A New "Official" Relationship Advice Thread

[Angel_Faerie]

I'm kind of worried I'm a bad kisser. He hasn't complained or anything (but I doubt he would were I bad at kissing anyway - too much of a gentleman), the thought has just crossed my mind. I mean, I have no real way to know if I'm bad or not, seeing as I'm new at it. At least I know I can't be as bad as that infamous couple on that "Virgin Diaries" show.

 

[Erzengel]

Well if you keep on kissing, you will improve. However if he's not saying anything either in word or in body language AND if he continues to keep kissing you, then I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[Boy Scout]

How accurate is the movie Hitch when it comes to advice?

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

In short they feed their own over inflated ego by cannibalizing the self-esteem of their peers.

Well, I don't know if it is the anonimity of the internet, and the fact that these people feel they will have no repercussions, but your definition of low level sociopaths pretty much describes most of the people I have encountered on messageboards.
They're like swarming termites, trying to manipulate you through undermining your confidence.
I guess they would do that kind of thing in real life if they felt they could get away with it.

 

[Erzengel]

How accurate is the movie Hitch when it comes to advice?

I never saw the movie.

But I'm willing to get not at all accurate.

 

[Boy Scout]

I never saw the movie.

But I'm willing to get not at all accurate.

I just watched it. As a regular film, it was pretty good. A tad too cliché for my tastes, but I would recommend it. But as a film that could give legitimate advice on how to get a date/interact with women/what to do and what not to do in attempting to do so...I'd like a second opinion. Some of the stuff Hitch (Will Smith) said was common sense, some of it sounded pretty legit, but again, I'd like to hear other peoples' opinions.

 

[Erzengel]

Learn from your own successes as well as your mistakes.

Things you see in movies, rarely work in the real world.

Everything I learned, I learned from doing. I've been turned down I've made an ass of myself.

But once you think there's some sort of logical reasoning to dating, and that every one reacts the same to the same situations, then you've definitely see that it most certainly does not. It's almost a fluid every changing interaction that you'd have to adapt to.

 

[WillardNation]

I know nothing about the different cuts, etc. I would want the band to be white gold, titanium, or platinum purely for how long it would last and the fact that I don't care for yellow gold.

Here's 1 thing they all have in common. The prices are artificially inflated. It's all a scheme to part you from your money.

Like I said, I did a lot of research.

There are diamonds that you can get in different colors. Yellow, Brown, Black, Blue, etc.

The girl I was most recently seeing (and just starting talking to again, not entirely sure why.) told one time about her previous employments in high end jewelry stores and that she's diamond certified and can tell you everything there is to know about diamonds, etc. My response was, "Oh, cool." but in my head I was saying, "Yep, you just ensured that I never buy you a diamond. Ever."

 

[Boy Scout]

Learn from your own successes as well as your mistakes.

I know. That's the best advice you can give. My reasons for watching the movie weren't to find foolproof dating methods. I was just bored. But I also wanted to get a general idea of how I should approach these sort of situations. And believe it or not, there actually were some helpful tidbits in there.

Things you see in movies, rarely work in the real world.

Naturally. And they were pretty easy to spot, let me tell you.

Everything I learned, I learned from doing. I've been turned down I've made an ass of myself.

I'd like to have at least a rough idea of what I should do before I do it. Meticulously planning anything isn't my goal, because that won't ever work. I just want to have some sort of a plan of how I should go about asking her out.

But once you think there's some sort of logical reasoning to dating

I think that there's some stuff that you can use that can apply to every situation, and other things that can only work depending on the individual.

 

[Anubis]

The girl I was most recently seeing (and just starting talking to again, not entirely sure why.) told one time about her previous employments in high end jewelry stores and that she's diamond certified and can tell you everything there is to know about diamonds, etc. My response was, "Oh, cool." but in my head I was saying, "Yep, you just ensured that I never buy you a diamond. Ever."

You see, me? I would have immediately thought, Diamond Heist.

 

[WillardNation]

You see, me? I would have immediately thought, Diamond Heist.

Now I'm sad I didn't think of that.

 

[LOBO3315a]

The girl I was most recently seeing (and just starting talking to again, not entirely sure why.) told one time about her previous employments in high end jewelry stores and that she's diamond certified and can tell you everything there is to know about diamonds, etc. My response was, "Oh, cool." but in my head I was saying, "Yep, you just ensured that I never buy you a diamond. Ever."

