The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - - - - - - - Part 27

[enterthemadness]

It took my old man getting the ****tiest possible internet service and a job offer (low pay in a below average area to live) to finally get me out of the basement. I couldn't stream or watch my favorite channels, so I didn't hesitate to pack shop. The job and the social life have not gone as I desired, but the best decision was to leave at that moment and take it one step at a time. Go to the gym every day. Now trying to get out of this forum and pick up actual reading material, but Etm still has me pulling hairs. Thank God I'm not a parent yet.

Don't hate on me too much...but I'm going for the laughs, and picked Don't Put Me In, Coach. 257 pages.

 

[enterthemadness]

okay, the first two chapters in this book are 3 pages long each lol.



I shall blow through this book like a hurricane. Ah ****...now I got 'Rock You Like A Hurricane' by Scorpion in my head...

 

[Paradoxium]

I loved World War Z more. The unabridged audiobook was really good. I read and listened, and I highly recommend listening. The voice acting adds a nice dimension. I loved the Japanese stories. South Africa was nice too. BTW, the President (implied) is Colin Powell and the VP is Howard Dean. And yes, it was (implied) Nelson Mandela in South Africa (Paul Redeker story).

I thought for a zombie story it was more nuanced and richer than The Walking Dead. TWD is too nihilistic at times. There was more heart in WWZ.

And the movie was barely like the book.

 

[enterthemadness]

I loved World War Z more. The unabridged audiobook was really good. I read and listened, and I highly recommend listening. The voice acting adds a nice dimension. I loved the Japanese stories. South Africa was nice too. BTW, the President (implied) is Colin Powell and the VP is Howard Dean. And yes, it was (implied) Nelson Mandela in South Africa (Paul Redeker story).

I thought for a zombie story it was more nuanced and richer than The Walking Dead. TWD is too nihilistic at times. There was more heart in WWZ.

And the movie is barely like the book.

The movie is nice. You know, on Netflix, there's a unrated cut that is like 7 or so minutes longer. Think it just blood stuff though.

I only watched it cause of Brad Pitt and he was amazing in it. I do imagine the book is totally different. What did you think of Pitt?

 

[mkilban2]

ETM, try applying for a city job. Idk where you live but ice worked for the city in my summers between school here in Cleveland for the past 5 years. I was making 10$ an hour and getting 40 hours a week. I will say it helps to know someone or at least it did in my case, but there are many different departments and opportunities. Most will only need a high school diploma and a good work attitude. I personally work in the Parks System and did things from cutting grass at public parks or cemeteries to lining baseball fields or even trash collection.

the ones who are 'hired on' past seasonal type help make $17+ an hour doing the same things for the most part, plus you're outside all day and the work load in ky experience has never been exhaustive.

Another suggestion I would say is to get you CDL or Class B license, its another way to get into construction or machinery type jobs above another person that doesn't have them.

Im not sure of your age, but you could always study a particular trade like pipefitting, electricion, etc or try and join a union. I have plenty of friends in my 20-25 year age range doing types of jobs like that, working 40+ hour weeks and making tons of money.

As a last resort, try Craigslist too, might find something you find perfect for yourself there. As well as many landscaping/painting type jobs or seasonal stuff like snow plowing, even things like telemarketing that will all be full time jobs.

Dont settle for part time, opportunites are out there you just need to seek them out. Ask family or family friends, talk to people in person. There's plenty of decent to well paying stuff out there for people without degrees or even experience.

Hope this helps.

 

[Anita18]

For me, the two biggest confidence killers are (a) when I'm unemployed, and (b) when I'm out of shape.

I was unemployed for 5 months (thankfully just landed a job), and I almost went insane. I don't know how people go years. Have another job lined up before you leave this one, etm. Never become jobless voluntarily is a lesson I learned.

I've been officially unemployed for almost a year, but I've continued to have side projects and continue to network, so I feel a sense of accomplishment. And I put them on my resume as "experience," because just because I wasn't paid for it, doesn't mean it isn't experience.

