AndThePickles
Kiss the girl
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I don't necessarily think its over-glorified by people today, but rather that its not considered to be all that important by more people today. I mean, back in the day virginity was a big thing. Virginity was especially a big deal for a girl and even outside of religious beliefs, there were still strong feelings for waiting until marriage. But now its not as
big because things aren't looked at in the same way.
I'll admit, being a virgin myself and a bit old-fashioned, when I was in
high school, I was a little put off by girls who I knew weren't virgins and for a while I only wanted a girl who
was one because I believed in that "first one being the One" thing. But as I've gotten older, and have seen more and more people who are sexually active and at younger ages, I know that'll never happen.
But personally, the idea of hooking up with someone who has had a few partners in their life is a bit
daunting because comparisons will be inevitable, at least in my mind. So there's always that self-enforced
pressure.
Let me elaborate a bit on the over glorification part. In general, I feel that virginity is seen almost like its own entity that is a part of you, and when you first have sex it's this huge EVENT where you LOSE it and there's this huge void because you no longer have your v-card. Again, this is coming from a woman who originally wanted to wait until marriage. I just think that it's not as big of a deal as its made out to be. I felt no sense of "omg I'm different now" when I first had sex. I didn't feel like I'd "lost" anything. I've gained a lot more, truth be told. I think that sex is natural, and it might ease some anxiety if people didn't hype up "deflowering" quite so much.