I also worked in jewelry sales for a bit. I can tell you I had more interest in the Omega watches we sold than the diamonds. At least spending $5000 on a watch that can survive the vacuum of space makes more sense.

 

[Erzengel]

I was always more of a Tag Heuer person myself. Love their watches.

 

[twylight]

Now I'm sad I didn't think of that.

You're a player, Anubis is a schemer.

I also worked in jewelry sales for a bit. I can tell you I had more interest in the Omega watches we sold than the diamonds. At least spending $5000 on a watch that can survive the vacuum of space makes more sense.

You never know when you'll be on an unscheduled trip to space.

 

[LOBO3315a]

You never know when you'll be on an unscheduled trip to space.

If I had a dime every time that happened.....

 

[twylight]

If I had a dime every time that happened.....

You millionaire, you.

 

[NewYorkSpider]

I just watched it. As a regular film, it was pretty good. A tad too cliché for my tastes, but I would recommend it. But as a film that could give legitimate advice on how to get a date/interact with women/what to do and what not to do in attempting to do so...I'd like a second opinion. Some of the stuff Hitch (Will Smith) said was common sense, some of it sounded pretty legit, but again, I'd like to hear other peoples' opinions.

The whole point of that movie was just to be yourself. Hitch's methods never really worked for his clients. He just gave them confidence.

 

[Anita18]

I know nothing about the different cuts, etc. I would want the band to be white gold, titanium, or platinum purely for how long it would last and the fact that I don't care for yellow gold.

I don't know much about metal, but I think platinum would work well for me because my parents have worn their platinum wedding bands for almost 30 years (my mom hasn't taken hers off most of that time) with no problems. It's not shiny anymore, but it certainly isn't tarnished or anything.

All I know is that a giant jewel sticking out of the band in a typical prong setting is a no-go. I saw a simple solitaire with a semi-bezel setting and I think that would be perfect for me. Understated with a bit of sparkle. I don't need something that blinds people.

Rings are stupid. You should buy them an engagement car.

My friend joked about an engagement puppy but alas, her (and his) family is very traditional so they needed to go for a traditional engagement ring to minimize the drama.

I'm kind of worried I'm a bad kisser. He hasn't complained or anything (but I doubt he would were I bad at kissing anyway - too much of a gentleman), the thought has just crossed my mind. I mean, I have no real way to know if I'm bad or not, seeing as I'm new at it. At least I know I can't be as bad as that infamous couple on that "Virgin Diaries" show.

If he keeps on kissing you, he doesn't think you're THAT bad. You'll get better and learn each other's rhythms with practice.

The girl I was most recently seeing (and just starting talking to again, not entirely sure why.) told one time about her previous employments in high end jewelry stores and that she's diamond certified and can tell you everything there is to know about diamonds, etc. My response was, "Oh, cool." but in my head I was saying, "Yep, you just ensured that I never buy you a diamond. Ever."

One of my other aunts is a plastic surgeon. We try not to talk about our looks around her. I mean, she isn't crass/moronic and doesn't offer up advice about plastic surgery for us when we don't ask for it, but she definitely would if we started complaining about how we looked.

 

[WillardNation]

You're a player, Anubis is a schemer.

I take offense to that. I do not identify myself as a player.

 

[twylight]

I take offense to that. I do not identify myself as a player.

I didn't know I had any offense to give. You should stop stealing it!

 

[Hound55]

You see, me? I would have immediately thought, Diamond Heist.

Nah, she knows too much.

Too easy to pin everything on you and then cut you out.

 

[WillardNation]

I didn't know I had any offense to give. You should stop stealing it!

No!

 

[twylight]

No!

You stealer!

 

[Anubis]

Nah, she knows too much.

Too easy to pin everything on you and then cut you out.

Pfft, saw it coming. Recorded every meeting. If I go down, we all go down.

 

[AndThePickles]

The whole point of that movie was just to be yourself. Hitch's methods never really worked for his clients. He just gave them confidence.

Indeed, it proved that conventional methods don't apply to everyone. I *did* really enjoy a lot of the quotes from that film, though It was a cute movie.