that he hopes I'll like (which is good because I hate fish). But I'm not sure if this is a second date or if we're just hanging out. He advised I dress nice (because apparently the restaurant we're going to is semi-fancy), which leads me to believe it's the former. But I'm not sure.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm effing tired of people who think that they know as much as they do.

I know more than most.

 

[SpideyVille]

That is one of my favorite responses, "Well you don't know the whole story, if you knew the whole story, you'd be saying something different". Well duh, those posts are mostly just people not hearing what they wanted though.

In my experiences, people only give one side of the story anyways. I mean, they'll say "Hey this person gave me their number and I called, but now they're ignoring me." But they'll conveniently leave out how they called the person 20 times in an hour.

 

[Hound55]

I know precisely as much as I know.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

So I'm going out for sushi with the guy I went on a date with last week. He says the place we're going has some sort of vegetable dish with no fish that he hopes I'll like (which is good because I hate fish). But I'm not sure if this is a second date or if we're just hanging out. He advised I dress nice (because apparently the restaurant we're going to is semi-fancy), which leads me to believe it's the former. But I'm not sure.

Sounds like a date to me. How'd he ask, did he say do you want to go out or hang out.

 

[Angel_Faerie]

Sounds like a date to me. How'd he ask, did he say do you want to go out or hang out.

Neither. He just asked if I wanted to go to dinner at this sushi resturant.

 

[Anita18]

Neither. He just asked if I wanted to go to dinner at this sushi resturant.

The way I see it, if you've gone on a "date" date with this guy before, any future meetups will also be dates.

Unless you've already told him you only want to be friends, etc.