The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - Part 30

[Victarion]

You boyos ever have another guy ask you to...back off a lady because they wanna ask her out...especially a lady you didn't know you were running game on?

 

[warhorse78]

You boyos ever have another guy ask you to...back off a lady because they wanna ask her out...especially a lady you didn't know you were running game on?

No, but I've seen this with chicks. I've seen where a guy will start to like a particular girl, and she really doesn't know, but he might have an ex or some FWB girl that knows him, and might get jealous or territorial, and will go to the girl and say words with her, or might get her number and leave an anonymous message to not mess with the guy.

Could be, you are in the same boat. Maybe this girl likes you, word gets around, but she might have an ex, or someone with a crush on her, or a FWB that is jealous and is just trying to intimidate you now before she gets the chance to make her move.

 

[Filmfan93]

So, how long has anyone on this board been with their halves?

I'm 23 and 5 years with my gf already

 

[Dark Raven]

You boyos ever have another guy ask you to...back off a lady because they wanna ask her out...especially a lady you didn't know you were running game on?

Not explicitly, but sometimes other guys, from their body language or facial expressions or gestures they give you, are effectively saying "step aside please and let me have my chance or let a real contender get his shot." It's kind of the same action as if someone were to cut in on a dance, with an expression that they are more important here than you, so they're asking you to stand aside. It's all very subtle, but you can tell that's what is meant.

 

[warhorse78]

I have a co-worker who has been getting frustrated with her boyfriend because all of a sudden, he never has time for her sexually. He'll hang with her for a while after work, just for a couple of beers and to just talk abot him, but on his nights off, he's always telling her, he has to be with the guys, and it's guys only. Well, I got talked into following him one night with her, since he wouldn't recognize my car, and we pretty much found out, he's been joining his friends at the various strip clubs, every night almost. Even on the nights when he spends some time with her. About 2 am, he'll be like, it's time for him to head home, but really, he is joining his buddies and stays there till like 4:30.

I can understand going to a strip club, once in a while (like once a month) but every night of the week???????? Is this healthy male behavior? And why go to strip clubs when he has a beautiful girl that can do everything he wants, for free.....

 

[Erzengel]

Unless he's screwing the dancers....

Whether or not he's doing that, he rather spend time and money on strippers than his girlfriend speaks volumes about his character. I don't know why your co-worker puts up with it.

 

[Anita18]

^ I'm with Erz.

Even beyond the "going to strip clubs" thing, he doesn't seem to WANT to spend any time with her, or even care about how she feels. He doesn't respect her, he doesn't care about her, so why are they even together now? That doesn't go away after the honeymoon phase. My husband and I have been together 8 years, but whenever we're together, we'll do things for each other that show we care about the other's well-being.

For that guy, I guess having a gf is status quo and something to brag about. But honestly he's wasting his time and energy too, since he has to occasionally put up with an upset gf.

My sister's last serious bf didn't go to strip clubs, but even when they were together, we could sense that he didn't care about her. She was just "there" for him. Nobody was surprised when they broke up.

Your coworker might as well break up with him now, instead of stringing themselves along unhappily for 3 years like my sister did.

 

[Erzengel]

I think I reached the point in my relationship that my wife would be more upset if I dropped a few hundred dollars on a stripper instead of the actual act of a stripper rubbing herself all up on me.

 

[SpideyVille]

He'd rather spend the night watching girls that he isn't allowed to touch, as opposed to going home and actually touching one?

I don't know what that might say about him from a behavioral standpoint, but it sure does sound like he's just not into your co-worker. Like Anita said, she's better off breaking up with him than she would be in "waiting for him to change."

 

[Anita18]

I think I reached the point in my relationship that my wife would be more upset if I dropped a few hundred dollars on a stripper instead of the actual act of a stripper rubbing herself all up on me.

I'm definitely there too.

 

[warhorse78]

Unless he's screwing the dancers....

Whether or not he's doing that, he rather spend time and money on strippers than his girlfriend speaks volumes about his character. I don't know why your co-worker puts up with it.