YMMV though. In my industry, you don't have to work for someone or have a degree to prove the ability to do the job.

Whatever you do, it's important to have a sense of accomplishment and ownership. That's a feedback loop you want to perpetuate in yourself.

You have a routine. You work part time about 20 hours a week. I'm sure you spend the majority of your free time on the internet. Yeah working out, and bettering yourself is great but I said this earlier, you have to stop being so directionless (i.e. stop looking for these minimum wage jobs) and aim higher.

Maybe it's cause of how I was raised but it was expected of me to do college after high school. Now I know college isn't for everyone unless you want to become some sort of licensed professional. But someone your age shouldn't be hunting for something higher than minimum wage.

Just look up minimum wage and affording an apartment and see how difficult it is.

I know you live with your dad. Doesn't he get on your case to do something else?

OTOH, I was having a conversation today with an Asian friend who was SO directed by her parents for college and grad school, that she doesn't know what she wants to do with her life anymore. So there is a balance of being kicked in the butt about that.

But the thing you SHOULD know, is what you like to do. Like, for real. Even on here, you can gleam something about yourself that you can use for jobs. I like talking with people, pep-talking folks, finding out where they're coming from. I can use that for my work.

ETM, try applying for a city job. Idk where you live but ice worked for the city in my summers between school here in Cleveland for the past 5 years. I was making 10$ an hour and getting 40 hours a week. I will say it helps to know someone or at least it did in my case, but there are many different departments and opportunities. Most will only need a high school diploma and a good work attitude. I personally work in the Parks System and did things from cutting grass at public parks or cemeteries to lining baseball fields or even trash collection.

the ones who are 'hired on' past seasonal type help make $17+ an hour doing the same things for the most part, plus you're outside all day and the work load in ky experience has never been exhaustive.

Another suggestion I would say is to get you CDL or Class B license, its another way to get into construction or machinery type jobs above another person that doesn't have them.

Im not sure of your age, but you could always study a particular trade like pipefitting, electricion, etc or try and join a union. I have plenty of friends in my 20-25 year age range doing types of jobs like that, working 40+ hour weeks and making tons of money.

As a last resort, try Craigslist too, might find something you find perfect for yourself there. As well as many landscaping/painting type jobs or seasonal stuff like snow plowing, even things like telemarketing that will all be full time jobs.

Dont settle for part time, opportunites are out there you just need to seek them out. Ask family or family friends, talk to people in person. There's plenty of decent to well paying stuff out there for people without degrees or even experience.

Hope this helps.

This. Those jobs you can't outsource. They will always be local.

Just pick something and go for it, ETM. Have a long-term goal. It doesn't sound like you've ever had one.

Maybe whatever you choose won't be your die-hard passion, but if you like it enough, you can make a living.

 

[Erzengel]

OTOH, I was having a conversation today with an Asian friend who was SO directed by her parents for college and grad school, that she doesn't know what she wants to do with her life anymore. So there is a balance of being kicked in the butt about that.

But the thing you SHOULD know, is what you like to do. Like, for real. Even on here, you can gleam something about yourself that you can use for jobs. I like talking with people, pep-talking folks, finding out where they're coming from. I can use that for my work.

Yeah but ETM hasn't been directed by his parents to even finish college. He even says that he feels that gave up on him. And whether that's a determining factor of why he seems directionless only he can answer.

I do agree that he should find out what he likes or even something that he's good at and go from there.

This. Those jobs you can't outsource. They will always be local.

Just pick something and go for it, ETM. Have a long-term goal. It doesn't sound like you've ever had one.

Maybe whatever you choose won't be your die-hard passion, but if you like it enough, you can make a living.

Yeah I don't wake up and jump out of bed excited to do engineering. But I'm good at it.

