The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts!

[webhead9707]

Maybe it's cause you have stronger feelings for Summer, and are probably hanging out with her more than you should?

I actually haven't hung out with her since Sept 6th, and even then I had other friends around. That's a decent amount of time isn't it?

 

[Erzengel]

Yes in high school time. But you also have been pining for her for how many years 2? That's like 14 years in dog years.

 

[webhead9707]

Yes in high school time. But you also have been pining for her for how many years 2? That's like 14 years in dog years.

3 or 4....

 

[Boy Scout]

There's this girl I'm interested in, but in addition to being two years younger than me (Which might make her undateable anyway, idk)

As I recall, you're sixteen. Dating a fourteen-year-old doesn't look that bad at your age.

Now, onto the real issue. Spend a significant amount of alone time with her. Don't do anything necessarily romantic, just hang out and see how you get along together. If, after that, you remain indecisive, I would recommend just staying friends.

 

[Erzengel]

Yeah just go out, go see a movie take her and whatever theme restaurant is nearby.

 

[webhead9707]

As I recall, you're sixteen. Dating a fourteen-year-old doesn't look that bad at your age.

Now, onto the real issue. Spend a significant amount of alone time with her. Don't do anything necessarily romantic, just hang out and see how you get along together. If, after that, you remain indecisive, I would recommend just staying friends.

Yeah just go out, go see a movie take her and whatever theme restaurant is nearby.

I'll try that.. I actually already have plans for a platonic double date with her and her sister and my best friend. (My male best friend, not Summer.)
That's actually really helpful advice I think, so thank you both.

 

[Boy Scout]

Good luck.

 

[Erzengel]

Remember you're not in some other country where you have to get married after one date.

Speaking of, what happened to that one poster who was from Nepal who's gf's family didn't think he was good enough or aware they were dating?

 

[webhead9707]

Good luck.

Thanks!

Remember you're not in some other country where you have to get married after one date.

Speaking of, what happened to that one poster who was from Nepal who's gf's family didn't think he was good enough or aware they were dating?

That's true, I just don't want to hurt someone.

There was someone from Nepal who's gf's family didn't think he was good enough?!?! Why did no one tell me?!!

 

[Erzengel]

Dude you're 16.

Whatever you're thinking something is pretty major....it's not.

 

[webhead9707]

Dude you're 16.

Whatever you're thinking something is pretty major....it's not.

Wise words.=)

 

[Silk Spectre]

Ok question for the guys. A girl approaches you, and gives her your number. You text back and forth, make a date. Go on a second and third date, things seem to be going well. He's bailed the last two times we have made plans. first time he claims he was sleeping, second time he said his phone died. Should I take the hint, or should I believe that both times something legit happened? It's been almost a month since out last day, and fwiw, he is pretty slow to text back or just doesnt text back at all.

 

[Erzengel]

If he was interested he would make more of an effort. But just to be sure ask him out, if he flakes out at least you made an attempt. So that would be strike 3.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Maybe it's cause you have stronger feelings for Summer, and are probably hanging out with her more than you should?

Edit: I can't believe I just called her Summer.

What's wrong with the name Summer? I've known girls named Summer.

Granted... she was crazy...

But it's a name.

 

[Erzengel]

Nothing is wrong with the name Summer. It's the fact that I called the girl he has a thing for Summer.

 

[webhead9707]

Nothing is wrong with the name Summer. It's the fact that I called the girl he has a thing for Summer.

The tagline for the movie was "Boy meets girl. Boy falls in love. Girl doesn't."

This is why her false name is Summer.

I just got tired of constantly referring to her as "her" but I didn't want to use her real name for her own privacy, so I figured a false name would do.

 

[Anita18]

There's this girl I'm interested in, but in addition to being two years younger than me (Which might make her undateable anyway, idk) I'm really undecided on her. Some days I just adore her and I'm sure I want to date her, then some days I'm pretty uninterested and don't really care if I date her. Whereas with the girl I was super into that you all know about, (Let's call her Summer, for future reference. Ala 500 Days of Summer.) I had stronger feelings and was sure I wanted to date her nearly all the time.

You might as well date her and see how it goes. Dating is when you figure out if the other person is right for you. You don't do that before the date.

Dude you're 16.

Whatever you're thinking something is pretty major....it's not.

Truth.

 

[Grievous]

I agree usually when you go on dates you end up liking the person more than before or not much more at all if any. So by dating her you may find out more about her which might make you like her more and cancel any doubts you have of not fully liking her.

 

[Ms. Marvel]

The girls in my house are advising me to get with a boy they know because he's a nice guy. Since when was that a good reason to do someone?

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

^^^
Quite right, they have to be complete s**ts because they are more interesting than someone that might treat a girl well...

 

[Ms. Marvel]

^^^
Quite right, they have to be complete s**ts because they are more interesting than someone that might treat a girl well...

That isn't even what I meant, I meant being nice alone (to get physical with someone). But sure I'll play along, yeah I wanna find a jerk to hook up with. There is no way you actually thought I meant that.

 

[Erzengel]

Being nice probably entitles you to a date. Being hot entitles you to be done.

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

That isn't even what I meant, I meant being nice alone (to get physical with someone). But sure I'll play along, yeah I wanna find a jerk to hook up with. There is no way you actually thought I meant that.

Well this is a message board and it is not always apparent if someone is being serious or not.

It is just that I have known some girls that would only date pillocks, because it was more exciting. Hence my comment.

No offense meant to you... If I did offend, apology is offered.

 

[Ms. Marvel]

Well this is a message board and it is not always apparent if someone is being serious or not.

It is just that I have known some girls that would only date pillocks, because it was more exciting. Hence my comment.

No offense meant to you... If I did offend, apology is offered.

I just meant I find it odd when "being nice" is treated like the only thing that matters. Most of the people I know are nice, so "nice" alone is not enough. Neither is being "hot and nice".

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

How about, nice and hot?

Okay, I'm intrigued now...

Lets say we are talking about the possibility of an initial date with someone.

Apart from their physical characteristics and a surface indication of what their personality is.
What other assets are readily discernible to base a dating decision upon?