Well, she's young, and this guy is pretty much her first bf. As for the screwing the strippers, the place he likes to go to the most, there are quite a few rumors that 200 bucks can get the girls to do anything you want in the champagne room.

And your right, I don't care much for this guy. He'll hang with us after work, and I noticed, he don't get near her, or show her any affection. She goes to hold his arm, and he shrugs her off. When she tells me she's thinking of ending it, and starts to pay attention to another guy, that is when all of a sudden he'll show interest in her, hugging up on her. But as soon as the guy is gone, he starts to ignore her. It's like he keeps stringing her along. She told me one night, he called her when he was drunk, to see if he could some over to her house. She let him in, but he only wanted her to give him a back rub till he fell asleep. Then two hours later, he woke up and left, and she didn't get anything in return. She says she does bj's for him all the time, but then when it's her turn, he's too tired and has to go home. Sounds to me like he's just playing her....

 

[Erzengel]

Well, there is a stereotype of certain ethnic group doesn't like doing that.

However, if he's screwing strippers and even if it's just oral sex, she's risking her health with someone who doesn't seem to care about her.

If you're friendly with her, I'd tell her she cando better.

 

[Anita18]

Well, she's young, and this guy is pretty much her first bf. As for the screwing the strippers, the place he likes to go to the most, there are quite a few rumors that 200 bucks can get the girls to do anything you want in the champagne room.

And your right, I don't care much for this guy. He'll hang with us after work, and I noticed, he don't get near her, or show her any affection. She goes to hold his arm, and he shrugs her off. When she tells me she's thinking of ending it, and starts to pay attention to another guy, that is when all of a sudden he'll show interest in her, hugging up on her. But as soon as the guy is gone, he starts to ignore her. It's like he keeps stringing her along. She told me one night, he called her when he was drunk, to see if he could some over to her house. She let him in, but he only wanted her to give him a back rub till he fell asleep. Then two hours later, he woke up and left, and she didn't get anything in return. She says she does bj's for him all the time, but then when it's her turn, he's too tired and has to go home. Sounds to me like he's just playing her....

Yeah, but one can still have some self-respect, even with a first bf. I'm really inexperienced relationship-wise (husband is second bf), but I wouldn't stand for a guy who ever walked all over me like that. Or endangered my health in that way. Clearly he doesn't give a s***.

I think she still falls for his attentions because she's afraid she won't get anyone who treats her better, but she will. It's better to be single than to be in a relationship with someone who treats you like that. It seems like a low self-esteem thing.

 

[Victarion]

So a little while ago I was out with a group of friends. We hit some bars and finished the night at a downtown Larry Flynt's. One of the girls in our group bought me shots while we were at the bar, and covered the admission for the two of us at the hustler club; then she did likewise for our beer, cigars at the hustler club. Even bought me a lap dance. The night on the town was coming to a close and we were getting ready to leave Flynt's, she says "Hey Vic, you're coming with me!"

Did I just blow off a chance for a potential FWB?

 

[Erzengel]

Uh, why didn't you go with her?

 

[Victarion]

I think it was because I was under the impression she was still in a relationship with someone else. That sounds about right.

 

[Erzengel]

Next time you go out, do the same for her and invite her back to your place.

 

[Ms. Marvel]

No, but I've seen this with chicks. I've seen where a guy will start to like a particular girl, and she really doesn't know, but he might have an ex or some FWB girl that knows him, and might get jealous or territorial, and will go to the girl and say words with her, or might get her number and leave an anonymous message to not mess with the guy.

Could be, you are in the same boat. Maybe this girl likes you, word gets around, but she might have an ex, or someone with a crush on her, or a FWB that is jealous and is just trying to intimidate you now before she gets the chance to make her move.

That's kinda psycho.

 

[NotSoLongAgo]

Next time you go out, do the same for her and invite her back to your place.

