Revenge of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[bullets]

Yeah, I can imagine someone posting something like "Good for you. He was a loser anyway." while the guy can see it pop up on his newsfeed.

But I find it more weird when someone is listed as no longer in a relationship, only to be listed as in a relationship with the same person a few days later. I can never figure out what the point of all that is.

I got in an argument with a girl I was dating and she stormed out of my house. I called and told her to come back , one her way back we were joking and I said , "you probably already updated your status on fb" . Turns out , she did , at 2 in the morning , wtf.


One of friends changed their status from engaged to just being in a relationship after they decided to take it slower. Sure enough she had comments of people blasting her fiance before she could explain herself , lol.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

That makes sense.

It really does, doesn't it?

 

[Anita18]

That makes sense.

Yeah, she likes telling people what to do. And since she's not allowed to hit kids at work, she brings it home.

 

[Wolfwood]

Just something I'm curious about. You know how some people consider it a bad idea to ask someone out when you work with them? Well would it be a bad idea to ask someone out when you often share classes with them at a college?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Just something I'm curious about. You know how some people consider it a bad idea to ask someone out when you work with them? Well would it be a bad idea to ask someone out when you often share classes with them at a college?

Lol, perfectly acceptable.

 

[Spider-Who?]

Don't do it. First, it'll be hard to concentrate, which will cause your grades to suffer. Then you'll get expelled for either flunking, or the professor catching her giving you a little "how's your father?" in the back of the room. You, terrified of admitting to your parents what happened, will live in the wild, only entering civilization every few weeks to steal postcards, which you send to you parents under the guise of traveling to the amazon for a school relief aid project. This lie will work, until winter comes, where the extreme cold will force you to choke a deer for its pelt. Unfortunately, since you flunked out of school, you are ignorant to the most basic knowledge of deer...bears hate deer. When your post cards cease to arrive, your parents, thinking you have gotten lost in the amazon, set out to rescue you. They are captured by tribesmen who believe the postcards you sent your parents (which your parents so lovingly held on to) are the devils work and throw your parents into the amazon river. They are never heard from again. It will be some time before you are is discovered. 700 years in fact. Your bear eaten, deer-covered pelt, unsigned postcard filled pockets of a frozen corpse will be an absurd display in the Natural History Museum of What the S**t is That.

All because you wanted to date some girl in your class.

 

[SpideyVille]

LOL, some of that is actually true. My grades really started to suffer when I started talking to a girl I liked during my first semester in college. Plus, the fact that we had 4 classes together made it a little harder to concentrate, even though things were going good.

But yeah, like Optimus said its perfectly acceptable. That's how my brother ended up meeting his wife.

 

[Erzengel]

Just something I'm curious about. You know how some people consider it a bad idea to ask someone out when you work with them? Well would it be a bad idea to ask someone out when you often share classes with them at a college?

I don't always consider asking someone out that you work with a bad idea. Especially if you are younger and only jockeying some register or some sort temporary work or something that's not going to be your eventual occupation.

In terms of college, who's to say you both will be in the same classes for the next 4 years.

And even so, who cares? It's not like you have to talk to each other if things don't work out. It's not high school anymore.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I will say, working in a pressure office setting (as a Mechanical Engineer), I enjoy dating outside of my work circle. My roommate gets his tail from work, which is food and bev (I should say I've never actually SEEN him do this - but my former roommate did it all day long). Frankly, I prefer work stays at work. Not because I'm necessarily opposed to it (though I am), but because work provides a rest from most women, as I work around a lot of guys. I find time spent away from women actually helps me when I am around them. Gives me something other than them to worry about, and gives me 40 hours of scheduled away from their problems.

 

[Erzengel]

Are you a PE?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Are you a PE?

No. I'm a Mechanical Engineer. I run the quality department.

 

[Erzengel]

Oh, okay. I'm an Engineer and when I hear Mechanical Engineer I think of someone who designs and produces machinery.

 

[steintym]

I don't see a problem with dating someone taking some of the same classes. I think that's a way different situation than dating someone at work.

Several years ago my boss was fired for having an affair with someone that reported to him. They would take business trips together, tack on days to the trip and never show up at the office they were visiting, leave early together, she received a promotion, etc, etc, etc. things caught up and they were both canned. Obviously, this was an extreme situation, the question just reminded me of that. It was pretty crazy in our organization for awhile.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

You don't have hierarchial structures in school unless you work there, so that's really what prevents any conflict of interest.

 

[LOBO3315a]

Well my X-wife met her current husband when he was a student at the college where she worked as an admin assistant. I think colleges are generally more relaxed environments than work. Dating someone you have in a few classes would be way more acceptable than dating a subordinate who reports to you.

 

[SpideyVille]

I've always looked at school, especially college to be a great place to ask someone out, because you have a better chance of seeing them on a daily or weekly basis. The only downside is there are a lot of people there so you might have to act fast.

 

[Godsfireworks]

I've made up my mind to wait until 4 year college (at least 2 years down the road.)I think that's a good choice.

 

[Erzengel]

Wait....for?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

^...What?

It's not nearly as impressive to complete someone else's sentence online. Just kind of looks *****ey in retrospect.

 

[Wolfwood]

By the way, I wasn't asking for myself, I was just curious if there was that same kind of negative view that dating a coworker had. Good answers though.

 

[Anita18]

You don't have hierarchial structures in school unless you work there, so that's really what prevents any conflict of interest.

I'm not exactly clear on the details (we're Asian, we don't ask for details), but I've worked out that my mom was a grad student at a uni the same time my dad was there....as an assistant professor. You do the math.

My first thought was, "OMG I never knew my parents could be that SCANDALOUS!"

By the way, I wasn't asking for myself, I was just curious if there was that same kind of negative view that dating a coworker had. Good answers though.

Of course not, it entirely depends on the people involved. I knew many couples who met because they were students in the same department. My college bf and I majored in completely different fields, which was probably better for us since I wasn't yet mature enough to not let it be a distraction.

Not that it helped really for me. I liked my classes but I sucked at taking tests.

 

[Anubis]

Imagine finding out your parents were swingers and your dad could be any number of dudes you used to call uncle.

Not that that happened to me or anything.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I'm not exactly clear on the details (we're Asian, we don't ask for details), but I've worked out that my mom was a grad student at a uni the same time my dad was there....as an assistant professor. You do the math.

My first thought was, "OMG I never knew my parents could be that SCANDALOUS!" o

Lol, not the first story I've heard like that.

 

[LOBO3315a]

Imagine finding out your parents were swingers and your dad could be any number of dudes you used to call uncle.

Not that that happened to me or anything.

Heck, that's better than having NO man in your life to call dad.

And the guy that brought home the bacon, cleaned your dirty diapers, and took you out to the strip club to buy you your first beer is your dad. Anyone else is just a sperm donor.

 

[Anubis]

Guess I don't have a dad.