 

[the last son]

So, the woman who I met the other day and agreed to go on an actual date with me, doesn't seem too interested. She'll text me good morning and ask how I am and then answer back, but won't answer again for the day. That's two days in a row, she's started a text and then won't respond. Maybe she's just busy. I'll call tomorrow and try to confirm a date for weekend.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Oh my god, dude. You're going to scare her off. If she's texting you in the morning she's obviously interested. She's also probably busy with this thing called a "job" that people go to in the morning. My girlfriend (well, ex now) was the same way. If I texted her before lunch, she'd sometimes take hours to get back to me, because she was busy with work. It didn't mean anything, except that she was busy.

 

[the last son]

Not scaring her off. I only initiated text once when I asked her on a date. Since, she's text me twice to ask how I am and I would ask what her plans were for the day and nothing back.

 

[the last son]

Thinking of asking her, if she'd like to go to a comedy show for our first date. Good idea?

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Yes. Comedy is a stress reliever. You want her laughing and loose (no, not THAT way. Get your mind out of the gutter!) In fact a comedy show is not just a good idea, it's a great idea.

 

[Anita18]

Yes. Comedy is a stress reliever. You want her laughing and loose (no, not THAT way. Get your mind out of the gutter!) In fact a comedy show is not just a good idea, it's a great idea.

AND if you're laughing your butt off and she isn't, it's a good weeding process too.

 

[SuperSanchez]

yeh i met a girl last night who is obsessed with MARVEL like me i'm so happy, only thing is she lives in england and i live in australia

 

[the last son]

OK. I'll ask tomorrow. See what she says. Have a feeling she's not too interested.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Also get more confidence. That's the number one thing holding back guys like you, etm and Nell. It's not your looks, job or anything as much as your utter lack of confidence and faith in yourself. You should approach this from the perspective, that she should feel honored you're asking her out. That you're doing HER a favor! Whether that's true or not is beside the point. But that's the mindset you need to adopt.

 

[the last son]

I've got confidence. I don't think I'd be going on dates with women who have college educations, make twice as much as me, and are pretty hot if I didn't. Just being honest when I say she doesn't seem interested.

 

[Anita18]

If you don't think she'd be interested in a comedy club, suggest something else instead. Not that hard.

 

[the last son]

I meant interested in me. Like take our conversation. I asked her for an actual date, she replied yes. I make a joke. No response. Hours later she ask if I liketo go dancing. I say ive never been, did she have a place in mind. No response for the rest of day. Today she text good morning. We share a few text. I ask her plans for the day after about 3 text. No response for the rest of day.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

She's not a big texter. Stop over-analyzing it. I've never heard of a disinterested girl who texted "good morning."

 

[PacificBoy]

What job is she holding the last son? If she's in a office job it's not uncommon for someone in an office environment to be too busy to return a text for hours. Lord knows how often I have done it to people. Although I indicate that I was busy.

 

[the last son]

She works in and out office. She didn't work today either. But hey whatever. I'll text on Friday. Not about to chase.

 

[PacificBoy]

And you don't have to. Like JJJ said, she's keen, keen enough that is to bother to text good morning. You're only like one date, two dates in only I'm guessing? Then that's quite ok.

If she's freelance or is on the move, in and out of office, she could be busier still. Imagine being on the move and having to respond to this and that.

 

[the last son]

We haven't been on date yet. Just a meet. We walked for almost a couple of hours. She agreed to go on a date.

 

[Godzilla2000]

God...I wish certain nosy, unwanted, intrusive people would just stop setting me up with people they're under the misguided notion I'd like because they like them.

I swear one more unwanted suitor comes into my workplace for me to ignore I am going to have another conniption. I think this is all because a few narcissistic knuckleheads are afraid I'll rock their boat by dating one of their friends (Or God forbid it's serious enough to lead to getting married.) or it's a cruel practical joke at my expense. Or it has to deal with the selfish needs of a crazy ex-wife and a needy primadonna. Maybe it's all of the above but either way I have more important things on my mind than people I have no physical attraction for at all.

Life is much too short for me to waste my time on people who make me very unhappy. Maybe they're unaware of this but they just keep ripping open raw or very old wounds with their continued interference.