Yeah do this

 

[jaymes_e06]

You boyos ever have another guy ask you to...back off a lady because they wanna ask her out...especially a lady you didn't know you were running game on?

Yes this literally just happened to me. I was just friends with her before but something about a grown man being that insecure by my presence made me want her (she is very hot) i messaged her talking about showing my man parts right away and she was very "intrigued" shall we say...

Damn my oppositional defiance disorder!

 

[warhorse78]

Ugh, I can't believe how evil people can be.

I have a good friend/co-worker getting married. Now, there is this girl who was team leader at our work place, and she's one of those that pretends to be your friend for whatever reason, then goes behind your back and try and start crap. What makes matters worse, she's all goody goody best friends with several managers, and she's really good with her fake mask. Acts all sweet and innocent, but both my friend and I have been burnt before several times by her drama, so we know better. Well, some time went by, and the team leader got promoted to manager at another store, where both my friend and I worked at, and we have several friends at that store as well.

Now this is the BS problem we got. My friend is getting married soon. While planning the wedding, she's inviting only family and close friends, and I'm one of them, as well as some others at both stores. The newly promoted manager, hears about the wedding, and keeps asking my friend why she's not invited, and my friend, who doesn't want to cause no drama between herself and her boss, because she needs to pay her bills, tells the girl that when planning the wedding, she just didn't know her at the time and it's too late to add to the list. Well, the girl goes behind her back, asking people in the store about the wedding, and guess what, one of the people who are invited, gets pressured into taking the manager with her as her date. My friend is soooo PO, and I personally think this girl had no right to do this. It's sick that we got people in management position using their power to force their way into people's lives, and even weddings, when we simply don't like her because of her two face crap......

 

[Erzengel]

As much as it was a dick move by your manager, some blame should be put on the person who was pressured into taking her.

 

[Anita18]

Weddings = the most drama, seriously.

I had one long-lost relative who strong-armed my mom into inviting her to mine, but at least we Chinese folks give cash gifts at weddings, so I wasn't too miffed. But if it was someone I hated? Eeeeuuugh.

 

[DA_Champion]

I feel like, as an experiment, setting up an online dating profile that is pure sarcasm and self-deprecation.

I'm motivated by this unlikely article:
http://www.ericspitznagel.com/mens-health/most-eligible-bachelor-online/
The Most Eligible Bachelor on the Internet

“Once upon a time, there lived a lonely man that had a great head if hair.”

That’s the first line from Aaron Csepregi’s Match.com profile, and it just gets more ridiculous from there.

He spends several hundred words rambling about princes and damsels in distress and shirtless blumberbros. It goes against all conventional wisdom about how to make a first impression on the Internet: It’s way too long, and it doesn’t actually tell you anything meaningful about Csepregi. If dating app profiles are the pickup lines of 2016, then this seems like the romantic introduction of a man trying very hard to die alone.

But as it turns out, Csepregi has done okay. Better than okay.

According to Match, he was the most “winked” at man in Chicago last year—winks being the highest form of romantic currency on Match, the first sign of interest in the digital dating pool. On a national level, the Match record keepers claim he’s in the top 0.000035% of eligible men on the dating service, which has an estimated 3.2 million paid subscribers in North America.

That’s a lot of attention for a guy who says he often gets mistaken for Ed Helms (the bespectacled nerd from The Office and The Hangover films). He’s perfectly attractive and in decent enough shape—5’10”, 180 pounds—but he comes across more like the harmless guy at your office with a lot of platonic female friends than a modern-day Casanova. He drives a 2008 Ford Fusion that’s seen better days, his cell ringtone is the “Three’s Company” theme song, and he doesn’t have cable TV because he’d “rather spend the money on experiences.”

 

[Flint Marko]

You boyos ever have another guy ask you to...back off a lady because they wanna ask her out...especially a lady you didn't know you were running game on?

An old roommate of mine called dibs on the girl I have been dating for over two years now. He did so around the time she broke up with her ex, and saw us talking at a party. He let me know early that he wasn't going to have any of it.